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Lo Que Me Hubiera Gustado Saber... Antes de Casarme!: Consejos Para Novios, Recien Casados y los Matrimonios Que Quieren Reencontrarse

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El reconocido escritor y consejero matrimonial, Gary Chapman, que lleva mas de 35 anos aconsejando a parejas, cree que el divorcio es el resultado de la falta de preparacion para el matrimonio y de la incapacidad para aprender a trabajar juntos como companeros de equipo intimos. Este libro practico esta lleno de sabiduria y de consejos para poder disfrutar de un matrimonio ...more
Paperback, 142 pages
Published April 25th 2011 by Portavoz (first published January 1st 2010)
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Jun 21, 2014 John rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I read Gary Chapman’s book “Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married” as part of a campus ministry program with my Church. The intent of the book is to provide those considering marriage some issues to reflect on that most dating couples do not think about prior to walking down the aisle. The overriding theme of the book is that during the traditional Western courtship process, people get so focused on being in love and having found “the one” that it is easy to ignore many of the mundane fa ...more
Aug 29, 2015 Maryam rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Easy read. Comprehensive.

I agree with most of the points covered in this book.

- Love is NOT enough to build a successful happy marriage.
- There needs to be spiritual intimacy. To ignore those is a sign of immaturity. Do you both believe in God. How do often do you practice? Does it mean much to you that your partner is as dedicated/not dedicated as you? What if you had children?
- Something deep within the human psyche cries for an exclusive relationship. Not all are comfortable with their partne
Jul 31, 2012 Debby rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I guess some might find it odd that someone who's been married for 39 years would read a book writen FOR those who are dating and considering marriag. Well, it was written by a man after he'd been married for quite a few years and there were things he felt were worth knowing, thinking about and talking about BEFORE couples got married; that might actually be useful to know b/c you might just NOT be making the best decision, even though these couples declare they are "in love".
I think a book lik
aljouharah altheeyb
مثل ماقلت فيه نصايح جميلة وتضع النقاط على الحروف، وفيه أخرى لايمكن تطبيقها في مجتمع مختلف عن مجتمع الكاتب، وفيه نصايح شاطحه وتعمم دون تأكيد.
بشكل عام كتاب جيد.
Roman Steven
Jun 02, 2017 Roman Steven rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
It is a nice book!
The myth "happy ever after" and scenario we created in our head on what marriage look like only to find out its not what we expected. Why there is a lot of pain and divorce only after marriage? why people want to get out of their marriage? why they seem happy together when dating and suddenly things changed after they get married? and a lot of unanswered question.
The good point is you have to learn about marriage before you commit yourself into it. And the "happy ever after" c
Jenn Ravey
I think that for young couples, this book could be extremely helpful. As a woman in her 30s, this book felt like it only covered surface material. My boyfriend and I have each lived on our own. We've done all the chores. We've discussed which we like and dislike, but we've been out of our parents' homes for years, and even when I lived at home, my parents split the duties pretty evenly.

Again, I don't think this book is bad. I simply wish I would've known it was geared toward young couples who h
This is the must read book before we get married. Seriously. So practical !!

Kita selalu dengar " No one plan to fail but they fail to plan " - bunyinya ala2 macam tu la kan.

Semua orang kalau boleh nak kawin sekali je seumur hidup tapi masalanya takda sapa yg pnh plan betul2. Kalau pasal bercuti ka bekerja kita plan dari awal kenapa tidak mengenai perkahwinan. Kalau majlis kawin pun kita plan bagai kenapa tidak mengenai kehidupan selepas itu yg pastinya lebih lama.

