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Both of Us: My Life with Farrah

3.45  ·  Rating details ·  425 Ratings  ·  88 Reviews
Ryan O’Neal and Farrah Fawcett. He was the handsome Academy Award–nominated star of Paper Moon and the classic romance Love Story. She was the beautiful, all-American Charlie’s Angel, whose poster adorned the bedroom walls of teenage boys everywhere. One of the most storied love affairs in Hollywood history, their romance has captivated fans and media alike for more than t ...more
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Published May 1st 2012 by Crown Archetype (first published January 1st 2012)
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Jun 29, 2012 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction, memoir
Let me preface this review with I have always for some reason liked Ryan O'Neal...even when the rest of world declared him an a-hole there was something about him that I liked.
I've read Tatum's book and I've watched the Oprah network reality show with Ryan and Tatum.
This is not to say that I think Ryan is always right or truthful...nor do I think Tatum is.

This book was interesting, telling the story of Ryan and Farrah's love affair which I believe was real and uncommon and a truly loving relati
Feb 15, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: biography, hollywood
A true love story

Ryan O'Neal was fortunate to lead the life of the movie "Love Story" in his real life, but at a cost. Not everything went smoothly in his life; the troubled life of his first wife Joanna Moore and her drug abuse; balancing life with Farah, and his children, especially Tatum O'Neal, was hard to keep up with. His relationship with Farrah was complicated and often turbulent; in short they were not as cozy as the picture-perfect Malibu sunsets. But they were 1980s glamour couple, ju
May 31, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: autobiography
I have always had a link with Farrah. Unfortunately it is ONLY with age. We graduated from high school the same year [75 miles apart with rival football teams]. I was 17 so I assumed she was 17 or 18 when she graduated so as I got older and she didn't. When people would ask me my age I would just reply, "the same age as Farrah!" which clearly would shave 2-3 yrs. off my age without lying!

Back to the book-- I found it very honest and sad. I guess there's no real happiness in Hollywood. It is anot
I am of an age where I was beguiled by the beautiful Farrah Fawcett of the Pepsodent smile, tawny limbs and tousled hair, and I was curious about her relationship with Ryan O'Neal. I suspect if Ms. Fawcett were still alive, she would be ashamed of Mr. O'Neal's book. While he does manage to chronicle their relationship, and their is no question that he loved her, he seems to blame their breakups entirely on her -- menopause and her fear of aging: "Weeks away from her fiftieeth birthday, she was i ...more
Mar 22, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I really liked this book. It was not at all written with rose colored glasses as I expected it to be. Ryan and Farrah experienced a lot of rough times and heartbreaks over the years, especially caused by Ryan's kids from previous marriages. Those kids were total spoiled brats and developed serious drug and alcohol problems which negatively impacted everyone. Ryan was really hard on himself about that, wondering what he could have done differently and taking I think too much of the blame for how ...more
Jun 29, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I am a fan of Mr. O’Neal and always rooted for Farrah for success as a credible actress. This is the story of their life together, then apart, then together. There is also a lot about Ryan’s difficult relationships with his children. Granted, this is one side of the story, but Ryan wrote the book, so it’s his story to tell. I listened on audio and Ryan was the reader, which I always appreciate. He has a good voice; still sounds the same as he did when he was younger. This is the story of a man w ...more
Dec 14, 2013 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I enjoyed this book. For anyone that was a fan of Farrah or Ryan, this story is a must read. Ryan is not afraid to tell their story with truth, respect and heart wrenching loss that leaves you understanding how much he loved Farrah. As we all understand, time has a way of making us wish we had done things differently, and Ryan is no exception. Although his lifestyle is much different than the average reader, he still struggles with decisions as we all do. Thanks for letting us see that no matter ...more
May 15, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I have always been fascinated by the strange dynamics Ryan O'Neal has with his children. I read Tatum's books and for some reason just didn't believe everything I read. However, I admire Ryan for admitting his poor parenting mistakes, but do believe he loved Farrah with everything he had in him. He has four children and has had trouble with three of them. I hope Redmond will get his act together and become the son that his father needs and his mother would have wanted. Ryan's son Patrick has nev ...more
Of all things, this memoir reminded me of that of Levi Johnston's. In both books I was thinking "what are you DOING?" on a regular basis. Then both Johnston and O'Neal go on to explain what they were thinking, but there appeared to be very little self-awareness in both cases. Both seemed to have some sense when they were doing something wrong (by their own moral codes), and yet did the things anyway.

