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Torn: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gays-vs.-Christians Debate
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As a teenager and young man, Justin Lee felt deeply torn. Nicknamed "God Boy" by his peers, he knew that he was called to a life in the evangelical Christian ministry. But Lee harbored a secret: He also knew that he was gay. In this groundbreaking book, Lee recalls the events--his coming out to his parents, his experiences with the "ex-gay" movement, and his in-depth study
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Hardcover, 272 pages
Published
November 13th 2012
by Jericho Books
(first published January 1st 2012)
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No matter what your theological convictions on gay relationships, you need to read this book. If you think "gay Christian" is an oxymoron, you need to read this book. If you know someone who's gay, you need to read this book. If you don't know anyone who's gay, you need to read this book. If you think gays have an "agenda," you need to read this book. If you think the church knows how to show grace to gay individuals, YOU NEED TO READ THIS BOOK. If you are aware that the church is failing in thi
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Justin Lee not only choose the most controversial topic of the day but his title didn’t provide much wiggle room--“rescuing the gospel from the Gays-vs.-Christian debate.” I mean if you’re rescuing the gospel from something or someone then everything about the book has got to be perfect, right? Justin starts with the war weary statistics that suggest most people identify the church as anti-gay. I’ve seen this study so many places I stopped counting. My question is always: Is that a result of the
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In a Gays-vs.-Christians world, admitting you're gay makes you the enemy of Christians.
Sadly, with this single sentence, Justin Lee sums up one of the biggest issues in Western Christianity today. Or maybe the biggest. It's extremely unfortunate (or maybe criminal is a better word), that we've allowed two or three misread passages to completely overshadow God's message of love in the Bible.
Torn is a must-read for anyone wanting to understand better what's holding back the love and compassion ...more
This is an issue I have struggled with. I know that I want to follow the commandment to love my neighbor and I also know that I (with my whole heart) want to support my gay family members. I want them to find the same kind of love that I have found, and I want them to feel welcomed, rather than rejected by the church. At the same time, I struggle with the debate about sin, and how my fellow Christians respond.
Before reading this book, I had decided that loving was my command, and that examining ...more
Before reading this book, I had decided that loving was my command, and that examining ...more
This whole book is just kind of ironic to me in some ways. I almost didn't get it, because I thought it was just a religious book and just the usual Christian stuff and as I am not a religious person, I threw it back into the promo bin at work (We get promo books for free and we can get whichever ones we want from the bin). Then I glanced back at the bin later and saw the word "gay" on it and was like, "Wait, what?" and actually read the whole subheading. Even then I was still a bit skeptical bu
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Justin Lee's Torn: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gays-vs.-the-Christians Debate is a must read for anyone who cares about anyone who is gay, or knows anyone who is gay, or knows anyone who knows anyone who is gay. If you are a Christian, who has any opinion on the matter, you should open your heart and read this book. If you disagree with someone in the Church about any portion of "gay politics," you should read this book. Regardless of your current thoughts and opinions, you should read this boo
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This is a pretty good book, not great, which has as its primary strength the winsomeness of its author. "Torn" is not very deep in its theology or psychology but gains an immediacy by being in large part the memoir of Justin Lee, telling the story of his sexual awakening, coming out, and personal struggle with the divide between cultural evangelical Christianity and the culture of the late twentieth century LGBT community.
It would be almost impossible, it seems to me, to read this book and not f ...more
It would be almost impossible, it seems to me, to read this book and not f ...more
"The dehumanizing bigotries that fall from lips of “faithful Christians,” and the lies that spew forth from the pulpit of the churches “faithful Christians” drag their kids to on Sundays, give your straight children a license to verbally abuse, humiliate and condemn the gay children they encounter at school. And many of your straight children—having listened to mom and dad talk about how gay marriage is a threat to the family and how gay sex makes their magic sky friend Jesus cry himself to slee
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THIS. This is where Christians should begin to address gay issues in our society. THIS would help with healing and broken hearts and struggling lives. If we all would confront our own torn emotions and belief systems over this issue and every other modern 'culture war' issue with such love, compassion, and grace like Justin has showed in this book: the world would be a different place.
I think every Christian regardless of your thoughts on the LGBT "argument" should read this book. AMAZING.
I think every Christian regardless of your thoughts on the LGBT "argument" should read this book. AMAZING.
Eye opening. Certainly will never look at the Christian/Gay debate the same again. In fact, I'm not sure I even know where I stand anymore. I don't think I have any right to decide one way or the other. I'm called to love and serve, I'll just stick to that.
Before I start this review, I want to quickly talk about what brought me to this book.
