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A Natural History of Love
Diane Ackerman
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A Natural History of Love

3.84  ·  Rating details ·  1,455 Ratings  ·  83 Reviews
The bestselling author of A Natural History of the Senses now explores the allure of adultery, the appeal of aphrodisiacs, and the cult of the kiss. Enchantingly written and stunningly informed, this "audaciously brilliant romp through the world of romantic love" (Washington Post Book World) is the next best thing to love itself.

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Published September 4th 1996 by Random House Value Publishing (first published February 21st 1994)
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rose vibrations
Jan 18, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: favourites
I decided to write my very first review for this book but GoodReads decided that it would be a fabulous idea to no longer function after I clicked the "submit" button. Thanks, GoodReads.

Maybe it's a sign that I'm really awful at writing reviews and should just stick to rating books while brooding in my dark, quiet corner of the world.

Alas, I'll leave you with this:

Love feeds a million watchfires in the encampment of the body

Love it or leave it.
Oct 09, 2013 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: did-not-finish
I couldn't drag myself through the rest of this book. I got about 75% through it, and that was only by skimming. The writing is horribly florid and overwrought, with only the faintest sprinkling of "history" spread so far and few amongst the pages that the only reason I kept turning them was in an attempt to find something interesting.

I think I would have known to stay away if the title was more accurate, like "A History of Stuff Diane Ackerman Rambles on About Like A Well-Spoken Stoner."
Love seems the perfect topic for a writer like Diane Ackerman to tackle -- her writing is frilly, juicy, bursting with enthusiasm for her subject. Best so far is her explanation of the knight's role with his lady: lingering in the deliciousness of physical desire, playing peek-a-boo with certain body parts, titillating but rarely touching -- all in the name of adding a spice to the Lady's eroticless marriage and elevating the knight's virtue! Yum! If I smoked, I'd need a cigarette after reading ...more
Feb 17, 2008 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Tj by: Alice
Shelves: informative
The historical background on love through the ages, and in different cultures was really interesting (granted it was very Western) and followed a nice progression from ancient Greece to the Victorian era.

After awhile the book moves into musings on love, which though interesting, I thought went on too long. Honestly I just skimmed most of them, they were so long.

I would have liked more of the actual history, and more perspectives from different parts of the world.
Cliff Dolph
Feb 11, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Reading Diana Ackerman is like taking a class. I don't mean that in a bad way, like drudgery. It's like a really good class, one that is enlightening, eye-opening, thought-provoking. One that makes connections, bringing together various disciplines and perspectives.

In this case, the topic of the class is love. Ackerman looks at it historically, mythologically, psychologically, biologically, anthropologically, and spiritually. Although I get the feeling she may be a trained scientist, she writes
Feb 04, 2016 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I loved this book when I found it in a local used book store.

I was obsessed and read ravenously through the first couple of sections.

-A Long Desire: The History of Love
-The Heart is a Lonely Heart: Ideas About Love
-All Fires the Fire: The Nature of Love

Because I'm one of those scatter-brained readers, I paused there. Months later, I picked it back up and felt disappointed once I got to the section A Necessary Passion: The Erotics of Love...

Diane's prose is wordy, lovely, and sensational. When sh
Jan 30, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
There was a sad lack of representation of non-heternormative romantic relationships in this book, and some of the ideas about gender and how it fits in society are quite outdated. Those are the only qualms I have with this book, though. Otherwise, it's a very good, informative book that I thoroughly enjoyed reading. I can forgive the book it's faults since it was written in the early nineties and things have changed a bit since then.
Valentina Tkachenko
Partially my own fault for not liking it, I was really hoping for an actual history book. Too little scholarship, too much of the author's musings on love. Then again, that's my taste - it might be great for others. Has some well written passages.
Brett Kistler
This book has a lot of really interesting content. The skirt-chasing habits of Benjamin Franklin in France, the hilariously naîve modern marriage traditions (such as the fact that groomsmen were first introduced to the marriage event during kidnap-weddings to prevent the bride's angry family from rescuing her before the deed was done), the prevalence of open(-esque) relationships throughout history, and even a little neurochemistry.

