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Made for You and Me: Going West, Going Broke, Finding Home

3.52  ·  Rating details ·  349 ratings  ·  87 reviews
Nothing turns a baby's head more quickly than the sight or sound of an animal. This fascination is driven by the ancient chemical forces that first drew humans and animals together. It is also the same biology that transformed wolves into dogs and skittish horses into valiant comrades that would carry us into battle.

Made for Each Other is the first book to explain how this
Hardcover, 256 pages
Published March 8th 2011 by Hachette Books (first published 2011)
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Apr 02, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Elevated by misfortune.

“Made for you and Me” is a surprisingly heartfelt memoir about a young couple’s search for MORE. They are creative people, Dan’s a photographer and Caitlin’s an actrees/writer, so Los Angeles seems the perfect place to go to get ahead in their careers. They say goodbye to Maine and their families pack their car and take off on an odyssey across the country. Along the way they have adventures and, being a writer, Shetterly begins sharing them via email with the folks back h
Feb 22, 2012 rated it it was ok
Shelves: memoir
It's hard to figure out what to say about this book without seeming cranky. I really do have compassion on this woman who did have a difficult time, whose family did suffer problems during the recession, a difficult pregnancy--I sympathize. I really do. If only the poor author weren't so woefully self-absorbed and clueless. I'm sure she DID suffer during these problems--but some of her suffering was because she has this view that the world sort of owes her a nice upper-middle-class maintenance, ...more
Aug 02, 2011 rated it did not like it
Shelves: 2011
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Apr 22, 2011 rated it did not like it
Possibly the most annoying memoir I've ever read: somehow whiny, smug, and self-congratulatory all at the same time. I was irritated with everyone in this book except the cat, who (spoiler alert!) drops dead of stress after they've dragged the poor thing all over the country as the result of their bad planning and selfishness. ...more
Carly Thompson
A memoir about the hardships faced by a young couple during the Great Recession. Caitlin and Dan decide to move from Maine to LA for better job opportunities in their fields (he is a photographer & she is a playwright/writer). After some brief initial success, the bottom falls out and broke and with a new baby they move back to Maine and live with her mother.

I had difficulty relating to their struggles (even though I have had difficulty finding jobs). So many people have hard luck stories these
Feb 07, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Book Groups
It’s easy to think many who were hit hard by the recession of 2008 were those who bought overpriced houses and maxed out their credit cards by buying luxury items, but there were others who just suffered from bad timing.

