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The Heart of Anger: Practical Help for Prevention and Cure of Anger in Children

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Do your children ever speak to you in angry, disrespectful tones? Christian families, especially those in which children are home for most of the day, especially episodes of frustration and anger. This new book deals with anger's root causes, offering corrective advice from a biblical perspective. Pastor and radio teacher, John MacArthur, Jr. has said, "This book goes beyo ...more
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Published January 1998 by Cavalry Press
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Feb 17, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenting
I read this for myself years ago, and though it's not a magic bullet, it does give a parent thoroughly Biblical help in addressing anger issues with a child. What I loved about it was the fact that it had not a trace of pop psychology. There were checklists to help a parent evaluate his/her own actions and reactions, and encouragement to own up to our own mistakes first. Then a thorough examination of a child's expression of anger in ways overt and subtle (for example rolling the eyes). This ena ...more
Chad Warner
May 07, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: parents
Recommended to Chad by: Kelly Warner
This is a biblically-based approach to solving a child's behavior problems. The premise is that behavior issues are generally rooted in an anger problem. This book explains how to change your parenting style to prevent and cure your child's anger problem. This usually involves dealing with your own anger problem. It's written by a Christian counselor and instructor.

Some techniques and examples seem unrealistic (I can't imagine them working for my child). The author mentions a few tim
Jun 04, 2012 rated it it was amazing
I was told that this was something like Love and Logic, only with scriptural references. I confess, I am one of the few adoptive parents who has not read L and L, but have heard it referenced often. So the addition of scripture made this the easy choice for me.

The instructions put forth in Heart of Anger do require some concentrated effort, but I have no doubt that they will reap the rewards you are looking for - for both your child and yourself. While reading, I already began putting into prac
Gabriel Hudelson
Aug 14, 2014 rated it really liked it
This book is an excellent introduction to two things:

- Christian counseling

- Biblical parenting

In "The Heart of Anger," Lou Priolo does an outstanding job laying out practical, foundational ways to train children up in the nurture and admonition of The LORD, using Scripture and Biblical discipline- and not psychobabble and medications. He puts a heavy focus on teaching children how to think about their own sinful hearts and the situations of life Biblically, a
Thomas Berber
Jun 23, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: borrowed
I am always skeptical of Christian "lifestyle, self-help, pop psychology" but this book is not of that type, but convinces by using sound exegesis of the biblical texts and practical applications thereof.
The first thing that went through my mind reading was that i need to be trained like this before i can ever apply it to my children. There remains the great temptation to say, this is too complicated and time-consuming but - as Lou Priolo also says - to not provoke your children to anger, but t
Feb 26, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction
What I love most about this book is that you can read it from both the vantage point of the child or the parent. And switch back and forth depending on the concept presented. You can immediately place yourself in your childhood home growing up as well as your home now with your own kids with YOU as the parent.

This is a must-have eye-opening book for all parents. If you own only three parenting books, let this be one of them. Highly recommend. It has the potential to heal old wounds as well as c
Jun 02, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: nonfiction, parenting
I really appreciate Priolo's insight into this issue. I think some of the vignettes/conversations recorded are a little stilted sounding, but I think his diagnosis of the causes of anger (both in ourselves and in our children) are right on target. I especially appreciated the chapters on manipulation/disrespect. This book was convicting for me as a parent, showing me areas in my own life that need examination. I feel like I need to reread it! It's definitely not a book to be picked up only if yo ...more
Jun 02, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
What a practical, helpful book! This is the sort of book I'll be returning to frequently as a resources. The biblical approach (focusing on the heart) and the worksheets in the appendix make this an easy book to recommend. I'd give it 5 stars, but the author's tendency to write in lists made this just less than a 5-star book. This would be very worthwhile for anyone dealing with anger in their children (or themselves!).
Apr 16, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: read-2013
This book is not just about anger it is a book on parenting and teaches how to create a Christ centered, rather than child centered, home. It not only tells you what you should do and why but gives you practical application in which you can apply the concepts you learn. This book also has a workbook that can be used as part of a small group setting. Great book!
Jan 19, 2010 rated it it was amazing
Even though this book seems like it would only address anger, it actually can help parents and teachers deal biblically with several issues of the heart. And, as with most heart issues books, this one would not have to only deal with children either.
Peggy Johnson
Apr 06, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I have gleaned helpful tools to minister to angry teens and their parents from this excellent book.
Jul 03, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
very helpful for parents in particular to understand the root of anger in their children and how to combat it.
This is an excellent parenting book- one I am sure will be falling apart at the seams by the time I am done parenting!

Jun 26, 2013 rated it really liked it
I thought this book had some very helpful concepts.

Its focus is on teaching children to evaluate their sinful anger (whether inward or outward manifestations) using biblical terminology and determine/employ biblical alternatives. It also helps kids determine the circumstances that led up to the anger and acknowledge/describe their actions in dealing with it.

The author uses his experience as a parent and a counselor to give ideas, outline biblical instruction and provide scenarios where this pr
James Tetley
I think the proof of this book will be in the living it.

