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Sex, Love and Your Personality: The Nine Faces of Intimacy
This volume describes in detail the sex and love problems commonly encountered by each of the nine basic personality types. It is also the first to offer a field-tested assessment tool for predicting whether a particular intimate relationship is likely to endure and/or be satisfying.
354 pages, Paperback
First published June 17, 2011
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November 16, 2016
Useful, accessible but not remarkable.
July 10, 2019
Fascinating perspective on how the enneagram intersects with intimate relationships. Coates’ analysis of the five factors for evaluating the health of a relationship (lovemap, levels of psychological health, subtype match, sharing a connecting line, and harmonic triads) provides a useful window into evaluating where issues might appear in relationships. Some of the case studies in this book were interesting, some are not, but this provided great insight into evaluating relationships.
December 13, 2019
So helpful in understanding yourself and your partners motivation and style of obtaining long lasting love.
July 5, 2013
3.5 STARS
Enneagram demonstrated via 54 case studies. Very useful for understanding the basics of this system, as well the way it works out in the real life.
She posits 5 factors determine relationship success: compatible love map, enneagram health level, same instinct type, being in same harmonic triad or on lines of dis/integration. I agree this may be the case when people are unself-aware or lack skills in dealing with their own and others feelings, therefore runs blindly upon pre-laid tracks of well-described by the Enneagram.
However, in my experience it is possibly to transcend the limitations placed upon us in ALL 5 factors -- a point I wish she emphasized more. Self-knowledge, self-work, mutual respect, communication, compassion, kindness, unconditional love ... are still of fundamental importance.
Therefore, very useful as illustration of the Enneagram as a system. Not meant for self-growth or any spiritual development. Recommended.
Enneagram demonstrated via 54 case studies. Very useful for understanding the basics of this system, as well the way it works out in the real life.
She posits 5 factors determine relationship success: compatible love map, enneagram health level, same instinct type, being in same harmonic triad or on lines of dis/integration. I agree this may be the case when people are unself-aware or lack skills in dealing with their own and others feelings, therefore runs blindly upon pre-laid tracks of well-described by the Enneagram.
However, in my experience it is possibly to transcend the limitations placed upon us in ALL 5 factors -- a point I wish she emphasized more. Self-knowledge, self-work, mutual respect, communication, compassion, kindness, unconditional love ... are still of fundamental importance.
Therefore, very useful as illustration of the Enneagram as a system. Not meant for self-growth or any spiritual development. Recommended.
October 18, 2013
Very useful to gaining some self-awareness.
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