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Unglued: Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotions

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God gave us emotions to experience life, not destroy it! Lysa TerKeurst admits that she, like most women, has had experiences where others bump into her happy and she comes emotionally unglued. We stuff, we explode, or we react somewhere in between. What do we do with these raw emotions? Is it really possible to make emotions work for us instead of against us? Yes, and in ...more
Paperback, 208 pages
Published August 7th 2012 by Thomas Nelson (first published January 1st 2012)
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Sep 14, 2013 rated it it was ok
I think Lysa is a 5 out of 5 kind of lady. She communicates well and you feel like your talking to a friend while reading her book. I really appreciated her honesty and could relate on pretty much every point. I think I may also be her emotional twin!

But I couldn't give her book more than a 2 out of 5 because it just felt like it lacked something. I'm not a fan of how-to books and she often said things like, "I need a go-to script" or "I need a response template." And then precedes to share hers
Sep 26, 2012 rated it really liked it
I admit I had no idea what to expect from this book when I picked it up. The djs on the radio station I listen to had been talking about it a lot so when I saw it on the new arrivals shelf at my library I grabbed it. That turned out to be a great decision. Unglued is a really good book and Lysa TerKeurst is a gifted writer. I couldn't wait to sneak in a few minutes of reading here and there throughout the day. Lysa makes you feel like you're having a conversation with your best friend. The idea ...more
Mar 07, 2013 rated it it was amazing
This book spoke to me in the ways I needed, right when I needed it. Talk about divine intervention! And because I listened to the audio version, I literally got to hear Lysa's voice right in my head.

So many helpful tips, presented in not a holier-than-thou, but in a I'm-right-there-with-you, sort of way. I so admire Lysa TerKeurst's lack of pride that allows her to share her not-so-great moments with us, so we can feel like we're not alone!

If I had one criticism, it would be that the book makes
Lisa Kersey
Aug 03, 2012 rated it it was amazing
This book was wonderful!! I had the privilege of listening to Lysa TerKeurst speak at a conference and when she mentioned this book I immediately came home and checked to see if it was available. We all have those moments when we lose it or need to lose it. We feel our blood pressure spike and we know that any second we will become "Unglued". God made us that way and instead of condemning us, TerKeurst gives us hope, teaching us it's about the "imperfect progress" we make that matters. Reading t ...more
Keiki Hendrix
Sep 15, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Why did I choose this book? Because I needed some wisdom about surviving a chaotic life. And, I wasn't disappointed.

In Unglued: Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotions by Lysa Terkeurst, you'll read the authors personal time of coming 'unglued' as well as stories she witnessed. She takes these chaotic times, pulls wisdom from the Bible and offers sound advice on trusting God.

Lysa Terkeurst writes to her reader in a genuine, conversational style. You will connect with her immediately and
Feb 26, 2013 rated it liked it
This is a good, not great, book about how to respond more effectively when you get triggered into anger or frustration by those around you. There is a helpful section at the end that helps you understand better how you process those triggers. However, in looking at the chart, I have discovered that my responses are all over the map depending on who is giving me the trigger. One particularly helpful point is that when someone irritates you or something doesn't go your way, you can choose to respo ...more
Jul 16, 2013 rated it did not like it
Living a life holy unto the Lord is lifelong lesson, but I think the author forgets the central message of the gospel that is that while we were still sinners, Christ came and lived a sinless life for us, was sacrificed and raised from the dead, that God would then be able to impute Christ's righteousness on us. Sanctification is not proved by how many times in a day we end up shaming ourselves but by the pure and simple fact that when we are aware of our guilt, we know that we can and do go to ...more
Jennifer Radtke
Oct 04, 2013 rated it it was amazing
My mind is unglued most of the time I think. Reading this book made me feel not so alone in my ungluedness. It also gave me hope that there was a way to glue my mind back together. It also gave me a stockpile of helpers to get me through those unglued moments.
...hope and healing for women struggling to make wise choices in the midst of their raw emotions. She shows how to positively process reactive emotions that come from situations all women face daily.

