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Sex, Mom, and God: How the Bible’s Strange Take on Sex Led to Crazy Politics--and How I Learned to Love Women (and Jesus) Anyway

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“A penetrating analysis of political extremism, with a moving and at times hilarious account of growing up in one of the Christian right’s most influential families. Few writers command Frank Schaeffer’s intimate understanding of right-wing radicalism, and even fewer are able to share their insight as entertainingly and with as much moral weight as he has in Sex, Mom, and ...more
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Published May 31st 2011 by Da Capo Press (first published May 26th 2011)
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Elizabeth Hall
Jul 07, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: feminism
I just read one of the most spiritually, politically, and psychologically significant books I have ever read: Frank Schaeffer’s Sex, Mom, And God: How the Bible’s Strange Take on Sex Led to Crazy Politics—And How I Learned to Love Women (and Jesus) Anyway. My God, America needs this book. We need it like a slap in the face, like a long cold drink of water, like a goodnight kiss on the crown of our beloved heads from a long-lost father. We need this book to heal.

I realized just how important this
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Ian
Dec 22, 2012 rated it did not like it
An angry little man rants about his childhood. It ranges from uncomfortable to incomprehensible. Half the time it seems that Frank wants to shock the reader with his opinions and the other half he just wants to lay down on a sofa and talk about how he feels about his mother. At some level, I think he really wants to talk about the intersections between politics and religion, but he can't seem to get over how personally affected he was by the whole thing, darn it.

On one level, it might make for
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Sketchbook
Jul 01, 2011 rated it really liked it
Why did I read this? A pal sent...knowing there are some Religio Rt nuts on the estate, still to be smothered. Author Schaefer eviserates the religio right (and therefore the ReThug Party). He can do it: his parents were ministerial stars of the Relig Right. The writing is 3-stars, the content 6-stars. He strips bare key Rt points effectively. He damns the Neo-Cons (Normie Podhoretz & Co), but he's most effective on YouTube - don't miss. Now in his 60s, I ask: why did it take him til his 30s ...more
Suzanne
May 28, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Really poignant book. I'm from that fundamentalist background which is so very damaging to anyone, especially a child or young person. This book will enlighten anyone who is wondering about how people in the plethora of fundementalist evangelical churches became that way, and why they are leading the Republican party down a dead-end road.
Mr. Schaeffer writes with warmth, humor, and a disarming passion for honesty.
Alisa Kester
Aug 05, 2011 rated it did not like it
Shelves: non-fiction
It is unfortunate that someone who grew up reading the Bible failed *completely* to understand it. The Bible is most decidedly not anti-women, anti-sex, pro-slavery, or any of the other things Schaeffer thinks is it anti or pro. It's stance on slavery, for instance, must be seen from the perspective of when it was written. Ancient-world slavery was not in any way comparable to the modern American's idea of slavery. Ancient-world slavery was meant to be a temporary state, during which the 'slave' ...more
Karen Cox
Aug 17, 2011 rated it really liked it
I think I'd like to have a beer with Frankie Schaeffer, while at the same time being very happy he's not a relative. His father was an architect of the Religious Right; this book is more about his mother, who sounds like someone I really missed by not knowing. The cultivated woman who wore Chanel, knew poets and loved great music -- from Bach to BB King -- also took her Gospel Walnut for witnessing on Italian beaches. Frankie's taken a lot of heat for showing the less attractive side of L'Abri ...more
Johanna
Oct 02, 2011 rated it it was ok
Did not finish this one. I was enlightened about some things but did not enjoy the writing. Frank Schaeffer seems to have an axe to grind and some of it read like a tabloid magazine. Some of his criticisms seemed overly harsh and almost vindictive. What's that phrase about the newly converted or unconverted? It has been 20 years since he left the faith and I don't think he has made peace with himself yet. Hard reading compared to Carolyn Brigg's Higher Ground.
Karyl
Jun 15, 2012 rated it really liked it
Why did I pick this up? I had no idea who Frank Schaeffer was before I noticed the title of this book at my local library. I'm not a member of the Religious Right, and neither am I an Evangelical. But it was interesting, nonetheless. As a moderately liberal agnostic, I have wondered why the Right is so vehement about its positions, why it's so rabid and hate-filled, why it refuses to admit that America is much more than its religious beliefs. Schaeffer blames the schism in America between the ...more
Aspen Junge
I really enjoyed this book. Frank Schaeffer is the son of Evangelical missionaries who went into the "family business," and in the process helped to create the pro-life movement, the Moral Majority, and the religious right as political powerhouses. However, with age and experience comes humility and wisdom, and he grew to disagree with the way that evangelicals were being used as money machines for the Republican establishment and came to understand that you cannot believe that every word in the ...more
Kristofer Carlson
Apr 06, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: orthodoxy
As someone who grew up within the fundamentalist milieu, I recognize much of what Frank Schaeffer writes. It has an unmistakable ring of truth, so much that it can be hard to read. On the other hand, sometimes it seems more like gossip, such that I feel excited to read about the sins of others and revulsion at my enjoyment of other people's heartache.

