reading is the ultimate aphrodisiac

Posted by Jessica on April 1, 2008
Admit it. We all do it. Before a first date, a quick Google search of your date's name can be extremely informative. Maybe you'll find his past triathlon times (sexy), criminal record (not sexy), and maybe his entire bookshelf catalogued on Goodreads -- a true mother lode of information.

How do you interpret this information? Are there certain books or writers whose presence would incite your passion? On the flip side, would you cancel the date based on a glowing review of a book you hated?

Currently topping the New York Times most emailed list is an essay by Rachel Donadio about literary dealbreakers for romance, explaining that "listing your favorite books and authors is a crucial, if risky, part of self-branding" on social networking sites. Hundreds of people have posted on her blog to share their personal dealbreakers (Ayn Rand, J.R.R. Tolkien, and Dan Brown are most frequently cited as writers that kill the mood). But plenty of people have also written in to say that dating is hard enough without adding literary snobbery into the mix.

The "compare books" tool on Goodreads allows you to see how similar your bookshelves are to anyone else's. Many Goodreads members send friend requests to readers with similar tastes. But what's the proper threshold? 25% similarity? 50%? 75%? If I find a reader with 100% compatibility, does that mean he's my soulmate?

Good luck interpreting the statistics of love. For now, my only dealbreaker is if he says he doesn't like to read at all.

Have you met someone special on Goodreads? Are your Goodreads bookshelves an archive of a solitary pastime or a public representation of your identity? Tell us your stories in the Goodreads Feedback group!

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message 1: by [deleted user] (new)

I am already (as I'm sure that many others are) subjected to judgements in this world. People already determine who they think you are as a person by looks, music tastes, sense of humor, body language, charisma, and many other factors. Why add books into the mix? As if human beings don't have a hard enough time getting people to drop their preconceived notions these days. Anyone who uses book taste as a determining factor should be put in a circle of an angry mob. Of whom they've probably already judged.

message 2: by DarrelKovacek (new)

DarrelKovacek Reading is the only passion that is helping me very much to spend the end days of life peacefully. I hired an online writer to ask him write my dissertation in an excellent way so that I can complete it on time. I have stored plenty of fascinating books in my collection but yet I am always ready to find more.

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