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Getting Past Your Past: Take Control of Your Life with Self-Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy

4.06  ·  Rating details ·  1,048 ratings  ·  89 reviews
A totally accessible user’s guide from the creator of a scientifically proven form of psychotherapy
for healing ailments ranging from PTSD to minor anxiety and depression

Whether we’ve experienced small setbacks or major traumas, we are all influenced by memories and
experiences we may not remember or don’t fully understand. When we are stuck, talk therapy often fails to
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Hardcover, 344 pages
Published February 28th 2012 by Rodale Books (first published January 1st 2012)
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Katie
Jun 24, 2015 rated it liked it
Shelves: psychology
I usually don't really like self-help books very much, but a friend recommended this to me after we had a conversation about EMDR therapy. It's a very interesting idea. Francine Shapiro discovered that traumatic experiences often caused problems for people down the line because they had been improperly processed - instead of storing them so that they could be used as a learning experience and placed within a healthy context, the trauma overwhelmed the brain's typical processing system. She also ...more
Morgan Blackledge
Jul 04, 2015 rated it really liked it
Getting Past Your Past is about trauma, PTSD and an exciting (if controversial) treatment modality (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) that reportedly gets very rapid, very dramatically effective results where other trauma treatments fail.

I have mixed feelings about this book. It's such an important subject. I have a very positive personal experience with Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR). But it's not (in my humble opinion) very well written. So I didn't find
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Hester Rathbone
Jun 04, 2014 rated it liked it
Shelves: borrowed
I read this book for work, about a month after getting trained in how to use EMDR (the psychotherapy technique this book focuses on). This had been on our suggested reading list before the training, but I'm happy that I read it after. A lot of the techniques made much more sense having some basis and training in them.

There are parts of this book that I appreciated as a clinician - particularly in the early chapters, it gives a good sense of what happens that can make past memories an
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Sarah Goodner
I've spent nearly my entire adulthood in therapy, trying to get past the first 15 years of my life. If someone had introduced me to EMDR 30 years ago, I think my path might have been much different. I could have skipped the painful self-sabotaging addictions, multiple divorces, always choosing the wrong men, etc., etc. This shit is like magic. Seriously. It's so simple, it seems stupid. But it WORKS.

So many of my triggers are gone now, neatly put away on a shelf in their proper order
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Rose Boyer
Apr 07, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2015-books
I like this book a lot and am going to read it again. The issue I had in the beginning was the occurrence of disturbing thoughts that came up by attempting to use the techniques. After getting a therapist and working through unprocessed memories I was able to return and read the rest of this book. It was a little over two years later. I wouldn't actually recommend this book to anyone who knows they have significant trauma. I would suggest figuring out a way to get therapy first. Today I am in a ...more
Amy  Katherine Wolff
May 10, 2012 rated it really liked it
I found this book very interesting. While I have had some sessions of EMDR and found those sessions to be successful, and reading this book helped me further understand EMDR, it raised questions for me too.

The way EMDR is presented in this book makes it sound like it is a basic "cure-all". It almost sounds too good to be true. This is where I become conflicted, as I have benefited personally from EMDR therapy, but I've found myself (as I read the book) emailing my counselor (who is t
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Alvin
Apr 05, 2019 rated it liked it
This book was required reading for an EMDR course I’m about to take. I’m still skeptical but looking forward to include this as a part of my practice. The book has a good overview about trauma and EMDR and lays out good arguments and support. The examples were helpful but I felt there were way too many.
Tammy
Sep 29, 2013 rated it liked it
Shelves: self-help
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Tami
May 03, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Dr. Shapiro is the founder of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Therapy. This form of therapy looks at the events that cause specific emotional or physical reactions and traces these triggers back to the root cause. Then, using guided imagery, these unresolved events are processed.

