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La distancia entre nosotros

4.18  ·  Rating Details ·  2,524 Ratings  ·  422 Reviews
Cuando el padre de Reyna Grande deja a su esposa y sus tres hijos atrás en un pueblo de México para hacer el peligroso viaje a través de la frontera a los Estados Unidos, promete que pronto regresará con el dinero suficiente para construir la casa de sus sueños. Sus promesas se vuelven más difíciles de creer cuando los meses de espera se convierten en años. Cuando se lleva ...more
Paperback, 368 pages
Published April 16th 2013 by Atria Books (first published August 1st 2012)
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Shaeley Santiago The chapters are short. While they do go in sequence, you could select certain ones for them to read as I found the book as a whole to be somewhat…moreThe chapters are short. While they do go in sequence, you could select certain ones for them to read as I found the book as a whole to be somewhat lengthy to read.(less)
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Jeanette  "Astute Crabbist"
3.5 stars

Emigration from Mexico to the U.S. divides a lot of families. This is one woman's account of what it felt like to spend her early childhood in Mexico while her parents were on El Otro Lado (The Other Side). Reyna Grande and her siblings were shuffled among relatives who were not in a position to care for them and were often resentful at being saddled with these children. In the absence of a real mother, Reyna's older sister Mago had to become "the little mother" for Reyna and Carlos.

Sally Wessely
Jan 02, 2013 Sally Wessely rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
As a former ESL teacher, I could not have enjoyed this book more. The story of Reyna Grande is one of hardship, heartbreak, and triumph. I was struck by the power of her writing on the very first page.

If readers do not understand the internal and external conflict that children whose parents have left Mexico to find work or a better life in the United States suffer, after reading this memoir they will certainly gain insight into this all too common problem when this book is read.

My students us
This is a memoir based on the author's childhood. She was left behind with her two siblings first by her father, and then two years later by her mother. The children were left behind with their paternal grandmother who treated them badly, and despite getting money from their parents on a regular basis (remittances), she fed them poorly. Eventually the children go to live with their maternal grandmother who is extremely poor. But this grandmother is loving. The book tells the story of the author ...more
Jan 22, 2016 Myrna rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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A moving, insightful, and interesting memoir about the author growing up in poverty in Mexico, separation from her parents, and coming to the USA illegally at age 10. Reyna becomes successful in spite of the many odds she faces. An inspirational novel of achieving the American Dream through sacrifice and work. Definitely recommend this book as it describe the experiences and feelings migrant families go through.
What could be more scary or powerful to a child than a weeping woman who roams the canal and steals children away (in Mexico, known as "La Llorona")? The answer is a power that takes away parents, not children -- the United States ("El Otro Lado" -- the Other Side). Thus opens the prologue in this deeply personal, often heartbreaking, memoir of Reyna Grande and her siblings as they wait for their parents to keep their promise and return to Mexico for them.

The story is a journey of Reyna and her
Liz Waters
Aug 09, 2012 Liz Waters rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Award-winning novelist Reyna Grande's new memoir, "The Distance Between Us" is a book that has given me an eye-opening understanding of the plight of many immigrants from Mexico. Trapped in poverty in their native land, moving into the United States by any means is a way to better one's life and the lives of one's children. With the legal situation in the U.S., though, Mexican people who choose to move north must rely on "coyotes" to navigate the dangerous ground between nations in the dead of n ...more
Aug 08, 2012 Erin rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was a heartbreaking story of the toll of immigration on a family. Novelist Reyna Grande's memoir documents the steady disintegration of her family over decades as one by one members of her family leave and return, leave and return to "el Otro Lado," the United States.

The first separation takes place before the start of the book; Reyna is so young when her father leaves for the US that she knows him only by his photo, and thinks of him as "the man behind the glass." The second, though certa
I thoroughly enjoyed this book. It was well written, funny, poignant and a little sad. And plus, it is nonfiction. It was about a girl left behind with her siblings while her parents tried to make a better living in the U.S. The money the parents sent home so the grandmother could take care of them, was spent not on them, but on the favored grandchild, also living with the grandparents. This was a great coming of age story of a little Mexican girl who finally made it to America, only to find out ...more
Bookworm ♥
Aug 23, 2015 Bookworm ♥ rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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I absolutely loved this book, I seriously read it in one sitting. It was amazing and recommend it to everyone :)
Sonja Arlow
I think the issue of illegal immigration has always and will always stay a contentious issue and this book touched on several subjects that was probably very difficult to lay bare to the ignorant public.