Schaeffer has a tendency towards polemic, one of his least endearing qualities. He has been unable to live down nor move beyond his political
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Caren
Jan 10, 2012 rated it it was ok
Shelves: adult-nonfiction
Although parts of this book were very funny, much of it was tedious. The author continues his tell-all expose, begun in "Crazy for God", of growing up in a reformed, fundamentalist, Christian missionary family. His parents founded and ran L'Abri, a refuge for spiritual seekers tucked into the Swiss Alps. While his family definitely comes across as quirky, he got to grow up in the Alps for goodness sake, taking vacations on the Mediterranean. You can't not be a bit envious of that! I'm not sure ...more
Tina
Dec 27, 2011 rated it did not like it
Frank is a substandard writer, his content is creepy (I don't care about his childish sexual escapades nor his adult fantasies) and this book was a complete waste of an audible.com credit. Uggghhh... Try Joan Didion's "Blue Nights" or Donna Johnson's "Holy Ghost Girl" Now there are a couple of real writers! I am not quite at the f/u stage of life that Frank brags about but I am close enough to say that this book is a revelation of nothing more than Frank's justifications of his own shortcomings.
Todd
This is an amazing book by an amazing person (Frank Schaeffer). We need to study (and even make heroes of) those individuals who have the courage to change their minds. We have a ridiculous culture war raging on, both sides populated with people who could never admit to the slightest possibility they might be wrong about anything. Schaeffer is an insider from one side of the culture wars, and he describes his history, the history of the Christian Right in America, and his own "conversion."
Ancient Weaver
Not terrible, but not entirely original. I sort of get the feeling that the author is coasting off of his past reputation and and past writing with this one as this reads like a somewhat recycled version of what's already in Crazy for God.
Lisa
Oct 21, 2011 rated it liked it
Shelves: memoir
Really three and a half stars. I'm glad I'm in good company with my confussion. The conversations with mom are a riot, I laughed so hard. The end of the book gets a little preachy. But Magical Menstral Mummies is just priceless.
Gary
May 26, 2012 rated it really liked it
113 SEX, MOM, AMD GOD, Frank Schaeffer, Da Capo Press, Cambridge, MA, 2011

Note: If you're a "friend" on FB, there is a link to my Blog: "Bits of my Reading." It's a little better looking site and all 3,864 words are presented. Read pages 263 and 278 for sure. Then tell me what you think.

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Mom divided everything into Very Important Things, say, Jesus, Virginity, Japanese Flower Arrangements, Lust, See-through Black Lingerie (to be enjoyed only after marriage), and everything else, say,
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Katherine
I hardly know where to begin talking about this one. I think I had one eyebrow raised for the entire length of the book. It alternates between wildly funny, completely bizarre, weirdly pervy, and boomer baby stodgy. Schaeffer is really quite a character. Even after shedding his former far-right persona and becoming something like a moderate progressive, it's noticeable how comfortable he is speaking as an authority. But I want to believe that he is admirable enough to have truly written this ...more
Ken Sayers
Sep 03, 2019 rated it really liked it
Frank Schaeffer is incredibly open and honest in this book about his relation with his mother, the Bible and sex. Where as most people try to keep their private thoughts, actions, and struggles hidden (especially about sex), Frank puts them all out there for his readers to consider. This book is highly critical of the “Biblical God” and religious fundamentalism and perhaps rightly so. I think it is a well written book and very interesting.
Tim Rymel
Oct 14, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Francis Schaeffer was all the rage when I was involved in the fundamentalist church in the 80s. So learning about the "behind the scenes" of his family life was fascinating. I couldn't put this book down. The damage done by fundamentalist, revisionist Christians is far reaching. And, once again, things are never as they appear when it comes to strict ideologies. People will always be human.
Heidi Archer
Oct 12, 2017 rated it really liked it
Schaeffer's opinions on the still-continuing divisiveness of the abortion debate in the U.S. are nuanced, and he challenges the "purity test"-type acceptance on either the Right of Left side of the issue.

I enjoyed some of the stories from his childhood, and I was encouraged by his reconciliation with his upbringing and his parents' (and his) flaws.

