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Exhibitionism for the Shy

3.98  ·  Rating details ·  184 ratings  ·  15 reviews
Down There Press authors have been answering that question for twenty-five years! From Joani Blank's Good Vibrations "RM" bringing to light the sexual potential of "personal massagers", to Jack Morin's still the-only-one-of-its-kind Anal Pleasure & Health, to Susie Bright's genre-launching Herotica "RM", San Francisco's oldest publisher of award-winning sex-positive books ...more
Paperback, 100 pages
Published February 25th 2015 by Down There Press (first published January 1995)
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May 13, 2008 rated it it was ok
Recommends it for: budding sex nerds
"What I learned from this book": that I'm not really that shy.
Jun 22, 2007 rated it liked it
Recommends it for: shy people who still wan to have sex
This book offers shy folks a lot of good tips for coming out of their sexual shell.

Here's what I wrote about it in my women's sexuality reading list:

Carol Queen rocks! She is sex positive to a delightful extreme. In this how-to manual, she starts by telling us "How I Became Bold." She uses the rest of the chapters to tell us how we can become sexually bold too. Carols says, "The whole aim of this book is to help you identify things you'd like to try, even if the idea of doing so frightens you a
Aug 26, 2007 marked it as to-read
Shelves: sexandculture
Halfway read. Quite interesting and informative for those who are just getting into or want to get into experimenting with their sexual practices. Includes all kinds of very practical issues like dealing with emotions, talking with partners, etc.

I found it less useful for shy exhibitionists who are well read in sex-positivity, but useful as long as you know when to skip a paragraph or two.
This book was another interesting one for me, as it is outside the realm of what I would consider my "usual" reading material. Overall I liked it, and though I had some hesitations about parts of it, I think in general it was a good book with some helpful knowledge and ideas for more fully exploring your sexuality and figuring out what in the realm of sex appeals to you. The book is not aimed at any particular gender or sexuality, and is meant to help anyone who might be feeling shy about sex.

Mar 28, 2014 rated it it was amazing
This book is excellent. Unless you're a paragon of sexual boldness, I think you will find it incredibly helpful. Not only will the book stoke your sexual confidence, but I believe heeding its advice will actually make any woman (or possibly man) sexier. Queen defines exhibitionism as "deliberately presenting yourself in an erotic way for your own enhanced sexual arousal." And it doesn't require any degree of public exposure -- "you can be a sexual show-off even if no one ever sees you." Queen ma ...more
Jun 30, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: dnf, sexuality
I really liked this book. It gave me lots of ideas on how to be less reserved and more adjectives to work with. Ms. Queen lost me around the chapter on personas but that's because personas are a little more indepth than I'm ready for right now but I will keep the book as an excellent reference source. It will help me embrace my nerve. What I liked most about this book is that I felt like it was realistic. Let your exhibitionism be based in who you are. That was terrific advise for me and it's ho ...more
Angela Wade
I'm going to call this The Little Book of Self-Esteem. If you have even a smidgeon of doubt regarding your sexual self, this will likely help, plus it's so darn fun to read! Lots of ideas to spice up not only your outside relationships, but also (and most importantly) your relationship with yourself.
This book is not about exhibitionism in the non-consensual clinical sense. Instead Carol Queen offers plenty of advice and tips to help the sexually timid emerge from their shells by themselves and with partners. I am not that shy, but there were some fun ideas for generating conversations and sharing ideas with a lover that I found useful.
Aug 25, 2007 rated it liked it
Shelves: sexualities
I love Carol Queen's writing so I snapped this book up, but I guess I'm really not very shy so I didn't find it personally useful.
Still, if you are looking for a little spice, it's always nice to read Carol's no-nonsense approach to sexuality in various forms.
Aug 17, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Most Adults
Recommended to Nick by: My eyes
There is something to be said for this book. It is a book that is for everyone. I think that I won't try most of what I read, which only made the book all the more informative. It's something to ponder.
Kate Vassar
Sep 23, 2008 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction
This book was a lot of help in my journey away from timidity.
Dec 07, 2007 rated it liked it
I've used the list of dirty words in the appendix as a reference when writing dirty stories.
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Carol Queen is an American author, editor, sociologist and sexologist active in the sex-positive feminism movement. Queen has written on human sexuality in books such as Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture. She has written a sex tutorial, Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot, as well as erotica, such as the novel The Leather Daddy and the Femme. Queen has ...more

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