Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God
In Love and Marriage, based on his most popular sermon series, New York Times-bestselling author Timothy Keller delivers an extraordinarily insightful look at the keys to happiness in marriage.
Eric: We've been doing this marriage thing WRONG for the past 20 years!!
Alice: Keller's book was that good, huh?
Has instantly become the first priority of my premarital and marital required reading lists. I have already planned to re-read it with Alice in the coming 3 months. I'm sooo excited to love my bride in a way that is richer and more glorious than anything we have tasted thus far. I actually leave the book so much more encouraged about what ...more
At first, I loved the book. Keller starts with an insightful analysis of the motives behind marriage (or the lack thereof) in contemporary America. Unlike previous generations, this generation sees marriage, if achieved, as 'self-realization': a relationship in which both partners are ideal, in need of no character development, and thus able to provide ce ...more
In the introduction, Tim describes he and his wife Kathy, in the early days of their courtship, gradually realizing "that the other was a rare fit for [their] hearts." They shared, he says, the "secret thread" that C.S. Lewis says makes people good friends: "You may have noticed that the books you really love are bound together by a secret thread. You know very well what is the common quality that makes you love them, though you cannot put it into words:...Are not all lifelong friend ...more
It's not just because of the marriage insights. [But those are great!] Great reminders and challenges for me, even though not all of it was new. But still, is it relevant to single people *now*? [or wait until you're married] YES, it is! The Meaning of Marriage is gospel-centric [which got my interest and inclined me toward reading it in the first place]. Keller frames marriage in the context of living out the gospel, that the gospel is truly what allows u ...more
In his book Altar Ego , Craig Groeschel said, "If you don't know the purpose of something, all you can do is misuse it." Sadly, I see huge numbers of people, many of them Christians, misusing marriage because they don't know its purpose. They not only misuse it once they get marrie ...more
The Kellers tag team through the book, discussing love, sex, and marriage. They offer the cultural narrative, the "Christian" one, and offer an insight to what the Bible really has to say. Instead of being heavy, the book is incredibly life-giving.
They talk about sex.
They talk about gender roles.
They talk about balancing expectations.
They talk about divor ...more
The front flyleaf of The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God makes a rather bold statement: "There has never been a book on marriage like The Meaning of Marriage." That seems a rather audacious assertion; but by the time I finished the book, I think I'd concede to read that claim on the back flyleaf, as well.
Many marriage books leave me scratching my head, banging my head, or really, really thankful I'm married to the man I am. This boo ...more
A quote that meant a lot to me in it is -
“One of the greatest expressions of love is the willingness to change.”
The book could have been shorter and filled with more interpretation of biblical text rather than excerpts of articles and research done by secular sociologists, but it gives good context to compare modern Westernized notions of marriage & compatibility versus what the bible says.
There is also a lot of repetition ...more
This book’s pedestrian language, simple structure, and clear arguments markets itself to the Christian who is not so much interested in the theology of marriage so much as the fundamentals of it. Think of this book as Mere Christianity but less interesting and longer than it should be. Good, not great.
Neither Keller is trying to gi ...more
A book I would recommend to anyone who wants to learn (and I need to stress this out - TO LEARN) how to do relationships, because nowadays everybody’s for him/herself and forget or simply don’t want to understand the needs of another.
My take from this book however is ...more
1) A clear and convincing assessment of our Western cultural values around sex, dating, and marriage. For example, he explores how people are increasingly and simultaneously cynical about marriage and idealistic about what they t ...more
But indeed a great book. Pulled me back to the harsh reality that marriage is abt two sinful human’s union that is meant to reflect the sacrificial and glorious relationship btn Jesus and the church. So it is not going to be easy. But also Tim Keller reminded me that with the holy spirit, it is going to be possible and joyous. Cos “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is perfected in weakness”. And His words are the truth and will never change.
Timothy Keller is the founding pastor of Redeemer Presbyterian Church in Manhattan, which he started in 1989 with his wife, Kathy, and three young sons. For over twenty years he has led a diverse congregation of young professionals that has grown to a weekly attendance of over 5,000.
He is also Chairman of Redeem ...more