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Beyond Boundaries: How To Know When It's Time To Risk Again

4.33  ·  Rating details ·  764 ratings  ·  67 reviews
How do you know you're ready to trust again ... and what does it take to be ready? Painful relationships violate our trust, causing us to close our hearts. But to experience the freedom and love God designed us for, we eventually have to take another risk. In this breakthrough book, bestselling author Dr. John Townsend takes you beyond the pain of the past to discover how ...more
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Published September 6th 2011 by Zondervan
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Mar 24, 2014 rated it really liked it
Shelves: relationships
This latest volume in the Boundaries series is aimed at people who have serious trust issues after weathering difficult relationships. *raises hand* Townsend shares solid, practical tips for figuring out when you're ready to trust someone again, whether the other person is on the same page and worthy of your trust, when a relationship can be saved and when to cut your losses. His advice is applicable to all relationships, not only romantic ones (which he reiterates throughout the book). Beyond B ...more
Denise Harris-Farmer
Aug 17, 2015 rated it it was amazing
I am taking my time with this book. I want to be sure to be as healed as I can be by the time I am done. This book has opened my eyes to so many things I never ever thought of in my life that were factors of my pain. I have been in therapy for many years and this has just been a tool in aiding that process along. I suffer from many traumas. Such as PTSD from date rape, abandondment, fatal car accident, prescription drug abuse, sex addiction, ADHD and so much more. But this book is helping me hel ...more
Feb 21, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Great book! I'm constantly impressed with the anointing of wisdom on John Townsend and Henry Cloud. I've read most of their books, and find them to be especially adept at getting complex thoughts across in a simple, engaging manner. Full of easy to follow guidelines, real-life examples, and natural progression in the book, it makes growing up fun (or at least seem achievable and desirable). Highly recommend!
Jackie Mays
Nov 30, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition

Good thought process to objectively look at your relationships. Sometimes it is worth rekindling relationships you had previously walked away from....if both have matured and the relationship is beneficial.
Cali Bakker
This book is an excellent, focused look at boundaries in relationships and how to build trust. It reviews some of the key points of boundaries from the Boundaries book then delves more into the relationship respective of boundaries and how to heal, grieve, and build more healthy and fulfilling relationship boundaries.
Veronica Foley
Jan 10, 2020 rated it really liked it
Great advice and stories. Definitely would recommend!
Oct 31, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2018
One of my good friends sent me a copy of this book when I was going through my separation and divorce. I read it pretty quickly then but decided it deserved a more thorough review. I've spent the last six months working my way through it with a pen and a highlighter. This is not so much a self-help book and more about the psychology of why we let in the people who continuously take advantage of our boundaries. Written from a faith-based standpoint, Townsend helps you re-draw those boundary lines ...more
May 15, 2018 rated it really liked it
Townsend’s and Cloud’s impactful Boundaries was not well received by yours truly. Reading it in my last year of high school it seemed to be disconnected from the selfless, poured-out life of Christ. I didn’t want anything to do with a boundaried life.

That didn’t go so poorly for me through college and early in marriage. But when we jumped into ministry after seminary, cracks began to form and then it all came crashing down. It took several years, a lot of counseling, introspection, and rebuildi
Kadi Cole
Oct 13, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This is an amazing follow-up to the Boundaries book. Practical and insightful... it helps put those principles into action in everyday life after finally establishing boundaries. In many cases, unhealthy people have to stay in our lives - they are family, neighbors, coworkers, ex-spouses - and we have to navigate keeping healthy boundaries while still interacting with the person. This is the book to help with that process. I highly recommend it!
Feb 21, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I'm a big fan of Townsend and Cloud's writings. I intentionally read them so I might be a bit biased in my reviews!
Beyond boundaries is more of a sequel to the Boundaries book and if you're a relationship person, with need to make them more enhanced and effective; this book will not disappoint. I love how Dr Townsend's uses practical situations of day-to-day interaction to convey his message. There's a bit of humour in it also!
Oct 27, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Accidentally got this book when I was trying to get “Boundaries” by the same author. But this is a great book on picking and maintaining relationships. Highly recommend this book. Also written from a good Christian aspect. Will definitely go back and read Boundaries.
Pa Houa
Feb 25, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I read this after reading "boundaries" because the way the authors write, was very easy for me to read and follow. Also I enjoyed the concept of "boundaries" and wanted more of their ideas on the subject.
Jessica James
Jan 21, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book was everything I needed it to be! 🙌🏻 I had to read it slowly, as I underlined on almost every page. I will definitely use this as a reference and have already begun practicing some of the principles I learned from this book in my relationships. The Boundaries books have changed my life!
Jan 22, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: read-in-2020
A painful but good read. Discusses the problems of I, you, and we/us in relationships that are struggling. Got clear about the work I've done and what I need to do still. This is a great guide for working on difficult relationships.

