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Dead to You

3.67  ·  Rating details ·  8,185 ratings  ·  1,559 reviews
Some memories are better left untouched.

Ethan was abducted from his front yard when he was just seven years old. Now, at sixteen, he has returned to his family.

It's a miracle... at first.

Then the tensions start to build. His reintroduction to his old life isn't going smoothly, and his family is tearing apart all over again. If only Ethan could remember something, anything,
Hardcover, 243 pages
Published February 7th 2012 by Simon Pulse (first published February 7th 2010)
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Aj the Ravenous Reader
Feb 16, 2015 rated it really liked it

This is a very rare and unique YA story of a young man's battle with his own identity. How often do you get to read about a teenage boy who was abducted at age seven and then gets returned to his family nine years later? The story's premise alone is already very interesting
and Ethan's character is very easy to like. You can’t help but sympathize with him.

As the reader, you would want to guarantee that Ethan's life after he's reconciled with his family will be as comfortable and as easy as possi
Mar 07, 2012 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Ethan was abducted at the age of 7 and was raised by a woman who abandoned him years later. At 16 years old, he is reunited with his real parents, younger brother Blake and his sister Gracie who was born after Ethan was kidnapped. The book shows the family's struggle with each other as Ethan re-enters their lives without remembering his past.

I enjoyed the beginning of this book which seemed so promising. I felt real bad for Ethan and all that he went through. The family's feelings and reaction s

That's the first word that comes to mind after finishing Lisa McMann's DEAD TO YOU, because damn, you guys. This book was one helluva ride.

The plot and premise was absolutely stunning. Sixteen-year old Ethan, abducted at the age of seven, has finally returned to his family. It should be a time of rejoicing and glee, but there are secrets and memories that Ethan can't unlock, and it will rip his whole family apart.

I've always been interested in kidnappings, serial murders, and those fas
Gray Cox
I was lying in my bed, eyes watering, listening to the pounding in my head, coughing so much and so hard that I started wondering if it was possible to hack out a lung or something because sheesh. SO I decided to read a book because surely that would take my mind off of the flu and make me feel better.

This book looked like one of those good mystery/suspenseful books, right?



Ethan is such a dislikable character. And I felt like a bad reader/person when I realized that I genuinely
Jan 24, 2012 rated it really liked it

no really, did that just happen?!?!?!?!?!

Watch out Spoilers probably ahead...

I'll get to that wtf moment in a bit, I guess I should start from the beginning...
So basically this 7 year old kid, Ethan was abducted from his family. It has been 9 years and they get the call that Ethan has been found. He is coming home. This poor kid lived with his "abducter" Ellen for a while and then she decided to dump him of at a kids' home in some bum-fu@! town where there are "no ques
Mar 19, 2010 rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2012
I have no idea what just happened in the last 3 pages of this book and I have no idea how I feel about it! I am in complete shock right now...

After thinking about this for awhile I have come to the conclusion that I am pissed! I mean very much over the top pissed. What in the world happened??!! How can it possibly end that way??!! Ms.McMann has managed to take everything I thought I felt about this little world that she created and obliterated it with three pages of words.
The story was such a ro
Apr 01, 2012 rated it did not like it
Shelves: general
Every element of the story was very predictable. How everyone reacts, the relationships that develop, Ethan's problems adjusting, etc. were all pretty much what one would expect from the situation. I don't really feel like there was anything new or ground-breaking done here. In fact, the novel ends right where I think the real story begins.

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Nov 05, 2010 rated it it was amazing

Wow! is all I can say in response to Lisa McMann's new novel, DEAD TO YOU. Once again, she's hit it out of the ballpark . . . okay, maybe out of twelve ballparks. I dare say it's McMann's best novel yet.

The story begins at breakneck pace and you're quickly given whiplash, but don't worry! It's the good kind of whiplash, the pace you wish all books were written at. When we start the novel, Ethan is with Child Protective Services, about to meet his family, the one that he was taken away from n
Jul 16, 2011 rated it really liked it
Family will always be there. Through thick or thin, good times, hard times, and harder times. Right? But how can a family’s faith, hope, and trust survive in the face of excruciating uncertainty and pain?

