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Making Peace with Autism: One Family's Story of Struggle, Discovery, and Unexpected Gifts

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a diagnosis of autism is a major crisis for parents and families, who often
feel as if their world has come to an end. In this insightful narrative, a
courageous and inspiring mother explains why a diagnosis of autism doesn't have
to shatter a family's dreams of happiness. Senator offers the hard-won,
in-the-trenches wisdom of someone who's been there and is still the

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Published June 17th 2011 by Shambhala Publications, Inc. (first published August 30th 2005)
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what i appreciate most about this book is that it honestly looks at a family with a difficult case of autism, and doesn't shy away from any of the difficult things, or any of the easy things. senator takes joy in the small things and gets frustrated with some small things, and all in all you know she's telling the truth.

she doesn't candy-coat any of it - nat is a difficult child and they have to work hard with him. i also appreciate the fact that i can understand now why families with one devel
My only child is on the autism spectrum so for several years after his diagnosis I read scientific documents on autism and books on various therapies. What I could not stand to read were the "triumph over autism," "my child is such a quirky genius," " we are such a great family" memoirs. This genre did nothing for me except to trigger my feelings of inadequacy as a parent as well as my guilt over not being able to feel love for this difficult little boy I had birthed. But something about this ti ...more
Apr 18, 2008 Kathy rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
One of the most brutally honest books I've read...the author's first child is diagnosed as autistic at age 2 although she suspects/denies his condition for over a year beforehand. This is definitely a how-to guide for parents of autistic children with lots of specific advice in separate boxes on the page about things that have worked for Susan Senator's family. I was most impressed by her openness about her feelings and how she & her husband worked through them. She was able to convey her de ...more
Jul 09, 2008 Minette rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Stunning, captivating, and insightful. This true story of a mother desperately attempting to connect to her autistic son is one I'll be reading again. She also gives very useful tips on how to cope with any given situation. A must-read. A must-have.
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Jan 03, 2012 Rachel rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: psychology-brain
The author is very frank about her feelings and experiences with her autistic son. She obviously loves him and has done a creditable job as the parent of a difficult, disabled, and mystifying kid. But she is often annoying. She takes her upper-middle-class privileged life very much for granted. She also slips into a Pollyanna-ish attitude of "Yes, we've had problems, but we figured it all out and are so very happy and functional now." (My guess is that she's always had that attitude between cris ...more
Ruth Conrad
Susan Senator is a good writer and a good mother to her three sons, one of whom has autism. I like her informative, easy-to-read style and her honesty in sharing all the every-day events of her difficult life. I admire what she has accomplished.
Jan 21, 2014 Sarah-may rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Gave me lots of good ideas to try with our son. Was easy to identify with her being a mum to 3 boys and how to juggles the needs of all and maintain a marriage.
Jul 24, 2017 Melissa rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
At first, I really liked this book. I felt like I could relate to this woman very much as some of her feelings when she first found out about the diagnosis were the same as mine. As I move along in the book though, I became disheartened by some of the attitudes regarding her self image and her time when she spoke of her oldest this child. She was embarrassed and over apologetic at one point, but eager to use his disability to her advantage in another. I appreciated her hard work toward her son's ...more
Aug 06, 2016 Mops rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Autism Families and overall community
Shelves: autism
Making peace with autism was an important read for me. As an Autism mom I felt a strong connection with the author, and her journey. From denial to acceptance. The uncompromising, fierce wish for making our family work and giving our children the best possible foundation for a happy adulthood. It helps that her writing is passionate, strong, yet sober - considering what is at stake. What a good pen! I am thoroughly impressed, and can see that her blog has the same intensity - highly recommended. ...more
Jan 27, 2015 Dolcie rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Susan Senator’s Making Peace with Autism: One family’s story of struggle, discovery, and unexpected gifts is a story about a family’s unique experience with autism from the mother’s point of view. From dealing with the gut-wrenching feeling that something was not right with her son, to the heartbreaking diagnosis, the arduous process of finding the most efficacious interventions, the exhausting behaviors that wreak havoc on the family, and even on to acceptance of life with autism, Senator deliv ...more
William Cunion
Aug 05, 2012 William Cunion rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Memoir of one family’s (very familiar) struggle with autism, and how they have (partially) come to terms with it. Well-written book, with lots of poignant moments, though some violations of privacy IMO, also. The story sometimes feels a little too personal – like she could have told their story without revealing quite so much about their lives (e.g., her husband’s therapy, her son’s issues with “privacy,” and the like). But on balance, a fine book, with a very strong closing chapter. As she desc ...more
Linda M
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Carol C
It's hard to separate my feelings for this book from my personal experience. It's not that my son is so much like the author's son, but that many of our experiences in the early days (just before and after diagnosis of an autism spectrum disorder) are similar. As the saying goes, "When you know one child with autism, you know one child with autism." Each child is so different, but parental experience often seem so much the same. So, it was interesting to read of and relate to the author's experi ...more
Sep 21, 2010 Sarah rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I was hoping for more, but can't say what was missing.
This family has financial resources to buy support many of us don't have. This is great for her son, but not helpful advice for other families that have to work the system to get help for their children.
Around page 200, found some similarities to our own life. You do gain insight from how siblings explain each other. In the end, no one's life is perfect and you play the hand you're dealt as best you can.
I will check out her "survival guide"
Feb 08, 2017 Meaghan rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Wonderful insight into my work. Simply written.
Melissa Wilson
The family's story wasn't very helpful to me, but that's just me.

The parts that were helpful where boxed and shaded gray through out the book.

"How to prepare fr IEP meetings, how to handle the initial school placement, what the family learned from school placements, how to set up tutoring in the home, deciding on whether or not to use medication, tips on leaving your child with others, suggestions on finding the right school program for your child, how to cover your bases when you child is sent
Jun 21, 2008 Aubrey rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoir, parenting, own
This was not one of those quick-cure books where with the right diet, drug or 12-step behavior program autism is solved. Instead we get to see how a family struggles to mitigate their son's autism as much as possible. We see how he relates to his younger brothers and the outside world. I felt like I found a lot of insight here, and practical help, should I ever need it.
mother's description of life with a son with autism. spans from her pregnancy to his adolescence and involves her marriage and two younger sons who do not have autism. candid. helpful for understanding of how parents of children with autism struggle and cope.
Hiroshi Miya
Oct 11, 2013 Hiroshi Miya rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I have aspergers and felt I could relate to this book so well. Trying to learn and understand people and lifes challenges is hard for one with a ASD.
Families struggle to raise a autistic child and this author was able to express the challenges vwry well.
Feb 28, 2012 Pamela rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Informative perspective of a mother dealing with her child being diagnosed with Autism. Helpful information to other parents and families on how to navigate school systems, IEP language, and special programs.
Alicia Hart
Aug 20, 2012 Alicia Hart rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This was one of the first books I had ever read about autism after my son was diagnosed. I loved it then and I love it now. It is a timeless piece and one of the reasons that I still follow Susan's work today!
Deshia Cook
Yes! I finished it. This book was informative and encouraging. It was definitely a useful tool in helping a person with autism.
Jan Cuadra
Feb 21, 2013 Jan Cuadra rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Very realistic account of living with autism. Could not stop reading this book.
Toria Burrell-Hrencecin
Very helpful, well-written, honest + poignant.
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