A Edley
Apr 10, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Dr. Townsend pushes you out of your comfort zone in order for you to reach your relationship potential, as God designed. Not only maximizing a relationship with your spouse, but with yourself, family, friends, and work. Great read!
Esther Davenport
This is one of my favorite books for anyone who has ever experienced a deep disappointment or hurt in relationships. This book helps to reestablish boundaries and understand the importance of them in relationships that are dysfunctional.
Jan 01, 2018 rated it really liked it
Have found this very helpful with clients.
Bethe Wright
Feb 12, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I think everybody should read this book. It was practical and something I plan to refer back to again and again.
Mar 21, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I found this book to be extremely helpful and insightful.
Julie Winkler
Mar 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: study-guide
Perfect successor to Boundaries!
Emily Berlin
Aug 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Definitely a perspective changing book!
Edward Loduca
Dec 26, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Another great book in the Boundaries series. I especially like and am applying the concepts of how to know when another has changed and temporary boundaries can be set aside.
Nell Hall
Jan 23, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Amazing book!
Rita Bergen
Jun 23, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Excellent overview on how to recognize and develop safe relationships.
Brandon H.
I think the promo for this book describes it best -

In this breakthrough book, bestselling author Dr. John Townsend takes you beyond the pain of the past to discover how to re-enter a life of intimate relationships. Whether you’re trying to restore a current relationship or begin a new one, Townsend gives practical tools for establishing trust and finding the intimacy you long for. Beyond Boundaries will help you reinstate closeness with someone who broke your trust; discern when true change has
Jan 04, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Beyond Boundaries is a wonderful and informative book for how to take your relationships to the next level, whether that is a friendship, business partnership, romantic relationship or something else. Dr. Townsend gives you guidelines for how to know when you're ready, when the other person is ready, and how to proceed as well as warning signs to watch out for. What I particularly enjoy about Dr. Townsend's writing and especially in this book is that he always gives examples. He doesn't just tel ...more
Paige Gordon
Dec 22, 2016 rated it really liked it
In this follow up to the absolutely phenomenal book "Boundaries", Dr Townsend explores the signs you should look for in yourself and the other person when it's time to start removing some of your protective boundaries and begin trusting others in intimate relationship again. It is a highly encouraging read and one that will challenge you to (when appropriate), take the risk of developing intimate relationships with the right people. Definitely the right book for me at this time in my life and I ...more
Trish Izzo
Mar 13, 2012 rated it it was amazing
The original Boundaries book truly changed my life when I read it last year, and I am just as impressed with this book. I know I will have to read it again as I move toward more healthy relationships in my life.

I was surprised to see how many of the things I have been pondering were addressed in the book and had actual reasons behind them. This book was so helpful in understanding what I have been going through in my difficult relationships and how to heal from them and examine myself and other
Robert Bogue
Mar 27, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
As with my review of Boundaries, I had read Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships some time ago. I had held back posting a book review of it because I didn’t think that I was reading it for professional growth. However I realized that we have relationships in business that are sometimes more complex, confusing, and more difficult than other non-professional relationships. So I decided that you might like to know more about how relationships work and what you can do to impro ...more
Oct 12, 2012 rated it liked it
I didn't read the entire book, as much of it didn't pertain to what is happening in my life (i.e. marriage). But I did read the parts on trust - knowing when to trust again, and rebuilding relationships - signs of when to stay and when to walk away.

A great read for anyone that has in the past or is currently experiencing relationship problems. It helps you analyze when to let down your walls again. The book is somewhat based in religion, but it is not shoved down your throat (which I personally
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