For ages, I have never understood why a committed, loving relationship between the same gender was wrong. Yes, the Bible seemed to say it was, but I'm the type of person that ABSOLUTELY NEEDS to know the reasons why. I needed to dig deeper. Plus, I was sick of the hate I had seen in churches, both from what I'd read of Christians commenting about the subject and what I had heard myself. I'd read stories of how ...more
For ages, I have never understood why a committed, loving relationship between the same gender was wrong. Yes, the Bible seemed to say it was, but I'm the type of person that ABSOLUTELY NEEDS to know the reasons why. I needed to dig deeper. Plus, I was sick of the hate I had seen in churches, both from what I'd read of Christians commenting about the subject and what I had heard myself. I'd read stories of how ...more
The real-life nuance and struggle of a Baptist boy discovering and coming to terms with his homosexuality makes for an interesting perspective on the culture wars, and I appreciate the biographical element and how the middle ground perspective can help people on different sides of this issue understand and respect each other more. However, the title is misleading, because this book primarily emphasizes how Christian culture influenced the author's life, saying nothing about how the gospel can tr
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This book is important.
If you searched for this title, I can already say you need to read this. I won't waste too much of your time on a book summary (it seems there are plenty of reviews that can give you that). In one sentence, this is an autobiographical, avant-garde storytelling of a man's struggle growing up as a gay* Christian boy who wrestles with the church through rejection and reconciliation; he provides palpable hope for the Christians and LGBT communities to embrace one another in l ...more
If you searched for this title, I can already say you need to read this. I won't waste too much of your time on a book summary (it seems there are plenty of reviews that can give you that). In one sentence, this is an autobiographical, avant-garde storytelling of a man's struggle growing up as a gay* Christian boy who wrestles with the church through rejection and reconciliation; he provides palpable hope for the Christians and LGBT communities to embrace one another in l ...more
Justin Lee's new book Torn chronicles his journey as an evangelical Christian who realized he was gay, and the conflict between his orientation and his beliefs. Lee is calling for the LGBT community and the Christian community to lay down arms and declare a cease-fire.
Much of Lee's early experiences echoed my own: as a committed Christian, Lee was raised to believe that homosexuality is both a choice and a sin, but when he realized that he was gay, he had to revise his beliefs and come to terms ...more
Much of Lee's early experiences echoed my own: as a committed Christian, Lee was raised to believe that homosexuality is both a choice and a sin, but when he realized that he was gay, he had to revise his beliefs and come to terms ...more
While I may not agree with 100% of Justin Lee's conclusions in this book, it is a much-needed contribution to the issue of gays and the church. Justin tells of growing up in a Southern Baptist church and a loving, intact, non-abusive home, yet realizing in adolescence that he had a same sex attraction. He always intended to go into ministry as an adult, but being gay created a complication. The title comes from how Justin internalized the culture war surrounding him.
I appreciate the honesty and ...more
I appreciate the honesty and ...more
No matter your stance, this is a worthwhile read.
This should be required reading for every American Christian. Seriously. To quote another reviewer:
"No matter what your theological convictions on gay relationships, you need to read this book. If you think "gay Christian" is an oxymoron, you need to read this book. If you know someone who's gay, you need to read this book. If you don't know anyone who's gay, you need to read this book. If you think gays have an "agenda," you need to read this book. If you think the church knows how to show grac ...more
"No matter what your theological convictions on gay relationships, you need to read this book. If you think "gay Christian" is an oxymoron, you need to read this book. If you know someone who's gay, you need to read this book. If you don't know anyone who's gay, you need to read this book. If you think gays have an "agenda," you need to read this book. If you think the church knows how to show grac ...more
Perhaps the most compassionate and accessible work on the subject I've ever read. I obviously read it for its take on LGBT issues in Christianity, but I was surprised how much I still related to it as a straight woman.
"People don't marry for the right to have sex; they marry for love and the opportunity to build a life together with another human being. They marry because when everything goes wrong and life is most challenging, it's comforting to have a hand to hold. Because in the darkness of ...more
"People don't marry for the right to have sex; they marry for love and the opportunity to build a life together with another human being. They marry because when everything goes wrong and life is most challenging, it's comforting to have a hand to hold. Because in the darkness of ...more
Justin Lee was called "God-boy" by the kids in school. Everyone knew him as a Jesus-fanatic, an outspoken member of the evangelical Christian community. Yet Justin had a secret: he was attracted to men. The problem was that his Southern Baptist background considered being gay a sin, or more precisely a disease to be cured of. In this book Justin tells his story and it is an important story to hear.
As I read, I could not help but recall being an adolescent, traveling through those confusing days ...more
As I read, I could not help but recall being an adolescent, traveling through those confusing days ...more
I remember being told when I was 8, that if anyone brought up homosexuality in my sex ed class, I should use the word "dysfunction" to describe it.
I remember saying "love the sinner, hate the sin" and thinking it was a fair compromise and a loving way to view someone who was gay.
This is the way I grew up. As an adult, however, I have encountered actual gay people, ones I love, as well as fellow Christians who aren't offended by their lifestyle. After reading some books that delved into Paul's wo ...more
I remember saying "love the sinner, hate the sin" and thinking it was a fair compromise and a loving way to view someone who was gay.