In 2008, full of hope and the promise of a becoming more successful in their free-lance careers, Caitlin and Dan loaded up their car, and along with Hopper the dog and the cat Ellison left their home state of Maine and headed to Los Angeles. For a while everything was fine (excep
Anna Bez
May 11, 2011 rated it it was ok
This book gets 2 stars because it made me realize how lucky I have been through the recession of 2009, 2010, (2011, 2012?). Other than that, this was blah. The book feels like a blog that has been rehashed into a novel (which is exactly what it is, big shocker!). The author grated on my nerves.
Sep 18, 2012 rated it it was ok
Shelves: book-club
A well-written book, funny at times, but utterly frustrating content and main character. The word "spoiled" comes to mind. ...more
Apr 08, 2014 rated it did not like it
This depressing book is proof that our country is filled with clueless young adult entitlement liberals who whine their way through life, expecting others to provide for them while misspending money and complaining about WalMart or those of us that choose to save our money through intelligent spending. The book is so shockingly bad that it's surprising that it got published--but the fact that the author was an NPR freelancer means there is a ready public radio audience that will praise this book ...more
KJ Grow
Mar 11, 2011 rated it liked it
Shelves: memoir
I like to tell people that reading a good "trainwreck" memoir is my greatest guilty pleasure. Women scorned, love lost, worlds unraveled - this is the delicious stuff of reality tv made all the more intimate when told long form in the author's own voice. I always have mixed feelings about these books - I respect the authors for baring their souls and revealing the messiness of their lives in such a courageous way ("unflinching" seems to be the word that appears on the flap copy of all these book ...more
Nov 08, 2011 rated it liked it
Shelves: nonfiction
I enjoyed reading this memoir, you really got a sense for the author and her family. In general I thought her writing made her story relatable, even in the parts where a lot of people who have written reviews have been annoyed: mentioning her weight or talking about having a mini-break down. I guess I find that sort of honesty where you admit about things you might not appreciate about yourself refreshing. I liked that she described how life is a total mess and you're just trying to get by while ...more
Apr 20, 2013 rated it liked it
I enjoyed this book at the beginning, but about two-thirds of the way through I began to feel frustrated with it. I wanted to love it because I have so much in common with the author. I live in Maine, but have lived a few years in CA. I listen to NPR, enjoy good, local food, etc. etc. But what I could not relate to was how much good fortune she had that she did not seem to recognize. To start with she has incredibly supportive parents, the kind many of us wish we had. She calls her dad when she ...more
May 15, 2011 rated it really liked it
Found that I could really relate to Caitlin Shetterly's situation. Sometimes by trying on a new way of being you can sink the ship and there is nothing more humbling than trying to put things back together again. She wrote her story with real humanity - it was really funny and really sad. And moving into your mother's house with a husband and a baby - I can relate. ...more
Randa D'aoust
Jan 20, 2018 rated it it was ok
Shelves: biography-memoir
I found this more tedious than interesting, though I did finish it. I couldn't put my finger on my feelings, but generally I didn't like the author or her attitude about life. I realize that she is writing about a dark time in her life, but it didn't fit my cultural norm and so I struggled to empathize or care about what happened to her and her family. ...more
Amy (Bossy Bookworm)
Mar 09, 2011 rated it it was ok
I thought this author and I were going to click, but the things she found funny and/or poignant didn't resonate the same way with me. The heart of her story is important, but despite that I kept wondering as I read, "Is this really enough for a book?" and was asking the same question at the end. ...more
Is that not the most gorgeous cover ever? It's spectacular, and the story that is Made for You and Me is one of the best-written and engrossing memoirs that I've read. It's the story behind the statistics of what has been, for countless people, the disappearance of their American dreams at the hands of the American recession.

It doesn't take a psychologist to figure out that the reason this one resonated so much with me is because I identify with Caitlin and Dan so much. Our story is very differ
Mar 03, 2018 rated it it was amazing
A good book is one you think about all day at work, and can't wait to get back home to read. That's how I felt about Caitlin Shetterly's memoir. It will resonate with anyone who has ever searched for the American Dream but felt like the universe was just not on their side. I loved her message in the end, that ultimately life is all about family and friends and our need to depend upon and get help from each other, and until Americans realize this, there will be people who fall through the cracks. ...more
Kathy Morrison
Mar 20, 2018 rated it really liked it
Caitlin tells her story with just enough details to build the suspense of where life will take them next, just enough humor to make the reader feel a part of the story, and beautiful imagery to paint the picture of her surroundings. Despite every chapter bringing another setback, the family never dwells on being victims. This shows a true spirit of inner strength and sustaining marriage built on love and trust. It should inspire the reader to never give up hope or lose sight of your goals
Jun 08, 2017 rated it really liked it
I really enjoyed this read. I went trhough it rather quickly as it was engaging. I could relate to alot of what she was going through but appreciated her insights.
Feb 16, 2020 rated it really liked it
Well written.
Although she shared her story via NPR radio diaries as it happened, I didn't learn about Shetterly's personal financial turmoil until I read an excerpt from her new memoir, Made for You and Me: Going West, Going Broke, Finding Home, in the Sunday crossword section (some people call it the magazine) of the New York Times. The excerpt intrigued me, in part because of the witty and poignant writing, but mostly because I couldn't believe Shetterly, someone whose work I admired and assumed would stea ...more
Mar 22, 2011 rated it really liked it
Shelves: arc, nonfiction, own
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Mar 15, 2011 rated it liked it
I received this book as part of LibraryThing Early Reviewers.