The author is savvy enough to frequently jump out of certain exi
Christy S
Nov 04, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfiction, favorites
A favorite-- This is poetry and science dancing together.

Ackerman’s words paint pictures in your mind as you read them, and always seem to present complex information with surprising ease. She has written a plethora of poetry as well as a broad spectrum of non-fiction, books that always seem to master the art of quality, entertaining writing about subjects in natural science without making them seem like science at all. With her poet’s ear for sentences and a teaching tone, she brings science t
Darrin Clutteur
Dec 09, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is the 4th or 5th book I haw read by Ms. Ackerman and I can't speak highly enough of her ability to invoke all of the senses in her reader. Her writing is so smooth and intelligent. I have to admit this topic (love) isn't one I would normally read about. I tend to enjoy non-fiction, scientific writing (which she has a few books in this realm). However, there is an underlying sensuality in all of her writing. So I figured if anyone could write about "love" and keep me from feeling like I was ...more
Scott J.
Jun 18, 2007 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
An interesting, quick-moving study of the biological, evolutionary, and anthropological ramifications of the fact that humans are (or at least are now) hard-wired to love each other.

Ackerman does a good job of steering clear of anything that smacks of sappy romance or warm fuzzy reassurance that "everything will be OK because we're all programmed for love. Let's everyone get stoned and fuck." If one is going to take a serious look at the vague concept of love as a biological function (and claim
Mar 22, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I was alternately bored to tears and completely fascinated by this book. And it took me forever to read. But in the end, it was a highly enlightening endeavor.

Explaining love in terms of evolutionary imperatives and chemical reactions isn't exactly romantic, but makes so much sense. I was disappointed, though, that while Ackerman touched on many of the "hows" and "whys" of love, one lingering question was not answered: Why are we attracted to one person over another? What exactly sets those chem
I picked up this book from my shelf-- apparently I have already read it... but I have no memory of it! From rereading the first couple of chapters, though, I'm not sure I'd give it as many as 3 stars. She seems to proceed without first defining what she means by "love." Is it a feeling? Is it hormones? An emotional state? Is it something you DO? A close reader (or someone who has read a whole lot about "love") will notice that she uncritically bounces around between different conceptions of love ...more
Apr 24, 2013 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
I expected to learn more reading this book. Early on the book, she uses the story of Orpheus and Eurydice as an example of desire. At the end of the section, she has a riff on what the myth could mean. It didn't ring true to me, it was if she left out something essential. It made me read the rest of the book with an awareness that I was questioning her interpretations. I kept thinking: If I didn't get much out of or even agree with her interpretation of a story I know well, how could I trust her ...more
While there are a few very interesting facts regarding love, sex, and history, Ackerman's metaphors border on the ridiculously cheesy. Several times in the course of reading, I found myself rolling my eyes and yelling, "oh my gawdddd!!!! are you (expletive deleted) serious?!" I would post a few examples if I were in the mood to wince and cringe, but I just ate.

*ALSO, I am thoroughly perplexed by the use of such antiquated terms as "discos" (as a plural noun) in a contemporary context. In a book
Urban Crow
diane ackerman takes on the subject of love, much as she has taken on other subjects as an author of creative non-fiction over the years, and explores the history, physiology and mythologies of this romantic subject. as always, ackerman proves that the world of nonfiction need not be non-literate or staid, as her writing carries a certain lyrical quality and poetic sensibility i always enjoy. this was not my favourite of her books, and it may be that the subject matter is just not that interesti ...more
Maggie Campbell
"Love makes mania respectable."

"I did not mean to be diverted from my path by pleasure; I couldn't help myself. In the same way, love distracts one from the tidiest plans, the narrowest course, the clearest goals."

"Wouldn't it make more sense to believe that when love brings two people together they are a community of two, not a compound of one?"

"The loves of two people in love with each other are seldom the same."

