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The Secret Life of the Lonely Doll: The Search for Dare Wright

Jean Nathan

4.04 · Rating details · 1,251 ratings · 233 reviews

In 1957, a children's book called The Lonely Doll was published. With its pink-and-white-checked cover and photographs featuring a wide-eyed doll, it captured the imaginations of young girls and made the author, Dare Wright, a household name. Close to forty years after its publication, the book was out of print but not forgotten. When the cover image inexplicably came to j ...more

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Published August 1st 2005 by Picador (first published January 1st 2004)

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Nov 01, 2009 karen rated it liked it

Shelves: nonfictions

so it is now biography month. i think i expected something more tragic and explosive than this. instead, it is as tragically funny as watching grey gardens - maybe a little sadder. mothers and their daughters should not spend this much time together. everyone knows that. much like three or four women cannot be around each other without spontaneously engaging in lesbian pillow fight action, mothers and daughters living together their whole lives leads to emotional claustrophobia and, eventually, ...more

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Feb 18, 2008 Jessica rated it really liked it · review of another edition

Recommends it for: posers

Recommended to Jessica by: Tosh Berman

Shelves: crazy-ladies, here-is-new-york, kind-of-depressing, wish-i-owned, chicklits

This biography of Dare Wright had a lot of flaws, but a year later the story's still imprinted in my generally flaky memory, and I can't deny that I sat down and inadvertently read the whole thing in one sitting, sooooo.... The Secret Life of the Lonely Doll is definitely a four-star book. I don't think Jean Nathan's the greatest biographer who's ever lived, and I felt her pop-Freudian analysis of Wright left a lot to be desired (okay, it annoyed the crap out of me, though that's a personal pet This biography of Dare Wright had a lot of flaws, but a year later the story's still imprinted in my generally flaky memory, and I can't deny that I sat down and inadvertently read the whole thing in one sitting, sooooo.... The Secret Life of the Lonely Doll is definitely a four-star book. I don't think Jean Nathan's the greatest biographer who's ever lived, and I felt her pop-Freudian analysis of Wright left a lot to be desired (okay, it annoyed the crap out of me, though that's a personal pet peeve), but Nathan does deserve real recognition for unearthing the hitherto untold story of this extremely fascinating woman.

Dare Wright is the author of a famous 1957 picture book for small children. If you don't know it, The Lonely Doll is a memorably creepy story illustrated by black and white photographs, about a blonde doll who lives unhappily all alone until two bears come to stay with her. The story contains lots of dress up, an infamous spanking scene, and a profound childhood fear of abandonment -- in other words, it's made to order for the twisted, confused brains of little girls. The book's rather lovely and artful and sick and clearly meant to sear itself deeply into the mushy psyches of young readers. If you haven't looked at it, you should. There is also a bunch of Lonely Doll sequels.

And of course it turns out that Wright herself had quite a uniquely twisted psyche of her own. Her life is truly in the realm of too-disturbing-for-a-storybook, too-bizarre-to-make-up. The perennial girl-child of a creepy, Svengali-like mother, Wright seems to have lived the life of a doll as much as a human being could. She was a model and photographer who actually seems to have existed more in the fantasy worlds she created and photographed than she did in real life, where Wright seems to have been profoundly uncomfortable. In addition to a bizarrely enmeshed relationship with her mother, Wright also had a very close, quasi-romantic relationship with her brother, and after a brief courtship in her youth never married or consummated any romantic relationship. She presumably starved herself throughout her entire life to maintain a thin, childlike figure, and suffered a complete mental breakdown when her mother finally died. Wright's last years are almost unbearably tragic to read about (and are not treated with much insight here, IMHO), and are practically an ad for better social service funding. Some of the most interesting themes of Dare Wright's life -- art, representation, gender, etc. -- might not be adequately explored in this book, but they're so unavoidable and the story's so fascinating that this doesn't matter much. The narrative is very well-told, though I did find the author's decision to end the book with her personal story very jarring, and wished she'd put it at the beginning instead of the end. Still, as I mentioned above, I accidentally read this book last year in one sitting -- flipped it open to look and didn't manage to close it until I was done-- which definitely recommends the thing highly. Nathan does do a fantastic job of immersing the reader in Wright's completely bizarre and enchanting world (think brother-and-sister-separated-at-birth trying to marry, New York in the fifties, a demented version of Eloise....) and I was very sad at the end to leave it.