In Lisa McMann’s Dead to You the DeWilde family’s world is altered forever when seven year old Ethan is kidnapped from right outside their home. Now nine years later, Ethan has been found and returned to his home and family, but can a broken family torn apart for so long really be healed? Memori
Oct 05, 2011 rated it it was amazing
I was going to give this a 4 bc whe i added up my different rating like, cover, plot, etc, i got 4 but this ending made me bump it up.
Review to come but for now, enjoy my reaction to the ending

shady boots
Dear Ms. McMann,


I can't.

I just can't.

Sincerely, someone that just had their heart and brain obliterated by you. All at the same time.
Katrina Passick Lumsden
I really can't say enough good things about Lisa McMann's writing. It is often simplistic, true, but considering she writes YA fiction, that's unsurprising. Sometimes the prose gets a little monotonous (like when Ethan keeps saying, "That kills me. It really does."), but it is, at least, realistically juvenile speech. Is it better than teenagers who sound like adults? Yes and no. It can be annoying, but reality makes for a more interesting read, in my humble opinion. At least in this case.

My fi
Mar 12, 2012 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2012, ya
Whoa! WHOA!WHOA! Back this thing up so I can wrap my head around what in the heck just happened.
I love McMann's writing style, always very sparse and immediate, compelling to read. Characters that are clearly drawn and effectively engaging, pulling you into the story.
This is going to be very brief because I don't want to have any spoilers.
Great read. Sad.
Kimberly Sabatini
Feb 22, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: mg-ya
I had a little bit of an obsession with the book that only got worse when l got to the ending. I found myself reading DEAD TO YOU every chance I could get. In my opinion, McMann's BEST BOOK YET!!!! I'm gonna shut up now, so I don't spoil it for you. *zip*
Nov 27, 2016 rated it liked it
3.5 stars

Lisa McMann's young adult books consists of two descriptions: short and simple. To some, that may be a bit of a bother while to others, it's perfect for them. For me, McMann's books are short but entertaining to the point where I genuinely like them. The same goes for Dead to You although I can see why some people have mixed feelings about it. I'm in that same boat.

Ethan was kidnapped when he was seven years old. Since then, he's been missing until he was later found. From there, things


I see why the reviews are so extreme, either love it or hate it. This was severely underwhelming and did not give me the big shocking ending I was led to believe existed.
May 19, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Wow, what an amazing story! I was sucked in from the very first page and could not put down the book. I oftened wondered what happens if a child is reunited with their family after years of abduction. Lisa really hit this one out of the park. I felt so sorry for all parties involved because we know how difficult it is for the familes who lost a loved one but, we don't stop to think about the effects and how hard it is for the child to be reaquanted with their family. As always, Lisa throws in a ...more
Jun 23, 2014 rated it liked it
3.5 stars
Dead to You looked interesting when I picked it up and I had high hopes for it but from the very beginning I found it to be ridiculous. The second the parents said they didn't want a DNA test, I knew exactly how this was going to go. I still decided to give it a chance. If it was written well then there still might be a chance that it could be a good story, but NO!

Not only did I find the story ridiculous but I disliked almost every character especially the main character. Ethan was mean to eve
Sherry Zhang
Jul 28, 2014 rated it really liked it
::SOME SPOILERS (not the ending)::

Ok, first off, this is probably a 3.5 because of two main parts of the story - what made me lean towards the 4 instead of 3 was because I genuinely loved this book, (not that I don't right now, but I'll get to that later) and there were really only two main "letdowns".

I really liked many of the ideas in the story that make things seem real, such as Ethan's laughing panic attacks and how he still likes Ellen and thinks of her as a mother figure. I don't know muc
Greta Logan
Mar 03, 2013 rated it did not like it
"Dead To You" has probably the most unlikable main character I have ever met. Ethan is a selfish, idiotic, rude, pissy, temper-tantrum throwing moron who doesn't appreciate the good things that are happening to him and only focuses on the bad.

