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Every Young Woman's Battle: Guarding Your Mind, Heart, and Body in a Sex-Saturated World

(The Every Man)

3.96  ·  Rating details ·  2,921 ratings  ·  139 reviews
Guys Aren’t the Only Ones Fighting a Battle for Purity.

The world you live in promotes sex as the answer to just about everything. The pressure to go along with the crowd is greater than ever before, and it’s easy to compromise in little ways that are a lot more harmful than they seem. You and your friends may become caught up in destructive relationships or sexual activit
Paperback, 240 pages
Published July 20th 2004 by Waterbrook Press (first published 2004)
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Chris Mclain
Jul 25, 2011 rated it liked it
When I was in high school I read Every Young Man's Battle and it changed the way I fought sexual temptation. Now, as a youth minister, I read Every Young Woman's Battle to understand the what the girls in my group are facing. I cannot accurately judge the content of the book because it does not directly relate to my experiences, but I found it to be excellent in several respects. Eldridge and Arterburn peg the aspects of male sexuality perfectly when they explain them to the women, and the chapt ...more
Apr 19, 2020 rated it did not like it
WARNING **** IF YOU RESPECT AND LOVE GIRLS IN YOUR LIFE DO NOT GIVE THEM THIS BOOK! THIS BOOK IS TRAAAAAAASH.🤬It is full of shaming and it places a lot of blame on women and little girls–––LITTLE GIRLS. It is marketed like a Christian, morals and self-respect book but it is nothing more than propaganda to shame little girls and young women about her sexuality. The red flag begins with the author: she is a "born again Christian" who discusses her childhood sexual abuse and chronic re-victimizatio ...more
Audrey Swanson
Jan 10, 2013 rated it did not like it
I felt as though this book goes past appropriate topics for young women. It may have been written with good intentions, but I found that it gives the impression that sex in general is sinful, which it's not. It suggested absolutely no talking to males after a certain hour because, as a rule, young men are unable to control their sexual thoughts. The book should be remained "SOME" because it makes atrocious generalizations and creates a prudish stereotype for abstinent young Christian teens. ...more
This book might be a little mature for 12 and 13 year olds...
May 05, 2018 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I don't usually write reviews for Goodreads, but...

Overall, I was very unimpressed by the tone of this book, the sweeping generalizations it made about sexuality in young men and women, and the stereotypes that it perpetuated. I found the tone of Chapter 4 especially judgmental and shaming of women; the authors quote the testimony of a college student who says, "Guys wouldn't try so hard [to pursue girls sexually] if girls didn't dress like that's what they want!" The authors proceed to commend
Sep 08, 2013 rated it did not like it
I was given this book by my grief counselor (whom I no longer see because of this attitude) when I mentioned I was having minor issues with my sexuality. Myself, being an Theistic Agnostic as well as a feminist, was shocked by the contents of this work.

This book is absolutely terrible. I'm totally okay if someone believes that they should wait for marriage--heck, I'm even okay for something to endorse it. But this book is full of lies and plain old stupidity.

1) Literally, every argument in the
Nov 09, 2013 rated it liked it
Generally an okay book, only slightly cheesy. Here's my brief notes on it.
• Lots of unfiltered stories from young people ranging from masturbation, rape, porn and harmful consequences (STIs, pregnancy) to risky actions. Appreciated how graphic it was, think young people can handle it
• Did not touch on developmental stages, not evidenced-based, most references were to other people who have written opinion pieces in the same field, (very biased ones). It sort of tried to paint somewhat of a "nor
Daphne Lin
Mar 29, 2010 rated it really liked it
A must-read for every teenage girl! Honest and informative. Each chapter has a few case studies, and are written in detailed with bible verses to support.

I give it a 4 stars instead of 5 as I find the content a bit graphic. Perhaps I am more conservative and still quite innocent when I first read it (at the age of 17).

However, it makes the point that ignorance makes one vulnerable. And just like that bible says, we should be as innocent as dove but as shrewd as snake. It's better for young wome
Dec 29, 2017 rated it did not like it
I got this book for Christmas when I was about 13. God, I wish my Mom had just talked to me herself. This book is so patronizing, and to be honest it just made me feel like I had to hate myself for being sexually attracted to any male, or for wanting sexual contact in any way. I realize that’s not what the book’s message was trying to convey, but from the “experience” stories, that is what I ended up with. This book really messed with me in a lot of ways. I feel that I would have been far better ...more
May 29, 2013 added it
Shelves: wtf
Thank you, Ethridge for royally fucking up my views on sexuality from about ages 12-17.
Lilly Elder
Jan 03, 2019 rated it did not like it
Too many analogies my dude.
This book is exactly what you would expect from a Christian book written in 2004 about teenage sexuality. To the letter. It's bad ya'll.
Apr 30, 2020 rated it did not like it
It is truly disheartening to find such a profusion of garbage within these books.

Ashley E
Aug 26, 2018 rated it did not like it
Shelves: nonfiction
First, before anything, let me just say: If there is any young woman out there who has read this book and come out the other side feeling confused, ashamed, or uncomfortable, please fee free to PM me. Seriously. I will answer whatever questions that you have to the best of my ability.

I do not, and cannot in good conscience, recommend this book, for several reasons. Although there is absolutely nothing wrong with abstinence or choosing to save your virginity for that "special someone" or even you
Rajeev Sugandhi
Jun 29, 2018 rated it did not like it
I know i am a guy and this book doesn't really apply to me, But i saw it and wanted to understand what young women today have to go through.

I read some of reviews gushing about it being a great book for young christian woman, that they should read and follow. In all honesty, i am severely disappointed after having read it.