I agree with Tosh that Wright is a really interesting artist, and I'd love to see her work get more attention.... which hopefully it will pretty soon! I'm excited to see that Julian Schabel's working on a movie about Dare Wright. The fact that Jean Nathan's isn't going to be the last word on Wright helps me fully appreciate the work she did in uncovering this story. Honestly, I'm sure Nathan did a fine job, and some of the ways she chose to approach this just grated on me for personal reasons having to do with my professional biases. If you're not irritated by glib Freudian summaries of people's serious psychiatric problems, you will absolutely love this book. Hell, even if you are, you'll probably love it anyway; I did! ...more

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Oct 24, 2007 Tosh rated it it was amazing

Recommends it for: emotionally damaged people and Goodreads world

I love this book and I love Dare Wright. Even her name is great. Dare was a beautiful model who did a series of children books called "The Lonely Doll," where she photographed and wrote the narrative of this ugly little doll and her other doll friends. At one time it was thought to be charming, but looking at the books now they are truly hidious and scary.

The story of Dare Wright is truly an American Gothic tale, with a mother very close to her daughter (Dare Wright) and then to add more weirdne ...more

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Jul 07, 2008 Callie rated it it was amazing · review of another edition

Recommends it for: fans of Grey Gardens!

Recommended to Callie by: Kylee's to-reads

I can't believe I had not heard more about this book before!
It really seems like one that snuck under the radar. Oh my freaking god is what I kept wanting to shout out loud as it kept me up, reading page after page some nights past three in the morning. You are immediately drawn into the wacky lives of two women- the shy, ethereal, bizarre & gorgeous author of The Lonely Doll (also model/actress/artist), Dare Wright, and her crazier, eccentric artist mother, heavily painted faced Edie Wrigh ...more

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Aug 23, 2008 Jackie "the Librarian" rated it really liked it

Recommends it for: fans of dysfunctional biographies

Shelves: biography, childrensbooks, misery-oh-misery, non-fiction

I don't know if you remember the Lonely Doll books. Bordered in pink checkerboard, and illustrated with black and white photos of the doll and her adventures, the first book was about a lonely little girl doll named Edith, who had a lovely home, but nobody to live with her. She finds a family when two bears, Mr. Bear and his son, appear in her garden.

I found the story a bit creepy, as Edith gets in trouble for dressing up and writing "Mr. Bear is a silly old thing" in lipstick on the mirror, an I don't know if you remember the Lonely Doll books. Bordered in pink checkerboard, and illustrated with black and white photos of the doll and her adventures, the first book was about a lonely little girl doll named Edith, who had a lovely home, but nobody to live with her. She finds a family when two bears, Mr. Bear and his son, appear in her garden.

I found the story a bit creepy, as Edith gets in trouble for dressing up and writing "Mr. Bear is a silly old thing" in lipstick on the mirror, and gets spanked, petticoats showing, over the knee of Mr. Bear. She begs him not to leave, and tells him she'll do anything if he will only stay. Hmm.

But a lot of girls, and grown up girls who remember the books from their childhoods, loved it and all the other books in the series.

The books are illustrated with lovingly staged photos of the doll Edith, always looking glamorous in elaborate hairstyles and clothing, and the bears in their home. The author and photographer was herself a glamorous young woman named Dare Wright.

Dare was abandoned by her father and brother at the age of three, leaving her to her mother's unhealthy dominence and over-intimacy. Dare's mother, Edie, dressed her up like a doll, and used Dare as model in elaborate photography shoots, including nudes, examples of which are included throughout the book. According to Nathan's account, Edie kept Dare in a state of emotional childhood, preventing her from developing independence and adult maturity.

Nathan theorizes that the Lonely Doll books reflect Dare's own childhood traumas, reenacted and reimagined through her doll model, Edith. It seems an obvious conclusion to draw.

The only male Dare felt comfortable with was her brother, Blaine, with whom she reconnected at the age of twenty. She avoided relationships with other men, and never married. After Edie's death at the age of 90, with no one to care for her, and never having learned to live independently, Dare fell into alcoholism, and self-destructive behavior, dying destitute and alone.

Twisted and fascinating, this book will draw you in and not let you go. I don't know if that counts as a recommendation. ...more

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Dec 11, 2008 Katie rated it it was ok

Recommends it for: Anyone that knew of her books and likes biographies

Man, apparently I'm the only one who didn't like this book. This rating is not to discredit the life or works of Dare, because I think she was obviously a very talented, beautiful, mystical, yet tortured woman (and that's why I bumped it to two stars), but to say that I just didn't enjoy reading this book at all.

