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Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm

3.83  ·  Rating details ·  545 ratings  ·  52 reviews
The truth is: Most women do not have satisfying sex lives. SLOW SEX can change that.

Better sex is about one thing: better orgasm. This life-altering guide teaches men and women how to use the practice of Orgasmic Meditation-or OM-to slow down, connect emotionally, and achieve authentic female sexual satisfaction. The promise: In just fifteen minutes every woman can become
Hardcover, 256 pages
Published May 25th 2011 by Grand Central Life & Style (first published 2011)
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May 17, 2013 rated it really liked it
Yes. This book is worth reading. Good stuff. Thought provoking. That's all I'll say. Except that some of the gendered generalizations did not fly with me, particularly the ones about women needing to stop breaking down in order to make a man feel safe in bed. Nevertheless, if you skip the chapters about what men and women really want, you'll very much enjoy the rest. And no, I have not practiced this technique yet but I am intrigued to know that it exists. And now that is really all I'll say. (B ...more
Jul 01, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Oh my God. OH MY GOD.
Jul 01, 2013 rated it it was ok
Shelves: sexuality
A one trick pony - OMing (a form of sexual mindfulness) is her universal answer. She guarantees women an orgasm every time by redefining "orgasm" to not require climax. In fact it is stretched to the point that it is present even in boring or somewhat unpleasant episodes – since you’re being so very open and Zen that you accept them all with equal-mindedness. Hmmm … does orgasm mean anything at all in this context? By the end orgasm almost seems to be an attitude or state of mind. Only for coupl ...more
May 31, 2013 rated it really liked it
For reasons that I suspect that have more to do with this country's puritanical conditioning than with me, it gave me pause to read a book about sex. But I'm glad I did. It's worth it.

This is a book for couples looking to unlock an emotional depth that can only be achieved by sexual intimacy. Not the kind of intimacy we see in Hollywood movies but the real kind. It took me no time at all -- days -- to get into, process, discuss and ultimately use the techniques in this book to bring me closer t
Nov 12, 2013 rated it it was amazing
It's really about way more than sex. It recommends a kind of practice that can potentially transform ones life.
Sep 20, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: sex
"Better sex is about...better orgasm. Teaches men & women the practice of orgasmic meditation -- om -- to slow down. Connect emotionally, achieve authentic female satisfaction. The 'slow sex movement' is devoted to the art & craft. OM is the act of slowing down, tuning in, experiencing a deeper spiritual & physical connection during sex. The philosophy & techniques of OM as well as exercises for 'regular' sex life... This book is an argument for daily intercourse. it's also an ar ...more
Aug 25, 2013 rated it liked it
It comes off a bit gimmicky and over-simplified, but I think Nicole's technique is a good jumping-off point for anyone looking for "deeper connection" in their sex life. I really enjoyed her own biographical monologue in the first chapter; and didn't enjoy the branded-marketing feeling we get when she talks about "OM" and "turnon".
Isabel Losada
Jun 03, 2017 rated it it was amazing
A tantric sex teacher I know recommended this book when I was working on the book 'Sensation.' This is wonderful, rich, and brave and simply the best book about female sexuality that I've ever read. If you have a partner and he/ she is at all committed to the quality of your sexual experience or you are to theirs then I couldn't recommend this more. :-) x i
Steve Lee Sr
Sep 02, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: books-i-own
Interesting, but not much fun alone. I couldn't actually say if this book was helpful or not, since it's intended for couples and at the moment I'm not part of one of those. I'll also need to see if it's available in Spanish.

So at some point in the future I'd like to listen to this again, but WITH someone.
Apr 27, 2012 rated it liked it
This sounds like a good thing but I can't imagine that very many men would be interested in signing up for it -- and as a woman -- it sounds a lot like work -- but that could be because I'm not in a relationship right now :-)
Jul 20, 2011 rated it really liked it
yay sex cult!
Fer Camaccio iñiguez
Jun 07, 2015 rated it it was amazing
A little bit difficult to put it into practice at first, but once you manage to get the m.o. in your repertoire, your sex life will boost to new levels. The hard thing is to convince your parnter to start.
Bea Elwood
May 06, 2011 rated it did not like it
Shelves: reshelved
This book promised a lot but was not at all what I was expecting. I thought it was a self help book for women but really its a gimicky boring and clumsy book for middle aged men to get them to rethink about sex and orgasims and pleasing their partner. I didn't finish it.
Ellie Lum
Sep 19, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Everyone should read this book. This book will change your life.
Jul 01, 2013 rated it really liked it
Fascinating sexuality practice that emphasizes awareness and connection.
Jul 31, 2012 rated it it was amazing
I wrote a stunning review and it didn't show up. Cest la vie.
Jun 19, 2011 rated it it was ok
Shelves: unfinished
Just not feeling it right now.
Gyan Tyagi
Jun 03, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I came to this book from watching Nicole giving a TED talk on YouTube.
Highly recommended for either sex/any gender. Wish I'd had it years ago. Wish past lovers had, too !
Jun 30, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Reviewed at: Over A Cuppa Tea
Review date: 1 July 2011
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My husband was positively flabbergasted when he saw this inside one of my ‘pornography’ reading list. Gosh, what wouldn’t I give to see him blush and flustered like that again? I’d give anything just to see that again. I love it when he’s surprised like that and looked at me as if he’s discovered something new and absolutely wicked about me.