"But he's a teenager, right, and on top of that, someone who's been through some pretty terrible times." All right, I dare you. Try liking this character. Just try. Ethan never gives us one good character trait to make us invested in the story, never does o
Dec 31, 2011 rated it really liked it
I devoured this book in only a few short hours. Seriously, it took me two hours to read this book it was THAT good! It helped that the chapters were short and it was a naturally fast read but I could not put this one down for a minute!

Ethan was 7 when he was abducted from his yard in front of his little brother Blake. For 9 years, his parents and the small town he was from has held out hope that he will return. As the story begins, Ethan is 16 and waiting to be reunited with his parents, his li
Mundie Moms & Mundie Kids
4.5 stars

A dark, realistic read that's chilly, horrifying, and mysterious. This is an emotionally gripping read that will hold you captive until the very last page.

In true Lisa McMann style she managed to yet again emotionally pull me into her book and totally take me for unexpected emotional roller-coaster of a ride. Let me first say, realistic contemporary books are normally not my thing, but it became my thing, because Lisa wrote it. I'm a HUGE fan of Lisa's. She isn't afraid to bring the gr
Joy (joyous reads)
Jun 21, 2011 rated it really liked it
This is the worst nightmare every parent could ever imagine. When your child gets abducted right in front of your house followed by years and years of searching and wondering. Wondering how he or she is, whether or not he's he eating good? Where is he?

Ethan Manuel De Wilde got abducted when he was seven. Nine years later, he stood facing a family that he was positive was his. It was awkward at first; after all, they're practically strangers. The adjustment was a little difficult but w
Linda Lipko
Mar 16, 2012 rated it really liked it
Many thanks to Terri (Tymfos) for recommending this excellent book. It was difficult to put down once I began to read the first page.

Abducted at seven, Ethan miraculously locates his biological parents when he is 16 years old. With his family, a small town community celebrates his return. Finding a lapse in memories and a difficult adjustment to "normalcy" after years of abuse, neglect, homelessness and abandonment, Ethan struggles to belong.

Desperately wanting to fit in, to belong, to be loved,
Sheila Beaumont
When I read the plot summary of this novel, I knew I had to read it. I find stories where the identity of a character is in doubt hard to resist.

Ethan was abducted when he was 7 years old and lived for many years with a woman who eventually dropped him off at an orphanage. He ran away from the orphanage and has been living on the streets. Now, nine years after his abduction, he has at last found his birth family on a website for missing children.

This was a riveting read, a beautifully written st



A super-quick listen that packs an indelible punch, but leaves you wanting more from the ending. It was a very cliffhanger-y ending with no resolution in sight...since this was written back in 2010. Subsequently, I feel like it gives you the opportunity to make your own ending, though. S
Aug 16, 2020 rated it it was ok
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Dark Faerie Tales
Jan 23, 2012 rated it did not like it
Shelves: reviewed-by-emmy
Review Courtesy of Dark Faerie Tales

Quick & Dirty: This novel was written with a stream-of-consciousness style narrative that fails to fully deliver the suspense the story needed. This drama is not for someone looking for an easy, happy read.

Opening Sentence: There are three of them. No, four.

The Review:

Reviewing this book is hard, because I’m still feeling weighed down by all the emotions it evoked. Which is good, in the sense that there’s nothing sadder than a book that can’t move its reader,
Honestly, I can't say I was too surprised by the ending. I've seen plenty of "OMG WTF WAS THAT?!" reviews on the ending.

Now, don't get me wrong, it's one helluva cliffhanger for a stand alone(?)and it's not really a BAD cliffhanger.

But. . . .

It's been done before.

If you haven't seen the movie "Changeling" starring Angelina Joelie, and you've read Dead to You, then go watch it and you'll get what I mean. The whole idea of that with the changeling (no it's not about faeries, but a boy who was kid
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Lisa McMann lives and writes in the Phoenix area. Her books include the NYT bestselling THE UNWANTEDS series (the new UNWANTEDS QUESTS series begins Feb 7, 2017) and the YA paranormal WAKE trilogy. Other books include the VISIONS trilogy, CRYER'S CROSS, DEAD TO YOU, INFINITY RING: The Trap Door, and the GOING WILD trilogy (book 2 coming autumn 2017).

You can find more info at Lisa'a website, lisamc

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