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Child of Mine: Feeding with Love and Good Sense

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Widely considered the leading book involving nutrition and feeding infants and children, this revised edition offers practical advice that takes into account the most recent research into such topics as: emotional, cultural, and genetic aspects of eating; proper diet during pregnancy; breast-feeding versus; bottle-feeding; introducing solid food to an infant's diet; feedin ...more
ebook, 536 pages
Published March 1st 2000 by Bull Publishing Company (first published May 1st 1983)
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Dec 18, 2012 rated it it was ok
I really expected to love it. I think the principle of the division of responsibility is excellent and I really do agree with a lot of her ideas, but the book in itself was weird. The book could have been more concise, there was a lot of repetition. I was annoyed to find sleep advice, though I guess I can see how it's related, it's just annoying to hear more of the same when you have a baby who doesn't sleep at all and you weren't looking for help for this particular problem for once. I also rem ...more
Oct 02, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenting, food, nutrition
Here's the best take-away I got from this enlightening book and it had a PROFOUND affect. There is a central theme about the "division of responsibility" at various stages of child development and, basically: "You (as parent) are responsible for the WHAT, WHEN and WHERE of feeding. Your child is responsible for the HOW MUCH and WHETHER of eating." It's that simple...and hard for control-freaks to practice. But I'm SO glad I read her book or I never would have understood the lasting implications ...more
Lisa R.
Jun 10, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Parents/Expectant Parents who care about nutrition
Recommended to Lisa by: Can't recall
I'm currently reading this book as the parent of an almost-six-month old who is nursed exclusively and about to start solids.

I really like Satter's approach: you provide nutritionally-balanced meals and your child decides what to eat and how much. If your child doesn't want to eat what you have provided, they don't eat - no short-order cooking, no junk food. Allowing your child choice and control over what goes in their bodies will eventually produce kids who eat healthfully and are not picky.

Kate Hyde
Apr 11, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenting
I'll admit, I did not read this whole book - I only read the parts that apply to me. Since I have a 4 year old, I did not read the chapters about breastfeeding and feeding infants. However, let me just say, this book is AMAZING. It was recommended to me by a feeding therapist that I recently began taking my daughter to.

The best thing I took away from this book was the division of responsibility in feeding. As a parent, I am responsible for WHAT, WHEN, and WHERE my child eats. As a child, she is
I have read this book over the first three years of my kids' lives. It was a bit of a slog toward the end, since the important stuff is repeated quite a bit. I found this book most useful when I was a new parent and suffering from a profound sense of "what have I gotten myself into?!" Satter's division of responsibility has been very helpful in both helping me to parent my kids, but also in giving me permission to not stress about food as much as I would have. The guidelines are good and helpful ...more
Aug 16, 2011 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
The beginning started off great. The end had me shaking my head and saying No No No! Then, I let it "marinade" for a bit and I decided maybe she had a point in some instances. Was I going to stop telling my kids they have to try at least 1 bit of everything...probably not. But, each family has to decides what works for them. I am NOT going to feed my kids lots of meat and dairy...I've read The China Study and it still haunts me to this day. Suggesting to feed them fries because it's potatoes and ...more
Jul 28, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I have struggled with feeding Joel. This author's philosophy is that when, where, and what to eat is the parent's responsibility, and how much or whether to eat at all is the child's responsibility. I only read the intro and the chapter on toddler feeding, but her ideas helped me chill out about how much Joel eats. Things are much better now.

I would recommend this book to all young mothers because parents often create unhealthy eating habits and attitudes in their children, and that is not a ni
Jan 12, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Fabulous and comprehensive book on feeing your child from birth to at least preshool (it may go past that, if so I haven't gotten that far). This book focuses on the long term goal of helping your child develop a healthy view of food and eating. It has a good explanation about how breastfeeding works and some food ideas for toddlers and preschoolers, but the great thing about this book is the philosophy of feeding that she teaches (one that, I understand, she authored but has since become the ma ...more
Marty Crandall
Apr 30, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A great no-nonsense approach to the roles in feeding a child.I like the idea that I am in charge of giving my daughter the food and she is in charge of eating it (or not). As with any parenting book the author can get preachy, but over-all I have agreed to try out what she is suggesting. Recommended by my doctor. I am reading the toddler section now in preparation!
Feb 15, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Excellent, excellent simple, straightforward, compassionate, science-based advice on kids' feeding and nutrition. The only book you need on this topic. Would have given it five stars except I felt it was excessively long and sometimes repetitive
Aug 02, 2017 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I'm trying to troubleshoot the feeding habits of my double trouble. (My twins are 4 and seem to eat constantly and whine for food all morning long, then don't care about food for the rest of the day.) I got some great strategies out of this book that I'm eager to try, such as having set meal and snack times and not allowing them to graze all day. (I think it'll be hard to convert them to the new schedule, but after a week or two hopefully they will stop wailing about it.)

