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It's Not Your Fault: How Healing Relationships Change Your Brain Can Help You Overcome a Painful Past

4.19  ·  Rating details ·  27 ratings  ·  4 reviews
This engaging and highly readable book, based on the author's professional experience in treating those who suffer from the devastating effects of emotional trauma, offers hope for those who suffer and those who care about them. Dr. McGraw describes how trauma affects the brain and, therefore, one's ability to carry out "good advice"; explains the subtle and largely hidden ...more
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Published May 1st 2004 by Baha'i Publishing
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Travel Writing
Dec 15, 2018 rated it it was ok
Shelves: self-help, spiritual
Decent overall introduction to the effects of childhood trauma on adults. The book followed one patient of Dr. Romano Graw through therapy. It seemed a tad narrow to use one persons experience, and a horrific experience at that, for the entire book, but that may be a comfort to some readers.

Chapter 6: Belief, Blame, and God launches headlong into white-western-male-god and how he can solve all your problems. Was not remotely expecting that, but a perusal of the chapter titles prior to buying wou
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Douglas Lord
Oct 03, 2014 rated it really liked it
Psychologist McGraw writes for anyone who has ever been disappointed by a shrink or a self-help book. Although she herself has joined the club that she dismisses here, she puts a novel spin on the self-help genre: people who are struggling to recover from a painful relationship--be it with a parent, child, lover, or friend--should not feel guilty for failing to fix themselves in ten steps. Just like injured muscles or bones, our brains need time to heal and replace damaging emotional experiences ...more
David C. Mueller
This book address personal growth issues from the perspective of a
psychotherapist and practicing Baha'i with many years experience treating patients dealing with very difficult pasts. The author explains now only useful psychological principles, but also presents information about how our brain chemistry plays a key role in how we experience reality around us. Tools are described which can aid the reader is building healing
relationships. The author followed this book with "Seeking the Wisdom o
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Carroll Straus
Jun 30, 2012 rated it it was amazing
It's high time we--humans, Americans, thinking people, governments --and courts!!-- understood what shapes the brains and psyches of children. This book adds to this knowledge base GREATLY. Some may be offended that the author (a Baha'i) believes in God--I am not. I think this is a voice of reason and that those who rule out science OR the "higher power" are not.
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