The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
Are you, like milllions of Americans, caught in the happiness trap? Russ Harris explains that the way most of us go about trying to find happiness ends up making us miserable, driving the epidemics of stress, anxiety, and depression. This empowering book presents the insights and techniques of ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) a revolutionary new psychotherapy based...more
By the time I finished it I realized ways I could make substantial improvements in my life.
First: The annoying part.
The author (Dr. Harris) seems to assume that all his readers have the same thought processes, make the same mistakes, and can be fixed the same way.
He begins by telling us we likely believe four myths.
Myth 1: Happiness Is the Natural ...more
Despite all this, I'm persisting because, in amongst all the guff, there are some strategies in here that bloody well work. And they work fast. This pains me because I, like the people Harris loves to patronise in the book, am one of ...more
An excellent book I would recommend to anyone interested in mental health, either their own or those around them, or the concept at large. In The Happiness Trap, Russ Harris crafts a persuasive, intelligent argument for why we should stop aiming for happiness and instead aim for a mindful, values-driven life. His ideas in this book come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a newer, third-wave cognitive behavioral therapy that has shown promising effectiveness in research ...more
After our first session, I got instant results. Over the weekend that followed I had many changes to indulge my addiction and I had the desire, but I was ...more
Essentially, ACT suggests that there is no way to eliminate pain in life, so learning to accept it and channel your energy into activities that have value to you leaves you more prepared to live effectively and without a lot of wasted time fighting reality.
I agree with the central ...more
Well, okay, I'm not actually struggling. Life's mostly all peach these days, but I'm (almost) always interested in self-improvement. We get one go on this globe and studying ways ...more
From what I understand, ACT takes a lot from Buddhist philosophy, and I can totally dig it. Some of the important things ACT ...more
The advice is based on a third wave CBT approach (more behavioral than cognitive) called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). If you are looking for ...more
This book introduces Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as that solution. Think of it as a workbook for fully experiencing life.
The three parts of ACT are:
• Defusion: where you see all thoughts as just stories and so unlink yourself from them.
• Expansion: where you make room for uncomfortable feelings and sensations rather than seeking to avoid them.
• Connection: where you bring your ...more
1. Diffusion - decoupling ourselves from our thoughts
2. Expansion - accepting and making room for uncomfortable thoughts, feelings, urges and sensations
3. Connection - ...more
Personally I much preferred the style of Charles Linden's guide over this book and would actually recommend the Linden method for those who are trying to break out of anxiety disorder as opposed to general depression.
ACT takes a refreshing approach to negative feelings. Stop struggling against them, says the theory. They're part of life. The more you fight them, the worse it is. After using a lot of CBT with mixed results, I appreciated an alternative to arguing with negative cognitions.
ACT is based on six principles: Defusion, or the ...more
The 6 core principles of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy are Defusion, Expansion, Connection, The Observing Self, Values and Commited Action. It teaches that purely trying to replace negative thoughts with positive ...more
This book is a very good self-help book for anyone who is having trouble with negative self talk. Very simply written and very amusingly illustrated, this book was easy to read and leaves you with a warm fuzzy feeling. The book reminds you that it is okay to feel sad/upset/disappointed as these are normal feelings in life. The author points this out using various exercises and illustrations. Not only do the exercises get ...more
—Men define a man,
The creature who stands front-ward to the stars,
The creature who looks inward to himself,
The tool-wright, laughing creature. ’Tis enough:
We’ll say instead, the inconsequent creature, man,—
For that’s his specialty. What creature else
Conceives the circle, and then walks the square?
Loves things proved bad, and leaves a thing proved good?
People are weird because we need books to trick ourselves into becoming LESS complicated. Anyway I found ...more
But when I got to the values and commitment part of the book, it was a complete change and really important to me. It definitely helped to gain a new perspective, helped me to get unstuck with the question about my ...more