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Talk Dirty to Me

3.9  ·  Rating details ·  252 Ratings  ·  32 Reviews
We live in a world in which almost every public image—every interaction—carries an element of sexual desire. And yet it is nearly impossible for us to talk openly and honestly about sex. Talk Dirty to Me is author Sallie Tisdale's frank, funny, and provocative invitation to the conversation we've been waiting for—but have been too afraid to start.

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ebook, 352 pages
Published May 25th 2011 by Anchor (first published 1994)
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This book kept saying things that ought to be obvious, but are not obvious to everyone. Sexuality is complicated. Individuals are complicated. Sex is good. Men and women are alike in some ways yet different in other ways. Cultures differ. 2 + 2 = 4. Please, make it stop.

The fact that by page 112 I was ready to throw the book across the room (I couldn't; I was on a plane at the time) means not that the author wrote a bad book but that I picked the wrong one for me. But jeez, I hated this thing.
Caitlin Constantine
When I started reading this one I fairly devoured the book. However, it became clear to me early on that I shared a temperament that was not very similar to that of Tisdale's. I like sex, but I also like other things. I don't obsessively categorize my sexual fantasies, nor do I spend my time reading erotica just for the sake of reading erotica. I didn't go into this book expecting to be titillated; instead I was hoping for, as the book said, a philosophical approach to sex.

However, the entire bo
Oct 09, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
An interesting, personal philosophy of sex. So far I'm really enjoying this--Tisdale does overreach when it comes to the ubiquity of, say, how sexuality permeates life (not everybody experiences the world as such a fully sexual thing as others do), and I have some quibbles regarding how she discusses gender, but what a great book.

This book is over 14 years old now, and in a way that adds to the fun in reading it. In one section, she talks about ever-expanding inclusion in so-c
Dec 29, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book blew my mind. The author uses her own experiences with sexuality and people, interviews, literature and even history to open up a dialog about sex, gender and human sexuality. Each essay is separate but somehow blends seamlessly into the next essay so you can read one essay or all of them.

The only problem I found with this book was that it was difficult to read it around other people because I blushed so hard. It is very sexual and some of her descriptions left me breathless.

The other
Sep 16, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I liked this- very well-written and personal, and is just what it says- a philosophy. Very thought-provoking. I wish it was a bit more current (she wonders if there will be a day when there are gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender pride days. um yeah?) but the philosophy is still very relevant. Also, the last section seems a bit thrown together (all of the things she wanted to mention but couldn't figure out how to work into the overarching theme- oh, we can't forget S/M! Throw in phone sex wh ...more
Mar 09, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A thorough, academic and philosophical book about sex. Well-researched and intelligently presented, Tisdale attempts to remain objective about this extremely broad topic. I think she covers all areas of major concern in our time very well. One of the most helpful books I have ever read.
Kim Ayala
Dec 07, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Not the type of book I usually pick up, but it looked intriguing, since I like books about human behavior. This was a great read, an eye-opener on some levels, and helped me mature in my views on sexuality in our society. I would highly recommend it to anyone willing to challenge their own views and enter into a space of exploration and questioning.
Oct 10, 2008 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
i've been reading this forever, it's excellent. if i read books more often these days, i would have finished this in a week.
intellectual (without being snobby like a literary journal or some kinda crap) essays about sex and gender.
Feb 28, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
so far it's wonderful. An easy read and highly informative. If you enjot Eve Ensler, you will enjoy Sally Tisdale!!!
Sep 22, 2008 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
So interesting!!!
A must read for every sex-a-holic !!!
Aug 07, 2012 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This book caught my attention because it was pleasant to the touch, the cover had a smooth plasticized feel; the wordless cover featured a black and white photo of a hand holding a nectarine or a peach. I was intrigued when I found out that this was Sally Tisdale’s notorious book on pornography, and, based on the promises of the cover, I expected this to be a fascinating ride into a close examination of a societal taboo.
Alas! It was a tortuous journey along, and it led to the dreary and confine
Jan 16, 2017 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: everyone
Shelves: women, read-2017
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Nov 23, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I'm not quite sure where I got the recommendation for this interesting book but I'm glad I followed up. The author offers quite a few self revelations as she explores and reports on her lifelong explorations of this universal subject. It is somewhat self-censored and as the author admits she would like to stay with healthy relationships and healthy sex as when she discribes her discomfort with a self described sadist who links sex and pain. Likewise she does not dwell on pedophilia. She takes a ...more
Jasmaine Q
Oct 01, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This helped me navigate the often ghostly, muddy, and unpleasant land of sex that we have built in our societies and minds. Not only did it offer some perspectives on why the social attitudes toward sex are the way they are, it offered perspectives on what goes on with the private self when we engage in any type of sex. What is sex, anyway? That's another question she tries to tackle. Tisdale writes in a conversational tone that I like because she's not claiming to know all the answers. She's si ...more
Jessica Zu
Aug 04, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I couldn't finish reading this book. It's kind of boring. I agree with her on some points but somehow feel that she missed something very essential to sex and love. I don't know yet what it is that she is missing. But I already lost interest in reading this book. That being said, I strongly agree with her on that if we run away or avoid this topic, it will only make this illusion stronger. However, running toward sex and love is not exactly the balanced attitude to deal with them:)
Avolyn Fisher
Jan 19, 2011 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2011
At times I thought Tisdale was running verbal laps. Going round' and round' without saying anything at all. Just yapping away using phrases to sound intelligent but were unnecessary. I hate to be critical but it made this read quite tedious.

I was also surprised to reach the end of the book and find she didn't feel the need to site ANYTHING. Regardless of the countless references to studies, quotes, famous thoughts in history, there was nothing. I was just surprised.
Sep 22, 2015 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Was not as titillated as I thought I would be, skimmed over whole paragraphs. A lot of it isn't very relevant anymore especially her discussion of porn which seems hilariously naive and outdated. Plus she talks a lot about the (I think myth) of the glamorous high class prostitute. It was written in 1993 so I'd recommend skipping this in favor or something more recent.
May 08, 2014 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
The author has some interesting debates about being openly accepting of our sexual natures. She is plagued by shame and wants the world to burst open Pandora' s box of sexuality. I don't feel the same repression, or to the extent that she does. There is fascinating sexual history across cultures in the book that ended up keeping me interested enough to finish the book.
Gamal Hennessy
Apr 12, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: favorites
One of the most profound, thought provoking and insightful books I've read in years. If I'm lucky I'll get to read it over and over again. Books like this inspire freedom, responsibility and a very agitated peace.
Nov 30, 2011 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
There was lots of interesting information in this book and was reminiscent of my sex, gender, culture class in college. Towards the end i felt that it was disorganized and jumped around from paragraph to paragraph.
Aug 18, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: x-rated
I have a hardcover copy with its own slipcase. The black/white design of the slipcase is what first brought my attention to the book.
Tisdale talks "clean" and succintly about sex, so don't be taken in by its title.
Apr 26, 2007 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Those dirty minds out there!
Naughty naughty!!
Sep 19, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Loved the mid 90's adventure of what sex was becoming to look like in san fran.
Jessie Lorenz
Nov 23, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I learned a lot. That is all.
Mar 24, 2013 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
A fun read, if a little obvious.
Aug 04, 2011 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Blah. Not nearly as titillating as the title would imply...
Apr 13, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Very sexy, in an analytic sense.
A great author on this important subject --- always fun and lightheated but engrossing. Enlightening.
Dec 08, 2008 is currently reading it  ·  review of another edition
I am just beginning, but it looks to be a very interesting read.
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