However, even though I t
Mar 09, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
There are so many ways to be dysfunctional about food. This book shows parents a way to help their kids avoid all that. It's not easy because we all have deep-seated reactions in this area, but this book's core mantra has been very important to me in learning how to respect my kids in this and really in every arena. I see it as a kind of vaccine against eating disorders, which are such a threat especially to girls in our society.
Didn't finish it - need more actionable steps
Jan 22, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Parents, parents of picky eaters
I can see why this book on feeding children is so well regarded. Ellen Satter, an oft-quoted expert on the subject, provides substantive info about developmental and nutritional needs of babies and children at different ages, as well as clear, practical parenting advice about feeding.

Her bottom line: Parents are responsible for providing a variety of nutritious foods at regular intervals; kids are responsible for what and how much they eat at those times. Sounds simple, but if your child isn't
I had a hard time deciding how many stars to give this book as I still haven't decided my opinion of it yet. Some things I agree with, some things I disagree with, and some I'm not sure yet. Satter believes children know how much food they need to eat and how to eat a balanced diet. Her philosophy is that parents are responsible for offering healthy, nutritious, balanced meals and snacks at regular times each day. Children are responsible for how much they eat of what is offered, and whether the ...more
Jan 12, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I thought this book had a good concept for feeding older kids, and I liked how the author was reasonable about what you feed your babies. There was a chapter on breastfeeding and a chapter on formula feeding. I read both, just for fun, and I liked how she didn't make formula feeding mothers feel like evil people, because I hate when people do that, even though I am a breastfeeder myself. Also, acknowledging that sugar will probably make limited appearances in your kid's diet made me feel better ...more
I love this book. I read it to avoid the power struggles parents face with their children over food (including short-order cooking for a picky child), and to encourage my daughter to develop a healthy attitude toward food. I love Satter's Division of Responsibility, which allows children to be in control of their eating. If I wasn't familiar with this idea, I would probably be a bit frantic that my 7-month-old is not interested in solid food yet. She's clearly not ready, and my pushing it will m ...more
First, my disclaimer: there are parts of this that are now dated and should be taken with a grain of salt: the breastfeeding chapter in particular is extremely conservative with regard to how long breastmilk can be stored without spoilage. The book is also not particularly supportive of extended breastfeeding; it would be really lovely if Satter could have talked more about how to incorporate breastfeeding a toddler into her philosophy, rather than lumping it together with extended bottle use an ...more
Jul 27, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
So at the core this book is good. It gives specific information about how to approach feeding one's child from infancy through early childhood. Satter's main point is the division of responsibility around food and allowing one's child choice in what s/he picks and how much to eat. Satter also provides some guidance about what food to put on the table and when to provide meals/snacks which is the parental part of the responsibility.

All this is helpful and I am really glad the nutritionist we wen
Jun 02, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I had to deduct a star rating because there hasn't been an update since 2000, and I'll admit that I was initially very skeptical of this book for that very reason.

The chapter on toddler feeding has been invaluable so far! I have a child who eats well at school, but was demanding fruit and cheese only at home. The chapter detailed the mind of a toddler and I immediately had an explanation for why he spits out new foods (his way of exploring something... not necessarily permanently rejecting a foo
Aug 23, 2007 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: expectant and new parents with children up to age 5
Just started reading this book after deciding I wanted an "action plan" to help my daughter have good nutritional habits. It is incredibly important to me that I raise my children with as much whole food as possible and as little sugar as possible.

