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The first encouraging, sex-positive guide for all women survivors of sexual assault — heterosexual, bisexual, lesbian, coupled, and single — who want to reclaim their sex lives. While most books on the topic broach sexuality only to reassure women that it is all right to say “no” to unwanted sex, Healing Sex encourages women to learn how to say “yes” — to their own desires ...more
Paperback, 320 pages
Published November 28th 2007 by Cleis Press
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Alex
Apr 21, 2009 rated it it was amazing
this is a great, VERY accessible guide for survivor's of sexual abuse, especially child abuse. i found it both insightful and incredibly down-to-earth. Staci Haines helps survivors take control of their sexual lives again, and move forwards on the path of healing. the book is written mainly for women, but even as an ally i gained a lot from it.
Jenna
Jun 21, 2009 rated it it was amazing
I'd recommend this book to anybody, not just the survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Repeated images of gruesome rapes and murders locked within our culture's collective memory does damage.
HeavyReader
Mar 03, 2008 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: anyone interested in healthy, empowered sexuality
Here is the review that I wrote for the Feminist Review blog.

I’ve wanted to read this book since it was first published in 1999 as The Survivor’s Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Child Sexual Abuse, so I was pleased to review this updated second edition.

I had forgotten that the focus is on survivors of childhood sexual abuse, and the new subtitle obscures that detail. However, I think this book could be helpful for any woman recovering from any sexual abuse, no matter what
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Molly Octopus
Dec 13, 2012 rated it really liked it
This book is an updated version of Haines' previous book about healing from child sexual abuse... it just has a different title. I read it expecting a different book and was rather disappointed. I think releasing the same book under a different title is misleading, but oh well. I'll give it 4 stars, like the previous version. They're really the same.
Abilouise
Mar 10, 2012 rated it really liked it
The best thing about this book is it has near the beginning a few pages of "here's the minimum of self-care that you should have in place in order to tackle this work". It's a nice baseline for everyone, really, and it's a nice warning, frankly!
Hannah
this is a good one: gentle, embodied, and in line with a lot of my existing approaches to healing trauma and being in relationships around and with trauma. i wish there was more out there for when you have no actual memories of abuse or specific triggers. i read this one really slow & tried not to take it too linearly or like i had to do every exercise for it to "count". there is always a way we integrate anything we take in! also, note that this book always refers to survivors as "she".
Tinea
This book takes a physical, body-based approach to healing trauma from sexual abuse or assault. It's about identifying emotions and feelings in your body and discovering how they were caused by or relate to your abuse. The idea is that when you can connect your present physical andT emotional feelings to memories of past trauma, you can begin to understand the present day feelings and work through them, heal them. The book has excellent sections on dissociation, handling triggers, and figuring o ...more
Nicole
Aug 18, 2014 rated it really liked it
This book has a lot of sound advice about healing from sexual trauma.

My main takeaways are:
trust your instincts,
take time to discover who you are,
be aware of your physical body and how trauma is stored within it,
don't be afraid to ask for what you need,
most of all, you're worth it

There are many quotes from different clients the author has worked with over the years spread through out the book. At first it was nice to read. After a while they were interfering with the content for me. Overall
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Cherokee
Nov 29, 2015 rated it it was amazing
I found this book to be excellent. This book is ideal for someone much further along in therapy.

Most of the books out there for childhood sexual abuse survivors cover emotional issues that many experience and need to deal with first. The topic of sex is a difficult one and something that those books barely devote 1 page to, if that. Unfortunately many survivors associate sex with something negative and painful as a result of the abuse they survived. This book provides hope that sex can be posit
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Alex
Jan 06, 2013 rated it really liked it
I picked up this book after it was recommended to me because I am a massage therapist who works with trauma survivors. The book is obviously written for the survivors themselves, and as such there were "self-help" techniques that I don't anticipate using in my practice, but which seem like they would be helpful. That being said, it's still a resource I turn to years later, and I think it's very well written.
Callie
Apr 21, 2014 rated it really liked it
A very helpful and insightful book. Could be better-written, but that's easy to forgive with a book like this. Helped me resolve a lot of confusion, and normalized what was happening with me which also helped me gain confidence. Very grateful I found this book.
Jonathan
Sep 18, 2009 rated it really liked it
I found Staci Haines writing about trauma to be very hopeful and inspiring. Reading this book helped center me and focus on the important act of healing. I found it was easy to relate to as a guy.
Lauren Grousd
Jun 18, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: recommended
Great sex-positive book for survivors of sexual abuse or assault. A reminder that you're not "broken" and that you can experience your sexuality as a positive, healthy, enjoyable part of who you are!
Collette
Jul 17, 2019 rated it really liked it
This was a sex positive book for people of many groups and not solely women. I think some readers may not be interested in all of the sections of the book(i.e. BDSM), but I love that people can choose to read the parts that apply to them. There aren’t very many books about sex after trauma, so this book fills a gap in information. I appreciated this life affirming and encouraging book about reclaiming one’s sexuality and having a healthy sex life again or for the first time after trauma.
Amelia
Mar 13, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: non-fiction
One of my most recommended books in my therapy practice. Really helpful and practical somatic experiencing-based guide to sex after trauma, focusing on childhood sexual abuse, but relevant to all sexual trauma.
emily
I'm not a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, but I am a survivor of an adult abusive relationship, and currently in my first relationship since the abusive relationship ended several years ago. My partner read this first and recommended it, and I'm glad she did. Overall it was hit-and-miss helpful for me, some topics more applicable than others. I really appreciated the chapter on working through triggers; for that alone I felt the book was worth it. As an aside, I listened to this on audiobook ...more
M.
Dec 27, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Really powerful for me. Cried a lot while reading. Read passages aloud to my lover. All helpful. Recommended.
Indigo
May 05, 2014 marked it as to-read
Recommended by Robin Mandell at Scarleteen
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Staci Haines is a national leader in the field of Somatics, specializing in social leadership. Staci has worked extensively with organizational leaders, including corporate executives, non-profits, and social entrepreneurs.

She is a senior teacher at Strozzi Institute and the Co-Director of Methodology, having studied and worked with SI since 1995.

She is the founder of generative somatics, a nonpr
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