Both are a quick read - less than an hour.
Caroline Moss
May 12, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: finished-reading
so far its has a love story theme learning a lot about Farrah that I never knew. She was a kind lady from what Ryan has written this story shows that through all the fighting he still loved her and her him after Ryan does Love Story its kinda brings him and her back within the movie that he was once in
Christopher McDonald
Very simple and easy read. Ryan O'Neal chronicles his long relationship with Farrah Fawcett... the ups and downs, their break-up and their reunion and fight to save her from cancer, which would take her life. It's touching and I'm glad I read it.

This was virtually the 3rd book I read in just a couple weeks, so it was a nice top-off.
May 01, 2012 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Wow. What a delusional person Ryan O'Neal is! He takes hardly a bit of responsibility for his awful parenting- 3 of his 4 kids have horrible drug problems- and has basically made me lose any good opinion I ever had of Farrah Fawcett. Staying with him and participating in their abusive, substance-fueled cheating relationship was just gross.
Greg Curtin
Save yourself some time and read the last chapter where there are some genuine feelings that come out from O'Neal. The rest of.the book is ramblings of a jackass. You really want to reveal exactly the scene of the first time you were with the "love of your life?" Poorly written, jumped around a lot for nonsense the last chapter as said above....
I know Ryan (not well, but we are friendly) and despite what everyone says, still think he's a lovely person. I think this book portrays that - he truly loved and that came with its positives and negatives. Be warned, this book is intense... Ryan and Farrah lived a full, dramatic life and this book shares all those intimate details.
Sep 08, 2012 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
My mom loved Ryan O'Neal in Peyton Place and I adored him in Love Story. This book, poorly written, shows again that celebs who look wholesome and happy and heathy, aren't what they appear to be...this is a sad story.
May 13, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Ryan O'Neal's story of his 30-year love affair with Farrah Fawcett. So sad. Ryan O'Neal has made more than his fair share of mistakes in his life, and regret practically drips off every page. A fascinating read, I couldn't put it down.
May 20, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I think Ryan has lead a very facinating life. I can't say I agree with a majority of it, but I think he did as well as he could have at the time.

I know many people have reviewed their thoughts about Ryan's parenting skills. I don't think anyone who does not have children has a right to critique Ryan's style. I am a parent. I have a close family member (young adult) who died very recently because of drugs. I can tell you one thing. Kids can grow up in what society deems a very nurturing and carin
Hmm. I checked this book out for all the wrong reasons. I LOVE (loved?)Ryan O'Neal. I love his movies, his acting, and most of all, his beautiful "prep" role in Love Story. Since Love Story is probably my favorite movie of all time, I figured I'd delve a little more deeply into the star's life.

I wasn't altogether happy with what I uncovered. O'Neal made a LOT of mistakes. I'm not talking about the usual alcoholism and drug use mistakes -- I'm talking about violent fights with Farrah, outright re
Nov 09, 2014 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
A key to understanding why Ryan O’Neal and Farrah Fawcett’s own life together played out like a screenplay might be found on page 73. Here O’Neal confesses, “My adolescence lasted longer than most. Marriage and parenthood may have ended my childhood, but nothing has ever interrupted my adolescence.” That’s quite a revealing statement coming from a 71 year-old actor who can look back at three failed marriages, (if you include his long-term relationship with Farrah without benefit of clergy.) Ther ...more
I really wanted something about his relationship with Farrah not his self absorbed look at me, look at me story. To me I heard, I was with this famous person, and then this famous person, then this one, but she was messed up, I am better than that so I went to this famous person and I only hang around really uber famous people because I'm awesome. The nail in the DNF coffin here- when he talked about their relationship while she was still with her husband, how Lee was drunk, Lee was working,.. o ...more
May 26, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I have been following the story of the O'Neal family for a long time and was very familiar with various events and their differing points of view. I started reading this book very late last night, intending to skim the first few pages. I found it so fascinating that I kept reading and was shocked to see the sun come up.