Rena Grande and her 2 siblings are the focus of this coming-of-age memoir and follows their journey as a "family' from Mexico, into the USA as illegal immigrants and finally becoming full rounded citizens in more sense than just one.

Both their parents as well as their stepmom and paternal grandmo
Mar 03, 2014 Caren rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
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When I thought of illegal immigrants, I hadn't really considered what they had left behind. This book highlights those children left back home for years at a time as their parents journey, at great risk, to "El Otro Lado" to try to better life for themselves and their children. A young child, though, can't really understand why his parents have abandoned him. This is a heart-breaking book, not only in its piercing portrayal of how it feels to be that child left back home, but also in its depicti ...more
Beautifully written memoir from Reyna Grande. I had never read anything by a Mexican author and I am glad our book club chose this fantastic book. It's a very easy read and very interesting. Once I started I couldn't put it down. The author took me with her in this story of the hardships and heartbreaks of the little girl Reyna and her siblings so they would have their own home and a good life. I don't have the right word to describe this book but it's a beautiful read. It makes you believe that ...more
Dec 08, 2016 Sarah rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Super inspiring and sobering. Having lived in Mexico for several years I felt a fair amount of guilt for my obliviousness. She poses a great question that I'm not even sure I could answer for myself. I should note I read an edition designed for young readers. Not sure how they differ. Just came across it in my library browsing. Glad I did.
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When she was just a baby Reyna Grande’s father left their small town of Iguala, Guerrero, Mexico for El Otro Lado – the Other Side – i.e. the United States. Economic recession made it impossible for him to provide for his family in Mexico, but the money he could earn in California would help support them. When she was only four, her mother left Reyna and her two older siblings in the care of their paternal grandmother, so that she could join her husband in California; with both of them working t ...more
Aug 28, 2012 Trisha rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I wonder whether the people I know who complain the loudest about illegal immigration would change their views after reading this memoir about the human side of what it involves. And I wonder whether the people who make such disparaging and often hateful remarks about illegal immigrants would feel the same after reading about the desperate courage that motivates people to face the dangers involved in crossing the border to escape the poverty of their lives and seek a decent life for their childr ...more
Maritza Ramirez
Feb 26, 2016 Maritza Ramirez rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Reyna Grande’s book The Distance Between Us takes place in both Mexico and the United States. The heartwarming story of the author Reyna Grande’s difficult life growing up explaining all the struggles Reyna and her siblings face when abandoned by their parents when they come to the United States to make a better life for their children. This memoir describes the daily struggles of those whose families have been broken apart.

Reyna Grande starts her book off from the beginning of her young life.
Deb (Readerbuzz) Nance
Sep 27, 2015 Deb (Readerbuzz) Nance rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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The Distance Between Us is a memoir by writer Reyna Grande. Grande tells the story of her childhood in Mexico, as her father illegally enters the US for work; as her mother follows him after years in which he does not return; as Grande's grandmother reluctantly raises Grande and her siblings; as her mother learns her father has a girlfriend in the US and bitterly returns to Mexico; as Grande's mother leaves with a new boyfriend and again abandons the children; as Grande's other, poorer grandmoth ...more
Feb 17, 2016 Christine rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
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Sep 04, 2012 Stacey rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is an enlightening memoir about the living conditions in parts of Mexico and the impetus those conditions contribute to Mexicans making the very dangerous, illegal journey across the border into America for the chance of a better life. Often times this means leaving their families behind in Mexico, resulting in a horrible effect on the children in the family. I truly felt for Reyna and her siblings as they had to endure so much in their young lives. Their parents went to America with so muc ...more
Julia Amante
Oct 29, 2012 Julia Amante rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Important book. As a former teacher, I had many student just like Reyna in my classroom. Well written. Takes you on a journey of what it's like to be the child of immigrant parents, and to spend most of your life without the nurturing parents are supposed to provide. Touching and heartbreaking.
Mar 29, 2013 Louise rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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Washington Square Press|March 12, 2013|Trade Paperback|ISBN: 978-1-4516-6178-1

Reyna Grande vividly brings to life her tumultuous early years in this “compelling…unvarnished, resonant” (Book Page) story of a childhood spent torn between two parents and two countries. As her parents make the dangerous trek across the Mexican border to “El Otro Lado” (The Other Side) in pursuit of the American dream, Reyna and her siblings are forced into the already overburdened household of thei
Joan Bannan
Jun 24, 2017 Joan Bannan rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I thought I had lived a portion of my childhood in poverty, but when I read this wonderfully written memoir, I saw that poverty in the US cannot be compared to poverty in Mexico! This true story reflects Reyna Grande's struggle with abandonment, "for the greater good," dysfunctional parents, and her deep love for both of her homes, the first in Mexico, and then her new home in the United States where, thanks to the Reagan amnesty program, she embraced citizenship and opportunity.