Dan utk plan itu,saya syorkan p
Arwa Basha
Sep 28, 2013 Arwa Basha marked it as to-read  ·  review of another edition
نفسي ألاقيه جدا

Emerson Lee
It's alright if you're straight and Christian \_(ツ)_/

In particular, many of the things the author wished he knew would be irrelevant to people who: don't subscribe to traditional gender roles, don't believe that sex is only reserved for marriage, aren't religious, have lived together and know each others' habits (including finances), know each others' families, and many other aspects of mainstream dating for non-religious folks. It assumes that you're getting married young, with little sexual or
This short book about aspects of marriage to consider was really good. It perpetuated some generalizations about gender roles, but nothing too gnarly. Each chapter is a topic to consider before getting married. They are all common sense, but there's nothing wrong with that. It helped me to remember that it's normal to be different from your partner and for the differences to cause friction.
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العنوان جذبنى لقراءة الكتاب
فقرأته لعل أعرف سبب الأخفاقات التى تحدث
فأنا أرى أن الزواج أكبر خطوة قد يقدم عليها الأنسان
لذا لابد أن يفعلها بمحض أرادته وليس أرضاء للأخرين
فمعظم الأشياء الذى ذكرها جايمان لكى يناقشها الطرفين فيما بينهما
هى من أولوياتى لذا الكتاب لم يضيف لى أشياء
جديدة ولكنه كتاب مفيد على أى حال
Isaac Abraham
Nov 08, 2015 Isaac Abraham rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
كتاب أكثر من رائع، عملي، حقيقي، لاغنى عنه لكل من يفكر أو يرغب في الارتباط. أجمل ما في هذا الكتاب هو واقعيته وخروجه عن النمطية الموجودة في معظم الكتب الشبيهة في مجتمعنا الشرقي.
Badriya  Bintuwaih
Things I wish I'd known before we got married
Writer: Gary Chapman
He is the same write of The 5 love languages .
This books helps the couples who are going to get married or engaged.
He talked about:
1- being in love is not an adequate foundation for building a successful marriage
2-the romantic love has two stages
3- that the saying "mother like daughter" and "like father like son"
4-how to solve disagreement without arguing
5-that apologizing is a sign of strength
6-that forgiveness is not a fe
Jun 04, 2011 new_user rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfiction
If you like talk radio, then you can listen to this audiobook. Certain genres, for example fantasy, where authors spit names and countries spoken in no known language, don't lend themselves to audiobook form. They require attention to retain important details and follow plot movement. I expect all but the supreme multi-taskers can digest audiobooks only during the most menial chores, e.g. driving and washing dishes.

Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married, subject broad, language and conce
Ruchi Patel
I can rate it average because i can predict the content and felt like same thing is being repeated again and again
I liked this book, but I didn't love it...I've got a lot of respect for much of what he had to say here, but a good chunk of it is from some of his other books, or is presented better in other books from other authors.

Chapman's written some good books over the years; The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate is a classic that's never going away. When Sorry Isn't Enough: Making Things Right with Those You Love was a surprisingly good read on a topic we don't discus
Liza Weichbrodt
Oct 31, 2016 Liza Weichbrodt rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I was given this book about 6 years (right around the time my husband and I started dating) but failed to pick it up until recently. (Shame on me!) I had in the past read about The Five Love Languages and found that information to be very beneficial so I wanted to give this a shot.

I have been married for about a year and 6 months now and so I am aware that I am not the typical audience who would read this book, however I found that was not an issue. The number 1 thing i liked about this book was
Sep 06, 2011 Brittany rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: See my review ;)
Recommended to Brittany by: Gigill
Shelves: nonfiction, self-help
How I Came To Read This Book: My sister had it in her suitcase, and she's currently visiting, so I read it.