First, I want to give some HUGE credit to Jean Nathan for her research on Dare Wright. As she wrote, there was very little prior info. on Ms. Wright available other than a few public in ...more

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Sep 14, 2007 Holly rated it it was amazing

i really liked this book. it could be bundled up with the "grey gardens" documentary in a care package addressed to britney spears.

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Nov 11, 2008 Maritess rated it it was amazing

GOOD GOD ALMIGHTY

One of the most original books I've ever read. Really sick and amazing.

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Oct 05, 2007 Stephanie rated it it was amazing

Recommends it for: people with Venus envy

Shelves: dreamlives, goodgirls, livingdolls

Stumbling across this biography triggered a distant but happy memory of Dare Wright 's Lonely Doll books. Those stories were so precious to me. Not knowing what had become of Wright, I automatically snapped it up. It proved one of the best impulse buys I've ever made. Dare Wright led a fascinating life as an artist, photographer, and writer. Her demise was tragic but not shocking, given the fact she was virtually all alone toward the end of her life.

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Oct 01, 2009 Trish rated it it was ok

Shelves: biography, nonfiction

This isn't my usual reading fare. I guess I can see why it might be interesting. Frankly, I felt a voyeur and found myself wondering how I got here. I felt sad for this beautiful, stylish, and artistically talented young woman who appeared to lack the instinct to live and love. The corrosive influence of a domineering mother may have kept Dare Wright from sexually maturing. I got the impression that Dare had only an inkling of how sex makes the world revolve on its axis. She knew sex was importa ...more

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May 09, 2018 Graham P rated it it was amazing

After reading this, I'm lost in a world where 'Grey Gardens' and 'Whatever Happened to Baby Jane?' rub shoulders with Lewis Carroll and Liberace. This biography of photographer and children's book author, Dare Wright, is a detailed history of an eccentric who was sheltered in her own idyllic fantasy world by her dolls (and her mother), and then faced with utter despair and addiction as the losses in life became unbearable to maintain. What a story about the safety net that art provides, how fami ...more

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Jun 23, 2013 Louise rated it it was amazing

Shelves: writers, photographers

I first saw the Lonely Doll books as an adult and marveled at the technical aspects of the photography, the creative posing of the toys and the stories that would touch children more than any other books of their time. I wondered about the woman who created them in the 1950's. From her photo she appeared to be a NYC sophisticate. Now that I have read Jean Nathan's bio I understand both more and less about the author, Dare Wright.

The book is riveting, not only for the story of Dare Wright, but al I first saw the Lonely Doll books as an adult and marveled at the technical aspects of the photography, the creative posing of the toys and the stories that would touch children more than any other books of their time. I wondered about the woman who created them in the 1950's. From her photo she appeared to be a NYC sophisticate. Now that I have read Jean Nathan's bio I understand both more and less about the author, Dare Wright.

The book is riveting, not only for the story of Dare Wright, but also for the engaging prose. There are well selected photos throughout, each worth more than 1000 words. Pictures fully define the beauty and many visages of Wright. From the photos of Wright and her brother, taken for fun (not for ads or art exhibits although they are of that quality), you can glimpse the complexity of their relationship. Similarly, the intimacy of mother and daughter is shown in both words and photos.

Nathan explores Wright's books and shows how the Wright lived her stories. The narration shows how the Wright, herself, was the Lonely Doll. In childhood she was ignored as her mother built a career as a society painter. She went off uncomplainingly to boarding school. Later in life mother and daughter developed a dependency such that many thought they were lesbians and not family. With Wright's re-discovery of her brother, her mother competed for her affection.

Nathan explores the personal relationships, but another aspect to both mother and daughter is how they defy the mores of their times. Edie Stevenson Wright made a living in a highly competitive men's field. She went to great ends to escape the stigma of divorce. When she painted President Calvin Coolidge he told her that women should not have careers. Dare Wright rejected "good" marriages and a fledgling modeling career (both considered the ideal for women at the time) for her own creative life.

Today, the toys who pose in Wright's books are easier to find than the books. Our local Barnes and Noble has none and our local public library only 4 of these classics. Young families no longer punish children with over the knee spanking depicted in several of Wright's books. It was very common in the life of children in the 1950's. Nathan does not comment, but, like the photos of brother and sister on p. 90 and 96, and Wright's nude self-portraits, there is something you can't quite put your finger on about the p. 211 photo of Edith being spanked by Mr. Bear.

