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Surfing for God: Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle

4.37  ·  Rating details ·  394 ratings  ·  57 reviews
“Every man who knocks on the door of a brothel is knocking for God.” – G. K. Chesterton

What if lust for porn is really a search for true passion? 
In a world where there are 68 million searches for pornography every day and where over 70 percent of Christian men report viewing porn in the last year, it's no surprise  that more and more men struggle with an addiction to thi
Paperback, 205 pages
Published June 5th 2012 by Thomas Nelson
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Jul 04, 2012 rated it it was amazing
I have been waiting for a book like this in a long time! As I have recovered from the snares of pornography and still battling from the weight of lust,I have longed for a book that would address the taproots of sexual struggle. Now my longing has been satisfied with this thought-provoking and life-changing book.

"Surfing for God" is hands down the best christian book I have read on sexual struggle to this point. I definitely concur with Michael Cusick and G.K. Chesterton who states that everyone
Jan 22, 2016 rated it did not like it
Unfortunately, I began reading this book again and could not stomach it. Although I do understand the author's heart and admire his realization of the brokenness of pornography versus the satisfaction of a relationship with Christ Jesus our Lord, I feel he went off into the deep end and this became almost the entirety of the book. The majority of the book focused on how we view pornography because our heart wants a meaningful relationship with Christ. All I can say is this, like with any other s ...more
Pornography is a real problem. Consider these statistics:

25% of search engine requests are for pornography – 68 million per day.
70% of the hits on Internet sex sites occur between 9-5 on business computers.
Over 50 percent of evangelical pastors report they viewed pornography last year.
Over 70% of Christian men report viewing pornography in the last year.

And I would say, that as a whole Christians have responded rather poorly to what amounts to a sin epidemic in our culture.  So I am ha
Oct 29, 2017 rated it liked it
There is a lot of really good information in this book, and I really enjoyed reading it. Its main emphasis is finding the deep, core need that underlies a person's sexual struggle, and learning to fill that need in a healthy way. This concept is incredibly powerful, and has helped me tremendously in my own journey.

The book also contains much other good content, including a practical overview of the neurology relevant to sexual compulsion, and practical advice on how to handle cravings and care f
Oct 31, 2017 rated it it was ok
Overall, I think this book was better than average when it comes to contemporary, Christian books. About a third of the book was the typical (for the genre) presentation of a model without really giving the reader a good reason to adopt that model. Another third of the book was moderately helpful insight on the topic. And the remaining third gave a very general but helpful explanation of the biophysical mechanics of the topic along with strategies and tips in light of those biophysical realities ...more
Ben Moser
Dec 31, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This is the best book I’ve ever read about sexual purity. While the books is aimed primarily at men struggling with pornography and other sexual sin, the principles of this book are applicable to anyone in the throws of sexual sin.

Cusick doesn’t dance around the problem. Many books about this topic either shame you in to sin management or allude that there are deeper issues than your sinful behavior. The author does an astute job to show the reader practical ways to get to the root of the sin,
Sergio Cruz
Jun 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Absolutely fantastic read. I've had the book on a shelf for over a year before finally reading it and now I wish I read it sooner. I'd recommend this book for any man. While the topic may be sensitive to some, it is an important topic that more people should be talking about. Whether you think you're addicted pornography or not, there is something BIGGER that our heart is really seeking. Great read. Will probably read again also.
Kevin Naylor
Dec 31, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Cusick does the church a great service in this book. There is so much misunderstanding when it comes to how personally handle struggling with pornography and how to help others struggling with pornography. Cusick cuts through the crap and helps us get to the heart of the issue in a deeply transformative way.
William "Spig"
Jul 04, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This isn't a coffee table book but as I've looked back over my life and poor decisions I made before I started my walk with Jesus and the baggage that I brought in my marriage. I need this breath of grace. I didn't need a list of how to work harder. I've tried that. This book challenged me again to look at my life story and try to rewrite the ending.
Stephen Garcia
Feb 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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A fantastic book for anyone with addictive tendencies. Geared toward guys. It’s the only book I’ve read on this topic and I wholeheartedly recommend it. This book treats sinful behavior as fruit of a deeper-rooted issue, and gets to the heart of what brought freedom in my own story.
If you really want change, buy it.
Jun 23, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Amazing encouragement and analogies. Real life.

This has such amazing words of encouragement. I got this book so I could have a better understanding for what my boyfriend goes through. I lended the book to him and he's gotten a lot out of it. Highly recommend!
Brandon Rathbun
Dec 26, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This is the best book I have read on the topic. So much so that I bought 10 copies for people to give to when the conversation comes up.
The author digs at the heart of the issue unlike other resources I’ve found.
Jason Kolar
May 02, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Amazing resource for anyone struggling with sexual sin. I would highly recommend it!
Aug 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Awesome book. Cusick does a great job at helping the addict reader look beneath the behavior and try to see the root issues. Super explanation of shame and dealing with it.
Josh Baker
Nov 03, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I don't personally know of any better resource when it comes to this topic. So good.
Henk-Jan van der Klis
Jun 12, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Rather than condeming fellow believers for their sexual struggles and covering his own, Michael John Cusick (1964) shares his own story in Surfing for God: Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle. He goes all the way and offers hope. G.K. Chesterton is quoted as “Every time a man knocks on a brothel door, he is really searching for God.” Since
25% of search engine requests are for pornography – 68 million per day
70% of the hits on Internet sex sites occur between 9-5 on business com
Nov 03, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Surfing for God is about the hidden struggles men are facing almost on a daily basis. Men feel the need to hide and suppress their deepest needs and desires. Many men have a hard time displaying intimacy and showing non-sexual affection to a woman. Out of feeling alone, worthless, and insecure we turn to lusting after a woman and watching porn. Regularly as men we turn to masturbation to comfort us and to relief ourselves with an orgasm. But it only makes us feel better for a little while, and t ...more
Allizabeth Collins
Aug 14, 2012 rated it really liked it

