Careful or You’ll End Up in My Novel: The Romance Novelist at Work

Posted by Hayley on July 12, 2018
Susan Mallery is listening. The bestselling author of Chasing Perfect and You Say It First finds inspiration for her humorous, heartwarming books everywhere—from fictional families to real-life "meet cutes." Here Mallery shares why she loves meeting new couples, how relationships shape the characters in her new romance, When We Found Home, and what she wants to know about you.



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Whenever I meet a couple at, say, a cocktail party, I always ask, "How did you meet?"

Then: "What brought you together? What got in your way? And how did you overcome that to ultimately be here today, talking to a writer who asks too many questions?"

I'm endlessly fascinated by human behavior and, in particular, by the infinitely nuanced interactions between two individuals. No two stories are exactly alike, even if on the surface they're similar. Every person's emotions, perceptions, actions, and reactions are influenced by everything that happened in his or her life to that point. The story of a person's life impacts every subsequent moment of that life.

This must also be true in fiction for the characters to feel genuine, particularly in the character-driven stories of popular women's fiction. The relationships aren't beside the point—they are the point. Relationships drive the plots.

Dorothea Benton Frank's By Invitation Only does this well. It is an entertaining study of two very different families—the haves and the have-nots—brought together for the wedding of a beloved son and daughter. The mothers are forced into an odd sort of intimacy, family but not really family, as they play their roles in helping to plan the wedding.


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What makes it so compelling is that it's not just about the wedding. A wedding is fleeting, but the mothers are facing the reality that they'll have to put up with each other for the rest of their lives. Their interactions ring true because Frank created characters whose personal histories color every moment. And then the events of the story cause the characters to grow and change, which ultimately reshapes the relationship between them.

Mary Kay Andrews adds an intergenerational twist in The High Tide Club. The action takes place in the early 1940s and in present day, and it's a testament to Andrews' skill with characterization to see how the events of 70 years ago still resonate. What happened to the characters long ago affected the way they lived their lives, which in turn affected how the main characters of the present-day part of the tale were raised.


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In my latest book, When We Found Home, I bring together three siblings who never met—who never even knew each other existed for that matter—until the truth was discovered in their late father's paperwork. Because they come from very different circumstances, they're instantly wary of each other, as we humans tend to be.

The stories of their past shape their relationships today, and the growth of those relationships shapes the stories of their future.

So…how did you and your significant other or best friend meet? What brought you together? What got in your way? And how did you overcome that to ultimately be here today, answering a writer who asks too many questions?

Susan Mallery's When We Found Home hits bookshelves on July 10. Add it to your Want to Read shelf here.



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Ivana - Diary of Difference I am certain that my story of how I met my man is quite unique, but I dare not share it here :)


message 2: by Amber (new)

Amber I'm single so don't need a guy and never dated one or whatever so it doesn't matter. But I met my best friend in middle school; I was in 6th grade and she was in 7th grade as we were both in resource math together and we have been best friends through middle school and high school and have been best friends for a long time. We have written pen pal letters to each other by snail mail and still keep in touch. Nothing ever got in our way cuz she's very strong and threw a guy into a locker for picking on me and she'll always beat me at arm-wrestling contests we sometimes do when we meet up in real life. She's an awesome best friend to have too.


message 3: by Marguerite (new)

Marguerite My husband and I met at 14 when both of our families were transferred to the same town. Our two homes were the only ones built on the block at the time and my brother was the only other boy in the area so my husband used to come over to play video games. He was a budding artist and I was a budding writer and we used to hang out on the lawn between our houses and talk about the stories we wanted to write and the comics we wanted to draw. Our friends realized we were in love before we did. We kept chalking it off as friendship. He went away to college in another state and I was crushed. We started dating a few weeks afterward. Because we're of different races our families were concerned for us but didn't stand in our way and stood up for us when others complained. We've dealt with many health issues in our years of marriage, but we're still going strong. 30 years friends, 26 years as a couple, and 19 years married.


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Janice Have a great day.


message 5: by Sandra (last edited Jul 12, 2018 03:37PM) (new)