This is a biography that cannot be pieced through letters and documents. The telling Wright's story relies heavily on interviews of people who knew her. Given the age of these sources, this story, without the diligence of Joan Nathan, would have been lost forever.
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Apr 06, 2015 Jessica rated it it was amazing

Shelves: biography-autobiography, read-in-2016

This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here. Dare Wright was amazing. I seriously think there was nothing she could not have done if she put her mind to it. She sewed, built her own furniture, created her own couture outfits, took stunning photography, modeled, authored books and did interior decorating. Yet for all she did, the biggest thing she NEEDED to do was break away from her manipulative mother who basically ruined any chance Dare had to form long lasting and healthy relationships be they platonic or romantic. She kept her child-li ...more

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Jul 05, 2008 emilie rated it really liked it

Dare Wright truly deserved to be written about posthumously. A virgin seductress model photographer who created elaborate scenes with dolls and made them into children's stories. This book is very well written and interesting from start to finish.

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Aug 19, 2007 Robin rated it it was amazing

I had been haunted by The Lonely Doll book as a child. This background story was the perfect closure.

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Mar 11, 2018 Kimberly Karalius rated it it was amazing

Shelves: lovely-facts

Read this all in one day! So much hard work went into piecing together the enigmatic life of Dare Wright - Jean Nathan accomplished such a Herculean task to create the most vivid picture of Dare’s life. I was late to THE LONELY DOLL.

My first Dare book was LONA, and I’ve been obsessed with that story since I was little. I was thrilled that Nathan had found out so much about Dare’s process in creating LONA, including behind the scenes photos. A-mazing. Magical.

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Apr 05, 2017 Marna rated it it was amazing

I didn't expect this to be so incredibly sad. I don't know what it is about lately.

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Nov 09, 2014 Katie rated it liked it

Shelves: biography, blew-my-mind, holla-for-the-ladies, mental-illness, nonfiction, photography, true-story

This story was absolutely incredible, but for some reason I found myself drifting at times, which I'll get into in a minute.

Last year one of my students brought in "The Lonely Doll," the really weird children's book from the 60s. The parent even warned the teacher, "It's, uh, weird." Ha! I was struck that the illustrations were these detailed photographs, and also that, of course, it was so weird. I mean, creepy, for realz. Recently I looked it up to show a friend, and I saw this biography of th This story was absolutely incredible, but for some reason I found myself drifting at times, which I'll get into in a minute.

Last year one of my students brought in "The Lonely Doll," the really weird children's book from the 60s. The parent even warned the teacher, "It's, uh, weird." Ha! I was struck that the illustrations were these detailed photographs, and also that, of course, it was so weird. I mean, creepy, for realz. Recently I looked it up to show a friend, and I saw this biography of the author, and was completely hooked by the synopsis. It makes total sense that such a strange book would have a strange author, but I didn't realize the depths of the bizarre this book would get into.

Basically, if you've seen "Grey Gardens," that was the relationship Dare Wright had with her mother (interesting, her name was also Edie). The doll starring in "The Lonely Doll" was named Edith after her. They have this sick, codependent relationship from the time Dare is born, but what's extra odd about it is that, rather than isolating themselves among cats and raccoons a la Grey Gardens, they're super out and about in the world. To the point where Edie (a well-respected painter) did a portrait of Greta Garbo and much of Cleveland society. They were these society ladies who hung out with very wealthy and well-known people, and yet they were still desperate for their own, creepy world in which they played dress-up and slept in the same bed well into adulthood (ew).

Nathan does a great job of interviewing the gazillion people who knew them - as I said, they were Super Society Ladies, and so I basically had to give up keeping track of everyone they knew and that Nathan mentions. It isn't that she isn't organized - the book is extremely well done. It's just . . . too many. One criticism I have is actually that I would have preferred more in-depth statements from friends of the family than dozens of sound-bites from a plethora of individuals. I felt like I was getting a lot of "what" without enough "how" or "why."