Watching the news recently I noticed how many stories revolved around extramarital affairs, addiction to pornography, and call girl solicitation, and most of the people involved were married. I was appalled thinking about the guilty party's significant other. Did they know? Were they shocked? Were they angry? What did they decide to do about it? Etc... To find out that someone you love is cheating, (physically or mentally), must be absolutely horrible, and I can only imagine the pain and
Dana Perkins
Sep 15, 2012 rated it it was amazing
"The pursuit of purity is not about the suppression of lust, but about the reorientation of one's life to a larger goal." Dietrich Bonhoeffer

These well chosen words appearing at the beginning of the book summarize both the content and the flow of this hope inspiring book meant to give freedom to those struggling with lust. Through the use of personal story, biblical story and stories of well-known writers, Michael Cusick presents a clear and compelling Gospel pathway to real freedom from bondage
Jon Stephens
Aug 30, 2012 rated it it was amazing

Surfing For God is a book written on the subject of sexual struggle from a Christian perspective. More specifically this book deals with issues of lust and pornography, the fallout that occurs when our hearts and minds are consumed with such things, and also how there is hope and that victory can be found.

The author Michael John Cusick is both an ordained minister and a licensed counsellor with a very powerful story of his own battle with sexual purity. He
Sep 13, 2012 rated it really liked it
Surfing For God by Michael John Cusick is a must read for anyone struggling with the addiction of porn. He openly places his on struggles and victories on the table for the reading to see and experience. By sharing his life he addresses many root issues of pornography. In his book, he argues that in today's society, "When a man surfs the Internet for porn he is really surfing for God."

Michael deals with the empty promises, personal brokenness and shame in great detail.

Concerning the empty promi
Aug 27, 2013 rated it liked it
I'm conflicted on this contains some AWESOME insights but there's really 2 major flaws:

First, and primarily, it focuses so heavy on porn and porn addiction, it overlooks the fact that the 'solutions' or insights only apply to folks who fall within a really narrow category. This fact will cause anyone without this particular issue to dismiss and never read the book. This is really unfortunate because there's some really helpful insights that apply to all men everywhere (and probably som
Frank Olvera
Jun 04, 2012 rated it really liked it
In “Surfing For God: Discovering The Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle” (ISBN 9780849947230), Michael John Cusick (author) says that pornography is empty,

“Like all idols, porn promises us something we desire. In reality, it overpromises and underdelivers.”

making us feel like men (strong) without any effort (“responsibility and humility”).

“When talking with men about their struggles with porn, I often ask what seems like a random question. Where in your life do you typically feel the stronges
Keith Bryan
Oct 24, 2012 rated it it was amazing
This book was amazing. Its insight and investigation of the male heart is truly beautiful. The personal background of the author and others helps you better understand the addiction associated with pornography, lust, and adultery. In fact, the best part of the book is the Biblical association the author makes between the addiction and the true desire of a heart straying from God. This is reinforced with the personal stories of other similarly addicted men who held deep rooted false identities an ...more
Ben Laur
Sep 24, 2016 rated it really liked it
This book is very...spiritual. As the subtitle suggests, it's main thesis is that behind sexual struggle is a deeper, legitimate spiritual longing. Seems very plausible to me, but I felt it sometimes bordered on saying something like, "If you haven't eaten and find yourself in a state of physical hunger, just know it's not food your body is truly craving, but rather you are dealing with a deeper, spiritual hunger." Hmm....
In addition to this, the book often resorted to explaining sexual addictio
Stacie Wyatt
May 03, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I reviewed Surfing for God by Michael John Cusick for

The book gave me trouble at first. I don't have a kindle--I have kindle for pc and cloud reader for chrome. My kindle for pc kept freezing up as I tried to read this book. I heard about the book before and was glad to see it up for review.

I struggled with sexuality and pornography in the past. As of now, I been celibate for almost 2 years and have not viewed porn in over a year. I started deactivating my porn sites, last year (
Oct 25, 2013 rated it it was amazing

Cusick gives an honest look at the pull of sexual sin and the habitual way people try to overcome it.

This guy has gone through the mill. He's been there and suffered through his addiction in the deepest forms possible.

This book is his way of explaining how all the "solutions" people try to come up with can never actually do any good. Cusick claims that when men lust for porn, they are actually starving for a passion that only God can give. It may sound bizarre but from his experience, Cusick hel
Jonathan Brooker
Aug 10, 2015 rated it really liked it
For any man who is struggling with sexual temptation (not sure which ones aren't) or for anyone who counsels or pastors men, I would recommend this book be a primary resource!

What I think made it so great, and particularly greater than other takes on this particular issue, is that it dealt so much more with the heart and the issues behind the issues. The title itself comes from a reexamination of a famous line about how the man searching in the brothels is actually searching for God. So Cusick
Jan 01, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Was worth it

I read this book out of curiosity and what I loved most was the authors care and consistency he makes you view pornography in a different light and bring you into full awareness of what is really going on from the start of pornography to the end of its hold upon someone's life. The book is written for men however anyone looking be free, stay away from pornography or knows someone deal with pornography this book is also for you. The author doesn't make excuses he shows the bad and the
Amy Young
Dec 16, 2012 rated it liked it
This is a book that should be read by everyone! Alright, not children ;). But it is not a book about sex addiction ... it is about anything that can be used to mask pain, disappointment, betrayal, those kind of things. He has the best section on accountability partners and why I don't like them (in the traditional sense). He talks about three kinds of accountability: cop (most common: gospel of sin management), coach (gospel of inspiration), and cardiologist (we need to be asked not just about o ...more
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