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Love Smart: Find the One You Want--Fix the One You Got

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If you are one of those people who is sleeping alone in a double bed; if you are walking down the street thinking, How do I meet THAT guy?; if you often find yourself at a table for one, looking at all the happy couples around you; if you're on your 20th date and have no idea if he wants to get serious; if you're in a serious relationship and he keeps saying, I'm almost re ...more
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Published December 4th 2012 by Free Press (first published 2005)
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Marwa Al-saydalani
كتاب مفيد لمن تريد ان تكتشف أكثر عن انماط شخصيات الرجال

هناك فصول غير مفيدة و هي تحكى عن الواقع الغربي و لا تناسبنا كـ عرب و هي فصول البحث عن الرجل المناسب
و في المقابل هناك فصول رائعة تناسب من هم في مرحلة الخطوبة
كيف تكتشفين شخصيتة ؟ و كيف تعرفين هل هو مناسب لكِ ام لا ؟
مع بعض التقنيات التى تجعل اكتشافك بطريقة غير مباشرة
يتحدث الكتاب عن أنماط شخصية الرجل و كيف تتعاملين مع كل شخصية بما يناسبها
و في الفصل الاخير يتحدث عن كيفية تحقيق الانسجام بين الزوجين ..
أنصح كل فتاة بقراءة هذا الكتاب القيم
Jun 14, 2009 Jen rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
After I read this I made a list (like it suggests in the book) about what I wanted in a lifelong partner. I started dating David shortly thereafter and realized that he had more than the suggested 80% of qualities that I was looking for in a mate. We got engaged 8 months later.
Aya Hassan
ظننت ان الكتاب يتحدث عن الذكاء العاطفى فوجدته يتحدث عن الهروب من العنوسه
هو نسخه مبنيه على اساس علمى من كتاب كيف تصطادين عريسا
اكبر استفاده لى شخصيا هو انى عرفت كيف احصل على المعلومات التى اريدها من اى شخص بمناقشه لا تمت بصله من قريب او من بعيد الى المعلومات التى اريد معرفتها
عيبه الكبير انه يتحدث على اساس محتمع غربى ونظام المواعده وما الى ذلك
آيات  مختار
الكتاب عجبني انه ركز في معظمه علي فكرة ان مفيش شخص مثالي ، لازم نقعد منتظرين انه يجي ، لكن فيه شخص مناسب لينا بنسبة كبيرة
لكن فكرة الشخص المثالي واللى فيه كل المميزات دي فكرة خيالية جدا

عجبني كمان فيه فكرة الحب بذكاء ، الكتاب مش بيقول ان الحب بيجي بمجرد اتنين بيشوفوا بعض وبيحبوا بعض ويتنطلق شرارة الحب ، بالعكس الكتاب بيركز علي أن الحب الذكي هو اللى بيبني علي توافق ومقبول وعامل مشتركة بين الطرفين ، مش مجرد مشاعر حب وبس

الكتاب كمان بيركز علي فكرة تقبل المرأة لذاتها وأنها لازم تحب نفسها وشخصيتها اى
Marwa Ayad
This was an OK read. I couldn't help noticing the similarity between some of the things Dr. Phil mentioned and some of the things Dr. Barbara De Angelis mentioned in her book "Are you the one for me?" (which I highly recommend by the way) which was published in the 90's. Also, Love Smart reminded me of "Why Men Love Bitches" (published in 2002), at least in parts. The book didn't feel original; I felt like I'd read it before (and I hadn't). There's really no wonderful advice and Dr. Phil mostly ...more
Heba Tarek
اممممم أجلت ملاحاظاتى على الكتاب حتى أنتهى منه تماما ..
قبل اى شىء .. الكتاب يصلح له عنوان ( كيف تصطادين عريسا ) وسيحقق أعلى المبيعات فى مصر والدول العربية !!

عندما قرأت العنوان اعتقدت أنه على شاكلة كتب الرجال من المريخ وكيف يفهم كل جنس الاخر بطريقة صحيحة ..لكن الواقع المرير الذى وجدته هو كيف تعمل المرأة بكل ما أوتيت من قوة لكى

تصطـــــــــــــــاد عريسا !!!

