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The Secret Lives of Men and Women: A PostSecret Book

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New York Times Bestseller founder Frank Warren is back with an irresistible addition to his bestselling PostSecret series. For The Secret Lives of Men and Women, Warren has selected a never-before-seen collection of postcards bearing the explosive confessions and captivating revelations of men and women everywhere. Created using photographs, collages, illustr
Hardcover, 144 pages
Published January 9th 2007 by William Morrow
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Aug 27, 2010 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction, 2010
This is a neat book that I came across by accident in the non-fiction section of my library. The author - Frank Warren - started PostSecret as a community project several years ago by distributing thousands of self-addressed postcards inviting people to send them back to him with their personal secrets, of course anonymously. This book is an extension of this project and presents hundreds of anonymous self-made postcards containing various personal revelations. They range from funny:

I once gave
Jan 20, 2017 rated it liked it
i got into post secret for a bit back in 2011, and i can't remember why or how i even found out about it but i read a few of the books and really liked them.

and just recently, it popped back into my head for some reason and i decided to check out a few of the books i hadn't yet read.

and as always, some of the secrets startled me, saddened me, made me sick, made me feel less alone, made me laugh, and made me think.

here are a few of my favorites from this particular book: (some are my favorites fo
Stephanie *Eff your feelings*
I believe I new about these books (and website)in the back of my brain but never looked them up, but on my way out of the mall today via barns and noble I stopped by the art/graphic design books and this caught my eye and I proceeded to read the whole thing sitting in the store. very cool concept, very moving because we all have THAT secret or two.

the one that made me cry (in public) went something like this...

"I through dirt clods at the tiny chick, killing it, because I new my mother would nev
Aug 13, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: read-2015
Some of these secrets just broke my heart. This one was from Montana: "I have a suicide prevention hotline programmed in my cell phone under the name 'Erin.'"

Everyone is surviving something.
Rose May
Jul 04, 2011 rated it it was amazing
(the other books out so far are: PostSecret, My Secret, and A Lifetime of Secrets. These are also recommended)

So, this week I went down to DC to visit my older brother. Seeing as I’m incapable of doing anything in the real world, I decided not to check a bag for the flight and just do the whole ‘two carry ons’ thing. So, of course, with the clothes and other items necessary for my four day trip there wasn’t much room left for my library books. Consequently, I found myself perusing my brother’s
Lesley Looper
Mar 01, 2009 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2009, non-fiction
I continue to enjoy the PostSecret books. This is my third one to read recently. Poignant, funny, sad--a quick glimpse into the lives of strangers. (Some visitors to my church last week shared with me that they really liked the spoken "Joys and Concerns" portion of our service, because it allowed them to get to know something about the congregation, eventhough the people who spoke were strangers to them. It's similar to this, I think.) Some of my favorites in this book:

*I was crooked. They strai
Nancy Monson
May 26, 2009 rated it liked it
I spent an afternoon in the bookstore and picked this up to peruse. It is a true "coffee table book" and can be read easily in a short period of time. The gist: the author left stacks of post cards around and about with a note asking folks to mail him the card containing an anonymous secret. He got most of them back and this book is a collection of those secrets. One woman confessed that during her marriage, she ground up sleeping pills and put them in her husband's food so he would leave her al ...more
Dec 13, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: art, life-stories
This is my favorite of the PostSecret books. I like it just a tiny bit more than the other PostSecret books for a couple of reasons.

#1 The book covers look and feel as it they were wrapped in a brown paper bag. That is very unusual and appealing to me. It reminds me of when I was in grade school and had to have my textbooks covered and my mom would cover them with brown paper bags and I could decorate them myself.

#2 There are a lot of really funny confessions in this book.

#3 The postcard with th
Aug 19, 2015 rated it liked it
Not my favorite of the PostSecret books. This one felt short, and the secrets not as riveting -- in other PS books, the secrets ran the emotional gamut, from hilarious to heart-wrenching, but in this one, they just kind of bounced around at the midline. Still, as a collection of secrets, it doesn't disappoint, and there were a few that made me smile (the woman with the red flannel shirt on the back of the bedroom door that reminds her of MacGuyver when she has sex) and a few that hurt (the perso ...more
Jan 17, 2012 rated it it was amazing
I absolutely love the PostSecret books by Frank Warren. All these books really make you think. They make you feel like you're not alone in this world and that you aren't the only one with fears, phobias, and secrets.

