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The Problem is YOU: How to Get Out of Your Own Way and Conquer Self-Defeating Behavior

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Published June 2012
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Iryn
The Problem is YOU: How to Get Out of Your Own Way and Conquer Self-Defeating Behavior
This is a very handy and practical book. And surely I have learnt a lot. You know there are some things you know in your subconscious and which you find difficult to give a voice to because you think it is UNIQUELY YOU – when somebody else speaks about it – it sort of ‘jolts’ you out and if you really want, creates a way out or PIN YOU DOWN AND POINT OUT THE WAY! This is what I encountered in reading the book.
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Chelsea
Feb 23, 2013 rated it it was amazing
This book...probably turned my life around, in a good way. I was being told by my husband that i was such a negative person. And i would deny it, and say its just been a bad week, and continue to try and explain myself but always getting stuck and breaking down because i honestly didn't know what was my problem. I just happen to run over this title...its pretty blunt, and i like blunt. And it tollllld me. Fact is, that i was pretty damn nagtive, it kinda slapped me in the face when this whole bo ...more
Christina Mathers
Nov 08, 2012 rated it really liked it
Shelves: self-help
Let’s just face it, the truth hurts sometimes. Sometimes we fail and like to blame it on others, when we truly know it is our own fault. This book helps us overcome our self-defeating behavior. Have you ever felt that no matter what you did, nothing ever happens the way it was supposed to? How about every time you try to make a bad situation better, only to make it worse? Maybe you are not, but are you like me, where you try to make sure that everyone is happy? You do everything you can to make ...more
Stacie Wyatt
May 03, 2014 rated it it was amazing

I read the Problem is You by John Burke, in exchange for review from Library Thing. The book was part of a giveaway, in exchange for a review. The book was published by Empowerment Nation. The book was a quick read.

The book discusses how to conquer self-defeating behavior, which I have plenty of. I will talk my way out of some situations because I am afraid of the outcome. I also can rationalize and project with the best of them. When you feel like a failure, you do things that will not make yo
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Charlie
Feb 03, 2013 rated it it was ok
The Problem Is You written by John Burke is a self-help book about self-defeating behavior. It contained information that I found not only useful, it was very educating. It had a few tips and helpful steps on how to not be self-defeating. While it was very informative, it read like something a well educated student would turn in for a term paper. It was hard to stay focused because it was very clinical, it didn’t draw you in and make you say “Hey these are great tips”. It was more of a “I need t ...more
Ramplo
Nov 03, 2012 rated it liked it
Shelves: arc-review
Quick & Dirty:

-If I was basing my review solely on how the book is marketed, I'd give this book a 2 at best. HOWEVER if you ignore the title and view this as a reference book it'd deserve closer to a 4. I'm meeting half way and saying 3.

-Advice sections are very small and scattered for a self-help book.

-There is a lot of information provided about many facets of self-defeating behavior...Important to avoid "medical school syndrome" when reading it.

Long & Wordy:
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Crystal Hutchinson
Feb 10, 2013 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2013
1) How did the book help you?
I'm going to try to be less fatalistic in my decision making and goal setting.I also plan to take responsibility for my failures, and not blame others for them.

2) What did you learn from the book?
"A. Feeling that you deserve the expected results". Yes! Society embraces the concept of "I deserve this" attitude. Learning how to not dwell on my mistakes and ignore my "I deserve this" voice in my head will lead me to a happier life.

3) On a scale from 1-10 (10 being the
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Cassie
Nov 05, 2012 rated it it was amazing
I have been this person. A struggle I was facing last year. A part of me still reverts back to this side of me, only because it is so easy to tear yourself down. I always remind myself, you are you, forget what other people think. Easier said than done. But seeing the list of characteristics that John listed. Really put things into perspective and this book helped me to build my self up, so that I am a stronger person. I did not need to read this book, to find that out, but sometimes it takes so ...more
Paula
May 17, 2016 rated it it was ok
Shelves: wellness
The points in this book are presented in rapid-fire fashion: Here are the behaviors indicative of a particular self-defeating behavior, and here are the actions you can take to change them. If only it were so simple, I probably wouldn't need to read this in the first place. If you're okay with 64 pages of a To-Do list to a better you, then you'll probably like this book. I would have preferred more discussion of each topic to truly cement the ideas instead of having them wash over me in short, b ...more
Kamy
Apr 08, 2016 rated it it was ok
I'm still in my own way. This book did not help. In general, it belabored superficial advice. I kept wanting the author to get to the darn point but had to wade through boring and obvious narrative to get to a boring and obvious conclusion. There are way better books in this genre. He does ask some good questions along the way, so the process of self-exploration this book occasionally inspires may be useful. If it helps some people, that's wonderful.
Kyrana Jones
The Problem Is You written by John Burke identifies some patterns and character traits that may contribute to a lack of success. However, it does not offer concrete steps or actions the reader might employ to turn around their circumstances. The tone is more like a newsletter or blog rather than an actual book and appears to be a superficial view of the topic.
Melania  Straka
Not what I expected

The author gives some vague guidance,especially the first part of the book. The only think I really found good was how to recognize and deal with the procrastination.
Daron Yondem
Dec 30, 2014 rated it liked it
Shelves: short-read, to-learn
The books is not just short but superficial as well. I'm not sure if I would have read it If I knew how superficial the content was.
Rachel
May 25, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: own
This is an audiobook that is easy to follow. The principles are valuable and should be practiced daily in order to experience results.
Gordon
Nov 05, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Interesting book

I would like to recommend this book to read by anyone

Into rested in improving their way in their life
Tim Kirkland
Jun 13, 2013 rated it it was ok
Good information just expected more
Jennilyn (Thiboult) Nevins
Really quick little read to get your mind thinking about the ways that you may be a "self-defeatist."
Carlos Vasquez
Apr 20, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Excellent

I like it because it confronts an issue that most of the time we don't want to face, definitely a must read to conquer your fears
Ronald Arevalo
Lectura interesante

Me gustó la necesidad de identificar nuestras debilidades y poder cambiar lo que nos impide avanzar. El momento de actuar es hoy
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