Lysa has an amazing way of sharing Bibli
Sep 28, 2013 rated it really liked it
Great Advice For Controlling Emotions...And Not Letting Them Control You
As only Lysa can, she writes in a humorous, genuine style to show you her flaws and her triumphs at being all that God has planned for her to be. Her latest book, Unglued: Making Wise Choices In the Midst of Raw Emotions, provides a few real world anecdotes of times where she’s lost it and how she’s learned to find a more Godly response to those situations. Lysa talks about the four different kinds of unglued reactions:

1. Th
Henk-Jan van der Klis
As frontwoman of Proverbs 31 Ministries, referring to the wife of noble charachter, you might expect Lysa Terkeurst to be some kind of perfect. Fortunately, she’s as human as the rest of her fellow men and women around. In her latest book Unglued – Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotions she shares some of her progressions while staying imperfect. Raw emotions are those feelings we hide from others but take out on those we love most.. Anger, stubbornness, unwillingness to listen, impati ...more
Angela Juline
Feb 16, 2013 rated it it was ok
I have never read a self-help Christian book. I was drawn in by the dedication:
What happens in between the smiling snapshots of life isn't pretty. I'm willing to admit that. And I love my friends who are brave enough to admit the messy stuff as well.

Once I realized it was a Christian life book, it was too late for me to stop. I have this weird compulsion to finish any book I start. Damn! So, here it goes...I'll read it with an open mind.
Mar 19, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Wow, I think she has a spycam in my house/life! Really appreciated the honest insights about dealing with issues and stress in various destructive ways and how to take those thoughts captive and work towards changing my reaction.
Some parts had too much story, or too much “psychology” tendencies for my tastes, but still I always find something of encouragement when reading anything Lysa writes whether from her books, blog posts, or facebook notes and Unglued was no exception. My favorite chapter was on how to deal with those unglued moments of jealousy, which for me can rise up at the most unexpected times when I'm unprepared for them and leave me, as she mentions, feeling empty. Her tips for handling those jealous emoti ...more
Monica Lee
Sep 12, 2012 rated it really liked it
If you’re looking for a devotional for your book club or just thinking of making a New Year’s resolution about cooling your hot head, check out Lysa TerKeurst’s “Unglued: Making Wise Choice in the Midst of Raw Emotions.”

I appreciate TerKeurst for her no-nonsense, authentic approach to just about anything (her last book, “Made to Crave” was about eating and overeating). She’s real and flawed, just like me. She opens “Unglued” with a personal story about going berserk on her kids when she finds we
Feb 11, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Something funky happens when you try to get it all together in your own strength. For me, it doesn't last long before a daily crisis sneaks up on me and leaves me feeling unglued. Lysa's book is perfect for a gal like me, despite the fact that I was turned off by the cover and my own denial. I soon found that like my friend Angie, whose stellar recommendation of this book finally led me to pick it up, I had "more pages dog-eared than not" (not literally, poor book--I would never). Lysa's words w ...more
Aug 17, 2012 rated it it was amazing
I wish I could give this 6 stars! I loved this book. Not because Lysa gave me all the answers...but she had places to look for those answers...and they were there!

I loved her crazy life. She's real. She isn't perfect! Who among us is? She tackled some tough issues...but she talks about 'imperfect progress'! What a great term! Isn't all progress imperfect? But the fact that we are trying...and seeing some kind of progress (while it may be imperfect for the fact that we all back-slide occasionall
Aug 07, 2012 rated it really liked it
The author agrees with me, every woman has those moments where she is frustrated with everything that is happening around her! You want to change your attitude or reaction but you feel like it just doesn’t get any better. This book is about ways to accept that there will be no over night change and that we are all a work in progress.

The author calls this progress imperfect progress because we are moving forward in changing ourselves but there is no automatic change. We need to remember that we a
Dean Wood
Jan 31, 2016 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: read-2016
I listened to this book as part of the 2016 VT Reading Challenge. I needed to read a book "targeted at the other gender" and got this one free at some point. Lysa gets one star for reading her own book, which I always enjoy. She gets one star for her brutal honesty and for being a great story teller. (She has some really crazy stories to tell.) On the other hand, much of the book sounded like an extended Facebook status update with lots of silly slang that really got on my nerves after a while. ...more
Aug 25, 2013 rated it it was amazing
I wish I could have read this book 20+ years ago! I have always struggled with being real/honest in my emotions -vs- being sensitive and in control. Lysa TerKeurst does a fantastic job of peeling away the layers of emotion that are behind my coming "unglued" and getting me to what my real goal should be: representing Jesus to this world, to every person I meet every moment of every day. I am not here to prove I am smarter or more powerful or more in the right than the next person -- issues, I le ...more
Sep 09, 2015 rated it did not like it
I'm wondering if I need to be unglued to have appreciated this book. I read halfway through and had to just stop reading. I'm not trying to judge her, but I can't understand an adult who's emotions are that out of control--for insignificant reasons. Yes, I know there are a lot of adults who are the self-proclaimed emotional mess the author claims to be, but professional counseling anyone?