The Plot: This book is written by a marriage counselor who himself has been in a long-term marriage - but not without its problems. In 12 short and sweet chapters he details, as the title says, things he wishes he had known before he got married. Each 'issue' is tied back both to conflicts in his own marriage, and to the clients he works with. At the end of each chapter, he provides you wit
Feb 19, 2017 Brian rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Very basic questions and an introductory book about common marital problems. I was looking for something deeper and more meaningful.
Aug 29, 2016 Erin rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
My friend Michelle gave or loaned me (I'd better clarify with her which of those it is) this book when she found out I was getting married. I got through about half of it before the wedding day, and finished the rest a couple months later. It does bring up some very helpful topics of conversation for engaged people to talk about. Dating and married couples would benefit from talking about these things too though, so it isn't limited to only the engaged. Many of these topics were ones we already ...more
Apr 16, 2012 Mark rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Like many of Gary Chapman's books, this is a fast, easy read filled with useful and practical suggestions. Several of the topics covered in this book at topics I have regularly discussed with people over the last 30 years. My top picks would be How romantic feeling need aren't enough, that you need to work to keep love going. Understanding differences and choosing to love your partner in a way that is meaningful to them. How forgiveness and apologizing are key to making a marriage work. How back ...more
Jun 20, 2014 Stephanie rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Very quick read that I think covered a lot of ground. Its a recommended read for SJSP church for incoming students and I was glad to get three copies to share and then donate to the church. Good date questions and makes me want to read romance novels with this in mind as well as do some movie reviews in light with this knowledge. With so many marriages not making it through the challenges of life, if this is a tool that makes people pause, think and reflect to make sure they are ready for the co ...more
Shahine Ardeshir
Let me start with what I liked:
I did find that from a point of substance, a lot of what Chapman wrote made sense. He spoke of things like remembering that conflict did not mean lack of compatibility, or that the honeymoon period was bound to end one day, or that different people expected to be loved in different ways.

But unfortunately, what I didn't like about it outshined much of what I mentioned above. The challenge I had with this read was that I kept feeling like I was being lectured by some
Angela Marie
Apr 25, 2011 Angela Marie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
it's great! my boyfriend and i read at least one chapter a week. we schedule specific time for us to read this book and go through it together. definitely recommend this for dating couples... or as the book says, even married couples, or single people!
you can learn what to expect, the changes that can happen, wishes and desires. it also brings up great conversation, things you'd most definitely rather know before marriage.

and don't think you don't need it! my boyfriend and i are the most open a
Aug 22, 2011 Jules rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I wasn't very far into this book when I realized that I was probably not Mr. Chapman's target audience. Yes, I'm engaged, and I'm trying to enter into my marriage thoughtfully. But I'm also not 19, religious, and in the throes of a new love affair so passionate it makes me lose all sense of reason and expect love will conquer all. Perhaps for someone in that state, this book would be more of a helpful guide, since it's much more of a basic primer about how to have an adult relationship. But sinc ...more
Allison Anderson Armstrong
This book had some good things to say, but I wasn't really "wowed" or really inspired by too much. Just some helpful thoughts. I think the "5 love languages" thing is good to think/talk through (this author is that guy who came up with it.) I felt like he tooted his own horn a little too often. But, overall, a useful book.
Aaron Torres
Aug 11, 2011 Aaron Torres rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Short read that gives singles, couples, or married folks some critical questions to ask themselves and each other. Those questions could lead to ending an unhealthy marriage or strengthening a waning one.
Liz De Coster
Jan 19, 2012 Liz De Coster rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfiction
Seemed a bit geared towards younger couples who don't have a lot of real, adult experiences under their belt, so some of the advice has kind of a "duh" feel to it. Also, as a non-Christian, some of the religious and spiritual components of the advice didn't really fit for me.
Mariam Dawood
Jul 26, 2015 Mariam Dawood rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: favorite-books
كتاب رائع استفدت منه كتير
Dec 19, 2016 Mehrdad rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
خواندن آن را به همه زوج ها توصیه می کنم
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“People do not get married planning to divorce. Divorce is the result of a lack of preparation for marriage and the failure to learn the skills of working together as teammates in an intimate relationship.” 21 likes
“I think the tingles are important. They are real, and I am in favor of their survival. But they are not the basis for a satisfactory marriage. I am not suggesting that on should marry without the tingles. Those warm, excited feelings, the chill bumps, that sense of acceptance, the excitement of the touch that make up the tingles serve as the cherry on top of the sundae. But you cannot have a sundae with only the cherry.” 19 likes
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