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Stories I Only Tell My Friends

3.80  ·  Rating details ·  60,492 ratings  ·  5,083 reviews
A wryly funny and surprisingly moving account of an extraordinary life lived almost entirely in the public eye

A teen idol at fifteen, an international icon and founder of the Brat Pack at twenty, and one of Hollywood's top stars to this day, Rob Lowe chronicles his experiences as a painfully misunderstood child actor in Ohio uprooted to the wild counterculture of
Hardcover, 320 pages
Published April 26th 2011 by Henry Holt and Co. (first published April 15th 2011)
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Helen No, that does not seem true. He had to read all those scripts & study his lines.…moreNo, that does not seem true. He had to read all those scripts & study his lines. (less)
Carolyn what a perfect choice! His truth really rings clear here. He is an excellent writer, a very perceptive human being and the stories are captivating.…morewhat a perfect choice! His truth really rings clear here. He is an excellent writer, a very perceptive human being and the stories are captivating. I'm so glad he shared his POV. As for topics-- any artistic angle works, (I am a playwright, actor and painter so his drive for his craft is very inspiring to me); taking on new adventures or following someone through these particular years is a wonderful journey also anyone who has any interest in recovery (every one should actually because addiction recovery is important in every community)(less)

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Sarah Wilsman
Mar 05, 2011 rated it really liked it
Okay, I have to say that I met Rob in Arizona in the early 90's...and I was very surprised then at how charming, self-deprecating and intelligent he was...and, yes, beautiful...This memoir reveals all of that, although thanks to SNL and West Wing, his wit and intelligence have already been revealed. The best review that I read of this book said that it was a love letter to his wife...and it is. He has matured and I very much enjoyed his look back at the journey thus far.

I also listened to the
May 13, 2011 rated it really liked it
If there's one thing I dislike about celebrity autobiographies, it's the amount of affectation and pretension that exist within the pages. While Rob Lowe's memoir certainly contains a lot of name dropping, I couldn't really hold that against him after all, if you're telling the story of how you worked your way up in Hollywood, it'd be hard not to mention the names of other famous people you met along the way.

I haven't seen much of Lowe's work. I've probably seen two or three of his movies, and
Tracy Miller
Apr 27, 2011 rated it liked it
Just brought this one home yesterday. Yes, I have 4 papers due Monday. Yes, I have a full-time job and two children with many end-of-year activities. But I also have a weakness for celebrity biographies - the trashier the better - and come on. It's ROB LOWE. I'm thinking he's got some stories to tell. Plus, the back cover photo is...well...inspiring. Pure eye candy and the reading is pure mind candy. Awesome.

Well, I'm finished. Rob, what can I say? You dished...sort of. Although the celebrity
Mar 22, 2012 rated it really liked it
Shelves: memoirs, hollywood
This was a surprisingly enjoyable read. I generally avoid celebrity memoirs, but I saw a nice excerpt from Rob Lowe's latest one, "Love Life," about how emotional he was when his son went away to college, and decided to give his first autobiography a chance.

I am a child of the 80s, so I grew up with Lowe's movies and those of the so-called Brat Pack. The Outsiders was popular when I was a kid, ("Stay gold, Ponyboy") and I also loved St. Elmo's Fire and About Last Night. Lowe's book had good
Aug 20, 2013 rated it liked it
Recommends it for: ladies of the 80s
Before I read this book, this was my entire conception of Rob Lowe:

so I was definitely surprised to run across an excerpt of this book in Vanity Fair and realize that Rob Lowe used to be a bona fide star in the 80s. WHAT.

This book is downright hilarious for any number of reasons, but it is also surprisingly fun to read. The section on the making of Francis Ford Coppola's The Outsiders takes up about 1/4 of the book, and it's absolutely fascinating. If you aren't interested in reading this
Jun 03, 2019 rated it really liked it

Rob Lowe

Rob Lowe, born in 1964, writes about his personal life and career in this memoir. It's not only an engaging story, it's a good primer for aspiring young actors. The takeaway: be bold, work hard, and avoid scandals.

Lowe has been a devoted husband and father for nearly three decades, but Rob's 'bad boy' antics as a young man almost derailed his career. At the age of 24 Rob made a sex tape with a 16-year-old girl. The videotape went public when Rob's movie 'Bad Influence' was opening and
Apr 24, 2016 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audio, memoirs
Color me surprised! This autobiography kept my attention and brought me to the edge of tears on at least three occasions. There was an air of nostalgia to it with talk of growing up in the seventies and so many eighties movies I had long since forgotten about, but it was also genuinely interesting and surprisingly well-written. Rob Lowe, an actor worth $30 million, comes across as humble, hardworking, grateful, and small feat. He eluded to his big videotape scandal a few times ...more
I really gained a lot of respect for Rob Lowe through reading this book. He's genuine, honest, he talks openly about his talents, his escapades, his addictions, and his insecurities. I listened to the audio version, read in his own voice and I feel like that made it more personal. I listened to it at the same time as I was reading Patrick Swayze's The Time of My Life and while I enjoyed that one also, it wasn't nearly the read that this one is. I did however, enjoy the parallels between their ...more
May 17, 2011 rated it it was ok
Um... yeah. So I read the Rob Lowe autobiography.

