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Fear of the Abyss: Healing the Wounds of Shame & Perfectionism

4.35  ·  Rating details ·  49 ratings  ·  8 reviews
Most self-help or personal growth books help people “cope” better with one specific problem that troubles them. While everyone needs coping skills, they are temporary aids that do not increase one’s self-awareness and understanding, as they do not address the root cause of the problem. In focusing on a specific problem or trait, they also fail to recognize that this trait ...more
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Published January 28th 2011 by Aleta Edwards, Psy.D., via Smashwords (first published January 11th 2011)
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Lisa  Romano
Oct 26, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: those looking for self help.
I truly enjoyed this book.

This book is for anyone who is in search of a healing from within, who is not afraid to confront Self, and who is ready and willing to change.

As an author of self help books myself, I always enjoy finding other authors who tend to approach hard core issues from deeper and often times forgotten perspectives.

I agree wholeheartedly with all of the ideas presented in this book, and I was touched by the authors empathy for her shame based clients. I agree that without self a
M Tennessee
Oct 24, 2013 rated it it was amazing
"Fear of the Abyss" is the only book of its kind. Rather than focusing on diagnoses, this book helps the reader to discover the root causes of a constellation of personality traits from which many decent, conscientious people suffer.

Perfectionism, control, and shame, are issues that many people who enter psychotherapy are struggling with. These are people who value other people's feelings, who try to do best by others, and who may at times neglect what is best for them. They find themselves stru
Alexandar  MG M
Nov 09, 2013 rated it it was amazing
This book is Awesome! A must-read!

I never thought of myself as a perfectionist until a friend pointed out to me that I was spending way too much time preparing my Power Points for my presentations at work. I'm usually up till 2 in the morning doing these Power Points, trying to get every little detail perfect. But I just thought that was normal.

My friend asked me "Why are you always so tired?" And when I told him he said "That is waaay too much that you're doing, man. Way too much."

I thought abo
Melanie R
Fear of the Abyss, by Aleta Edwards, is the first book I have read that helped me to heal. I'm used to reading books that offer to 'help' with problems. Maybe you have OCD, and you are reading a book that suggests how to reduce your obsessive tendencies. Key word reduce. Or maybe you are depressed and the book tries to cheer you up.

I wound up reading this book because of its title: I knew I had issues with perfectionism and shame. So I was very surprised when I started reading the book, and disc
Jen Bossenberger
Oct 27, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Dr. Edwards book truly has been the catalyst to change in my life. It helped me understand the deep "why" I was feeling the way I felt. Why I was anxious and seeking perfectionism. Dealing with perfectionism and the other spokes of the wheel that make up the PCS constellation, she beautifully and gently teaches about the pain we feel and why we go on protecting ourselves.

I love how she tells story after story of others who have faced the dynamics as well. She connects the dots for you.

As I conti
I read this book just recently after listening to this author speak on SOTT's internet radio show. I listened because I really like the hosts and I always like their interviews and discussions, as they're so thought-provoking. But that week's show was different for me from the others. I found I couldn't approach the topic only from my own curiosity as is my custom; it ceased to be a purely intellectual endeavor for me. As a listener, I felt strangely pegged, and had an almost spooky sense that t ...more
Jan 27, 2014 rated it it was amazing
This is an incredible book that allows the reader to acquire deep insight. I have read a number of books on the topic, and this is the absolute best. The author has a clear, easily understood writing style, and not only does she explain the issues, but offers comprehensive solutions. I purchased several books which I gave as Christmas gifts. I am looking forward to Dr. Edwards next book!
G Collerone
Jun 13, 2015 rated it really liked it
Apparently, all you need is self-awareness to overcome the depression and anxiety in your life to change the Abyss. Throughout the book, the author reiterates over and over how she hopes this book helps the reader, like it is a god-send or something. Anything but. The exercises she gives are complex and requires serious thought which sometimes is clear enough, but some of the exercises are not so straightforward. It would have helped greatly if she gave an example of an answer in real language, ...more
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I graduated from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology, and practiced in Chicago for over 20 years. I have been in Tampa for a couple of years and it is where I now practice.

I became interested in writing a book, because I kept seeing people come in for anxiety or depression, who really had the issues of shame and perfectionism that were never addressed. I felt that the label one receives

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