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Rules of the Game

3.53  ·  Rating details ·  2,735 ratings  ·  96 reviews
If you want to play the Game, you've got to know the Rules.

In his international bestseller The Game, Neil Strauss delved into the secret world of pick-up artists--men who have created a science out of the art of seduction. Not only did he reveal the techniques that they had developed, but he became a master of The Game, and the world's No. 1 PUA, as Style.

Now, in his first
Hardcover, 352 pages
Published December 18th 2007 by It Books
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Max Jackson
Jun 01, 2013 rated it it was ok
There’s a class of self-help books for men, books with bold titles like “ROAR OF THE MAN-WARRIOR” and “THE SEX GOD WITHIN” that promise explosive increases in sex/money/power/general satisfaction of desire for any man with stones enough to take the plunge. This book is one of them. It was literally thrown at me by my helpful roommate one dark day when my romantic despair was so intense it was almost bending the light around my head.

I’d heard tell of the book before, of PickUp Artist-ry and its
Jul 30, 2011 rated it liked it
Some notes:

One exercise: call a wrong number and get the person who answers to recommend a movie. "The point isn't just to talk with strangers. It's to learn how to change the course of an interaction without making the other person uncomfortable." - p29

"'Rejection' is another word that has been misused and misrepresented. The dictionary definition of 'reject" is 'to refuse to accept.' So if you offer someone a stick of gum, and she says 'No thanks,' you've been rejected. Do you feel an emotiona
Johanna Handley
Jan 27, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I hated this book and everything is stands for. I hated how it made me feel (stupid, pathetic, manipulated) and I hated recognising some of my favourite friends in it. It made me hate men, hate women, utterly despise the so-called rules of life that many seem to live by, knowingly or not. It depressed me. Ugh shoot me for reading it. Slap me for wanting to read it again. It gets 4 stars from me for making me so angry and being so right about how stupid we all are.
Jan 08, 2008 rated it really liked it
Shelves: relationships
This book creates a 30 day 'bootcamp' to help train any man to improve his 'game' Each day, the book provides exercises and learning outcomes to help each man build out his repertoire and confidence when talking and approaching women.

I have read a number of books about picking up chicks to hone my game. The top three are the mystery method, How to be successful with women, and this book.

If you want to start dating better women, get those three books. I promise you a more exciting and rewarding
Marie Bisgaard
Jan 23, 2012 rated it liked it
Shelves: own
I think the book had some good points and was an enjoyable read. A person who follows the rules will definitely improve his (or even hers) social skills. I however doubt that it is possible to achieve all the goals in one month. The book also doesn't really offer any magical key for scoring that you wouldn't find in other self-help-ish books. Or maybe that's just how I see it - nobody have tried all of these "tricks" on me, so perhaps I'm wrong. ...more
Dec 22, 2014 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2014
I'm embarrassed to say that I read this book. More accurately, I read "The Game" but not "The Rules of the Game". I had heard and read a little bit about pick-up artists before, and it just so happened that a few weeks earlier I had come across Strauss' name online so I recognized it when I saw the book. My only defense is that the book was on a roommate's bookshelf and I so when I saw it my curiosity was piqued and I started reading. I suppose I gave the book two stars because it did keep my in ...more
Dec 24, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Interesting dissection of human behaviour.
Not for everybody.
Apr 02, 2009 rated it really liked it
Just when you thought all the PUA stories were told, Neil cranks out another soon to be bestseller. A fascinating sequel to Strauss's groundbreaking pick up artist classic with a twist. The void of male social dynamics and pick up advice with substance is masterfully filled with the entry of Rules of the Game. His techniques are compelling, and his tales are infectious page turners.

This slickly packaged title is a two volume set. Its focus begins with establishing your identity, expectations an
Sergiu Pobereznic
Jul 24, 2015 rated it really liked it
Although on the surface this can be seen as a book about learning the skills and various techniques of how to "pick up women", it is much more than that. Strauss is, in fact, teaching confidence, which is the ability to relax in social situations.
It's not necessarily about your looks, body shape etc, although he does deal with those aspects, too.
He attempts to set out in creating a better Self, that is modeled on who you actually are, rather than a faux you.
Some may see much of it as pointless
Mar 09, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book, and "The Game", are timeless masterpieces — and

→ no amount of roasties/thots/femicommiess hitting the 1-star button is going to change that
→ no amount of incels/betas/whiteknights hitting the 1-star button is going to change that
→ no amount of cognitive-dissonancées and people stuck in the Denial stage of grief hitting the 1-star button is going to change that

Nothing is going to change that.

Dread it. Run from it. Red Pill still arrives.

Wherever Heaven is, Neil and Erik have a spot sav
Jay Tate
Dec 12, 2014 rated it really liked it
I read this as a self-help book, not just as a treatise on picking up girls. (I'm already married, and before that I never found meeting nice women difficult.)

there are plenty of people who judge their lives by their sexual performance, and they are probably the target for this book. But, meeting girls is a lot like meeting friends, finding a job, buying a car, and winning at poker. So, the lessons of the book can be applied more widely than with the ladies.