Why? Perfectly fair question. The answer lies in the fact that Vanity Fair ran a long excerpt from it a month or two ago, featuring the segment where Lowe talks about his experiences auditioning for and then appearing in Francis Ford Coppola's The Outsiders. And when I read it, I was surprised to find... it was good. Really, really good. Well-executed, thoughtful, and offering tremendous insight not only into what was going through Lowe's head at
Ashley DiNorcia
Jan 13, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
I often forget how old Rob Lowe is, and subsequently how popular he was in the 80's. I listened to this on audio, which I highly recommend, and found it really enjoyable. Apparently Tom Cruise has always been a bit of a weirdo, no surprise there.
Aug 26, 2011 rated it liked it
A fun, quick read. Great stories with cameos by Cary Grant, Dick Wolf, Demi Moore. Lots of time spent on the making of the Outsiders...but breezes through the West Wing and stops there. Where's the dirt on Sally Field and Calista Flockhart and the week-after-henious week of bizarre plots on Brothers & Sisters, which drove him into a persistent vegetative state, which sounded like a good deal if it meant getting off that show?! Lyon's Den, anyone?

One item of note: you'll perhaps be
Jun 06, 2011 rated it really liked it
Bought this on a whim and really ended up enjoying it. Lowe is funny, witty, and at times even eloquent (mostly when he talks about lessons learned from fatherhood, or being a recovering alcoholic). You can tell why he called this "Stories I only tell my friends," since much of the book is: "One day, I was walking down the street, and I met this girl, and she was really pretty, and really nice, and she told me she was into acting, and I said I was too. Oh and by the way, she was [insert famous ...more
May 12, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Rob Lowe's life sounds so insanely cool that it's hard to believe it all actually happened to one man. I mean, before I even reached chapter ten he'd already befriended the Sheens and Penns, been on the set of Star Wars and seen the taping of The Muppet Movie. Then he goes on to make some of the greatest films of all time, receive random gifts from Bill Murray and got to work for Aaron Sorkin (genius). If it weren't for the acoholism and numerous deaths of family and friends, it'd be a perfect ...more
I don't read celebrity gossip rags or keep track of who's marrying / divorcing / screwing who at any given time (not that there's anything wrong with that people!). I definitely didn't pick up this memoir of one of Hollywood's all-time pretty boys hoping for a salacious tell-all about who wears women's underwear or who includes small animals in their sex play.

So why the hell did I pick up this book? Several reasons top the list:

1) Reviews promised it offers a poignant, self-deprecating
Jan 15, 2013 added it
Shelves: favorites, memoir
Rob Lowe was a heart throb of my generation, though he wasn't my heart throb. Emilio was my brat pack crush. Which may be why I procrastinated on listening to this highly rated memoir.

Rob Lowe tells a great story, and I'm so happy to be among his friends that he shares with. I was captivated with his unfolding of his youth, including the details of casting, shooting and immediate stardom of The Outsiders. He affectionately describes his friendships and his mentors. The book is beautifully paced,
Joanna Silverstein
May 09, 2011 rated it it was ok
I got this book as a get well present from a friend (thanks, Jan!), and it was a decent mindless read. I only rated it ok beucase he doens't dish any dirt, whcih is what I hope for in a celeb authobiography. The way he writes it, everyone he's ever dealt with was wonderful, every movie another experience for him to grow and make BFFs (when all I want to hear is stories like "I once did PCP with Charlie Sheen and we ended up eating his cat").
Dec 01, 2016 rated it really liked it
Shelves: biographies
Not just a beautiful face. A soulful tour through a humble childhood, high school with Charlie Sheen and Sean Penn... and the constant threat of auditioning against a young, assassin-like Tom Cruise. Get the audiobook for Rob's celebrity impressions!

Cool Excerpts :
"I wanna see the spaceship," I say.
"It's right over there," he says, pointing to another corner of the warehouse. "It's called the Millenium Falcon."


In history class I bond with a hilarious, madrigal-singing
Jul 18, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoir, audiobooks
Rob Lowe is an icon from the '80s and I have had a crush on him for many years. His memoir is sweet, funny, and engaging. He seems to be a very down to earth guy in spite of spending his growing up years in the spotlight and hanging around with the likes of the Sheen/Estevez brothers and the Penn brothers. Stories of his geeky youth and his Ohio roots were bittersweet, especially the parts about his parents' divorce, moving away from Ohio to California, and his mother's many illnesses.

