A medical mistake during an IVF procedure. An unthinkable situation . . . you’re pregnant with the wrong baby. You can terminate, but you can’t keep him. What choice would you make?
Carolyn and Sean Savage had been trying to expand their family for years. When they underwent an IVF transfer in February 2009, they knew it would be their last chance. If they became pregnant,...more
The IVF clinic where the Savages were being treated accidentally implanted another family's embryo -- and Carolyn Savage got pregnant. From the beginning, she and her husband Sean knew that they would not have an abortion, and that they would not seek custody (custody they would have been unlikely to win, though this does not appear to have been any part of the reason they chose not to seek custody.) This book covers the period of the p ...more
"Inconcievable" told the story of Caro ...more
I debated about accepting this book for review, since as a Catholic I believe in-vitro fertilization is immoral. I figured that the authors espoused a religion that did not so believe and that I'd be able to see their point of view, even if I didn't agree with it. Unfortunately, I was wrong on both counts. However, I'll be the first to admit that my b ...more
Although the story was fascinating due to the topic alone, I found a couple of points about their story off-putting. First, they make an admirable, yet unfathonable, decision to carry through the pregnancy. They also decide upfront that they will give the baby to the right ...more
You know those memoirs where you almost hope something awful will happen to the main character/narrator to actually give her something to whine about? Yes, this was one of those.
My impression of this book:
"We are Catholic. We want to have lots of Catholic children but only have three. *whine, whine, whine* IVF is expensive and against Catholic beliefs. *whin ...more
I couldn't agree more. The whole time I was reading ...more
The best way to describe this book is honest. At times I would like to think I would handle things differently than Carolyn did, but really, who knows? Hopefully no one else will have to go through a similar situation.
Book was a quick read and written from each of their perspectives. They are good people and I hope that they get to add to th ...more
My heart goes out to the savages. I understand peoples feeling like their boys should've been enough but they wanted a bigger family from the beginning and tho not every moment of the book is about that I feel it came through that they were throughout the pregnancy with Logan still very involved with their sons and their baby girl. Many of us aren't at our very best when not feeling good durin ...more
I literally can't imagine having to deal with what the Savages have dealt with and are still dealing and will always be dealing with.
I'm not one of the most likely many people who think it's over because Logan is gone. I understand - it'll never be over.
Maybe it takes someone who has dealt ...more
Clearly this book left an impression, which is why 4 years later I remembered it and decided to read it. Turns out that this was a book ...more
This is Carolyn & Sean Savage's story of an IVF pregnancy that they prayed about for so long. There was a mix up with the embryos and Carolyn is pregnant with another couple's child. They decide to keep the baby and give the ultimate gift of life to the family who had also been praying about this baby for so long.
They did a wonderful job portraying their side of the story. Carol ...more
This is an emotional, gripping memoir. I was immediately pulled into this extraordinary story. The chapters alternate between the two spouses, providing an interesting duel perspective. The Savages came across as a relatable and likable couple, acting with grace and compassion in a very difficult situation.
I read this as an audiobook, which was an excellent experience. This book featured two narrators, one female and one male, representing Carolyn and Sean's perspectives.
This was a brave story to tell for what must have been an awful, life altering, and extremely emotional event. My heart goes out to all involved.
I had read about this story in PEOPLE magazine a while ago and was interested to learn more. Despite being a full memoir length, I still was as interested as ...more
This audio brought out many strong reactions, so many that I had to keep track on a slip of paper. So here they are, in no particular order.
One thing that really bothered me throughout was that the Savages, being devout Catholics, would completely disregard their churches stance on IVF. Whether or not the Catholic church is right or wrong on this issue is irrelevant. I kept wondering how they co ...more