It's very conversational in tone, and I felt as though Ryan was speaking directly to me. He jumps around a bit, just as one would in conversation, getting off track but never for
May 10, 2012 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Oh Ryan, you are even more self-involved than evidence heretofore suggested. But now, by your own pen, you can finally be convicted. She was arguably the most beautiful woman who ever walked planet Earth, but history would never know it from the book you wrote. Perhaps you should have called it "Ryan and Me." If you hadn't spent so much time defending yourself against the court of public opinion, you might actually have given the world fresh and telling insight into both yourself and the woman y ...more
Jul 19, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This celebrity memoir was quite moving. What I liked is that Ryan O'Neal did not play the blame game for some of the ongoing problems in his on/off again relationship with actress Farrah Fawcett. Despite how much they loved each other, they did have their share of problems, but always there was a connection, drawn stronger by their love for their son Redmond.

O'Neal writes about his career's ups and downs, his children Griffin, Tatum and Patrick from previous relationships. He writes about his p
Aug 24, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was a very riveting read. Ryan's dark-chocolate, smooth voice filled with regret, anguish and grief as he pours out his heart to the world at large, held me captive for long spells. I am totally convinced this man loved this woman with all of his being. However, I am not so persuaded of the wholeness of the narrative... Lots of drama and dysfunction pervade this story. So much heartache and sadness. Ryan and Farrah seem to have it all but a happy ending was not to be. Ironically, Ryan made ...more
Apr 30, 2012 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I haven't really followed O'Neal's or Fawcett's careers, but I thought it sad that Farrah lost her battle with cancer. The book intrigued me, but I found it difficult to follow. O'Neal writes all over the place and admits his memory is fuzzy when it comes to dates. I get the impression he wrote entirely from what memory he had without consulting other people in Farrah's life.

I've not read Tatum O'Neal's books, either, so I can't speak to accuracy there. Seems like this family is highly dysfuncti
Telethe Wery
Jun 29, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This story just goes to show celebrities are just like the rest of us. They have their joy, their pain and ultimately their sorrows. A very heartfelt story. I was at the dentist read the last few pages and the assistant had to hand me tissues. As a teenager I loved Farrah, she always seemed warm and genuine beneath all that beauty, and still she had her insecurities. Her poster came out the year I graduated high school so you know I had to have the Farrah haircut. It never looked as good on me a ...more
I read Tatum's books so figured, why not get her dad's side of the story. I listened to the audio book which is read by Ryan. It was a quick, entertaining book to listen to. The ending was really touching and sad. Listening to him talk about Farrah's decline and death, hearing the emotion in his voice.. also his children's struggles with drug addiction is so tragic. I'm not commenting on his parenting skills, obviously there were some real issues. It was a quick read (listen) that was much more ...more
Carol Whitley
Well I'm convinced he totally loved her. He doesn't bore us with too many details of his life or the complicated details of his relationships with his children. He hits the main points and gives a lot of detail about him and Farrah. He reads many passages with a choked up voice, true to his feelings and I like that they didn't 'do over' or edit that out. Glad they got back together in the end.
Heather Lowry
I really didn't like this book. Throughout the whole book he (author) has this almost cocky attitude it seems. He is quick to point out flaws in others, but he seems to skate by any responsibility. Also this book was a blatant way to push some reality show he was doing at the time since it mentions it so many times throughout the book it's comical. Save your time and DO Not Read This
Diana Long
Jun 03, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A very revealing look into the life of a talented couple, a dysfunctional family and a life cut short, written and narrated by the author. As the story unfolds, Ryan opens up about his relationship with his children, with Farrah and tying to make sense of what went wrong in what should have been an idyllic life.
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