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You Are WHY You Eat: Change Your Food Attitude, Change Your Life

3.38  ·  Rating details ·  144 ratings  ·  27 reviews
An intelligent, timely, and prescriptive book that shows how your attitude towards food often reflects your attitude towards other areas in your life--jobs, relationships, money--and how you can let go of trying to please others all the time and instead satisfy your own true appetites and live a more authentic and healthier life.
Hardcover, 288 pages
Published January 1st 2013 by skirt!
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Oct 28, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: first-reads
I received "You Are WHY You Eat...." written by Dr. Ramani Durvasula as a Goodreads First Reader giveaway winner. I thought if I read the book I could discover why I love food and give me ideas to maintain a healthy weight, but what I didn't expect was how the author was able to apply the same principles that affect our emotions and attitudes surrounding food, to our emotions & attitudes about relationships, careers, dreams and many other areas of life. The book made me think differently about m ...more
Oct 29, 2012 rated it liked it
I was so excited to get the book and there were things I really liked about the book, and things I took away from it. It was very hard to relate to the term spider sense, and it being repeated over and over on every page I found annoying, but that's just me. I did feel like it was more of the same advice all diet books give. I did find the stories enjoyable.
Remah Jane
Mar 27, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This is not just a book, it is also a guide. Too often we set our intuition aside and make decisions based on the interests or input of others. Dr. Durvasula openly shares her process and journey to personal fulfillment through respecting and honoring oneself. This book inspired me to move away from stagnant unpleasantness in my own life and embrace myself with greater compassion and understanding. Weight management is merely a byproduct of practiced mindfulness
Jan 19, 2013 rated it it was ok
This book took me a while to get through because there are exercises throughout the book. Sometimes I wish I had read this as a book instead of an ebook but I did get some good information from it, not just about how to control overeating but how to think before doing things. Like a lot of these books, it does get repetitive. Maybe I need to hear the same thing a few times.
Feb 29, 2020 rated it it was ok
I really wanted to like this book. It took me 3 months to read. I read a few pages every few weeks or so. It was quite boring and therefore difficult to get through but for some reason I finished it. I guess I felt obligated since I started. I just couldn’t identify with anything she said. At all. Maybe I’m not the right demographic. But the book moved much faster towards the end as she shifted the focus away from food and more towards life. At one point I thought that something may have clicked ...more
Mar 26, 2020 rated it it was amazing
A journey of self discovery not only through your relationship with food but also the reflections of this same relationship echoing in personal relationships, what we subject ourself to and the expectations we live by imposed on us by others.
Great exercises that helps to dig deep, reflect and find ways to move forward.
Yomara Moreno
Nov 23, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Excelente libro, lo recomiendo ampliamente

Este es un libro muy completo sobre conocimiento de uno mismo. Realmente es una herramienta efectiva para un cambio de vida duradero. Me encanta la autora. Creo que es tan efectiva porque habla de lo que vive y le ha funcionado.
May 03, 2018 rated it really liked it
With the exception of discs 4 and 5 being practically identical, I think the author offers sound advice for finding yourself and eventually overcoming the things that plague, like hurts, people pleasing, and finding comfort in food. Worth the read.
Mais Khoury
Jun 30, 2020 rated it liked it
as much i love her work this was disappointing.
Lady Brainsample
Jun 01, 2019 rated it liked it
3.5 stars rounded down
This book was a little bit repetitive but did have some really good takeaways that I will be implementing/continuing to implement (since some of them were things I'm already doing).

The tl;dr version of this book is that in order to have a healthy relationship with food, you need to honor your intuition about feeling full. Period. No guilt about not clearing your plate, which is a really hard attitude to break. In that vein, also be wary and mindful about when other people a
You are WHY you eat, reminds me of "you are what you eat" motto. There are many things she recommends that I am quite aware of already especially after reading tons of diet-like-lose-weight-type-of-reads like eating unlimited fruits and vegetables. TO be secure within, find peace in the chaos, and follow your instincts. A majority of the writing is helpful but also regurgitated.

