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The Wisdom of No Escape: How to Love Yourself and Your World

4.18  ·  Rating details ·  7,512 ratings  ·  299 reviews
Massmarket edition of this spiritual guide to making the most of life, through bad times as well as good, from bestselling author Pema Ch?dr?n. This accessible book has been on the US bestseller lists consistently for four years now. In The Wisdom of No Escape, bestselling author Pema Ch?dr?n shows us the profound value of our situation of 'no exit' from the ups and downs ...more
Paperback, 208 pages
Published August 2004 by Element Books (first published January 1st 1991)
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Hannah Garden
Aug 04, 2008 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Oh lordie. Pema Chodron makes me understand how people go insane and become fundamentalists. She is SO SMART and EVERYONE should just walk around thinking about her ALL THE TIME.
"Once you know that the purpose of your life is simply to walk forward and continually to use your life to wake you up rather than put you to sleep, then there's that sense of wholeheartedness about inconvenience, wholeheartedness about convenience. .... Comfort orientation murders the spirit--that was the general message. Opting for coziness, having that as your prime reason for existing, becomes a continual obstacle to taking a leap and doing something new, doing something unusual, like going ...more
May 14, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: buddhists, people struggling for a healthier mind set
Recommended to Akkire55 by: Jason Nelson
Shelves: reads-of-08
Pema Chodron takes Tich Naht Hahn's Zen Buddhist wisdom and makes it readable. No totally obscure allegories or fragments of wisdom to decode for meaning. She is straight from the heart, speaks of her experience, and translates the traditional Buddhist teachings into an every day accessible language and practice. I reference Tich Naht Hahn, but she is actually from a different school of Buddhism under Tringpah Ringpoche.

I honestly believe that reading this book may have saved my life. I found it in the midst of the greatest crisis in my life, and I think it's what helped me to get through it. ...more
Nov 16, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A beautiful series of talks given during a 1-month "dathun" (practice period) by Buddhist nun, Pema Chödrön, at a monastery called Gampo Abbey. It may be as close as I come to meditation practice at a monastery...but this description in the preface made me feel throughout the book as if I were almost there (easy to visualize because it sounds like my home in the Pacific Northwest that's forever a part of me): "The abbey is located on Cape Breton Island, Nova Scotia at the end of along dirt road, ...more
May 18, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: buddhism
As a teacher, Pema Chödrön is something of a cross between Thich Nhat Hanh and Charlotte Joko Beck. She is a bit more Western than Thich Nhat Hanh, but not quite as original as Joko Beck. However, her talks are more grounded in the Tibetan tradition than a Zen one.

This book is a collection of dharma talks given over the course of a one month retreat. The majority of the talks present sound, practical advice derived from the wisdom her teachers. For at least the first half of the book, there was
H.A. Leuschel
Oct 27, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
The four traditional reminders - precious human birth, the truth of impermanence, the law of karma, which is cause and effect, and the futility of continuing to prefer death to life - are the cornerstone of Chödrön's beautiful, honest and deeply empathetic book. She talks from experience, from a warm kind heart and from the point of view of a fellow human who like all of us has and will experience pain and urges the reader to face it rather than escape from it. I especially enjoyed learning from ...more
Oct 17, 2007 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I read this book right after I crushed my hand and was experiencing nearly constant panic. It reached me through that buzz when nothing else could.

I gave it to my mom to look at when she visited and she borrowed it for like 3 years. I just got it back. I remembered a story about ravens being knocked around in the desert wind, literally holding onto phone lines by their beak and claws. then how they would just let go and play in the fury. there was so much joy and fearlessness in the idea that I
Oct 08, 2007 rated it liked it
I would not call myself a particularly "spiritual" person, but someone who I respect deeply for his ability to treat all things with an even temper gave me this book. While I can't say that I practice this all the time (ha ha ha), I respect the idea that 1) it's important to accept yourself, including all of your glorious faults, 2) all things can teach you something, and 3) we should all try to be a little gentler with ourselves and with others. ...more
Jun Chen
Oct 09, 2020 rated it it was amazing
A book worth coming back to and coming home with. I felt so loved and held while reading the teachings, the sense of opening to the spaciousness around me. I started this book a long time ago, put it aside for some silly reasons - I cherished these teachings so much, that my silly self thought if I finished this book, there would be no new wisdom to learn - and how wrong was I! But I picked it up again while I was going crazy for a job interview, it did magic to my mind.
Mar 31, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I can see myself reading this again and again.
Oct 11, 2020 rated it really liked it
I really like this book. I find this whole world fascinating. I feel like when I read this book some of the theories or themes don't make sense then as I ponder them it feels like it opens up a whole new way of thinking. I loved the chapter on staying in the boat. I have found my boat. I have gained my testimony of God and Jesus Christ through the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. This is my core foundation. I have learned through small and simple things what I believe. As I contempla ...more
Rebecca Garcia
Apr 17, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
very approachable teachings. perfect timing for the practice of tonglen and for the definition of "bardo"--"you've left the shore, but you haven't arrived anywhere yet. You don't know where you're going, and you've been out there at sea long enough that you only have a vague memory of where you came from. you've left home, you've become homeless...that's called the bardo, in-between." "not quite here, not quite there, just hanging out in this sort of uneasy space and having to sit with it hour a ...more
Feb 24, 2021 rated it liked it
Don’t get me wrong - this book is really still very good. But what it is comprised of is talks from Pema that she’s given on a retreat at Gampo Abbey. They are still full of wisdom, and I found great comfort in their pages, but it felt more like an extra feature, or side dish to her other books - which are richer and more detailed. There was a lot of repetition in these talks from books I’d read before, and whilst useful to get that info hammered home - I just didn’t enjoy it as much as her othe ...more
My second time reading this. First time was in Victoria, borrowed directly from the Shambhala Centre. It blew my mind.
Aug 26, 2018 rated it really liked it
A series of short talks given during a meditation retreat, which means sometimes they were a little technical, but as always Chodron's writing is lucid and illuminating. Very useful for trying to be more mindful in everyday life as well. ...more
Owen Cantrell
Sep 26, 2020 rated it really liked it
This book is a series of dharma talks on various aspects of Buddhism. They were originally delivered during a retreat so I think keeping that in mind is helpful for considering their intent—as well as how you might use them for reflection.
Aug 14, 2021 rated it it was amazing
I lost count of how many passages I highlighted in this no-nonsense, smart, kind and often funny book.
Adrian Sprague
Jul 26, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This was a really good book. It has some great descriptions of what samsara and nirvana are in life, as well as great methods of meditation, both bodhicitta and tonglen, and wonderful lessons. The best part is the book is a quick and easy read!

