Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read.
Start by marking “Three in a Bed: The Benefits of Sleeping with Your Baby” as Want to Read:
Three in a Bed: The Benefits of Sleeping with Your Baby
Enlarge cover
Rate this book
Clear rating
Open Preview

Three in a Bed: The Benefits of Sleeping with Your Baby

4.20  ·  Rating details ·  227 ratings  ·  24 reviews
A revealing look at how having your child sleeping in your bed is beneficial to all your family
Paperback, 312 pages
Published July 7th 2003 by Bloomsbury Publishing PLC (first published 1989)
More Details... Edit Details

Friend Reviews

To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up.

Reader Q&A

To ask other readers questions about Three in a Bed, please sign up.

Be the first to ask a question about Three in a Bed

Community Reviews

Showing 1-30
Average rating 4.20  · 
Rating details
 ·  227 ratings  ·  24 reviews

More filters
Sort order
Start your review of Three in a Bed: The Benefits of Sleeping with Your Baby
kate estivill
Mar 09, 2015 rated it really liked it
Fantastic book full of well-researched information on the history of co-sleeping and it's loss of popularity from the Victorian ages. The author is a great advocate for bringing this practice back and I fully suppport her opinions.

The reason I did not give the book 5 stars is the following: I have coslept with my 13 month old since birth, from the very first night. I nursed her round the clock and continue to nurse her at night or when she needs comforting. She is a high needs child, a very
Jan 18, 2011 rated it it was amazing
I found this one of the best all-round attachment parenting books that I have read.
Oct 24, 2009 rated it liked it
Shelves: parenting
Some of the information was interesting and the geek in me liked the extensive documentation, but I found myself wanting to just finish the book and move on to something else. I would think, "Didn't she say this exact same thing a couple chapters ago?" But I may be confusing it with other books that I've read on the same subject recently - I honestly don't know if it's my own faulty memory mushing multiple books together or if she was really being repetitive. She also seemed a bit defensive at ...more
Jun 23, 2012 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
Started off well, and I was genuinely interested in what she had to say. Unfortunately I found myself skimming before long because it became very repetitive.

I was reassured on many fronts, though, and was far less worried about having baby in bed with us - often he would end up there after a night feed because we would all fall asleep! So read it if you want to put your mind at ease, but you probably don't need to finish it!!!
Katy Williams
Mar 24, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Yes, yes & yes to Three in a Bed!

I have given this book 5 and would gladly give more. The style of writing is easy to digest and in my case, I struggled to put the book down, blasting excerpts at my husband who both bemused and extremely interested in what was being said joined me in having our practice of bed sharing affirmed as being most definitely the right thing for us and our baby. I love the information on historical practice that has informed the modern parenting model, and adore the
Sep 14, 2019 rated it it was ok
The taboo of co-sleeping in the west is in dire need of challenging. And while this book contains much interesting information, it is too polemical and in parts, extreme, for my taste. (Jackson suggests a myriad of problems in the west may be resolved by co-sleeping and stronger attachments with our babies, from violence to child sexual abuse). Relies heavily on the books The Continuum Concept and Primal Health.