If she gets her act together by the end of the book I don't know, but I pray for her family's and friends' s
Aug 21, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
I cannot tell you how much this book, and the author's honesty, has changed my thoughts about who I am. Thank you!! I can't stop crying as I read because I see, I'm not "crazy." I'm not "the only woman in the world who acts this way." Accusations thrown my way on a daily basis....
Samantha Thomas
Jul 10, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I laughed and cried my way through this book. Lysa has a way of just getting to the nitty gritty and letting Jesus do the rest. I really enjoyed her perspective and the book was exactly what I needed to read! I wasn't even finished before I started recommending it to friends.
Halley Hopson
Nov 17, 2017 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2017
3.5 Stars! I read this with a small group women from my church and we had some very in depth discussions about this book.
Sally Loftis
Apr 08, 2013 rated it really liked it
Have you ever lost control of your emotions over the tiniest thing? Maybe it's losing that extra 5 minutes of quiet that you so desperately needed. Or maybe a child breaks your sunglasses, and you completely explode on him or her. Maybe a dish burns during a holiday family dinner, and you just can't control the streaming tears on your face. Coming unglued is never a pretty sight, and we have all had experiences where a small thing sets off the waiting volcano of emotions in our hearts.

In her la
Jun 06, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Knihu s veľkou radosťou odporúčam. Okrem iného vás čaká nie len zaujímavé čítanie, ale i prekrásne spracovanie celého diela. Každá jedna strana vo mne vzbudzovala dobrý dojem a bolo cítiť, že spisovateľka je veľmi milou, sympatickou a výnimočnou ženou. Lysa TerKeurstová svojim dielom Vyvedená z miery pomôže nejednej z vás vidieť vlastnú hodnotu a k tomu všetkému ukáže, ako svoje záporné pocity môžeme zveriť Bohu a vďaka nemu ich zmeniť v nové, s nádychom lásky. A predsa len, vďaka láske nás už z ...more
Rebecca Jo
Jul 23, 2013 rated it really liked it
"Emotions aren't bad"

I've seen this book going around for awhile. It went on sale for a Kindle a few months back & I downloaded it... & forgot I had it.

Until I saw a friend of mine who was reading it, I remembered. She talked about how she would have to take each chapter & digest it... now, I know what she means.

I ended up writing down 5 pages of notes from this book. If it was in book form, I would have been a 'highlight queen' :)

I wasn't even sure what it meant by the word "unglued
Rhonda Gayle
Sep 12, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Have you had one of those days where you wake up, feeling good, and ready for the day....and then.....those big words! Your kids are fighting, the dog chewed your phone cord, and your car won't start and you come UNGLUED? I hate to admit it, but I have certainly had those days. Lysa gives practical, spiritual tools in her book for women to use when these events cause to explode or say something unkind when we're just stressed We don't actually mean those words. Do you ever feel jealous of other ...more
Wendy Hall
Sep 09, 2013 rated it it was amazing
So, to be honest, I have heard this woman on the radio for years and her voice simply grates on me. I really haven't ever processed much of what she has said on those spots because of that. So shallow of me, I know. However, this summer a good friend of mine worked as an intern for this ministry and she had so many wonderful things to say. I found the kindle book through my library and thought I would give it a try. The really funny thing is, I thought I didn't really need it - I usually keep my ...more
Michelle Mean
Sep 09, 2015 rated it did not like it
It was so hard to get through.... I'm not perfect but Lord have mercy! She seems to be unglued at the slightest of things and my mental images of her household are like it's chaotic all the time... There are just too many stories which I don't mind but when the point of the book becomes muddled to share another story (eyeroll) it becomes hard to chew. I've already read 2x in this one book that her husband owns a chick fila... Awesome congrats but what does that have to do with this?! About 4-5 p ...more
Carrie Daws
Feb 04, 2013 rated it it was amazing
"Just as a light that fails to come on when the switch is flipped may indicate a wiring problem, coming unglued may indicate a problem with our internal wiring. Outward expressions are internal indications. If our outward expressions are unglued, there's some brokenness internally. Broken places we won't address unless we are forced to acknowledge their existence."

Even though I don't tend to come outwardly unglued, I found a lot of great insight into myself in this book by Lysa TerKeurst. She op
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