Raising a Thinking Preteen: The "I Can Problem Solve" Program for 8- to 12- Year-Olds

by Myrna B. Shure, Roberta Israeloff

In her bestselling Raising a Thinking Child , Myrna B. Shure introduced her nationally acclaimed "I Can Problem Solve" program, which helps four to seven-year-olds develop essential skills to resolve daily conflicts and think for themselves. With Raising a Thinking Preteen , Shure has tailored this plan especially for eight-to twelve-year-olds as they approach the unique challenges of adolescence.

The preteen years are often the last opportunity for parents to teach their children how to think for themselves. This book is the only source with a proven plan to help them do just that.

Genres: Parenting, Nonfiction, Education

272 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2000

Reviews

[Davis]

It is a wonderful book. I have tried asking how my child feels during a particular stuggle or conflict and the dialogue that it creates has been very rewarding. It is a wonderful learning experience for myself and my children.

[Alicia]

I have been experimenting with the I Can Problem Solve method with good results! It helped me appreciate how many skills play a part in our ability to evaluate and solve problems, including our ability to understand our and others' feelings and motives, think of multiple possibilities, identify likely consequences or outcomes of our actions, and engage in sequenced planning including how to react to obstacles. While it seems a bit gimmicky, there is a lot to use and adapt. I am convinced that empowering preteens to solve their own problems instead of doing the thinking for them will help with the conflicts and emotional regulation of this developmental stage. It also sets them up with skills for the future. I plan to adapt some of these ideas for the classroom as well.

[Rolf]

The model presented here is obviously well thought out, but it is a bit overly confusing for how accessible it presents itself as being, and the writing is rather stiff.

[Jamie]

Appreciate the progression of teaching preteens emotional literacy and problem-solving, but not a fan of the case study format of the book.

[Ruth Ann]

What I liked most about this book was that it showed me that if I change my parenting behavior, then my child will change too. Instead of using power, suggestions, or explaining, work to engage your child. (Dialogue not monologues!) Help him/her learn to identify feelings, develop empathy, consider different points of view, find alternative solutions, consider consequences, and make a plan. By switching to a problem-solving approach, your children will be empowered to develop their own skills necessary to cope with life's inevitable problems. Note: After reading this book I was able to pass the ICPS quiz (on paper . . . the real test will be application!)

[Fayren]

Delphine is entering Middle School -can't hurt to read up on the next phase!

[Beth]

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[Darcy Williams]

Some good info, but also a lot that I consider common sense.