This is the way I grew up. As an adult, however, I have encountered actual gay people, ones I love, as well as fellow Christians who aren't offended by their lifestyle. After reading some books that delved into Paul's wo ...more
If you are a Christian and you struggle with how to love people who are gay, read this book. If you are not Christian and you want to understand more about the divide in this issue, read this book. Basically, I think this is a super important book for the climate of us vs. them right now. Justin Lee writes about his story of being a gay Christian, but also how to move forward from homosexuality being a debate topic to being about how to love others. Lee has a nice writing style: balanced, comfor
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A fantastic introduction toward getting past the culture wars approach to this issue, and a great start toward loving your gay neighbors. Justin emphasizes the distinction between orientation and behavior, and moves past misunderstanding to a place of compassion and conviction. More than anything it is a personal journey, so footnotes are far and few between, but the personal sense of the book allows a small and brief window into the spiritual crisis which fear, mythology, ideology, and misinfor
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Required reading for anyone who has ever openly strived to examine and reconcile faith and sexual orientation. Lee may not come to the same conclusions as you do, but he doesn't ask any readers to come to his conclusions. He simply (and eloquently) tells his agonizing story of being a wholehearted, fully committed, strident Christian who can no longer deny that he is gay.
Lee offers personal stories and broader descriptions that expose the ex-gay movement as based on a framework of deception and ...more
Lee offers personal stories and broader descriptions that expose the ex-gay movement as based on a framework of deception and ...more
I enjoyed this book. I read it because I am so frustrated with the modern church and wanted to educate myself better on how to most effectively rebut the argument that being gay and Christian must be mutuallyexclusive. I am a faithful person but I do not subscribe to many of the teachings of my church, yet I hate the thought of leaving my religion behind because of my disagreements. The message of the book resonated with me because I also firmly believe that the truest interpretation of Christia
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THANKING GOD.
Resounding, thoughtful, and circumnavigating! Praise for candid and courageous testimony AS WELL AS sound and carefully intentioned study of the tough scriptures and biblical points. This man was preaching, and I hope to hear more graceful dialogue on this in our local and global churches. Thankful.
Resounding, thoughtful, and circumnavigating! Praise for candid and courageous testimony AS WELL AS sound and carefully intentioned study of the tough scriptures and biblical points. This man was preaching, and I hope to hear more graceful dialogue on this in our local and global churches. Thankful.
***Given the controversial subject matter of this book, I fully expect that anyone or everyone of my Goodreads friends will dislike my opinions on the matter. However, my review is not an apologetic for my viewpoint; it is simply a statement of my response to this book. I hope it will be taken in that way. I also apologize for all the run-on sentences.***
I expect that there are many Christians who will automatically refuse to read this book because they assume that it is the author's apologetic ...more
I expect that there are many Christians who will automatically refuse to read this book because they assume that it is the author's apologetic ...more
4.5 stars!
In Torn, Justin Lee tells his story as a gay Christian man who grew up in a conservative Southern Baptist church—describing his initial efforts to turn himself straight through ex-gay therapy and telling about how different Christians in his life reacted to his homosexuality. He goes on to tell how he eventually reached the conclusion—through ardent studying of the scriptures—that gay relationships can be honored and blessed by God. Lee uses a convincing combination of his own personal ...more
In Torn, Justin Lee tells his story as a gay Christian man who grew up in a conservative Southern Baptist church—describing his initial efforts to turn himself straight through ex-gay therapy and telling about how different Christians in his life reacted to his homosexuality. He goes on to tell how he eventually reached the conclusion—through ardent studying of the scriptures—that gay relationships can be honored and blessed by God. Lee uses a convincing combination of his own personal ...more
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Justin Lee was raised a devout Southern Baptist, known as "God Boy" by peers at school, and interested in pursuing a career in ministry. Yet he harbored a secret shame: he was sexually attracted to boys, not girls. After he came out right before he went to college, his experience as an openly gay, though celibate, Christian opened his eyes to the uncompassionate and disgraceful ways Christians interact with queer* people. Now, his goal in life is to foster honest, compassionate dialogue between
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I just finished this and it is So. Good. The first half is about Justin Lee's story of his struggle of figuring out what it means to be both gay and Christian and how he reconciled that with his very conservative beliefs and the second half is how to continue the conversation with conservatives in a compassionate way.
Een buitengewoon goed en belangrijk boek over een thema dat de kerk nog steeds verdeeld houdt - en dat daadwerkelijk een richting biedt om daar verandering in te brengen.
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“...the story serves as an important reminder to all of us that sometimes, when people are hurting, they don't need our advice and theological theorizing as much as they need our understanding and comfort.”
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“Today's young people have gay friends whom they love. If they view the church as an unsafe for them, a place more focused on politics than on people, we just might be raising the most anti-Christian generation America has ever seen, a generation that believes they have to choose between loving and being Christian.”
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