Many people who knew Dare said that she sparkled; men followed her everywhere, adored her, but she at one point literally ran away from a man in a panic. Edie is spoken about factually, but even these bare facts allude to her obsession with Dare. While I appreciate that the author is being factual, I wish I had just a slight bit of judgment from someone, somewhere. I mean, c'mon. These two were nuts. I read a lot of this with my jaw hanging open. And then I started to get annoyed at everyone who would go to their house, eat their food, and enjoy their company, but would never comment on or admit that this was extremely twisted. The "looking the other way" gets to the point of being obnoxious because, as I said, they weren't hiding.

The only person who seems to blatantly agree with me about Edie and Dare's relationship is Dare's brother Blaine, whom she met in adulthood; one of themes is the struggle Dare had between her mother and brother. But, then again, don't get too attached to Blaine because the moment they met, he and Dare were so obsessed with each other they considered just, like, living as husband and wife - which, holy shit, Jean Nathan, that is ONE LINE. You CANNOT just drop the mic on something like that.

Anyway, my anger at the supposed objectivity of this book increased reading about Dare's ridiculously sad end. It made me really upset, if I'm being honest. Because anybody who knew her should've known she'd end up the way she did. There's really no excuse for it, none at all. Thank God she had nurses that could at least attempt to help her, and did more for her than all of her shallow, stupid friends who liked her outfits and were entertained by her childishness.

Listen. I definitely recommend this book. The story is unbelievable and heartbreaking. Dare Wright is proof that the world is unlikely to ever be boring. She was unique, and the author does a great job of interpreting her photos and stories in line with her life. I just wish she had probed a bit more into the psychosis occurring, and perhaps had been a bit more blatant with the, "Guys, just keep in mind, this is wrong" aspect of the story. Sometimes objectivity comes off too much like approval, though I'm sure that that wasn't her intention. I just needed a bit more depth, and she had so much access to Wright's friends and family, I think it was possible to achieve. ...more

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Jan 04, 2014 Zoe rated it really liked it

I’d never heard of The Lonely Doll by Dare Wright until I received this book as gift. The Lonely Doll is a children’s book from 1957 about a little lonely doll named Edith who is all by herself with no one to play with. That is, until she is found by Mr. Bear and Little Bear. Then she gets into mischief with Little Bear, and Mr. Bear disciplines her before promising they will never ever leave. That’s the extremely watered down version. The full book features a swanky dress up scene, controversia
I’d never heard of The Lonely Doll by Dare Wright until I received this book as gift. The Lonely Doll is a children’s book from 1957 about a little lonely doll named Edith who is all by herself with no one to play with. That is, until she is found by Mr. Bear and Little Bear. Then she gets into mischief with Little Bear, and Mr. Bear disciplines her before promising they will never ever leave. That’s the extremely watered down version. The full book features a swanky dress up scene, controversial spanking and photography by Wright herself now described as dark and eerie. Needless to say, I’m on the hunt for an old copy to keep for forever.
The Secret Of The Lonely Doll focuses on the author, Miss Dare Wright. I won’t go into too much detail as I think that would be a bit stupid to cherry-pick details from this extraordinary woman’s life, but I will say this: You will feel nauseated reading this biography. I know because I did, and I have a much stronger stomach and blacker heart than most people. So if my stomach starts to turn and my throat tightens, you know it’s going to be heartbreaking. I can’t say anymore. Just read and read and try not to stop because you might lose the will to finish it.
Onto the actual review segment of this post. I had a few bones to pick with the author, Jean Nathan. The one I noticed immediately was how flowery and pretty the writing was. Now, I’m not one to scoff at poetic writing. In fact, I love it. But only if it has a very specific purpose. Two of my favorite novelists, Katherine Dunn and Chuck Palaniuk use this method brilliantly to contrast and highlight the horror in their stories. They have their reasoning and it works perfectly. Jean Nathan uses it off and on, almost randomly at odd moments. It seems unnecessary and amateur-ish. I could see an English student making that mistake, not a professional writer. I didn’t like it and found myself rolling my eyes at the strange paragraphs detailing this woman’s sprawling apartment filled with porcelain crockery with cracks around their gilded edges, almost like a metaphor for her near shattering life… Blah blah blah. That’s a shitty made up example but it’s very close to what she did.
Leading into my next problem: It’s not the job of a biographer to assume things about their subject or their subject’s lives. Especially if their subject is dead. Take the facts, weave them into a story I will care about and publish it. Do not write more weirdly included paragraphs about how even though Dare’s mother said this, she actually meant this and how it was a subconscious symbol of her indecision about whether to serve cat or alligator at a cocktail party… Blah blah blah. I don’t want speculation or more to the point, what she did, which is playtime guesswork. I can come up with my own theories, thank you. I don’t need them spoon fed to me by a woman that never even really spoke to her subject. I love that the book is mostly written from stories recounted by Dare’s friend and associates, but that is because they all knew her. Jean Nathan didn’t and it felt intrusive to read her thoughts and feelings in a factual telling of this woman’s life.
My final issue was pacing. I’d finish a chapter about the latter half of Dare’s twenties and then the next chapter would start in her early forties. What? What?! What happened to her thirties…? Did they just not exist? Is that why she remained a youthful glow up until her death, because she grew like a Time Lord and those years just didn’t actually happen and even if they did they passed so quickly it didn’t matter? Why? Why would Jean Nathan organize this book that way? Why did her editor let this slide? So many questions, and so few answers! I’d get over it but then her thirties would be mentioned in passing and I’d get confused and annoyed again. It was such a vicious cycle.
Surprisingly, even with those little problems, I still recommend this book. If you learn to just chuckle at the inconsistent poetry, odd mind reading and random time travel, you will have a marvelously horrible time reading this heartbreaker. Enjoy it! Cry! Gnash your teeth and roll your eyes at the insanity! Have fun diving into the world of Dare Wright.

