This new edition of Passage to Intimacy is published by popular request to add more of the PAIRS powerful concepts and experiences that have been known to dramatically transform relationships. Since the first edition of Passage to Intimacy was published a number of dissertations have been written that have researched and validated the effectiveness and power of this dynamic program. In response, I have written this book to add Jealousy, Emotional Allergy, Healing the Ledger, Clarifying Expectations, and other significant understandings and experiences that when practiced, transform lives. We are all pathfinders today, working our way through uncharted territories as we seek to build and sustain loving co-equal relationships for the first time in human history. In our rapidly changing world, relationships that thrive create in us a sense of security, safety, enhanced health and well being. Most of all, love, joy and pleasure in companionship provide depth and meaning in our lives. We do not have to lose what we work so hard to achieve. We do not have to sabotage our dearest dreams. As human beings, we are all miracles capable of remarkable learning, growth and change. We can understand what went wrong in previous relationships or what is going wrong now. We can make changes if we choose to use what we learn.