If you're
Sep 26, 2011 rated it really liked it
I don't believe there were many straight girls or gay boys who did not have a crush on Rob Lowe in the 1980s. That said, his career has had its major ups and downs and who didn't cringe when he hosted the Oscars? But as he tells his life story thus far, you start to get to know the "man behind the mask" so to speak. I found Lowe an intelligent, sensitive and quite eloquent man and he really has a great story to tell. I heard of his childhood and all the pain and laughter that entailed, his rise ...more
Apr 09, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I really enjoyed the audiobook read by Rob Lowe. Listening to this on a long car ride, the first two-thirds of the book was a fun guessing game of which celebrity Lowe was referring to in his story! Lowe also does great impressions of the celebrities he discusses.

Rob Lowe has definitely lived a #blessed life - his family moving to Malibu when he was young, introduced him to some of the great actors of his time and gave him lots of opportunity. It is really amazing that he turned his life around
Sep 01, 2011 rated it liked it
What just fell on my head? Oh - the ten thousand names that Rob Lowe drops in this book. I enjoyed this and found the writing to be surprisingly good, but the first 150 pages or so definitely exhausted me with all of the random celebrity sightings that he included. Yes, it was cool to hear about Patrick Swayze and Tom Cruise as kids, but c'mon. LeVar Burton? A ten second meeting with Janet Jackson? I liked it better when he focused on his own career. Overall, this was engaging, interesting, and ...more
Kristen Doyle
Feb 17, 2016 rated it it was amazing
I absolutely loved this book! Do the audio version!
Aug 13, 2019 rated it really liked it
I knew ZERO about Rob Lowe before this audio book, except that I really liked his character on Parks & Rec. I had several people recommend it so decided to give it a go! I really enjoyed this one, and he does a great job narrating the book.
Andrew Hicks
Oct 06, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Lately, lve read memoirs from an interesting hodge-podge of celebrities, most of them men of medium talent. Were talking Jim Breuer, Steve Guttenberg, Jason Priestley, Pat OBrien, Bob Saget and Corey Feldman. The best of the batch so far has been Rob Lowes Stories I Only Tell My Friends .

Lowe seems the most in touch with his own natural personality and the greater scheme of the world around him. While no doubt there was some selective editing, the stories in this narrative arent concocted
Miss Kim
Oct 04, 2016 rated it liked it
Shelves: biography, e-book, 2016
In the mid 80s, I had a poster of Rob Lowe in my room for a few years when I was a teen. He was dressed in a white suit, but shirtless, leaning against the wall. His eyes would follow you. Wow, I sure loved that poster

A good third of this book is about filming the movie Outsiders. In 8th grade, this was required reading for me. (My son is currently assigned reading it 8th grade as well). Lowe was only 17, and it was his first movie. Honestly when someone brings up that movie, Rob Lowe does not
Sue Arnold
Sep 11, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: audio, autobiography
I have been eyeballing this book ever since it came out; I was one of the many teenagers of my generation who had a wild crush on Rob Lowe after St. Elmo's Fire came out. And I loved him in The West Wing. But, I thought his book would be like many celebrity autobiographies and held back from buying it. Plus, I must admit, I was a little embarrassed if people were to find out I was reading it. Well, I'm happy to say that I thoroughly enjoyed the book. I also bought the audible book (highly ...more
Sep 27, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: biography, audiobook
I loved this book read by the author. I have had it in my library for a long time after getting it for free from Audible. Rob Lowe is about my age, so we essentially grew up together. Granted his life is waaay cooler.

Anyway, I was reluctant to give my time to this book because I thought it would be another privileged, Hollywood narcissist rambling on about how entitled they are and just because someone gives them words to say in their work, we should be lectured to about the worlds illsas if
May 31, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Let me start by saying I have never been a huge Rob Lowe fan. I originally picked up the book bc my sister swore by it. I didnt dislike Rob Lowe, I just didnt really think much of him. I assumed he was the pretty boy womanizer portrayed in the media in the 80s and 90s. I couldnt have been more wrong. I stayed up til 2 am to finish this book bc I just could stop reading. I had absolutely no idea that Rob Lowe had the depth of character of this magnitude. I dont think Ive ever read an ...more
Mar 17, 2012 rated it did not like it
Wow. I wanted some hot gossip from the 1980's. Mr. Lowe I admire your sobriety and positive outlook; however, without said gossip your book bored the hell out of me.
Aug 02, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I really enjoyed this book. I chose to listen to this one via audible, as Rob Lowe narrates stories from his childhood, career , and personal life. I am not sure I would have had the same level of satisfaction had I read the physical version of the book.

I have always been a fan of Rob Lowes. We grew up in the same era and share the same cohort (although Rob is a little older than myself 🙂). As Rob shared stories from the 70s and 80s , I found myself talking back to him- yes, I remember Charms
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Rob Lowe is an American actor. Lowe came to prominence after appearing in films such as The Outsiders, Oxford Blues, About Last Night..., and St. Elmo's Fire. On Television, Lowe is known for his role as Sam Seaborn on The West Wing and his role as Senator Robert McCallister on Brothers & Sisters. He currently appears as a main cast member of Parks and Recreation in the role of Chris Traeger.

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