I am really hoping for more of these books and I highly suggest Frank Warren's PostSecret books to everyone.
Aug 27, 2013 rated it really liked it
You wont believe the secrets you will read!
It was a great book!
Apr 21, 2014 rated it it was amazing
(Review from 2015.)
The second best PostSecret book. This volume is as sad, funny, alarming and urgent as the original book. The postcards in this well-designed collection fill all the available space on each page, whether two to a page, one per page or one per every two pages. Interludes between postcards are minimal and do not detract from the secrets. I found myself turning pages to read the next one even when I was running late and needed to put the book down. One could read just this volume
Sep 16, 2007 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: PostSecret fans/general voyeurs
Shelves: nonfiction
I'm a fan of the PostSecret website and I knew there were associated books. But until I saw this one sitting on a cart behind the library circulation desk, I never thought about checking them out at the library...duh! On a whim, I checked it out.

If you already check the site daily, this book is just a collection of the same things. Secrets that people have put on a postcard and sent in anonymously ( if you're interested). Some are pretty funny, like the one who says her "favor
Benjamin Wetmore
Dec 30, 2009 rated it really liked it
Playing off the popularity of the post secret website, a guilty favorite that a surprising number of my friends eventually confess to reading, this book highlights some of the more heart-wrenching postcards received by this evolved art project.

It shows the side of humanity that acknowledges the many hurts, challenges and sadness within modern society. Post Secret is great because it's a powerful postcard billboard of pure humanism in an age where modern humanism is transforming into anti-humanis
May 07, 2016 rated it really liked it
Postsecret is a community project started by Frank Warren. Initially he printed 3,000 self-addressed and postage paid postcards and asked people to anonymously send him a secret. He only got 100 postcards back but since then he has received over 50,000 postcards (as at time of reading) and they keep coming in.

Reading these secrets feels intimate, the postcards are hand crafted and some are incredibly clever and beautiful. The secrets range from the trivial and funny to touching, heart warming a
Jul 27, 2011 rated it really liked it
Shelves: frank-warren
There is a world of hurting people and this was one way of trying to let go of their pain. Some of the secrets are trivial and most others are heart wrenching. Everyone has secrets. This was an awesome way to release that pain. Reading these books made me re-examine how I spend my time and how I handle people. Being in a faith-based ministry, I believe it was timely for me to read these books. My heart goes out to those who are hurting and while I cannot always be the one who brings peace and he ...more
Pretty much the same as the site, only now with a nice binding and far more secrets at a time. It doesn't seem fair to rate this (so I won't), because the content isn't the same as the concept. I like the concept, and I read the site every Sunday when it updates, but reading a whole book in one go is rough. Some of the secrets are hopeful and some are funny, but on the whole it's an artistic expression of loneliness, sadness, and regret. The concept--that people will confess to secrets anonymous ...more
Jul 13, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Everyone
I read The Secret Lives of Men and Women one Saturday night while the Hubby played in a guys-only poker tourney. It’s a mere 144 pages with no more than 5 or 6 lines per page. But wow. If you ever entertained the notion that your parents effed you up somewhere along the road to being an adult, read this. You’ll start to feel perfectly sane. But on the flip side, it is amazingly refreshing to know that despite all of our efforts to look normal we all have secrets and quirks that make us anything ...more
Feb 22, 2008 rated it really liked it
My favorite postcard has a heart with a wheelchair in it that says "This heart is wheelchair accessible," and the person wrote:
"They think I stayed out of guilt and pity, but I did it because he's still just as strong, smart and funny sitting as he was standing.... it's also why I asked him to marry me."
This one made me cry... my tears were so unexpected. Something about it moved me. I think it's because I used to wonder if I was capable of this level of commitment, and I realized reading this
I'm a fan of the Postsecret website, but apparently the books are not my style. I felt like I had already seen a lot of the secrets in this book, just from following the website and accompanying posts around the internet (on MySpace, etc.). I have heard that when you purchase one of these books at the bookstore, you sometimes run across "extra" secrets from people who have shoved a new one into the book. I rented this from my local library and someone had shoved a piece of paper in saying, "Leav ...more
Jan 04, 2011 rated it really liked it
This was the second Post Secret book I've read. I really enjoy them, and enjoy the entire idea of shipping off your deepest darkest secrets to a stranger (to get it off your chest).