If you want to read about co-sleeping, and indeed do it yourself, I'd recommend going
May 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Such a great book, very easy to read and it has had a profound effect on how I parented my two children. Reading it confirmed what felt right and gave me the confidence to put it into practice and have counter arguments for anyone who questioned our sleeping arrangements. I remember the midwife asking how many times in a night my newbie woke up and I couldn't remember any. She slightly surfaced without really waking, latched herself on without really waking me and then went back to sleep. All ...more
Very good book. Loved reading it.
Jul 02, 2015 rated it it was ok
Shelves: parenting
So biased that even I - a bedsharer - was a bit repelled. I liked the historical and cultural contexts she uses and ultimately she is absolutely correct about the logic and benefits of co-sleeping. However her uncompromising stance was far too alienating for me, and her response to some of the problematic aspects of bed sharing were very brief and dismissive. For example, suggesting that day time naps can be done in a sling just isn't practical.
For my family, we loved the concept for
Oct 27, 2015 rated it really liked it
It didn't offer much/any practical advice, but was a fascinating look at the historical development of how sleeping advice and practices have evolved in North America and Britain. I enjoyed the comparisons of tribal vs industrialized cultures, and found it refreshing that it didn't take on the 'tribal cultures are all perfect and if only we lived in one then every child rearing problem would be solved' approach that I've heard many times.
It was extremely biased, which was no surprise, but it
Dec 13, 2007 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I don't read a lot of nonfiction but recently I've read a couple of parenting books. We ended up cosleeping with Grace without planning to and have enjoyed it. (and all the sleep we get because of it!) Lately, I've been feeling more ambivalent about it and ready for her to move out of our bed, and this bed provided some great reflections for me. She has good ideas about how and when to transition your child out of your bed, but just in general the book gives a lot of medical/cultural info about ...more
Mar 23, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenthood
This book did what I'd hope every parenting book would attempt--a good focus, plenty of research with a wide range of sources, anecdotes and narrative, tips and variations. What I admired about this book was its attention to people's concerns about co-sleeping and her reasoned response. The position that children will be *less* clingy because they were able to participate in their move into independence is a good one, one I am already observing in my seven-month-old, who is almost too mobile as ...more
Alice Chau-Ginguene
Mar 22, 2014 rated it really liked it
The book provides very valuable information on the subject matter. Maybe because she is preaching to the converted, I found myself skip through the book like some of the other reviewers. I just wanted to go through it quickly to get to the practical information bit of the book than on the 'why should we do it' bit of the book. I already knew why. But it's probably just my personal circumstance.
I think it's a very good book for someone who knows nothing about attachment issue on babies though.
Oct 04, 2016 rated it really liked it
A friend brought me this book when I was expecting my babies - I found it startling, and full of wisdom. I won't say that it changed our whole approach towards becoming parents, because I'm not sure we'd really worked one out... but it challenged so much of our thinking and we made very different choices than I think we would have done otherwise. So glad I read this book and always very grateful to my friend for sending it our way.
Jan 10, 2009 rated it it was ok
I found "Good Nights: The Happy Parents Guide to the Family Bed" to be a much more useful resource on the topic of bed and roomsharing. Jackson failed to add anything new to my understanding of the subject. Combine that with her not so subtle disdain for Christianity, and I was left with a book that I finished out of obligation "I've come this far, may as well finish" rather than interest.
Jenny Aird
Sep 06, 2013 rated it liked it
Good at making the argument for cosleeping, not so good at solving some of the problems or issues that are encountered - eg logistics of how to share the bed. A lot of the worries we had as new parents were not answered by this book. Incidentally we coslept until around 4/5 months when he started sleeping with arms spread out and took up the whole bed!
Charlotte Burt
Nov 11, 2009 rated it it was ok
Very bias against children sleeping alone.
Jan 25, 2012 rated it liked it
First read February 2011.
Kate Glicksberg
Jan 24, 2011 rated it it was ok
Some good information, but basically an expanded magazine article.
Natalie Valenzuela
Jul 11, 2008 rated it it was ok
I only read certain chapters in this book as I was researching the topic. It's rather old, but there is some good stuff.
Sep 30, 2009 rated it liked it
The tone of this one was a bit judgmental and defensive, but--if you could get past that--there was a lot of good information.
rated it really liked it
Oct 27, 2009
Hannah Lyons
rated it it was amazing
Aug 10, 2017
Barbara V. Roman
rated it it was amazing
Nov 16, 2015
rated it really liked it
Apr 17, 2008
rated it it was amazing
Oct 14, 2015
Rosanne Limoncelli
rated it really liked it
Apr 28, 2017
rated it liked it
Jul 27, 2016
rated it really liked it
Nov 18, 2017
« previous 1 3 4 5 6 7 8 next »
There are no discussion topics on this book yet. Be the first to start one »

Readers also enjoyed

  • Raising Boys: Why Boys Are Different and How to Help Them Become Happy and Well-Balanced Men
  • Bésame mucho
  • The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did)
  • You've Got It In You: A Positive Guide to Breastfeeding
  • The Burnt-Out Town of Miracles
  • The Hypnobirthing Book
  • Women Talking
  • Cockroaches (Harry Hole, #2)
  • In the Dream House
  • A Single Thread
  • When You Read This
  • The Hard Thing About Hard Things: Building a Business When There Are No Easy Answers
  • Baby-led Weaning: Helping Your Baby to Love Good Food
  • The Aware Baby
  • Akademia Pana Kleksa (Pan Kleks #1)
  • Nigdy w życiu!
  • I ty zostaniesz Indianinem
  • Karolcia
See similar books…
Deborah Jackson is an experienced journalist and bestselling childcare author. She writes for national newspapers and her articles have appeared in many magazines, including Elle and Natural Parent. Books on childcare have included Three in a Bed and Baby Wisdom. Deborah runs workshops for the Active Birth Centre in London, and has lectured on parenting in Austria. Her numerous television ...more