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Lost Boys: Why Our Sons Turn Violent and How We Can Save Them

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"Remarkable--. What sets Lost Boys apart from the ordinary lament is the author's palpable sense of care and compassion."--The Washington Post Book World

In the past few years our national consciousness has been altered by haunting images of mass slaughters in American high schools, carried out by troubled young boys with guns. It's now clear that no matter where we live or
Paperback, 288 pages
Published August 15th 2000 by Anchor (first published 1999)
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Kristal Cooper
Oct 04, 2015 rated it it was amazing
I started listening to this book on the day that there was YET ANOTHER mass shooting in America -- this time, ten dead at a community college in Oregon.

Although fifteen years old, the studies and information inside are just as relevant today and, in many cases, you can see how the author's theories have been well-proven since. Our current national discourse over guns often breaks down along party lines, but this book was written without politics in mind. The studies Garbarino sites range from t
Feb 13, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2007
I read this book for a class at MSASS. The author is a developmental psychologist who has worked extensively with boys who have committed acts of great violence, including murder. The first half of the book examines the roots of violence among boys, and the second half suggests possible ways to prevent violence. Very powerful. I found it to be both realistic and hopeful.
William Cale (Calico)
Sep 30, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Worth reading for just about anyone, with kids or not. It takes a village to raise a child and here are the facts about what can happen when we stop raising and let the world destroy these boys souls.
Feb 04, 2008 rated it it was ok
I'm not going to book group and the book wasn't my style. Is this guy really a psychologist? I would have preferred that he just stuck to the interesting studies he cites about the effects of different kinds of parenting and upbringings on children rather than occasionally going off into foggily religious explanations of soul and spiritual development. I may have been a little more sympathetic to this approach if it just didn’t feel quite so much like he was pandering to the “Religious Right.” I ...more
Joann Lukasiewicz
Apr 23, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Well researched and artfully written, including intimate portrayals of the boys themselves based on extensive interviews and delving into their histories. This book clearly lays out the data on not only what causes boys in the US today to become violent, but also how we can stop this horrible cycle. I was fascinated by the explanation of why mass school shootings have happened mainly in rural areas and smaller schools, contrasted with the urban violence away from schools.

I especially relished t
Keith Randolph Smith
A clear and heartbreaking exploration into the lives of troubled and violent boys. Dr. Garbarino is a psychologist who is experienced in working with these boys. He advocates for understanding them and helping them understand themselves. In helping these boys, we can figure out ways to stop the violence before it happens. Garbarino makes clear that this in not a "them" problem, it is all of our concerns.
Jun 25, 2008 rated it it was ok
Shelves: psycho-ed
I read this for an Adolescent Male Development class. I wasn't as impressed as the professor lead me to believe I would be. I definitely would recommend Raising Cain to anyone raising a young boy. It is a must read. This was good for some preliminary "flip through" data but that was about it.
Erika Schnidrig
Oct 10, 2012 rated it it was amazing
I will never forget this book. I came across it in my mothers books when I was very young, and started to read it. This is the book that introduced me to psychology and lit the spark of my undying passion for the field.
Navy heart HamlinNBCT
Sep 16, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: owned
Intense ? What are self destructive impulses in young males ? Would legalizing marijuana lower the drug lord crime statistics as so many of our youngest generation claim? Why are males still at high risk for crimes when there are alternatives ? When I stumbled across the phrase "suicide by cop" I was surprised. A term used by journalist and police to denote the act of provoking a confrontation with the intent to be killed .
Could the confrontation be de-escalated ?And how does a socially toxic e
Sep 13, 2007 marked it as to-read
Recommends it for: Juvenile Delinquency workers, people who want to save their sons from becoming JDs
I had this book for my Juvenile Delinquency class at LVC. I only skimmed through enough to keep up with the class, but it did provide some interesting info on why boys become violent and how to try to stop the vicious cycle that breeds violent children. I'm looking forward to reading the book cover to cover.
Feb 10, 2009 rated it liked it
THis was really interesting and I look forward to utilizing this at work. It solidified many of the practices we use and encouraged me to continue trying!
Nov 22, 2009 rated it liked it
Shelves: own
Sad, but good intake of what can and does happen...
Aug 18, 2008 rated it it was ok I only read 5 pages and decided I wasn't ready for another book like this after just finishing up grad school. maybe later. It seemed to be rather research driven.
Aug 06, 2017 rated it really liked it
Garbarino tells the stories of several young boys in the justice system and unravels how they got there. An important contribution to the literature about crime and how it happens.
Sarah A
Aug 23, 2011 is currently reading it
Knew of this book through the Gang Prevention Training at Seattle University where one of the speaker was Dr. James Garbarino himself.
Apr 13, 2007 rated it really liked it
Shelves: education
One of those rare required books that's actually insightful.
Mar 14, 2008 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Mariana
The psycological and phisical impact of violence,neglect & abandonment on children's development. Its influence on children adult behavior. Temperament & social factors considered
Cassie Meyer
Jul 21, 2009 rated it really liked it
Read for class; pretty interesting look at how social and familial problems can combine and leave children vulnerable.
Apr 17, 2014 rated it really liked it
Really informative and opened my eyes on how to deal with troubled youth, specifically boys. It's a shame that our solution is just to lock them up, and forget.
Alisa Kester
Mar 31, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Every parent of a boy should read this book.
Sep 13, 2007 marked it as to-read
interesting topic
Jennifer Majkut
Oct 04, 2015 rated it did not like it
Just added more to my semester of hell!
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