The Entitlement Trap: How to Rescue Your Child with a New Family System of Choosing, Earning, and Ownership
Dump the allowance-and use a new "Family Economy" to raise responsible children in an age of instant gratification.
Number-one New York Times bestselling authors Richard and Linda Eyre, have spent the last twenty-five years helping parents nurture strong, healthy families. Now they've synthesized their vast experience in an essential blueprint to instilling children wi
I have devoured it. Devoured. And I am excited to implement the principles I've learned in my own household.
In the introduction, The Eyres explain how entitlement is the "one reason parenting is harder today than it has ever been." And then they go on to explain that entitlement comes from a lack of ownership. Children are given so much and little is expected of them. It took much mor ...more
The authors diagnose a common issue in families -- entitlement -- but their solution is to establish a market economy in your home. I can see how this would give kids incentive to work and to feel ownership for things they bought, and generally appreciate the life they lead. However, living life like it's a Monopoly game doesn't sound great to me. It might work for some people (and kids) but I would hate for my kids to constantly put a ...more
* The ideas are practical and make sense
* They included reader feedback with additional variations and suggestions
* Didn't feel "fluffy", all the content was relevant and I didn't have a sense/need to skip anything
* The ideas resonated with me, many recommendations connected the dots for some ideas I've had for quite some time but wasn't sure how to implement them
* I felt motivated and encouraged by wh ...more
I like the starting point this gives for building strong families with responsible members each taking ownership of their choices and things. I don't think it is intended to be a cookie cutter pattern for everyone, but a basis for a way of thinking.
I will be coming back to this book in a few years when our kids are older to implement the "family economy" and the "humanitarian trips" but everything else can be applicable now like the "gunny sack" or "repenting bench" or "one value a mo ...more
The first part of this book goes over a "family economy" where kids do specific jobs through the week and earn points that essentially earn money at the end of the week (pay day)....it's not like getting an allowance because y ...more
After reading reviews of this book, I saw that for newcomers to the Eyres library, this was a good one, but if you have already read their other books, you will already know what is in here and feel it is redundant.
Since I am new to the Eyres library, I really did like this book. I ap ...more