"Fear, too, is crucial to love. Certainty, familiarity, complacency- they all lead
Jun 16, 2011 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: culture, love
A lot of the cultural criticism in this book is dated, which is unfortunate, because Ackerman is a beautiful writer, and when you get to a section that is less reliant on old information, her prose really sings. I particularly enjoyed the section on great thinkers on love, especially Proust and Freud. The book also suffers from some incredibly gender essentialist themes*, and pretty heteronormative.

*I kind of loved when she talked about the horses as the universal symbol for female sexuality an
Jul 12, 2007 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I find that when reading this book and "Natural History of the Senses" back-to-back, this one suffers in comparison. But after re-reading this on its own, I find it to be as brilliant--at certain parts she's on the edge of sappiness--but I guess when the subject is love, it takes a lot of talent to not get sappy and melodramatic. Any writer deciding to take on this tricky subject ought to have a strong stomach and get ready for the brick-bats. On the second reading, I noticed that the book start ...more
Jul 27, 2007 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone who is interested in the historical context of love
Diane Ackerman covers the history of love from Egypt through the present, examining the origins of rituals like marriage and where love comes from. It's a pretty ambitious topic, but the delicious details in the book--like that giving a "toast" comes from medieval times when people would put actual bread in the glass and drink until the liquid was gone--make it a fascinating and extremely educational read. If you need cool facts to spout at a cocktail party or are just a hopeful romantic, this b ...more
A LOVEly (!) read! A Natural History of the Senses is one of my all-time favorite books and while this one wasn't quite as delicious (!), it was a pleasure and fascinating to read. And yes, one of the things I learned was that the word "fascinating" comes from the Greek (I think) word for "penis" and I think of that every single time I say or write the word "fascinating" ~ which is, as it turns out, a lot.
Sep 25, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
So far, very interesting! Amazing to discover how "new" the concept of having love within a marriage actually is. Also, she's doing a lovely job of taking the reader through the various cultures and time and how the role of women has changed, evolved, fallen down, got back up, etc. And I've only just begun! LOVE Diane Ackerman's writing!
There are many fascinating little facts and stories in this book. The first part of the book (the history of love) is the strongest and the most full of information that I enjoyed. Later on I feel like Ackerman is reaching a little to flesh out her content. But I enjoy her writing style and subject matters, so all in all a good read.
Aug 28, 2007 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: abandoned
I read about half of it. It was mildly entertaining, but presented absolutely no thesis. It was just a random compilation of uncorrelated anecdotes about love or something tangentially related to love. It wasn't terrible or anything, just didn't have enough glue to will me to continue reading. The book was due and it wasn't really worth the renewal.
Feb 03, 2011 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: own-to-read
History part fascinating.
Psychology part interesting and thought-provoking.
Last third was hard to read.

Extremely heterosexual and very close-minded about sex. Definitely more of a conservative author, but she does keep relatively neutral in the history and psychology sections, which was appreciated.
Shane Moore
A thoughtful, thorough, and at times meandering look at the history of how people have thought and talked about love through the ages. Personally I preferred the historical and etymological asides to the descriptions of personal experiences, which ranged from the slightly silly (an inside description of the stereotypical love of horses by women) to the sadly sentimental.
Eric McGreevy
This book was actually brutal to read...while I found the first third mildly entertaining the rest was difficult and I often found my mind wandering. To be sure, love and the idea of being "in love" is a difficult concept to tackle and I truly wanted to learn something new. I did, but it was a painful read that was about 150 pages too long...
May 01, 2009 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
When I first saw the title of Nicole Krauss' The History of Love, I got rilly excited, because I thought it'd be a deconstruction of the trope. Imagine my disappointment when I realized it was a love...story.


I fink this is the text that I was looking for...but we shall see.


And, no.

Feb 25, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: any human, lovers and haters
I read in my late 20s-- approximately 2008. I finally internalized the essentialness of love after reading this. Love is required for satisfactory survival-- it is not emotional frivolity or poetic medium. It's stitched to our biology and gives us structural and emotional shape.
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