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Beyond Boundaries: How To Know When It's Time To Risk Again

4.33  ·  Rating details ·  875 ratings  ·  76 reviews
How do you know you're ready to trust again ... and what does it take to be ready? Painful relationships violate our trust, causing us to close our hearts. But to experience the freedom and love God designed us for, we eventually have to take another risk. In this breakthrough book, bestselling author Dr. John Townsend takes you beyond the pain of the past to discover how ...more
Hardcover, 304 pages
Published September 6th 2011 by Zondervan
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Mar 24, 2014 rated it really liked it
Shelves: relationships
This latest volume in the Boundaries series is aimed at people who have serious trust issues after weathering difficult relationships. *raises hand* Townsend shares solid, practical tips for figuring out when you're ready to trust someone again, whether the other person is on the same page and worthy of your trust, when a relationship can be saved and when to cut your losses. His advice is applicable to all relationships, not only romantic ones (which he reiterates throughout the book). Beyond B ...more
Denise Harris-Farmer
Aug 17, 2015 rated it it was amazing
I am taking my time with this book. I want to be sure to be as healed as I can be by the time I am done. This book has opened my eyes to so many things I never ever thought of in my life that were factors of my pain. I have been in therapy for many years and this has just been a tool in aiding that process along. I suffer from many traumas. Such as PTSD from date rape, abandondment, fatal car accident, prescription drug abuse, sex addiction, ADHD and so much more. But this book is helping me hel ...more
Kristin Murray
Nov 07, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I enjoyed this more than the original Boundaries book and found it highly applicable and helpful.
Feb 21, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Great book! I'm constantly impressed with the anointing of wisdom on John Townsend and Henry Cloud. I've read most of their books, and find them to be especially adept at getting complex thoughts across in a simple, engaging manner. Full of easy to follow guidelines, real-life examples, and natural progression in the book, it makes growing up fun (or at least seem achievable and desirable). Highly recommend! ...more
Jackie Mays
Nov 30, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition

Good thought process to objectively look at your relationships. Sometimes it is worth rekindling relationships you had previously walked away from....if both have matured and the relationship is beneficial.
John Doyle
Mar 24, 2021 rated it it was amazing
Impressed and aided as I was by the original book on learning and being at peace with saying both ‘yes and no’, I bought this book awhile back. However, I only began to read it in earnest this last month and it was well worth the read. Dr. Townsend’s first book written along with Dr. Cloud on the theme of ‘boundaries’ has been a deeply impactful book for so many people (myself included), particularly for those Christians, who felt that though their wells were dry, they should just keep on trying ...more
Cali Bakker
This book is an excellent, focused look at boundaries in relationships and how to build trust. It reviews some of the key points of boundaries from the Boundaries book then delves more into the relationship respective of boundaries and how to heal, grieve, and build more healthy and fulfilling relationship boundaries.
Veronica Foley
Jan 10, 2020 rated it really liked it
Great advice and stories. Definitely would recommend!
Lecy Beth
Oct 31, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2018
One of my good friends sent me a copy of this book when I was going through my separation and divorce. I read it pretty quickly then but decided it deserved a more thorough review. I've spent the last six months working my way through it with a pen and a highlighter. This is not so much a self-help book and more about the psychology of why we let in the people who continuously take advantage of our boundaries. Written from a faith-based standpoint, Townsend helps you re-draw those boundary lines ...more
May 15, 2018 rated it really liked it
Townsend’s and Cloud’s impactful Boundaries was not well received by yours truly. Reading it in my last year of high school it seemed to be disconnected from the selfless, poured-out life of Christ. I didn’t want anything to do with a boundaried life.

That didn’t go so poorly for me through college and early in marriage. But when we jumped into ministry after seminary, cracks began to form and then it all came crashing down. It took several years, a lot of counseling, introspection, and rebuildi
Apr 08, 2021 rated it it was amazing
There has been a lot of self-discovery over the past five or so years and one theme has been how I did not do relationships well as a child and teen and now I am having to relearn or learn for the first time how to have good relationships.