I have recommended this to men and to
Jeff Yoak
I didn't read much of this one at all. Unlike Strauss's earlier book, this one is a workbook and is hard to read without doing. That's the point, of course, and is no criticism. It just didn't serve my purposes as I didn't intend to do the project, but was just interested in the book after the previous one. ...more
Jan 25, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I couldn't put this book down as I found myself intrigued by how the author described his exploits attracting, meeting and bedding various women. While I disliked the objectification of women and the behavior of some of the characters, I found it to be an interesting insight into another world and way of behaving that I have very little experience of. ...more
May 07, 2010 rated it did not like it
Shelves: nonfiction
Maybe it's me, but what the hell is the point of this book? It reads like part-memoir part-porn with a subtle moral attached in the end. Based on the average rating of this book, perhaps only people who are in the loop will get it. I just don't. ...more
Powell Omondi
Jan 20, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Good book to read, funny story and getting to know some of the best PUAs and how the do it.

Some boners along the way :), interesting to see things from a different perspective, well I'm using the best friend test nowadays, a plus to me :)
Sep 20, 2018 rated it it was ok
A 30-day training manual to change a dude with no luck in love into a Player. So some days you have to do some silly thing, like talk to some strangers. There were summaries of books such as The Red Queen, with the main focus on why women are attracted to successful men. Very politically incorrect, involving a lot of scripted openings and conversation openers, and playing mind-games with women. But then the book did say that it would make men ‘Players of the Game’. I think it is good to skim thr ...more
Israel Morrow
Aug 21, 2019 rated it it was ok
This book is far from perfect. Too much crack psychology mixed with pseudoscience about why women are different from men. But the book has one great secret: At heart, it's not really about meeting women. It's about salesmanship. I suppose Strauss realized the title "How to Sell Anything to Anyone" wasn't as catchy as "Rules of the Game." But it's true, the book's lessons and challenges focus on making people attracted to you and getting what you want from them. Some lessons are positive, like st ...more
Jansen J
Mar 19, 2020 rated it liked it
This book is like a novel that relates how this group of men became the kings of their neighborhood by getting girls to go out and sleep with them. It's entertaining, each character has its personality, problems, dramas... Most of the techniques explained here are not something we'd use to pick up a girl tough. ...more
Andy Groark
Jan 03, 2018 rated it did not like it
Love, if written in a programming language for robot geeks.
Daniel Gale
Jan 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Great for pickup beginners
Sean Perry
May 01, 2019 rated it liked it
This book is helpful in understanding connection between people
Sep 26, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
Very good book!!
Nam KK
Dec 27, 2019 rated it liked it
Finally finished the book started ten years ago.
Ralph N
I recall picking this book up in high school hoping it would be like its predecessor, The Game, but it’s not
Feb 20, 2020 rated it liked it
Good book for fast skimming for tips and if you need some routine just pick up from shelf and use it next time when you are out.
Apr 17, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Excellent author. Enjoyable book. A classic on social dynamics.
Alex Gregory
Dec 06, 2013 rated it it was ok
The softball sequel to "The Game", "Rules of the Game" has little of its predecessor's unintentional humor and wryness about the failure of the pickup artist scene, and more a mishmash of half-baked ideas and concepts regurgitated from better self-help books.

There are two volumes included in this set:

The Stylelife Companion is a self-prescribed 30 day crash course in becoming a better person, both mentally and physically. While the book should get some accolades for introducing reflection and se
Dec 15, 2012 rated it really liked it
You don't necessarily need to read any books on pickup. They're all boring and not particularly useful. If you could really score with tons of chicks by reading a book, only illiterates wouldn't be scoring constantly. And even illiterates would probably be doing well for themselves, because chicks like dumb guys. If you only read one pickup book, I'd go with Rules of the Game. It's split up into three parts: (1) A list of exercises to make you less of creep and maybe get some stank on your hangl ...more
Brandon Dalo
I originally became familiar with Neil Strauss after stumbling upon his novel, “The Game” which was (as its subtitle explains) about his adventure in penetrating the secret society of pickup artists. Having been highly entertained and taught much about life through that book, I decided to pick up this sequel.

The book is split into two parts: the first is titled “The Stylelife Challenge” in which he gives instructions on how to “Master the Game in 30 days.” The second part is titled “The Style Di
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Neil Strauss is the author of the New York Times bestsellers The Game, Rules of the Game, Emergency, and Everyone Loves You When You're Dead. He is also the coauthor of four other bestsellers--Jenna Jameson's How to Make Love Like a Porn Star, Mötley Crüe's The Dirt, and Marilyn Manson's The Long Hard Road Out of Hell, and Dave Navarro's Don't Try This at Home. He can be found at www.neilstrauss.c ...more

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