Anyway… enough with my amusement… LOL. I can assure you it won’
Dec 28, 2011 rated it it was amazing
I have this as an audio book. The thing is, it's not about what you think it's about. I can't wait to listen to it with my fiance and start to practice some of the ideas in here. Many books about sex just say to have better sex, a woman just needs to relax. That's nonsense - there's much more to it than "just" relaxing, which I don't find terribly easy when I'm _not_ busy being intimate. Savoring my relaxation time is something I keep saying I want to do but not actually doing it; this book prac ...more
Jan 23, 2014 rated it really liked it
I didn't really get through the full thing. Maybe I'm not ready for the full extent of what Nicole Daedone teaches but the intro is great. Not just about slowing down for sex, but about slowing down and enjoying, no creating a relationship with, life. I think I will be coming back to this at some point in the future.
David Schwarm
Sep 12, 2018 rated it really liked it
This "sex manual" is actually a very good mediation guide. The focus is on Pleasure and Connection which is likely obvious from the title, but what is not intuitively obvious is how down to earth and practical the advice often is; advice which generally seems to boil down to three things:

1. Don't Add Anything
2. Pay Attention to the Sensations in your Body
3. Follow your desire

these three things are, in my experience, not the traditional foundations of a meditation practice (Doctor Chodron does no
Feb 14, 2018 rated it liked it
I guess I’m happy I’ve gone through this book, because there were a few thoughts I could take away and which I wouldn’t have gotten otherwise... but I had to force myself to complete it. The subject is intriguing, but the book is way too long, painfully repetitive and I found the writing often cheap and cliche.

I've listened to it as an audiobook but if I was to recommend it to someone, I would suggest them to read the book, where they can progress at their own pace and easily skip or skim throu
Apr 30, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: sexuality

Yes, Yes, Yes! That's the only thing I can say about this book. Nicole Daedone tells about the best way to set the foundation of every couple's sex lives. Orgasmic Meditation aka OM is the gateway to understand women's needs and pleasure zone. I like that she tells in her workshops how it changes many couples lives and pumped their sex lives. I like reading personal stories and great instructions. I bought the book and audio book and I enjoyed both of them
Lucy Whitaker
Mar 21, 2018 rated it liked it
what's with all the "this is what women want" "this is what men want"
like can we not with the idea that all women are emotionally complicated and need to be protected and saved from their own minds whereas men are simple and have low emotional intelligence

Sep 11, 2017 rated it really liked it
I wonder how different this world could be if we focused more on stuff like this. Just a thought.
Jun 04, 2017 rated it liked it
Overall an interesting concept, but I especially loved the discussion of bringing more sensation and desire into your whole life.
Apr 18, 2018 rated it really liked it
I almost never finish sex books, even good ones. The bookmark wedged halfway into Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life is getting dusty... Somethign about Slow Sex really kept me reading though. It’s not without its limitations. This book is fairly heteronormative, although she cops to this, and a little essentialist about gender in some ways, but it also gave me insights into my own limitations with hetero-sex, and has helped me rethink how and why I ha ...more
Dec 06, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Its kind of funny as I age I sort of am taking steps backwards towards my early twenties. I used to be someone who didn't really care about censoring myself and would post every dumb idea that would pop into my brain. Then I began to become more reserved almost never wanting to post anything about myself in fears of not getting that job I was applying for. Now in my mid-twenties I am more life experience, I make better decisions, more peaceful and tolerant of the world around me,yet, I want to b ...more
Dec 09, 2012 rated it it was amazing
It is not primarily about slow sex. It's not about positions, sex toys or some spiritual woo-woo either. It's about a healthy, down to earth, sensation-based approach to sex that our culture is seriously lacking. No recipes here, only a simple practice with few guidelines that will hopefully let the reader discover and free his or her own desire that will form his or her own unique approach to sensuality and intimacy. Personally, I have found that the few guidelines for the practice described in ...more
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Nicole Daedone is an author, consultant, teacher and entrepreneur in service of bringing a more fulfilling sense of orgasm to the world. Voted one of Vanity Fair’s Twelve Women Who Changed the Way We Look at Sex, Nicole first came to prominence as the leader of the Slow Sex Movement and the innovator of the 15 minute orgasm. Throughout her work, Nicole has expanded the horizons of sexual experienc ...more
“While you are sucking her, take two fingers and slide them inside her. Feel how the blood in her skin is hot against your fingers as you do. Feel the weight of her pussy. Reach up inside her, to the spot that would be the back of her clit, and you will find a spot right there that is soft, like the top of a baby’s head. Rest your fingers there. You do not need to move. Just press very gently. Notice how the pressure pushes her clit from behind, how it pops forward into your mouth. Suck it as if you were sucking all the juices out of it.” 0 likes
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