I would describe myself as being a friendly person but I don't go deep with many people. A lot of my relational trauma is me putting too much onto other people and our relationship, but I also had my trust severely broken by an authority figure as a teen. I ha
Kadi Cole
Oct 13, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This is an amazing follow-up to the Boundaries book. Practical and insightful... it helps put those principles into action in everyday life after finally establishing boundaries. In many cases, unhealthy people have to stay in our lives - they are family, neighbors, coworkers, ex-spouses - and we have to navigate keeping healthy boundaries while still interacting with the person. This is the book to help with that process. I highly recommend it!
Feb 21, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I'm a big fan of Townsend and Cloud's writings. I intentionally read them so I might be a bit biased in my reviews!
Beyond boundaries is more of a sequel to the Boundaries book and if you're a relationship person, with need to make them more enhanced and effective; this book will not disappoint. I love how Dr Townsend's uses practical situations of day-to-day interaction to convey his message. There's a bit of humour in it also!
Connie Sue Ellis
Perhaps my most recommended book

It’s rare to find a roadmap for progression through a relationship! Whether it’s a friendship or a love story, it’s difficult to determine if or how to proceed and even more challenging to determine whether the bonds are healthy or not. This book has answers to those questions and more. It’s a must read for humans in relationships!
Oct 27, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Accidentally got this book when I was trying to get “Boundaries” by the same author. But this is a great book on picking and maintaining relationships. Highly recommend this book. Also written from a good Christian aspect. Will definitely go back and read Boundaries.
Pa Houa
Feb 25, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I read this after reading "boundaries" because the way the authors write, was very easy for me to read and follow. Also I enjoyed the concept of "boundaries" and wanted more of their ideas on the subject. ...more
Jessica James
Jan 21, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book was everything I needed it to be! 🙌🏻 I had to read it slowly, as I underlined on almost every page. I will definitely use this as a reference and have already begun practicing some of the principles I learned from this book in my relationships. The Boundaries books have changed my life!
Jan 22, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: read-in-2020
A painful but good read. Discusses the problems of I, you, and we/us in relationships that are struggling. Got clear about the work I've done and what I need to do still. This is a great guide for working on difficult relationships.

A Edley
Apr 10, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Dr. Townsend pushes you out of your comfort zone in order for you to reach your relationship potential, as God designed. Not only maximizing a relationship with your spouse, but with yourself, family, friends, and work. Great read!
Apr 21, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is one of my favorite books for anyone who has ever experienced a deep disappointment or hurt in relationships. This book helps to reestablish boundaries and understand the importance of them in relationships that are dysfunctional.
Sep 11, 2021 rated it liked it
Shelves: couldn-t-finish
I came to this with certain expectations and it just didn’t meet them. I was more interested in ‘how to trust better’ and 3/4 of the book was establishing ‘who to trust.’ I feel like that concept is already established in the general boundaries books.
Jan 01, 2018 rated it really liked it
Have found this very helpful with clients.
Bethe Wright
Feb 12, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I think everybody should read this book. It was practical and something I plan to refer back to again and again.
Mar 21, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I found this book to be extremely helpful and insightful.
Julie Winkler
Mar 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: study-guide
Perfect successor to Boundaries!
Emily Berlin
Aug 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Definitely a perspective changing book!
Edward Loduca
Dec 26, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Another great book in the Boundaries series. I especially like and am applying the concepts of how to know when another has changed and temporary boundaries can be set aside.
Nell Hall
Jan 23, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Amazing book!
Rita Bergen
Jun 23, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Excellent overview on how to recognize and develop safe relationships.
Kostya Lukyanenko
Sep 20, 2020 rated it really liked it
It’s a surprisingly good book. It really helps to think about relationship issues in a structured way, to take different perspectives, and motivates for actions.
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