تعجبت من صدور كتاب كهذا فى دولة " متقدمة " كما يقال كالولايات المتحدة ..بل ويتم التحدث فى هذه القضية على أنها عملية استثمارية بحته .. المرأة ه
Nov 25, 2008 Jennifer rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Yes, I have this book. And yes, it's on audio tape. Whilst taking a leisurely drive home from Maryland to New York a few months ago, I stopped off at this depressing little outlet mall in Delaware. They had one of those cheap bookshops and outside, a rack with $1 audio books. Audio books, NPR, Prairie Home Companion, I love it all while driving so I thought I'd take a look. The best thing there was this Dr. Phil book and since hey, I'm a fool when it comes to love I thought why not?

Well, after s
Jan 30, 2010 Farheen rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I love Dr. Phil. What I would give to have just one day to talk to him in person...
Mar 13, 2012 Talia rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I went to the library to get “Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus” on the recommendation of a friend. However, it was gone. This book was next to the empty spot. I’ve never seen Dr. Phil on TV or read any of his books, so I thought, “hey, why not?”

Overall, the book was pretty good. I liked how he stressed that you have to be happy with yourself and realize that you don’t have to have a partner to complete you. I think too many women don’t recognize this. They feel incomplete without a husban
من المدهش أنني وصلت إلى هذا الكتاب الظريف عن طريق إحدى الروايات التي أكرهها :)
أعترف أني بدأت بالقراءة كما يلي:
استعرضت فهرس الموضوعات.. وقررت أي الفصول التي سأتجاوزها دون قراءة لأن موضوعاتها لا تعنيني.. ثم شرعت في قراءة المقدمة لآخُذ فكرة عن أسلوب الكاتب الذي أقرأ له ولأول مرة.. وأعترف أني سُحِرت تمامًا بأسلوبه الفكاهي.. ولم أكد أنتبه لنفسي إلا وقد انتصفت في الكتاب!
قطعًا لم يكن محتوى فصوله الأولى يناسب بيئاتنا الإسلامية، لكني قرأتها سطرا سطرا بحثا عن تلك الجمل الاعتراضية المضحكة والاستعار
Sara Sherzad
Well , to be reviewed :D :P
I enjoyed this well written book. Felt it was nicely laid out and enjoyed Dr. Phil's humor, analogies and personal stories as he relayed some insights into the male mind. He even went into the dreaded "dark zone."

This should be a MUST READ for all looking for or in a relationship, in my opinion.

There are some great questions Dr. Phil shows you how to present and read between the lines. Nicely done. Highly recommended.
Corey Rae
May 20, 2009 Corey Rae rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
If you want to get married and are ready for that next step in your life, this is the book that will take you there. Dr Phil assists you with redefining realistic goals for the right type of man when searching for the one to marry. He helps to prepare you if you for real life and what a marriage should be. I read this book and met and married my husband within a year and a half!
Nov 29, 2015 Maraya rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I've gotta say - I do like Dr. Phil but I didn't think much of this book. Maybe I'm just too old and jaded and have read enough relationship books to recognize when one is surprisingly good - or not. It was OK. It was basic.

The cover would have you believe the book was written for 'people' when in fact it's specifically directed at women (of course), and young ones at that.

It contains a lot of good, entry level, information on how to attract the right man, "bag 'em and tag 'em and take him home"
James Preston
This is obviously a self help book. So as far as entertaining, it wasn't. But there was a lot of good stuff in it. I think it would be very helpful for a lot of people, just not me. But I think I would recommend it if you're struggling with your marriage or something.
Nov 04, 2015 Emily rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Some good nuggets of truth for young women

I bought this book after I'd been divorced for some years following a twenty-four year marriage and I was finally ready to think about entering into a new relationship. I had read and liked Dr. Phil's Life Code so I decided to give this one a try.
I think his advice is absolutely on target and most useful for emotionally YOUNG women who don't know very much about real men or about real friendship with real people. But if the woman is that young, I don't
Mar 12, 2013 Olga rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Очень американская книжка про отношения.
Доктор Фил - действительно популярная личность на западе, в основном благодаря своему шоу про взаимоотношения, которое он ведет. Кроме этого он доктор (психотерапевт, вроде) и также выпустил ряд книг, которые стали бестселлерами.

Мне эту книгу порекомендовала подруга как такую, которая подойдет всем, включая даже замужним девушкам, таким как я. На самом деле 70% книги все же ориентировано на одиноких барышень, которые мечтают найти свою половинку и быть с н
Daniel Currie
I listened to the 6CD audio version of this book (read by Dr. Phil himself!).

After 1CD this is what I have learned:

Finding the right person: It IS a game, as he states and then restates for emphasis.

