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How to Be a Gentleman Revised and Updated: A Timely Guide to Timeless Manners

3.67  ·  Rating details ·  926 Ratings  ·  119 Reviews
Being a gentleman isn't just being a nice guy, or a considerate guy, or the type of guy someone might take home to meet their mother. A gentleman realizes that he has the unique opportunity to distinguish himself from the rest of the crowd. He knows when an email is appropriate, and when nothing less than a handwritten note will do. He knows how to dress on the golf course ...more
ebook, 240 pages
Published January 3rd 2012 by Thomas Nelson (first published January 1st 1998)
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Sep 30, 2007 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: intellectua
Its difficult for me to rate this book. I don't like part of its style, in that it simply describes 'what the gentleman ought to do' with alot less of the why than I would like. Manners are not esoteric rules that people memorize, they are the result of consistent courtesy and reflection about the best way to do things. They should be intelligible.

There is however another dimension to learning especially with behavior and relationships, and that is by observing or by doing (i.e. gentlemanly beh
Miguel Carrasquillo
An excellent reference to give as a gift to those friends or relatives who wants to be a better man. I'm please to had a father to teach me most of the manners and customs included in the book.
Andris Grāpēns
Well I was not impressed by this book. In this book there are a lot of examples that are out dated and nowadays are not actual but it is understandable because book was written almost 20 years ago. I got feeling that book was intended for British citizens and were not meant for wide variety of readers. Thou if you are looking for easy reading material and some tips for the first time then take it from shelf and read it.
Nov 27, 2011 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: my-ebooks, how-to
1. A gentleman says "please" and "thank you," readily and often.
2. A gentleman does not disparage the beliefs of others-whether they relate to matters of faith, politics, or sports teams.
3. A gentleman always carries a handkerchief, and is ready to lend it, especially to a weeping lady, should the need arise.
4. A gentleman never allows a door to slam in the face of another personmale or female, young or old, absolute stranger or longtime best friend.
5. A gentleman does not make jokes about race,
Dec 02, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
How to be a Gentleman by John Bridges is overall a interesting and enjoying book. One positive aspect of the book is the fact that it is not written as a normal book; instead, it is written as a guide with steps, pictures and short paragraphs. This makes the book a lot more enjoyable because the book does not take a lecture approach, but instead a more friendly approach.Another pro of this book is that whenever it uses sophisticated or advanced language it explains the meaning of the word.
Chris Pariseau
Apr 01, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I just want to say that I am a fan of this etiquette-type literature (so I am a bit biased), not so much because I take it as literal rules to live by (I think people should live exactly as they wish at parties and elsewhere-- this is what makes life such an adventure.), but because I find the arbitrariness and randomness of some of the rules in these books completely hilarious. When Bridges follows something that sounds somewhat serious and practical ("A gentleman always lets his suit jacket sp ...more
May 18, 2007 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I seriously read this while I was bored in a Mississippi living room. It's a great reminder of why upper class white Southern people are the most boring people imaginable... if only I needed reminders?
Leopold Benedict
Aug 19, 2016 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-help, nonfiction
A guide to be a Gentleman with a lot of silly rules. But still it is important to note that good manners have not become obsolete.
Dec 23, 2014 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Mis neuronas se sienten insultadas.
Aug 12, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Simply put....everyone should at least go through this book once.
Jason Jones
Aug 06, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Essential reading.
Luca Conti
Jul 31, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
Good to know
Hezekiah Brown
May 09, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is a helpful and short introduction to common etiquette for men. Although some of the cellphone use information is outdated, overall it is very useful.
Ryan Munguia
Nov 01, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2016
A must read for every modern gentleman
Nov 27, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I remember when my brother saw this book on my shelf. "Oh, no" he exclaimed, "Tell me you didn't buy this book!" Of course, I did, because my perusal in the store lent itself to that end.

And I was pleasantly surprised when I sat down to read the whole thing. Bridges doesn't just give rules about what to do and what not to do, although a first glance might lead to that conclusion. Being a gentleman is not about rules. It is, as Bridges observes, "about making life easier and making others comfort
Alex Trenchea
Have you ever fiind yourself in a situation where common sense does not offer you a pertinent solution out of an embarrassing situation? Reading a book like this will surely put an ease some of your concerns. In a world were people tend to be more self absorbed than ever this book reminds us how important it is to be kind and attentive to everyone around us. The style in which the book is written may seem a bit controversial, giving you the impression that you are reading a bunch of math formula ...more
Jacob O'connor
Feb 16, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I took my father-in-law to see Kingsmen. That turned out to be less than wise, but the premise got me thinking. The idea of being a gentleman is passe, but the movie, if nothing else, makes it attractive. So I grabbed this book.

John Bridges has written a book on etiquette, and I recommend it. We're more confident when we know what to do in social situations, and courtesy and manners are always a good thing. As I look back, society has trained me to be brash, egotistical, and boorish. A dinner p
Kweku Ananse
Feb 12, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I didn't know becoming a gentleman was this easy. Will definitely read again.
Sep 25, 2013 marked it as must-read-slash-wishlist  ·  review of another edition
I skimmed through this on Booksale and had to keep myself from laughing out loud and encouraging people's judgmental stares.