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Jun 10, 2013 Ashley rated it it was amazing

Working in the children's department of a book store, it didn't take long for me to encounter the classic The Lonely Doll . The book was not part of my childhood; in fact, I'd never even heard of it until a year or so ago. The reviews were so mixed, so controversial, that I knew I had to check it out. I ordered myself a copy and was instantly transfixed upon reading it. The gorgeous black-and-white photographs accompanied by the story of a yielding doll create a somehow gentle yet haunting sto Working in the children's department of a book store, it didn't take long for me to encounter the classic The Lonely Doll . The book was not part of my childhood; in fact, I'd never even heard of it until a year or so ago. The reviews were so mixed, so controversial, that I knew I had to check it out. I ordered myself a copy and was instantly transfixed upon reading it. The gorgeous black-and-white photographs accompanied by the story of a yielding doll create a somehow gentle yet haunting story. I wanted to learn more about the person who assembled such an odd but beautiful children's book, which brought me to The Secret Life of the Lonely Doll: The Search for Dare Wright .

While I have a handful of books that I've been working on reading for months now, The Secret Life of the Lonely Doll demanded my attention and I finished it within only a couple of days. Jean Nathan did an excellent job telling the story of Dare Wright. I couldn't put it down. I carried it with me everywhere I went, just hoping for a moment of downtime to spend with it.

Dare Wright, as I've learned from Nathan, was Edith, the lonely doll. Her biography is very unusual and very touching. So many times, and even as I write this, I wished I had the opportunity to send the lonely Wright a postcard. While oftentimes I was confused by Wright's idiosyncrasies as delicately detailed by Nathan, there were just as many times that I felt an allegiance to her. I feel that is not only a testament to the magic of Wright, but to the careful writing of Nathan.

This book has painted the last several days of my life a pastel hue. I thoroughly enjoyed spending time with Dare Wright through the eyes of Jean Nathan. Somewhat of a "lonely doll" myself, I yearned to play dress up and dolls with Wright. Upon waking after indulging in several chapters before bed, I sleepily picked up my phone to text a friend and had to laugh at myself when my phone told me there was no "Edith" in my contacts.

The last few chapters, detailing the last years of Wright's life, were somber. By the end of the book, I felt an emptiness as I sympathized with Wright. I felt the same sadness as Nathan shared a bit of her own biography. I didn't cry, though I was thisclose to doing it, but I hugged the book and declared it a new favorite. ...more

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Feb 27, 2008 Paul rated it liked it

I suppose it's very hard to write a biography about a person who nobody ever got to know. The only thing to do is to stock it full of minute details in lieu of actual warmth, and that's mostly what this book is about. If you want to really know Dare Wright as a person, the only true method is to read this book in conjunction with the books Dare herself wrote. This book serves mostly as footnotes explaining the meaning behind Dare's creepy (and for me, now even creepier) children's books.

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Mar 13, 2015 Cindy rated it liked it · review of another edition

One upon a time there was a girl who never grew up, kind of a female Peter Pan. She lived with her controlling, wildly egocentric mother and later as a young woman, discovered her older brother, equally damaged. This girl, Dare, was ethereally beautiful and artistically talented. She eventually wrote a children's book that became an almost-instant success, The Lonely Doll.