As I read them, I feel sometimes bad for the person who shared their secret. Other times I laugh out loud, or say "so?" where as others I find myself saying to myself "me too!!"

"I tell people I don't want kids... I don't tell them that I'm afraid of passing on my mental illness to a perfect child"

"I only wear watch
3.5 stars

The author of this book wanted to collect people's secrets, randomly, anonymously. He left postcards in random places for people to pick up, write their secrets and mail them to him anonymously, This book is a collection of some of those people's secrets.

I was pleasantly surprised. I wasn't sure what I was going to think of it, as when I picked up the book at the library, it was large and full of pictures. Text was added in for what people wrote down. It was actually pretty interesting
♥ Sandi ❣
3 stars

Another book in the secession of postcard messages. Our author, having started this 'Postsecret' project in 2004, is still receiving messages on postcards, photos, menus, matchbook covers and other mail-able formats. This started as an anonymous way to share a secret. It has, so far, become a 14 year journey in reading and publishing peoples most personal secrets.

In this book the secrets revealed are geared towards marriage and infidelity, parenting, work place politics, fantasies and se
Apr 29, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: fans of PostSecret
Recommended to Catt by: Tony Romine

My favorite secret out of this book?

"I rescheduled a business conference so I wouldn't miss my dog's birthday."

The saddest one?

"Every year on June 4th, i slow dance alone to the same song...while pretending to hold the baby i miscarried."

Frank Warren started PostSecret as an art project & created an amazing phenomenon. i've read things on the website(s) & in the first book that have touched me, repulsed me, moved me to tears, made me laugh, made me think & in the end, made me feel more Human.

Jan 19, 2009 rated it it was amazing
People do strange things, they want strange things, and are always more interesting for the honesty involved. Warren has created a fun and tender little pocket culture where distilling yourself down to a sentence doesn't have to be melodramatic. In a society where drawing as much attention to yourself as possible in as many mediums as possible is the norm (and really in some ways encouraged) I love the fact that PostSecret allows for an anonymous way to share a bit of yourself. The concept is pe ...more
Oct 15, 2010 rated it really liked it
Perhaps it is my age that made me enjoy this one more than My Secret: A PostSecret Book, which focused on the secrets of high school and college students. Here were secrets of adults dealing with their adult lives, whether they are alone or married or wishing they weren't married. There were a few postcards that really struck a chord with me and some that made me laugh out loud. It was interesting that Frank Warren states that women have more interesting secrets than men, because there were a fe ...more
Sarah Corcoran
Feb 25, 2013 rated it it was amazing
This is not the first post secret book i have read. It is not the only post secret book i own. I have watched many of my friends thumb through them when they find them on my shelf, and it seems once you start to read you can't stop. here is something addictive about reading someone thing that someone would never tell anyone.

I love it because at some of the darkest points in my life it has reminded me I'm not alone. That everyone has pain and secrets.

It is a powerful collection of images. I wou
Erick Romero
Oct 07, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Astounding in its beauty.

I feel like I'm one of only a handful of people who had never heard of PostSecret. Frank Warren, who edited this and apparently a few other volumes of this project, created a piece of art that I hope to share with as many people as possible. The shtick is simple: people send in postcards with their secrets on them. Of course we never know if they're telling the truth or not but it doesn't matter since just the notion itself, real or not, is expressing something powerful
Apr 14, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Some of these are hysterical, some gut-wrenching. I was fortunate to spend some time with Frank Warren at a literary festival's author party in April 2007 and learn more about the community art project that became one of the most popular sites on the web. If you haven't checked out the website, it's worth the time. ...more
May 16, 2011 rated it really liked it
This is such a cool book!

Sending your deepest secrets anonymously can be very liberating. Frank Warren does well in saving the sanity of many of these people who are just waiting to let go of their secrets. It can be such a torture to be forever carrying a fragile grenade all by yourself.

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