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Singlism: What It Is, Why It Matters, and How to Stop It

3.54  ·  Rating details ·  37 Ratings  ·  11 Reviews
The widespread stereotyping and discrimination against people who are single has long gone unrecognized, unnamed, and unchallenged. Bella DePaulo, Ph.D., calls it SINGLISM. In this collection, she defines singlism and shows where it is lurking in the workplace, the marketplace, and the media, in advertising, religion, and pseudoscience, in our universities and professional ...more
Paperback, 268 pages
Published May 17th 2011 by Doubledoor Books
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Gayle Noble
I thought that this was a very wide-ranging look at the issues facing people who chose to be single. It is staggering to read that there are so many benefits and concessions within the US system and culture which advantage married people only. The 'singlism' faced is not only financial, there are social and employment penalties too, such as being expected to cover early/late shifts and being left with the unwanted holiday times. As if single people do not have relatives and friends and a life of ...more
Mar 09, 2015 rated it it was ok
I only read 25% of the book; while I agree entirely with the premise behind it, rather than a single, cohesive narrative, it's a collection of shorter articles and blog posts, and therefore a fair amount of info is repeated over and over, and I quickly stopped caring.
Jan 12, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Since learning about Bella DePaulo last summer, I've grown to admire and respect her very much. Her blog, Living Single, at Psychology Today's website, is fascinating.

In this collection, she eloquently and thoroughly portrays the issues single people face. It is composed of her blog posts and essays by others. Singlism (the stereotyping and stigmatizing of single people) is obviously more benign than the other isms (racism, sexism, etc.), but it hurts people nonetheless.

As a lifelong single pers
Steve Thomasson
Jan 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This very well-researched book tears down a lot of enduring social stereotypes that sound superficially plausible, but don't hold up at all to closer examination. So, single people are unhappy? Not really - unless you talk about those from the side effects of marriage, so widowed and divorced people and not those who are, to use DePaulo's own phrase, "single at heart". Singles are selfish? Nope, they're more likely to volunteer or help out other family members. Singles are looking for a mate abo ...more
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Sep 23, 2016 rated it liked it
The content was interesting, but the format of having just copied out blog posts, etc. with links to other articles really bothered me by the end. I was reading a physical book, and wanted to know what she was referring to, and the link rather than a footnote or citation just seemed lazy. It works for an ebook format, but they should have updated the print book with appropriate citation information.
Jennifer Melnyk
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Shelves: self-help, kindle, 2013
I found this to be an enlightening narrative about the discrimination that singles face, often without even realizing that they are being discriminated against.

My only critiques for this book are small grammatical and/or spelling errors and that this wasn't so much a "book" as it was a "blog" in book format. It took me a long time to finish this book because I found myself reading some of the same things over and over again, simply because they were in multiple blog posts.
Adria A
Changed my perspective on life

Reminded me that single doesn't have to be a transition. Some purgatory between the hell of singles and the heaven of coupledom. For me, who has very rarely been coupled, that idea really filled me with anxiety and led to a feeling of being unsettled and incomplete. By page 10 of this book, my perspective changed. My eyes were opened and I feel so much better about my life! I am now reading the rest of her books.
Jun 18, 2011 rated it it was amazing
My piece, "Singular Friendships," about the erasure of friendships in favour of narratives about romantic love, is in this, so I'm biased.
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An eye-opening collection of essays mostly reprinted from blogs and websites (the author should really be given as De Paulo (Ed.) or De Paulo & others as she did not contribute all) on the subject of prejudice, much of it institutional, against single people, and also against people who do not have children. It is U.S. centred as you might expect given that most of the contributors are American, and it is also notable that most of the contributors are women - are men less concerned with the ...more
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Bella DePaulo (Ph.D., Harvard, 1979) is a social psychologist and the author of Singled Out: How Singles are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After and Single with Attitude: Not Your Typical Take on Health and Happiness, Love and Money, Marriage and Friendship. In Singled Out, and in her other work on people who are single, DePaulo has drawn from social science da ...more
“As a career girl in your late twenties, you have been most probably able to surround yourself with certain material assets…to which you shortly become accustomed. Will you then be eager to marry a man who cannot keep you in your customary supply of worldly goods?” 0 likes
“Marriage isn’t a disease; it isn’t catching. You don’t have to pass it on to everybody you know. Unlike a woman I once heard admit “I’ve never been married but I tell people I’m divorced so they are not scared of me,” 0 likes
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