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A Man Named Dave (Dave Pelzer #3)

3.87  ·  Rating details ·  25,635 Ratings  ·  997 Reviews
The third tale in David Pelzer's autobiographical trilogy, A Man Named Dave is an inspiring story of terror, recovery, and hope experienced by the author throughout his life. Known for his work as a child abuse advocate, Pelzer has been commended by several U.S. presidents and international agencies, and his previous memoirs of growing up as an abused child (A Child Called ...more
Published 2002 by Gramedia (first published 1999)
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Joanna Cabot
Feb 17, 2012 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2012, memoir
By far the weakest book in this trilogy---finished it because it was a library book and I had come this far already, but it was truly a bloated, over-written, melodramatic finish to a series that portrayed a compelling story, clumsily told. A lot of the conversations he relates seem overly scripted to me, and the melodrama lessens the impact of Pelzer's otherwise compelling tale. A more literary hand could have made this book much better. I respect Pelzer as a person for making something out of ...more
Saber Jan
Jun 29, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
من أكثر الكتب التي أثرت في وهي الجزء الثالث لحياة المؤلف دايف بيلزر يتحدث عن فترة نضوجه وما بعد المعاناة التي عاشها مع أمه
الحقيقة الكتاب أعتبره من أروع ما قرأت
الجزء الأول
طفل اسمه نكرة
الجزء الثاني
الولد التائه
الجزء الثالث والاخير
حكاية رجل اسمه دايف

لمن يريد النسخة الالكترونية على هذا الرابط
I really do love all three of these books, but there WERE some things that started to bother me by the end of this one. It's hard to put my finger on them all. To name a few, though, Pelzer gets pretty repetitive at times and doesn't seem to realize it (he'll put an anecdote in parentheses like this and then do it again with the same anecdote later, like we forgot the first time...when actually, I think he did). He also focuses so much on the negative and then suddenly time speeds up and everyth ...more
Lorraine Southern
(19/85) 5 stars *****
How can you even begin to rate out of 5 the story of this guy's life anyway?
It's not doable and I still don't understand how he so successfully came out the other side of his abusive childhood and made so much of his life AND forgave both his parents as well! He really is living proof that the cycle of child abuse can be stopped and that victims can live a healthy, fulfilling life of their own.
Dave Pelzer is the definition of the word inspirational, and reading his life st
May 25, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
اكتسحت الرواية الأمريكية الحديثة اهتمامات القراء في العالم نظرا لتميزها بعدم تقيدها بالقالب اللغوي في بنائها السردي بقدر ما تهتم بصدق المشاعر التي يراد ايصالها وقد مثلث رواية "طعام صلاة حب " ورواية "حكاية رجل اسمه دايف" افضل مثال على ذلك اد ترجمت الروايات لمعظم لغات العالم .

سنتطرق اليوم الى رواية "حكاية رجل اسمه دايف" اين يمثل هذا العمل الادبي تجربة حياتية رائعة يستطيع القارئ من خلالها فهم التقنيات المجدية للتخلص من المتاعب النفسية والتحرر من الماضي . دايف الفتى الصغير الذي يتعرض بصفة يومية الى
*spoilers ahead*

I read My Story (comprising of this book, The Lost Boy and The Child Called "It"). Basically an autobiography that covers his life up to this moment. David was abused from the age of 4 to 12 by his mother. This took place within closed doors but it was possible to deduce this from just looking at his appearance. No one did anything concrete to intervene. Any halfhearted attempts were blocked by his mother. Several times, he came close to losing his life or suffering permanent dam
Mar 04, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was a good examination of Pelzer's transition into adulthood, as he tried to lay to rest the demons of his exceedingly abusive past and build a greater sense of his own self worth. It seems he may finally have achieved that, but it's hard to imagine that this man is not still plagued at times by haunting memories of torturous treatment. Although it is clear from his books that both his parents were alcoholics, and that his mother may have in turn been abused somewhat by her mother, it's sti ...more
Nov 09, 2008 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I know this is terrible to say, but I was super frustrated by this book.

I'm sorry - I know Dave had a terrible life (controversy aside), and that he suffered more than any child should ever have to, but I still couldn't get over his attitude as he got older.

So I'm heartless, maybe. But there was a clear movement from memories of horrors from his youth to accounts of how his adult life was too tough and altogether unfair to live through.

At least he was given a chance! At least he was removed fro
Sep 07, 2009 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
This book was very tedious to wade through, and as Pelzer developed his series, and became more confident in his writing, he became more wordy and as such this book was far and away the worst of a poor series. I think it's a little rich of him to claim the book is about forgiveness: he clearly hasn't forgiven his mother at all for the abuse she handed out when he was a child, nor has he forgiven the foster care system that didn't give him the attention he needed.