You are perfect already. Presumably it would be beyond his scope to fix you, to make you right for someone, so he assumes you are already basically perfect.

Women are the only ones who need advice in this area. Despite there being nothing saying this on the box, it is 100% geared toward women finding
Caitlin Trepp
Nov 24, 2013 Caitlin Trepp rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Update: this book is still awesome. I just reread it and I feel like I learned more about myself!

I was surprised by how much I enjoyed reading this book and how much I learned from it. I am a fan of the show, and I have read a couple of Dr. Phil's other books (Life Strategies, Weight Loss, etc.) and found them lackluster (they're pretty general). I enjoy the show so much that when I saw this one in the library I picked it up, and I wasn't even really serious about dating or dating advice so I di
Alona Perlin
Jan 13, 2015 Alona Perlin rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I enjoyed this book by Dr. Phil. It was engaging, clever and funny. However, I do wonder about some of the techniques he mentioned that do not sound right to me. (Read the book for details... No spoiler alerts); I read it pretty quickly and it was a page-turner. I felt like Dr. Phil was talking to me and wading me through the sometimes confusing and muddy world of relationships!
Jan 23, 2015 RouGy rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
قرات النسخه المترجمة للعربية.
كتاب رااائع ، وقد اعيد قرائته في وقت ما!
الحب في قلوبنا سر السعادة والصفاء ، هو صادق و جميل لانه ينبع من ارواحنا التى لاتعرف سواه... الحب فطرة خلقنا الله عليها، تجمل عالمنا وتصفى به الوان الحياة كلها...
الحب لخالقك ، لوالديك ، لذاتك الجميلة ، لكل من حولك وما حولك ..
May 01, 2008 Chriss rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-improvement
Of course everytime I watch Dr. Phil or read one of his books, everything looks so easy. The book does have some very valid points, good suggestions and seems to make a whole lot of sense when looking at the big picture. It's just putting it all together that is difficult. Of course that is why we are reading it in the first place. It's not as simple as going to the local coffee shop, meeting the guy and finding out he's great and living out our happy little lives. Sometimes we don't meet the gu ...more
Mar 24, 2016 Lealexsyl rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
After reading this, you're going to love smart. well, I hope you are, :)

Dr. Phil's book makes you realize the difference between realistic and idealistic goal in a relationship, Go for 80% because 100% is impossible. :D
I have really come to like Dr. Phil and his methods and I really did like this book. It's very common sense stuff, for the most part, but I think because people go so deep and far to figure out what's wrong with their love life, common sense is pushed to the side. What I really liked about the book is that it doesn't stray from the Dr. Phil you see on TV, which lends to its credibility; sometimes I could swear I heard his voice while reading! :)
Jun 15, 2015 Afnan rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
الكتاب عجبني بغض النظر عن فكرتة ، كنت ابحث عن مفاتيح الرجل وبالفعل وجدته في هالكتاب بالرغم من ان الكاتب تحدث عن الرجل الغربي و عن نمط حياة مختلف عن حياتنا ! لكن كمجمل كتاب خفيف و مفيد نوعاً ما
Ejlal Alkhuzaie
Aug 26, 2011 Ejlal Alkhuzaie rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended by one of my friend , as similar to book of men from mars and woman from Venus.

In my point view is the following it's how to fall in love in smart way , how don't let your age train run without some.

I think is little bit different than men from mars and woman from Venus , because is discussion on that book how men think , and woman think , and how woman and man can communicate with each other without having problem.

This issue don't only apply on wife and husband but over college ,
Dec 03, 2014 Tiffany rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I would pay 50 cents for this book at a garage sale for the last two chapters of the book which delve into some GREAT questions to further your assessment of a suitor.
Hope Abualrahi
Mar 13, 2016 Hope Abualrahi rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Though I like Dr. Phil, I'm not a fan of this book. For many reasons I couldn't even finish reading the second chapter. I really didn't like this book.
Feb 21, 2015 Faten rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
من الضريف ان اقرأ هذا النوع من الكتب
لكن قرأته من دافع الفضول
قرأته ل اتعرف على سايكولوجية الرجل
لكي اتعرف على الأشياء اللتي لا يقولها الرجال
Lbna Mazin
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Phillip Calvin McGraw, best known as Dr. Phil, is an American television personality, psychologist and author who is the host of the psychology themed television show Dr. Phil. He gained celebrity status following appearances on The Oprah Winfrey Show.
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