Made for You and Me follows the journey of Caitlin and her family as they move across the country to L.A. follow their dreams, but are ultimately forced to move back east when they run out of money and job prospects. I could relate to the impulsive decision-making and the plan to leap and wait for the net to appear. They are a brave family clearly full of love and lucky to have so many people who love and supper them that they were abl
Apr 10, 2011 rated it really liked it
Shelves: bio-memoir
I think it's important to remember that Made for You and Me is a memoir, one person's experience of a certain point in her life and in American history. It's not a how-to book; Shetterly isn't giving advice to others in similar positions. She's also not trying to compare her situation to those of others in any sort of mine-is-worse-than-yours sort of way. Rather, she is sharing her family's story, with its good decisions and its not-so-good ones, its ups and downs as they, personally, experience ...more
Jun 04, 2011 rated it it was amazing
I love books written by Maine authors and if it's set in Maine too? Well, that's a huge bonus. Right at the beginning (p. 53),this statement, "Maine, more like a family member than a state..." grabs you and pulls you into Caitlin's story about the journey she took with her husband to California to start their lives together. Their philosophy is summed up in this quote she offers (p. 72)by Helen Keller: " Life is either a daring adventure or nothing." The reader gets a glimpse inside the lives of ...more
Nov 15, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Caitlyn Shetterly, a writer known for her NPR pieces, and a Maine native, along with her photographer husband, head off to California following their dreams of making it big in the land of opportunity. There was just one problem; the bottom is just about ready to fall out of the U.S. economy, which is does after they arrive in California.

What follows is a harrowing look at the precarious nature of life for all but the richest Americans.

Shetterly, plagued by a extremely difficult pregnancy that
May 09, 2011 rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2011
Memoir of a year in which the writer moves from Maine to LA with her husband, gets knocked up, struggles to find jobs in the rocky economy, and ends up having to move back to Maine to live with her mom.

This book was ok, but it didn't really move me or tell me anything new about the recession. The author was a bit of a complainer at times & that was tiresome, as she and her husband chose this path & took risks that didn't work out. They risked getting pregnant (and did). She had a rough time dur
Liza Bakewell
Mar 19, 2011 rated it it was amazing
This is a love story, first and foremost, about a young couple, in love, who venture West from the East, imagining themselves, or at least the author imagining themselves, as a contemporary Little House on the Prairie family. They are in love with the U.S., being young and alive, with dreams of prosperity and excellence. But what happens is not what they dreamed. Nevertheless, the love story prevails. It is easy to read. There are lots --but not overbearing-- references to literature, song, and ...more
Momm DePlume
May 09, 2011 rated it did not like it
Self-absorbed Drivel. A princess finds out that life doesn't always hand you what you want, poor thing. Desperately attempting to draw parallels between her life and , first, that of Laura Ingalls Wilder and then Mary, yes That Mary, the author tries hard to pad her yawn inducing " memoirs". The mostly fluff narrative is speckled with oddly placed recipes and synonyms freshly plucked from the pages of Merriam-Webster. The stories aren't all that interesting and in the end her hardships aren't al ...more
I felt like the story was rushed. That she was breathlessly trying to tell us about the terrible, horrible, not so good, very bad thing that happened to them. While they blame the economy, some of it was just poor planning on their part, no contingency plan, and a want of more. Wasn't that what took them to the westcoast? Although she does appear to finally "get it" to the end, with the simplicity thing.

I wanted to love this story, the idea of going out to come back home, but really didn't have
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Caitlin Shetterly is a frequent contributor to National Public Radio where she reports on arts and culture, food, and lifestyle. She can be heard on both All Things Considered and Weekend Edition. For Weekend Edition, she created a series of autobiographical audio diaries about the Recession under the title Diary of a Recession. These diaries, along with her blog, Passage West, inspired her memoir ...more

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