Yes, there's one thing to be said
Lör K.
I admit. I haven't read The Lost Boy, and skipped straight ahead to this book in the Dave Pelzer series because my mother didn't have the second book in her collection. I still haven't read The Lost Boy and I fully intend to reread the whole series this year.

I read this back when I was fifteen, after rereading A Child Called "It" for the second time, and my heart sings with happiness. Every time I think back on this book, I tear up a tiny bit, smiling because he made it.

As a person who had to s
Trevor Schmoldt
Sep 11, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The book I read about was a boy who had been in an abusive home. Dave was an “it” as his mother would call him, but had to respond to every request in a very little time period or he had to pay the price. Dave’s mother would beat him with objects, feed him ammonia, make him sleep in the garage with no blankets, she was just horrible. She paid no attention to him, but all the attention to her other children. She didn't even count him as hers.

The main characters would be Dave and his mother, alon
* This review is for all three parts of Dave Pelzer's story

A horrible translation! I needed to get that out of my system first. There is so much bad language in my Finnish translation that it's almost difficult to concentrate on the actual story. The grammar geek in me would love to hit this book with the Red Pen of Dissapproval.

The story in itself is obviously horrible. I'm so happy that times are changing and it's more and more easy for children to get the help they need. I was a bit dissappoi
Erica Simon
Sep 24, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
"A man named Dave" was a fantastic story that talked about survival, forgiveness, love, confusion, and pain. As a younger child Dave was abused by his alcoholic mother, who in Dave's words gave him strength to never quit. He escaped his brutal life at twelve years old, and enrolled into foster. There he met a few friends where he finally felt like he fit in. At twenty years old he enlisted in the United States Air force, and applied to become a firefighter in honor of his sick father. After a fe ...more
Sep 08, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I knew what to expect when I first picked up this book and begun reading it. Not to say that it is a terrible predictable book, it's actually quite the opposite. I remember awhile back I read Dave Pelzer's other books of him as child going through extreme levels of child abuse from his psychotic mother. I was sucked into all those books he wrote. They had so much life in them, that it felt like you were in the shoes of Dave Pelzer as a child. "A man Named Dave" had a different feel and tone the ...more
Feb 06, 2010 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
The third and last book of Dave Pelzer's retelling of his experiences as he searched his way to recovery and total forgiveness. He knows he cannot change his past but he must do something to vindicate himself especially his mother... and father. He will learn this the hard way and he will become a father himself. More than forgiveness, this novel brings hope to those who are suffering similar child abuse traumas.
Along one's road to recovery are people who will make you feel right about yourself,
Jun 03, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book was as touching as all the rest. I especially liked the part about his wife, Marsha, I got butterflies. This man is an inspiration and I'm so glad that he was brave enough to tell his story, the whole story to the world. As a victim of child abuse, it's encouraging to see a story of someone who made it good, and stopped the cycle.
Apr 15, 2008 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone, those who have read a child called it or the lost boy
This book was wonderful! It touches on so many topics. I don't even think you need to read the first two books, to enjoy this one. However, if you read the first two you will just see how much David has been through. This was a fantastic read. I was a bit hesitant to read these three books, but they taught me a lot and reassured me that forgiveness is possible and the importance of life.
Paula Acedo
Dec 30, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is truly a heartbreaking story of a man who has been through a lot as a child, and who continues to go through a lot as an adult. Someone who grows up to be better, than anyone expected to be. Who at the end, wins. This a story of a true underdog, someone who proved everyone wrong, and grew up to change the world a little, for the best.
Oct 10, 2016 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfiction
Didn't like it at all, and I'm not finishing it.
Tina H
May 01, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is the 3rd book in the Dave Pelzer trilogy.

In this book we get to see the man Dave grows up to be. He survived a horrific childhood and years in the foster system but he proved to be stronger than those who tried to hurt him.
"All those years you tried your best to break me, and I'm still here. One day you'll see, I'm going to make something of myself."
And make something of himself he did!!

I don't want to give too much away but Dave is truly an inspiration. What he has survived and over
Jan 06, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
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Dash fan
Jan 12, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I read this book many years ago.
But if you have read the previous books then you will understand this is the ultimate book.

The summary if you like of he's adult life.
He's fears and hurdles he's faced after suffering so many years of abuse.
The relationships he's formed with people and how he struggles with them.