"Child of Mine" is about how to help your child to have a positive and healthy attitude toward food. It operates mostly as a reference manual for each age range, so I don't expect that I'll "finish" it any time soon, but so far I am impressed... There
Aug 27, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition

The recommendations to delay certain foods to prevent allergies is recently outdated, and her authority on breastfeeding seems to stretch a bit thin. The book could definitely be shorter; maybe she repeated her points several times because she thought they would be too hard to swallow in one bite (no pun intended.) The tone implied that readers would be on the skeptical side, but I was already on board due to my enthusiasm for baby-led weaning. Note that Satter does recommend starting with purée
First of all I have to add that unless it is a novel, most of the books I get from the library don't get read entirely, thus the reason I have bookshelf on here dedicated just to these books. When I go to the library I am balancing keeping Juliah in site and grabbing books fast. SOmetimes I just guess, and I usually get a whole bag full of books. It is actually really fun.
ABout this book I have to say it was alright until I got to her opinions on Breastfeeding. She wasn't against it but she def
Megan Blood
Jun 21, 2010 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A friend recommended this book for my issues with getting Seth to eat. I absolutely loved it. Her basic premise is just to avoid the power struggle over food: you (the parent) choose what is served, where it's served, and when, the child chooses how much to eat and whether to eat. Totally removes all the stress from feeding. I also love how realistic she is about food--she doesn't expect you to feed your child nothing but whole wheat bread and organic produce. She is totally okay with the fact t ...more
Sep 29, 2011 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenting
Again, I don't know if I should rate this one yet since I haven't read it cover to cover, but this is what I think so far . . . I really like the division of responsibility with meals--parents are responsible for the what, where, and when, and the kids are responsible for the if and how much they eat. The book has helped me plan better meals and snacks, and helped me realize how much/little toddlers really need in order to be healthy.

I guess what I don't really agree with is that there really d
Feb 16, 2010 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I only have my toddler as experience, but so far, this book has worked extremely well for us. It was given to me by a relative who's a nutritionist, and it just makes sense. We sit down to organized meals with our toddler, and always have since he began on solids. We provide a healthy balanced meal. If he eats and wants more of a specific thing, we provide it. If he's not interested, we take that as a sign he's not hungry, and that's that. We have one of the least picky 2 year olds we know - he ...more
Oct 27, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I really liked this. I was familiar with her ideas since my nurition professor in college liked to use her work so it was good to revisit and reread this for the specifics of my own children. This is pretty repetitive once you get down her main concept for feeding children what she calls- the division of responsibility. She covers children at different stages and gives depth on how children's development at that age will affect how they will eat. But either way- her approach is the same. You pro ...more
Amy Lloyd
Apr 30, 2008 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: parents who feed children at any age
Recommended to Amy by: Melissa Daniels
Shelves: read-five-stars
I don't have much parenting experience yet, and haven't read many parenting books, but I think this book will become one of the most valuable and helpful books I will ever find to help me become a better parent. I think that feeding our children is a prime trap for becoming too controlling or exercising unrighteous dominion, and we may not even recognize it as such. This book certainly helps point out the warning signs, offers solutions, and is fun to read as well. The principles taught can also ...more
Nov 15, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenting, own
My daughter's pediatrician recommended that I read this to learn about introducing solid foods to her. It's a fabulous book! I really appreciated that Satter even covers preemies. My daughter is a preemie and it is difficult to find good information that is actually helpful in regard to parenting her. Preemies come with their own challenges and I felt so much better about feeding her solid foods after reading this. My only (very) small complaint about this book is that Satter can be a little lon ...more
Jan 08, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenting-books
I skipped around in this book and didn't read the entire thing, but the chapter on feeding your toddler really struck a chord with me. I want my son to eat well so very badly, but this book has given me a new perspective on thinking about what does "eating well" really mean? Satter says that the very best I can do as a parent is to create a pleasant environment for us to enjoy meals in as a family, present nutritious foods (and everyone is served the SAME thing), and then allow my son to grow on ...more
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“Your job as a parent is not to make your child's way smooth, but rather to help her develop inner resources so she can cope.” 10 likes
“If a struggle emerges about eating, a toddler will get so involved in the struggle and so upset that it overwhelms her need to eat. This observation is just as true of struggles about potty training, what to wear, school work, and so on. Throughout your child’s growing-up years, it is important to matter-of-factly set the limits and avoid the emotional fireworks and struggles. Learning to do this with feeding will help you in other areas as well.” 1 likes
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