Some helpful tips (that you may already heard before):
* Knowing is only half the battle but change is the payoff!
Feb 01, 2013 rated it it was amazing
I found this book to be good,The author brings you into all areas of your life, your diet, home life, career and future life. Some psychological terms such as "gatekeeping" and "spider senses" are explained and referred to a lot, so you have to fully grasp these to apply them to situations. It is encouraged to keep a journal, which I did not, but I did make photocopies of the questions to answer at a later date in a journal when I am ready to do so.
I looked for her app which is advertised in the
Mar 04, 2014 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: health-fitness
This is an intellectual, thought-provoking, holistic take on diet and life. I appreciated Durvasula's holistic approach in identifying all of the areas of life that could be contributing to weight issues: relationships, stress, job dissatisfaction; instead of just listing these, she devotes whole chapters to addressing life factors.

She uses the term "spider sense" to mean common sense or intuition. I think this comes from the Spiderman comic, but not having read it or seen the movies, I could n
Apr 30, 2013 rated it it was amazing
It took me almost a year to read this book, but it was entirely worth it. The content of Dr. Ramani's text may not be new, but it was written in a manner that I could relate to and that I could learn from. Her writing exercises were a great way to see on paper what I had been holding onto inside of my head and heart. As she says in her epilogue, this isn't just a book to read once, but it's a workbook to use constantly or to keep going back to. I firmly believe in her advice to be authentic and ...more
Jun 27, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
What an excellent book! Instead of setting a menu, lists of foods, etc., Dr. Durvasula hits the problem right where it is: our attitude towards food which originated most likely in our childhood. She doesn't make it easy but what she details about attacking the overeating and how to overcome it is truly what it is all about. Great book!
Jan 12, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fic
This book can be the typical self help book, but it works. It has you thinking about what you really want from life, food, and love. I never really would've thought any of those would be connected. I don't know if I mastered her ideas or ways of thinking, but in the very least it changed my way of thinking and my habits so that's a good start.
Apr 12, 2013 rated it liked it
Well, not so much read as "mostly skimmed" but she had some wonderful philosophy in here on life in general, much less eating. I liked it, but I know I won't read it as thoroughly as I should. I'll return it so others can get a chance to read through it.

Oct 08, 2019 rated it liked it
I like Dr Ramani and have been watching her YouTube videos for months now. A lot of the content in this book seems to me like pure common sense, not that there’s anything wrong with that. Sometimes the most fundamental and obvious truths in life are the ones we miss out on.
Dec 29, 2013 rated it really liked it
This book got better as it went along. I particularly enjoyed the chapter about mindfulness and slowing down. The spider sense aspect I'm already taking with me and applying to different parts of my life. Overall I'd recommend it.
Apr 04, 2015 rated it really liked it
Practical perspective teaches you more than just about your attitude toward food.
Jenny Gary
Feb 27, 2013 rated it really liked it
This book is giving me strategies to help with my bad habit of emotional eating. It has given me a tool to use when I grab food to eat in a hurry, even when I'm not hungry.
Kristin R
Feb 07, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
This book looks at delving into your life and happiness and making changes to change your eating habits, to be healthier as a whole person.
Sep 20, 2015 rated it really liked it
This book was very insightful and thought provoking. I feel I walked away being more mindful and aware of my food choices, daily habits, and mindless eating behavior.
Jan 19, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: health
Read this book if you want to really find out why you eat the way you do. It goes a lot deeper than just food. I can see myself rereading this as I progress in my health journey.
Oct 29, 2012 rated it really liked it
Really enjoyed. Had alot of great infomation.
Teri  Schams
Jun 07, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2013
Excellent book. Touches on much more than food and eating. It is about living mindfully.
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Dr. Ramani Durvasula is on a mission to demystify and dismantle the toxic influence of narcissism on all of our lives. Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice in Santa Monica and Sherman Oaks, CA and Professor of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, where she was named Outstanding Professor in 2012. She is also a Visiting Professor at the Uni ...more

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