The model is the need each and every time that anger occurs 1/ was I the cause as a parent 2/ the need for the child to self evaluate using the following 4 questions

1. What circumstances led to my becoming angry? (What happened that provoked me to anger?)
2. What did I say/do when I became angry? (How did I respond to the circumstances?)
3. What is the biblical evaluation of what I said/did when I became angry? (How
Peter Jones
Jun 24, 2010 rated it really liked it
I really liked this book. There were some gaps that should have been filled in. But several things were helpful. First, he addresses an issue at length that is a huge problem in Christian homes. Namely, anger in children. Second, he begins by discussing how parents provoke anger in their children. He continues this theme in various ways throughout the book, always reminding parents of the danger of provoking anger when we discipline incorrectly. Third, he has a lot of practical ways to deal with ...more
Nicole Julius Henry
I cannot recommend this book enough. Although I feel the title does not suit the book well. This is a book that not only addresses the heart of anger, but how to correct, teach and discipline your children according to the scriptures. Some other points that are covered in this book are how and why children should appeal, how manipulation is manifested in children and an exhortation to parents to be consistent and endure. This book should be read by all Christian parents before their children eve ...more
Doug Newell
This is an excellent, Biblical book. Priolo deals with the root causes of anger rather than merely providing steps to correct. The principles in the book, because he is dealing with the heart, are applicable in any relational context, family, work, or church. Aside from some out of context proof texting, I would recommend this to anyone who has an angry child. The corrective measures he provides in the book are not quick and they are not easy. The main thrust of the book is to know your child, y ...more
I didn't finish the book. I was hoping this book would help me with a difficult student. The book is primarily written for parents. Not many techniques I could glean from this book for my classroom. I did like the section about a child-centered home vs. a God-centered home. I also want to implement a new way for students to apologize to their classmates. I will have students confess their offense to the other student. Then they will ask for forgiveness. Last they will practice an appropriate res ...more
Nannette Serra
Nov 03, 2013 rated it liked it
Recommended to Nannette by: NANC
Shelves: counseling
I had to rate this at only a 3 star because,after all, I have children. BTW: According to the cover of the book I have, it is foreword is by John McArthur,Jr. Jay E. Adams wrote the preface and you may recognize him as the "father" of nouthetic counseling. My counseling professor was not the only one who had difficulties with Jay Adams.
Camille K.
This book is typical Nouthetic or "biblical counseling" on anger. It is very much like Priolo's other lectures on parenting "God's way" or whatever. John MacArthur, David Powlison, and Jay Adams all endorse it.

There's nothing new here that you can't find regurgitated in any number of Nouthetic books -- from Tedd Tripp to Gary Ezzo to John MacArthur.
Ambar Sanchez Marcelo
The book was so helpful in understanding inconsistencies in disciplining children and manipulative tactics in children. I really appreciated how all the advice pointed back to Christ and how He's the only one that can ultimately bring about change. Yes, the advice can bring outward change in your child, but he/she needs a heart change and only Christ can do that. I enjoyed the book.
Rebecca Brandt
Jun 21, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
If you are looking for a book to help curb anger in the world and your home, this is the one. Lou Priolo gives fantastic information from a biblical perspective on emotional and physical impacts of anger. He also equips you with ways to help implement many of his recommendations from Teach Them Diligently, as well as other recommendations from this book.

Stacy Milacek
Dec 22, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I was really afraid this was going to be a "spank the crap out of them" book, but it's not. It's a great book! It talks about making kids identify what they did wrong, why they did that, and what the correct action would have been. It also talks about parents' motivation in the discipline process. I think I'm going to be reading this book every year until my kid is 18.
Apr 29, 2010 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Many problems I see as a counselor and a middle-school/elementary school bus driver are often anger problems. Can't tell you how often I hear the words, "He/she makes me so angry . . ." 21st century philosophy offers no help. Priolo's book, The Heart of Anger offers real help for people who will take it seriously and respond accordingly.
Sep 20, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: religion
A book on nouthetic counseling is always refreshing. Most interactions among people are not on a biblical plane. The chapter on not answering a fool in his folly is especially helpful. As sinners saved by grace, foolishness still creeps into our conversations. We should be ready to help each other get our thinking in line with the Word of God.
Sep 23, 2010 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
This book had some nuggets of goodness in it that I really appreciated, however there is a large portion of the book that I feel lacks value. Some of the scenarios feel contrived and stretched to fit the author's agenda. Further, I think it is in large degree, an over complication of a simple problem... Almost all anger is driven by selfishness and needs to be dealt with as such.
Jun 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Excellent read to bring anger under control

Really appreciated this book, bought it for my kids anger issues, not realizing this was speaking to the parent first and then how to use anger as God has intended it.
Apr 26, 2015 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: ministry
Very helpful info even if written in a clinical way. Great thoughts to employ by parents who are either frustrated by their child's actions or simply seeking advice for better Christian parenting. I recommend.
Great book for "parents" with anger issues!
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LOU PRIOLO is the Director of Biblical Counseling at Eastwood Presbyterian Church in Montgomery, Alabama. A graduate of Calvary Bible College and Liberty University, he is the author of The Heart of Anger , and The Complete Husband. Lou is also a Fellow in the National Association of Nouthetic Counselors. He resides in Wetumpka, Alabama with his wife, Kim, and daughters, Sophia and Gabriella.
“The use of behavior modification and cognitive therapy techniques that were designed to replace Christ and the Scriptures with human wisdom (Prov. 16:25) cannot produce in an angry child the fruit of the Spirit. That” 0 likes
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