My biggest takeaway? Don’t run away from the bad things in life, and try not to chase comfort
Smitha Murthy
With her typical warmth, Pema again teaches me how to live. How to make friends with who we are. With who others are. This book is something that I would love to dip into every now and then -because the learnings from these are something that I need to refresh myself with all the time.
Dec 22, 2019 rated it it was amazing
My second book by Pema Chodron this year and loved this one too! Great reminder going into the new year on how to meditate, stay mindful and be content with our lives. I love her simple but deep advice.
Nerdette Podcast
Nov 13, 2020 rated it really liked it
The perfect book for the now-times, and one I'm certain I'll come back to again and again. ...more
Rhys Lindmark
Lots of repeated "love yourself" with a good couple stories about the process of doing so. ...more
Feb 27, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A great spiritual book that goes beyond my traditional thoughts and beliefs. A book that really has me thinking outside the box of my current existence. Thank you Pema Chödrön for sharing your wisdom and stories of enlightenment.
Nov 25, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction, advice
I borrowed this book of brief talks (given during a month-long Buddhist meditation retreat) from the library after seeing it recommended on, and although it was very short, I enjoyed reading it slowly, rationing myself to one talk daily to give myself time to reflect on each section. I liked the down-to-earth and humorous (often self-deprecating) style, and found it generally persuasive (in the abstract, anyway...). She quotes her teacher, Chögyam Trungpa, Rinpoche, as saying t ...more
Jul 05, 2008 rated it liked it
The first part of this book resonated with me more than the second part. Chapter 3 "Finding Our Own True Nature" begins with a metaphor of horses and how the worst horse turns out to be the best practitioner, not the best horse, the horse everyone wants to be when they first hear the story. There is also wonderful story at the beginning of the chapter titled "Joy" about strawberries. I was reading it during the same week our local strawberries were right at their peak. Enjoy the moment. Discussi ...more
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Chödrön P (1991) (04:37) Wisdom of No Escape, The - And the Path of Loving Kindness


01. Loving-Kindness
02. Satisfaction
03. Finding Our Own True Nature

04. Precision, Gentleness, and Letting Go
• Precision
• Gentleness
• Letting Go

05. The Wisdom of No Escape
06. Joy
07. Taking a Bigger Perspective
08. No Such Thing as a True Story
09. Weather and the Four Noble Truths
10. Not Too Tight, Not Too Loose
11. Renunciation
12. Sending and Taking
13. Taking Refuge
14. Not Preferrin
Oct 22, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2011
I listened to this book on disc and really enjoyed it. I actually listened to each cd twice in a row, (I kept it in my car)before going on to the next disc.

I would recommend listening as opposed to reading it, as it felt like a good friend talking to me, and offering great advice. I have been able to use a little of what I learned about experiencing our unpleasant feelings without wallowing in them, or trying to run away from them.
Josh Fish
Aug 05, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Just a simple series of short talks by Pema Chodron, I think most if not all of them are transcribed from events she spoke at, at a little over 100 pages, this book cut right through me. The main gist is to accept your life, embrace everything about it with gentleness and for God's sake be a friend to yourself instead of frustrated all of the time. I really needed to hear what she had to say. I highly recommend anyone take a few hours and check it out. ...more
Emily Balawejder
This book has absolutely transformed me. It's told with such heart and care and utter love and allows you to hear things about yourself that you have been afraid of without even knowing it. It was the first book I read for a yoga teacher training, and cannot wait to dive into more. So highly recommended. I know I will visit this one over and over through the years, and push it on many an unsuspecting friend in need of insight. ...more
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Ani Pema Chödrön (Deirdre Blomfield-Brown) is an American Buddhist nun in the Tibetan tradition, closely associated with the Kagyu school and the Shambhala lineage.

She attended Miss Porter's School in Connecticut and graduated from the University of California at Berkeley. She taught as an elementary school teacher for many years in both New Mexico and California. Pema has two children and three g

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