EMDR Therapy is surprizing simple but the effects are phenomenal. It’s interesting to see how an unprocessed childhood memory, trauma, or simple misunderstanding can lead to unhealthy patterns and u
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Jerry Lane
Apr 01, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Really amazing that she's unveiling so much. In fact I'm surprised that she's telling this much. However she does a good job of informed consent I think recommending seeing a therapist for people who experience discomfort or distress when doing some processing on their own. There is some concern that not everyone will be able to find a trained clinician however. As a newly trained clinician this has helped solidify my experience though.
Wendy LaCapra
Oct 15, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: non-fiction
Years of therapy are behind me, but on occasion I still find myself neck deep in oppressive anxiety. I first read about EMDR in The Body Keeps the Score and wanted a deeper understanding. I wish I had found this book years ago. This is an excellent book full of helpful suggestions.
Cindy Mccoy
Apr 25, 2014 rated it really liked it
Recommended to read before first time EMDR session. Easy read and the excercises were helpful. I learned about myself. I had to take breaks from reading because my thoughts were overwhelmed with memories and feelings.
Colette Fehr
Jun 01, 2013 rated it really liked it
Very good book fro the lay person on an introduction to EMDR concepts and how we respond to and heal from trauma.
Maria Virginia
Jun 21, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Frankly, I think every adult should read this book as it shows us how unprocessed memories from our past affect our perceptions and behaviors. As you read, you will learn if you can apply EMDR therapy to yourself, or if, due to deeper traumatic events in your life, you need to seek clinical EMDR therapy from a quality and qualified professional. Check out my full book review here: https://saintsandrecipes.com/getting-....
Darrell McCauley
Mar 23, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: mental-health
Provided a clear picture of the basis and approach used in eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR).
Ned
Mar 19, 2019 rated it it was amazing
The book describes the Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy. The author is the inventor of this therapy and explains the reasoning why it helps and the way it works. Namely, by processing memories in the past you are ready to move forward and get rid of the belief/fears/thoughts that hold you back. The real gem of the book is the plethora of examples that are provided in the book. Each example is an indicator or at least provides some ground to think about things that mig ...more
Cheryl Bradshaw
Feb 26, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: mental-health
A book that can make the ideas from EMDR accessible to everyone - if you are thinking of trying this therapy (highly recommend!) then start with this book. It can save you time (and money) when then sitting down with your therapist when you're ready to start in-session work. Definitely something every person should have a look at when they are ready to tackle the big things from their past.
Nicole Perry
Dec 31, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: psychology
I'm starting to notice a trend in the books I appreciate most. They often include unique experiential exercises to try out to support healing. This is what I love so much about this book. After trying the techniques out of myself, I wrote them out and tried a few out with clients, and overall people really seemed to like them.

The exercises are geared strongly toward folks who feel like their past is still running their lives - whether in the form of visual flashbacks, feelings of overwhelm, pai
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William Schram
Jun 09, 2018 rated it really liked it
Getting Past Your Past by Dr. Francine Shapiro utilizes Eye Movement Desensitization and Remodeling (EMDR) therapy to help you overcome your struggles. My first impression is one of confusion because I don’t actually know what EMDR is. However, it does sound quite interesting so I continue reading.

The idea of EMDR is to allow yourself to process memories or sensations that might be affecting your cognition in the present. It is based on the idea of digesting experiences when you slee
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Brittany
Feb 15, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: psychology
I appreciated the fact that this book didn't feel like a manual and wasn't bogged down by research. It was an easy read that was interesting. The author spoke about how she came up with EMDR and how it transformed into a therapy that is helpful to many people all over the world. I found it interesting to read about each of the case studies that were presented though out the book. It made the concepts easier to understand by looking at them through the examples of clients of the authors and her c ...more
Kathy
Feb 13, 2013 rated it it was amazing
I am finding this book interesting. It was written by the person who founded this therapy, Francie Shapiro and delves into many different aspects of "problem" area that could be addressed by this therapy. These range anywhere from pyschosomatic areas such as phantom limb pain to relationship issues, etc.

She also gives techniques to follow, self help steps, etc. which are very useful.

