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Simple Social Graces: Recapturing the Lost Art of Gracious Victorian Living

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If you randomly stopped people on the street and asked them to assess their lives, most would wonder, "Am I happy?" A Victorian would wonder, "Am I a good person?" National pride, self-respect, hard work, self-reliance, family, neighborliness -- these ideals were the embodiment of Victorian living. At a time when the national spotlight is cast on the demise of cultural dec ...more
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Published May 6th 1998 by William Morrow
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Jennifer Payne
Dec 30, 2008 rated it did not like it
While well written, this book affirms every stereotype of a beautiful, über gracious past that is just not at all realistic. Her thesis that the majority of people in the nineteenth century were more likely to embrace polite language, follow standards of etiquette, and otherwise get along with each other is very much the fantasy of this Conservative think-tank member. I will concede that perhaps some polite lip service and basic courtesy was paid toward women and that children were instilled wit ...more
Beverly Wiedemann
Jun 06, 2012 rated it did not like it
I didn't finish the book.

From what I read, there were some interesting points. However, the author was extremely biased. As much as I was intrigued by some of the points she was trying to make, I was also distracted by all that she chose to ignore. Namely, how unhealthy passive agressive behavior can be. Also, not only did she lump all of victorian society into one category, but she also lumped all of modern society into one as well.

Example: To here her tell it, all women in todays society are
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polly
Jun 13, 2008 rated it liked it
I liked it.

This book discusses the ways in which the Victorians "had it right" (certain social graces, manners, respect of women, home as the center of life). It also rues the things that are 'wrong' in our current culture. I agreed with much of it, but the author's too-slick, too-clever insertions of puns and parentheticals as she tried to make her point became tiresome. I did like the tidbits of Victorian living that this book provided and glances into some of the customs of that era. It was p
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Dianne
Sep 24, 2009 rated it liked it
Unlike the stereotype, Victorian-era mannerly people weren’t prudish. In fact, they were deeply sexual in the fullest sense, within marriage. This book explains the gentle dance between the sexes that the manners of the period enhanced. In fact, the manners protected women and gave them much power. All very subtle. It describes an exciting, wonderful way to approach gender difference issues. The book also goes into other areas of life, but that is the section that stood out most for me.
Karen
Apr 07, 2009 rated it liked it
A great book on what we have lost in the last century.
Our power as women, (does not include the vote!)
social grace,
style and more.

Worth at least a cursory read.
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