There is one bit that sticks in my head, is when he's Father is dying.
Instead of being relieved after all the abuse he suffers he goes to see he's Dad. Which I believe is the closure he ne
Vivi Vigil
Jan 29, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The book I read is called A Man Named Dave. It is a non-fiction book. It is written by Dave Pelzer himself, and that is his third book. It is “A story of Triumph and Forgiveness”, it talks about child abuse and how Dave survived it and how he went on about his life when he became a man.
Dave had an abusive mother as a child and was able to escape her around the age of 12. He was put in foster care and later placed with a family who cared for him. Dave lost connection with his family for some tim
Desiree Zempel
Mar 19, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I read the book “A Man Named Dave” by David Pelzer. David was remembering the last day when his mother abused him. His mother hit him in the throat with a broom, and pushed him down the steps. This took place in the first book “A Child called IT” David is now a grown man who is out of foster care, and wants to join the Air Force in Florida. David has flashbacks of the foster home. When Dave was working all the time, this caused him to give up a good education. Dave went to boot camp to get train ...more
Oct 20, 2009 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
i read this book as recommended by a fellow member " A MAN NAMED DAVE my namesake... but that is were the similarity ends quote.....

as i child i was horribly ed abused by my mother.. well not trying to be insensitive or numb... but sociologically speaking take an individual experience for instance

ONE-WORLD VISON A CHARITY to help those in need in Africa .. " a girl walks four miles Evey day to get water filtered through a dirty cloth at best,, each day a norther is used by here parents to work
Brit McCarthy
This is possibly one of the most unnecessary books I have ever read. The 1 star review is partly my fault, because I was 95% sure I wouldn't like this book based on the previous two books of the trilogy. That doesn't mean, though, that it's my fault the book is bad.

Because it is. It's poorly written, wanders through Dave's life as an adult, sees him make some stupid decisions and then yay, tie it all up with a bow, here's a happy ending (this guy's life is not over but the book is).

I can see the
Nov 08, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I had previously read A Child Called "It" and was appalled by the abuse that one small child can survive. I realize that it was a long time ago, law-wise, but how can a family get away with so much? And reading his brother Richard's book just made me angrier! A Man Named "It" was an awesome follow up to his first book. I know there's a middle book too but have yet to read/find it in my stacks. You often wonder after reading such a disturbing true story what happens to the remaining people. And t ...more
Oct 02, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book is incredibly sad. I have wanted to read his first two, A Child Called "It" and The Lost Boy, for a long time but just never got around to it. Then I picked up A Man Named Dave at a used book sale. I think there is enough in it to get a good idea of what he went through as a child and it breaks one's heart. It just shows how abuse spreads abuse. I can relate a bit because I went through a lot of anger when I was a young mother and I'm not proud of the mothering I did during this time. ...more
قصي بن خليفة
في هذا الجزء يروي دايف بلزر عن حياته بعد المراهقة، وكيف كانت رحلته من دار الرعاية إلى الاستقلالية الشخصية. وليس فيه شيئاً كثيراً عن معاناته في طفولته وصباه. ولكن فيه الكثير عن عزيمة الإنسان المثقل بخيبات الأمل وانعدام الثقة وتوقع الأسوأ، ورغم كل ذلك يصبر ويناضل حتى يرى النور شيئاً فشيئاً
ثم كان ذلك الانتصار الرائع الذي كنا نتطلع إليه في الجزأين الأولين
القصة رغم تفاصيلها والمعاناة التي فيها هي قصة ملهمة جداً. فيها أننا فقط بالسعي وراء ما نظن أننا قادرين على العطاء فيه والحرص على خدمة الآخرين نرتقي
Mar 30, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: novels, biography
ثلاثية دايف بيلزر عن حياته من الطفولة حتى الرشد ....
أكثر جزء أحببته هو ذا ....
أحببت فيه اصراره ....و دماثته ....و شفافيته ....و صفائه....و عدم استسلامه لكونه غريبا ....

في هذه الثلاثية شاهدت المجتمع الامريكي عن قرب اكثر ....
و لشد ما رثيت لحاله .... و سعدت و شعرت بالفخر لكوني مسلمة ...

أن يكون للعائلة هذا المفهوم الذي نعيشه ....و يفتقده غيرنا ....
بشريعة سمحة عدلة أرست ثوابت هذا البنيان ....من رب لطيف كبير ....لهو نعمة عظيمة ....

و خلال السطور و من بين الكلمات ....لا زال يتأكد لي ....
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An author best known for his 1995 memoir of childhood abuse, A Child Called It.

At the age of 12, Dave was removed from an abusive home and placed in a series of foster homes. In 1979, he joined the Air Force and later became an author of memoirs and self-improvement books.
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Other Books in the Series

Dave Pelzer (4 books)
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