I understand that most parents and older people would want their daughters and girls to not indulge in sexual activities and practice abstinence till marriage, Which is a gre
Lisa Rathbun
Aug 11, 2011 rated it it was amazing
This is an excellent read for teenagers, challenging them to live a pure life. Everyone who claims to be a Christian should be living a life to please Jesus: as He said, "Why do you call me Lord, but do not do the things I say?" This book comprehensively deals with many areas, including the dangers of emotional intimacy via the internet. As far as its openness content-wise, the intro says, "If she regularly watches television, listens to pop music, or reads teen magazines, nothing in this book w ...more
Jun 14, 2012 rated it it was ok
Recommends it for: mother of teenage girls, 14-17 girls Christian girls,
Recommended to Clair by: read in my Sunday School class
Shelves: own-this, req-church
This book informs the readers, targeted toward teenaged Christian girls, about how to remain sexually pure in a world full of sexual temptation. It explains that sexual purity is not only a physical state, but that your heart and mind need to be pure as well. It gives advises girl not to watch or read things with a lot of sexual content. It also gives a outline of rule for behaving and dressing in a pure and holy way.

My thoughts:
I found this book to be a little prude-ish and strict. I
Aug 12, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Wow...This book blew me away. It is a great book for any girls (or curious guys) in the teens to early twenties. This book is an in-depth look at dating, the steps from friendship to dating, perversions of God's will for our sexuality, and how to guard ourselves spiritually, mentally, and bodily. A MUST-READ for any young Christian woman. ...more
Jan 06, 2010 rated it it was amazing
This is such a great book. my best friend recomended it to me and it was just great. it's really not like any other book i've read on this subject. it's very down to earth and real, and one actually learns from it. ...more
Jul 29, 2011 rated it it was amazing
I strongly recommend this to girls. It covers absolutely everything there is to cover about sexuality, and as it actually did change my life. Highly, highly recommend it for any girl who has ever struggled with their own sexuality, which should be all of us.
Jun 19, 2014 rated it it was ok
I don't know what I expected from a book about female purity that is only co-written by a woman- and then co-written by a man, introduced by a man, and commented on throughout by a man. Part of a re-read of books given to me as a teen. Will not be keeping. ...more
Dec 24, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Ethridge provides important information for young adults, Christian and non-Christian alike.
May 23, 2012 rated it it was ok
It was an alright book. A bit too preachy and vague in parts, but an interesting read overall. Just not for me. Parents should be warned that this is NOT a book for young girls.
Anna Beahm
Sep 06, 2020 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Filled with false information about female sexuality, scare tactics and unrealistic expectations. Don't read this and don't give it to your daughter to read. ...more
Feb 17, 2020 rated it really liked it
When I started reading the book, it was a bit of a shock...I didn t expect it to be so straight to the point. But I kept on reading and at the end I realised this was exactly what I needed to know as a christian teenage girl. I really liked the fact that they explained what problems are the boys facing, too. Yes, I think 14+ is the age you should read it, because there are some matters that would bring confusion to girls less than 14 (it touches some delicate subjects) . But it s definitely a go ...more
Tamara Milanovic
Where was this book when I was 13-15 years old?
I guess it's never too late to read books like this.
This is an excellent resource for teen-girls who are facing many questions and insecurities about their appearances, their longings, wishes, emotions and their sexuality. It gives biblical perspective on those questions, offering practical ways in how a girl can keep her mind, body and soul protected and nourished in the healthy way. Each chapter is supported with many examples from different gir
Joanna Jennings
Dec 08, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: read-in-2020
Great content, but very mature. Excellent material for a mom to sift through and talk with her daughter about. Such an important topic!
Every Young Woman’s Battle explored a lot of tough issues, and it didn’t mince words… yet it makes for an incredible and challenging book. Looking into every situation concerning how to live out God’s beautiful and healthy plan of purity… Explaining the consequences and unhappiness that come with sin… Showing how staying as pure as possible is going to keep you farther away from temptation than you realize… Telling of ways to come out of a sinful lifestyle, or way of thinking… Yes, a really gre ...more
Aug 27, 2017 rated it liked it
A friend and I lead a Bible study of middle school girls through this book in our early twenties. I think it's definitely something more geared towards young girls. I felt there was some good stuff in here, but also some that made the girl feel like she was doing something wrong by attracting unwanted or inappropriate male attention and I wasn't a fan of that. I'm sure the version for boys puts the burden on them, but this just made my friend and I feel like we were doing something wrong when we ...more
Emily W
Dec 18, 2014 added it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Girls wanting a God-centered relationship
[Another, Overdue Update - 12/12/17]
Not long after my last review of this book, I came out of a two year relationship. In the aftermath, I realised the extent to which our realtionship had been ruled by fear - and I began to see some of the more harmful ideologies in books such as these for what they were.
It was the sort of book that claimed it was my responsibility to dress so that men would not list after, or even assault me. It was the sort of book that claimed that "boys will be boys", not h
Betty Crawford
Jan 01, 2021 rated it did not like it
Though I gleaned a kernel of truth or two from "Every Young Woman's Battle", it is easily probably the most toxic non-story relationship book I have ever read. I cannot recommend this book to anyone. ...more
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Shannon is a million-copy best-selling author, speaker, lay counselor, and advocate for healthy sexuality with a master’s degree in counseling/human relations from Liberty University. She has spoken to youth, college students, and adults since 1989 and her passions include:

* Challenging adults and teens to embrace a life of sexual integrity
* Encouraging married couples in their pursuit of sexual

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