This child, the
Feb 26, 2015 Noodles rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
In the memoir ,with The distance between us, written by Reyna Grande that was born in Iguala Mexico with her two other siblings named Mago and Carlos. Her father left to “el otro lado” (the other side) to work and finish his dream house in Mexico. Later her dad decide to take her mother away so she can help him build the house, leaving Reyna and her two siblings behind with their mean grandmother Evila that made them have the worst childhood ever. She would scare them and hit them when they didn ...more
Aly Herrera
May 19, 2017 Aly Herrera rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I love this book so much! Not only because I'm Mexican but because I can relate to it so much. The life she tells is exactly my moms life. My mom and grandma went through nearly the same situation. The part about La Llorona and selling Avon is what really just had me hooked on this book. My mom sells Avon and my grandma always scared us with La Llorona stories when we were being bad. I love this book because it teaches you about Family and the way of life. It shows how good you may have it and t ...more
What a story-teller! I would think it must be so difficult to tell your own story. Where to start? How to use emotion without melting down? How to show the difficulties without sounding too whiney? However it’s done, Reyna Grande is a master. I admit, I could not stand “Eat, Pray, Love”—way too much navel-gazing. Ditto with “Wild.” (What a whiner—I had to quit after 100 pages…) But I loved Grande’s story and the straightforward way it was told. She definitely puts a personal spin on a political ...more
Esther Bradley-detally
The Distance Between Us, Reyna Grand, Atria Books, a division of Simon & Schuster, Inc. by Reyna Grande 325pp., $25

A review-Esther Bradley-DeTally

Reyna Grande’s The Distance Between Us (a memoir)rocks.

In January, 1980, a time of tremendous poverty and economic hardship in Mexico, Reyna is four years old, as her mother leaves for El Otro Lado, the Other Side, to join her husband to work, to help him fulfill his dreams of leaving something to his children. He had left his native country with h
Feb 26, 2016 Giselle rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
In the book The Distance Between Us A young girl (Reyna Grande) tells a story of immigration. When Reyna Grande father decides to leave his three children behind and his wife behind for the United States, he surely promises he will soon return from “El Otro Lado’’ referring to (The Other Side) hoping that he will return with enough money to build his family the dream house they’ve always wanted. Not to Soon enough his wife joins the journey he has been trying to accomplish that has not only turn ...more
Feb 26, 2015 gabriela rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
The Distance Between Us: a memoir written by Reyna Grande talks about her circumstance and the difficulty lifestyle she faces as a young girl growing up,living in a poor economic in mexico. Reyna Grande tone changes as if she as a child was tell the story but it switch back in some part of the story.

The Distance Between Us Reyna’s father leaving to the other side leaving behind her sister and brothers and her mother in processing his dream of building a big house for them to live in. Will the c
Feb 27, 2015 Jasmine_oxxo rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Reyna Grande book: The distance between us takes place in Iguala,Mexico and its about a family with three children. Who father immigrated to the united states(El otro lado) seeking for work. Through the story is gives advice and explanation to why her parents choice to leave them as children and headed to the United states. Reyna personality shows strength and compassion throughout book.

Reyna Grande quotes that “She saw a roach pass by her foot, and she instantly lifted it up and brought it down
Aug 29, 2012 Arcelia rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I LOVED this book. I read this book on a recent trip and could not put it down when I should've been sight seeing. This memoir tells the story of the toll that immigration takes on Reyna Grande and her family. Her father initially goes to the United States in search of work when she is very young. A few years later her mother follows and leaves Reyna and her siblings behind in Mexico for several years. Eventually her mother returns after leaving her father, but is not much of a mother to Reyna o ...more
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Reyna Grande is the author of two novels, Across a Hundred Mountains, which received a 2007 American Book Award; Dancing with Butterflies, which received a 2010 International Latino Book Award. In her memoir, The Distance Between Us (Atria, 2012) Reyna recounts her experiences as a child left behind in Mexico when her parents emigrated to the U.S. in search of work, and her own journey to the U.S. ...more
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