I could think of a few men who need to learn from this book. Sure, some advice are common sense, but common sense really isn't that common. I had an itch to buy this and give this to a guy I know, but I'm sure he isn't worth the effort money.

Some snippets:
1. A gentleman says "please" and "thank you," readily and often.
2. A gentleman does not disparage the beliefs of others-
Huma Rashid
I'm not a gentleman, but I *am* curious. I read this book on a whim, just to see what it had to say. It's a solid text filled with pithy little notes, and longer explanations as necessary, and even some helpful diagrams about things like how to tie a bowtie. A quick, easy read (even though I didn't agree with everything in it - serious political differences, for example, are a great reason to decline an invitation to the White House) full of rules of conduct that I wish more men would abide by. ...more
Bookworm Amir
Most things didn't really apply to me because of my young age (and also sometimes due to religion) For example a lesson in wine - in no will I be drinking wine at this age and faith.

I wouldn't say the courtesies outlined in this book were all-encompassing (it was a short read). I think this is more of an addition to Other How To Be a GentleMan books. Most of the articles also will probably not apply to young men - more like those in their prime (25-45 years old).

But again, I got this book from
Nov 11, 2012 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
When I was in college, I used to subscribe to Esquire, and back in those days (late 70s, early 80s), it contained short bits on how men were expected to behave. I rather liked them, and I definitely got something out of them. Most of the rest of what I know about how to behave, I picked up from reading many, many novels.

That being said, I don't feel like I got a lot out of this book, reading it at 50. As the author acknowledges, most of behavior is determined based on consideration for others, s
Dustin Blanton
Written primarily as a series of brief, axiomatic statements about what a gentleman does and does not do, 'How to be a Gentleman' by Bridges provides some updated insight into proper etiquette and how to make others feel comfortable in one's presence.

For those who are interested in new ways to be polite and make the people around them feel comfortable and happy, this book will have a few key insights that may be useful tucked in among a great deal of advice that we all (hopefully) learned growin
Josh Hamacher
This short volume is intended to be a primer on gentlemanly behavior. It's organized as a collection of short pithy comments and guidelines with very little depth.

Much of the advice boils down to common sense and should be a review for most people. But I definitely had my share of "ah-ha!" moments, when I realized I had just never adequately thought through a situation before and was not behaving appropriately. I suspect all but the most refined of readers would have similar moments of discovery
Apr 04, 2013 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
A dry, basic guide to manners. Good enough for what it is and smartly organized, Bridges dishes solid advice on how to be a modern day gentleman. Even though I think a lot of what this book has to say is common knowledge, I guess if it truly was common then we wouldn't need this book in the first place. I enjoyed the example dialog that illustrates the point Bridges is making in each section, as it comes off as a little cheesy and humorous. This book is clearly meant for people with an upper cla ...more
Oct 13, 2013 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
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Over a 3.5 avg rating? Mom, Dad I owe you Big Time! I don't want to come off as a know it all or perfect gentleman but I found this to be a collection of very basic and common sense etiquette. I gained very little (if anything) from this book.
I gave it two stars because I see it maybe useful for boys or men who weren't as fortunate to learn the basics growing up, or lack common sense, or those that don't know how to be respectful, treat their mothers poorly etc. It is, if nothing, thorough. Do
Apr 30, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I learned useful tidbits such as "anytime a person can identify the brand of scent that a man is wearing, he is wearing too much."
Also "if the food set before him is intended to be eaten piping-hot (or icy cold), and if a gentleman is the first person to be served at his table, he waits for one other person to be served, and then he begins to eat."
It has a light, practical tone with snippets of advice instead of long lists of rules. The book intends to help the gentleman behave in a way that
Aug 24, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-help, 2000s
Half advice on how not to be a dick which should be self evident, half tips about manners which are oudated and pointless. That sounds cynical but its actually pleasing to read. It tells "what a gentleman" would do under various stressors and situations. You get to ask yourself "what do/would I do in this scenario, and therefore am I a gentleman?" Im guessing its meant to be picked up randomly and flipped though for a while, not really "read" in the normal sense. A bathroom book, or a side table ...more
Jun 02, 2011 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
A useful reference when you are in a pinch. Fits well in your suit or tuxedo jacket pocket, and small enough to be inconspicuous when you pull it out in the middle of the wedding before saying "I Do", just to make sure you are standing with the proper posture.

No, this really is a good reference, I simply don't agree with everything that high society rigidness puts out there as proper. It's probably my fault for growing up in California Casual.
Apr 26, 2007 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-improvement
All in all, a mixed bag. There's some fantastic advice in this book, such as "When a gentleman wants his guests to leave, he simply puts the liquor away," some common-sense advice that will only come as news to complete boors, such as "A gentleman never uses a toast to ridicule or embarrass a friend," but also some really weird stuff that I will never do, such as "A gentleman always tucks his undershirt into his underwear." TMI, John Bridges.
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