All in all, not a cure all, like she claims but interesting theory of how unprocessed memories (belie
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Tom Britz
Feb 09, 2019 rated it really liked it
This is a good read for those that want to learn about EMDR and how it can help trauma survivors. It gives a lot of short personal stories to illustrate various aspects of EMDR and how it was able to help. However Francine Shapiro (the "inventor" of EMDR) makes it sound like EMDR has flourished throughout the world. I live near a large city and when I tried to contact someone, I found that they were few and far between, or wouldn't accept my insurance. Though the title proclaims to be a guide fo ...more
Phillip
Sep 21, 2018 rated it it was amazing
As both a clinician and a person of color, I find “mental wellness” to be a precarious endeavor. It isn’t hard to see the stories people tell themselves about themselves keeping them stuck in Groundhog Day-like state, experiencing the same old pain and missing out on their hearts greatest desires. I heard Deb Kennard, my EMDR trainer, say “anything that prevents you from being a shining start is either a memory or a lie.” I think this book supports her premise. This book makes EMDR accessible to ...more
Shalma M
Feb 17, 2015 rated it really liked it
Recommended to Shalma by: My therapist
I know there is a lot of doubt about this particular type of therapy. But, in my experience, this is pretty effective stuff. There is no magical solution to trauma, but I definitely am thankful to have found a wonderful therapist who worked with me using EMDR. It really has helped me. The book was recommended by my therapist when I asked her to explain EMDR to me during our first session. I think working in conjunction with a therapist is far more effective than using the book alone (as a workbo ...more
Solita
Jun 09, 2013 rated it it was ok
I'm not sure I buy it. REM during sleep is caused by dreaming, not the other way around. It's the thoughts while sleeping, the dreaming, the brain activity, that causes REM, the rapid eye movement. So, I don't believe intentional rapid eye movement can create thoughts or memories to rise. However, if this technique works for some people, who am I to argue? The most interesting idea I came across is that a memory of an experience must be fully processed and if it isn't it becomes an unconscious i ...more
Nathalie
May 17, 2012 rated it really liked it
About the scientifically proven technique of EMDR, currently used by the US Defense on veterans with PTSD. EMDR allows you to finish the processing of unresolved past events so that they no longer get in your way. She explains why we often have knee jerk reactions to certain triggers/events that we sometimes cannot control despite efforts at the conscious level and shows EMDR techniques to resolve them.
Regina
Apr 28, 2015 rated it it was amazing
This book was given to me from a very special person who also helped me to practice the EMDR technique in a very simpler way that I can easily practice by myself. Francine Shapiro helped the reader to find a way (which there is always a way) to have a better perspective of life no matter how strong the trauma has haunted our life. For any difficulties we found in reading this book, I strongly suggest to contact a professional EMDR practitioner.
LemontreeLime
Aug 02, 2014 rated it liked it
Interesting concept, that our unresolved or unprocessed memories are the culprit behind the majority of our issues. And it questions just how widespread and how far PSTD reaches into even everyday 'small' problems, which then in turn causes worse situations later on. Will wait to decide until after more research is done. If EMDR therapy is helping people, great! but still would like to see more research on this short form of the talking cure...
Dana
Sep 20, 2014 rated it really liked it
A self-help book that is based on actual cases and research (rather than mere optimistic theorizing by some PhD). Guaranteed to bring up things that snag you emotionally (if there are any), and likely to help you de-snag yourself... OR identify those events with which you could use help from a trained professional. Case studies are entertaining and the author's tone is professional, cautionary AND encouraging.
Stacy
Dec 17, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: stacy, health
I read this book to help me process an devastating flood from my childhood that I didn't realize traumatized me until recently. The explantions of how we can be stuck in unprocessed emotions from the past, and the exercises to address these and other emotional responses I was stuck in, were extremely helpful to me. If you find yourself inexplicably emotional in your reaction to something, and don't understand why, you might find this book helpful, too.
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