This was a deeply disturbing account of the life of Dare Wright, a woman-child who never broke free from her mother, a talen ...more

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Sep 19, 2013 Emi Bevacqua rated it it was amazing

Shelves: family-dysfunction, haunting, journalist, non-fiction, biography

Jean Nathan is a great writer/investigative journalist. Egomaniacal artist mom and alcoholic dad who's lost his ambition split up; she keeps daughter Dare and he keeps son Blaine. Children are traumatized, and spend their whole lives mired in a mental childhood.

This is the biography of Daughter Dare who was so completely incapacitated by her fears of abandonment that she sacrificed her own future to appease Edie, her domineering mother. Living in a fantasy land, in makeup and costume, with prop ...more

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Dec 29, 2008 Cortney rated it really liked it

A mail-gift from Rockstar, as a companion to the Lonely Doll...

Fabulous and trashy, with gorgeous photos of Ms. Dare Wright herself that made me feel like a voyeur. When Nathan writes that everyone who met Dare was completely captivated, she's absolutely right. I'm smitten and entranced and horrified and amazed. I want to live in a stage set of my own design as a perpetual virgin who holds cocktail parties with photographs of the dead and play dress up for a living. Or not, but I sure did love r ...more

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Jun 25, 2008 Tracy O rated it did not like it

Recommends it for: Those Who Appreciate the Truly Strange

Recommended to Tracy O by: Liz gave this to me, but that is highly uncharacteristic

This book is so creepy it is like Night Gallery times 100. I loved the Lonely Doll when I was little (which is why Liz gave it to me), but this story of the author's life is really disturbing. I'm going to give this to Debbie B tonight because I think she can appreciate the weirdness of it without getting melancholy as I did when she reads it. Full disclosure: I didn't read every page - I sort of ended up skimming the second half of it because it so gosh darn BLEAK.

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Aug 08, 2012 Catherine rated it it was amazing · review of another edition

Shelves: biography

I feel like I should have a lot to say after finishing this book, but I am still struggling to come to terms with the final chapter which is almost unbearably sad. But this is a fascinating examination of an artist who chose to live inside a world of her own creation. Nathan does a fine job of describing this world without judgement or really too much interpretation or over-analysis. Freud would have had a field day with Dare Wright, but Nathan is sympathetic in her treatment of her subject. As ...more

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Mar 28, 2009 Katherine rated it it was ok

Ick.

I cannot separate my feelings for this book from my general distaste for the original Lonely Doll books, which I found creepy even as a child.

Though the author has done a thorough job, I found her writing to be a distant and uninvolving. The book is full of all sorts of appalling material (and nude photos of the subject--wish I'd know that before I started reading it in a train station!), but it started to feel like a laundry list--"and then Edie made Dare do this, and then Dare took her clo ...more

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Jun 28, 2007 Sarah J. Walker rated it it was amazing

Recommends it for: if you liked the doc Grey Gardens

Oh dear God this book is awesome. It's about Dare Wright, who wrote and illustrated these children's books in the 1950s- they featured a doll, of course, and photos taken by Dare of the creepy doll in various (some pretty risque) poses, i.e. the doll tied to a tree, being spanked, etc. So she was a lonely never married recluse (at the end of her life) that lived in a massive Manhattan apartment. She lived with her mother for years and they had a really strange almost incestual relationship. Ditt ...more

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Jun 05, 2012 Colleen rated it really liked it

I had never read "The Lonely Doll" as a child, nor had I any other reference for Dare Wright. I ordered the children's book after seeing a gallery with her photos and subsequently this book (basically, the author's bio) on impulse. What a fantastic read about a a delicate, creative, emotional soul. I felt both endeared and incredibly sad for her and her sheltered, imaginary life. I loved Ms. Nathan's style, but even moreso, I fell in love with Dare Wright. Recommended for fans of children's book ...more

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Dec 17, 2007 Suede rated it it was amazing

I'm not so sure if this book really deserves 5 stars, but it was just SO CREEPY that I threw an extra star in there. I mean, Dare looks exactly like Edith, the Lonely Doll. And the Lonley Doll is named after her MOTHER. The mother that she slept beside when she was an adult, after an all day session of playing dress up. And she was in love (as in, I wanna marry you love) with her brother - and i can see why, HOTTIE! And she was raped by a hobo. Tragic, true, but you can't make this stuff up.

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