Rachel Flachman
Feb 27, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I'm a fan of Frank Schaeffer's because, wow. It's hard to find words to describe the damage done by Evangelical dogma and yet he does so in ways that are both sobering and side-splitting. This book is needed and I am so thankful he had the guts to write it, knowing full well the vitriol he would attract from evangelicals.

This book is for you if: 1)you were raised Evangelical and want to dig deeper into the psyche of it's darker side, 2)you know an Evangelical and want to understand why they
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Erica Fraser
Mar 15, 2018 rated it it was ok
I had to give up half way into this book. I just couldn't read it anymore.
Liz
Oct 23, 2014 rated it really liked it
This is the next chapter in Frank Schaeffer’s memoir of his evangelical upbringing, his own young adulthood (in which he took his parents’ teachings to the extreme), and his path away from religious fundamentalism and right-wing politics. As someone whose life went in similar directions, I appreciate the stories of someone else who changed his mind. There was a time when Frank’s mother, Edith Schaeffer, was my idol and role model. Maybe now, having seen her feet of clay through her son’s eyes, I ...more
Taylor Storey
Apr 18, 2013 rated it liked it
This book was a mix of so many things! It's really hard to put into words. He does talk about sex, mom and god. It has a number of stories about his own encounters with women growing up, and he is very open and honest about those encounters.

He has only a little bit of respect for the bible, and speaks on the money chasing, sexual hypocrisy of the religious right movement he and his father helped start.

In this book he never quite documents his reason for leaving evangelicalism, I'm moving to
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Emily
Aug 28, 2012 rated it really liked it
Shelves: biographies-etc
I have met the author and am friends with one of his kids, so my take on this book might be a little skewed. Frank Schaeffer is an excellent writer, and reading his crisp prose was like easing into a relaxing bath after the poorly-written book I had read before. He is also very, very human, almost uncomfortably so with the accounts of his sexual life, but the word is in the title, so it is not as if I was not warned.

I'm conflicted because he presents a very vital, and disturbing, history of how
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Emma
Feb 08, 2014 rated it really liked it
If you haven't had a lot of exposure to the evangelical church this may just go over your head. If you have (but you no side with them) you will probably find this laugh out loud hilarious but also thought provoking!

The book is both a personal memoir of a childhood growing up as one of the 'elect', as well as a history lesson and serious critique of the state of the evangelical church and it's unholy alliance with the American republican party (and far right politics in general). I was truly
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James
Feb 23, 2012 rated it liked it
I haven't read any Franky Schaeffer since he abandoned his youthful evangelicalism in favor of the ineffable God of Orthodoxy. He has since repented from his part in creating the religious right (with his dad and others).

This book repeats intimate details of the Schaeffer house. If you want to know about Francis and Edith's sex life, the time little Franky put his *ahem* franky into an ice sculpture, the physical and verbal abuse that Francis inflicted on Edith, and the time Edith almost left
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Sara
Jan 26, 2012 rated it liked it
This book is more disjointed & rambling than Schaeffer's earlier memoir, Crazy for God. In Sex, Mom, and God, Schaeffer attempts some analysis of his parents' work and its effects on US politics & society. Although Schaeffer tries to explore the rather sadly conflicted relationship between his parents and their subsequent role as deified evangelists in certain circles, the narrative is too disjointed in many places to follow his arguments. The most interesting portions were Schaeffer's ...more
Joy
Feb 28, 2011 rated it liked it
Shelves: memoir, religion
Frank Schaeffer's somewhat odd but heartfelt tribute to his mother--Edith Schaeffer--a missionary who spent most of her life devoted to a theology and politics her son now can't stand, but also a remarkable personality in her own right. A fair amount of this book is spent discussing Edith's boundary-free attitude toward talking about sex, which leads to the absolute best scene in the book. It would spoil it to give it away, but it involves a fully functional ice sculpture of a naked woman. The ...more
Mad Scientist
This was my first book by Frank Schaeffer, but not my last. I RECOMMEND this book; however I'll point out that it poses hard questions about the Paradox nature of God, so it's not necessarily an easy read.

This is a very personal, intimate story of his life; describing his relationship with his mother, his religious & sexual identity journey, and finally the foundation of his faith.

I related to aspects of his upbringing; hearing his story, in his own voice, is helping me parse mine.

I also
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Frank Schaeffer is a New York Times bestselling author of more than a dozen books. Frank is a survivor of both polio and an evangelical/fundamentalist childhood, an acclaimed writer who overcame severe dyslexia, a home-schooled and self-taught documentary movie director, a feature film director of four low budget Hollywood features Frank has described as “pretty terrible.” He is also an acclaimed ...more
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