Sandra Bensley I met my husband, Ronnie, over 14 years ago, I was helping a friend with a new Yahoo chat room board, when I got an email that asked me if I could fix a 'technical' error on the board. I went totally dumb, but together between the two of us, we figured it out and got it fixed. After that we started emailing each other, then phone calls, then one day I get this phone call...I'm in Portland, Oregon (he's from Seattle, Washington) and on my way down to see you. Is that okay? I'm thinking Yeah that's okay...(I've got three hours to do a quick clean up before he gets here). He came down (all the way to LaPine, Oregon), stayed over...I had a 'panic attack' during the night and became flustered the next day (this was my clue that I had deeper feelings that I knew I had before). Pushed him away emotionally and thought I'd lost him. This is when it became interesting...I found out later that he'd just broken up with someone in Canada. So from there, we continued to email and call, and became closer meeting in Portland for a weekend, in Seattle a couple of times, he even came down again to take care of me when I was so sick the doctor said I could not be alone over night. We moved in together about 6 months after our face to face meeting, lived together for 7 years. Each year Ronnie would ask me to "marry him", while I would tell him..."You're not ready yet." Then he asked, "How will you know when I am ready?" My response was, "God will tell me when we are ready." In 2010, he asked again, and I realized he was serious, cause he didn't just ask and let it go, he kept bringing it up, so I started asking him questions, until one evening at an "Alpha" program at our church, I asked if he was serious about wanting to know more about the church information for weddings, he said yes. So I stopped my friend Sharon and asked if she was available after the meeting to talk with us. At that meeting, in a triangle, with Ronnie on my left, Sharon on my right (who was hanging on to my right arm and jumping up and down) while she asked Ronnie questions. "Do you know what date you want? Do you have a budget in mind? Do you know what you are....(and the questions went on, while Sharon kept getting more and more excited)." My mouth had to have dropped completely open as I realized that indeed he was ready and so was I. January 8, 2011 I walked down the isle with my Daddy to see my Ronnie standing waiting for me at the alter of our church crying as I came down. I kept thinking ....don't look at him, or you'll start crying too! It was a beautiful ceremony and reception and one we'll never forget. To this day, Ronnie can tell you the exact time frame of our years together. July 8, 2018, he says to me....we have been married for 7 1/2 years. I love this man, he remembers the little things and is the best gift God has given to me. By the way, I was 45 ( Ronnie was 49) when we got married, it was my first marriage (Ronnie's second)....I had been engaged when I was 14 for four years. This marriage was so worth the wait and to be so blessed by God through it, is my delight. Thank you for letting me tell you my story.


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Alexandria Jane I've been together with my boyfriend Matt for about 3 1/2 years now. If you told me in 10th grade that I would fall in love and coordinate colleges with someone I would have laughed in your face. And yet I can't imagine my life without him.

I went to a very small, very wealthy, private high school in the Bay Area. Case in point: in 9th grade we had a school trip to Peru, and in 10th grade we had a school trip to Costa Rica. I was always sort of friends with Matt, but I didn't know him that well.

When Matt and I got together I was in a very difficult part of my life. My best friend was leaving at the end of the year and we had begun to drift apart (this is February). At the time I thought it was just because she no longer wanted to be friends, but later on (I'll get to this) I found out she was deeply depressed.

Anyways, I was looking forward to Costa Rica because I thought my friend and I could repair our friendship. However, I wound up in a group that was literally on the opposite of the country as the rest of my friends. I was completely alone.

Well turns out all of Matt's friends were in the other group too. And so we spent that week getting to know each other... I told him all about my mom's crazy diet, and he told me about his plans to win the national debate championship (he did btw in senior year). We held hands looking at baby turtles at sunrise and he bought me smoothies.

When we got back school, I thought that would be over. I mean, come'on we were 16 and I wanted to spend as much time with my friend as I could. And yet as things got worse, I found myself looking forward to Matt's and I's conversations. It was the only time I smiled anymore.

The week after my first kiss my friend came to school and left in the middle of the day. Because of her depression, her heart failed. She would be in the hospital for the next four months and I wouldn't see her again for another six.

Everything fell apart, but Matt was just there. He was my lifeline, the reason I wanted to go to school, etc.

Junior year, I faced my own mental health struggles where I would be diagnosed with bipolar disorder and would nearly be hospitalized myself.

Yet, through all the bad times, Matt has always managed to put a smile on my face. Today both me and my friend are mentally stable and happy. Matt and I's relationship is thriving and we just went on vacation to Thailand together. We discuss current events, gossip, and political philosophy with each other. While he does not love romance novels (my kryptonite), he completely supports my failing attempts to start a blog and diligently reads all of my posts even though he mocks me relentlessly :P

I've read hundreds of romance novels and I honestly believe that my romance and my boyfriend is the best of them all.


message 7: by Michelle (new)

Michelle Party line. Anyone remember those? You'd call a number and talk to other people. I called on a goof, and ended up talking to a guy that I never guessed I would marry. I wasn't looking, and even after talking to him, wasn't particularly interested. He wore me down over a long period of time!

He's a good guy, loves animals as much as I do, pretends to care when I'm talking about books, supports me in anything I do, moved 800 miles away from home to live where I wanted to live, and is definitely the person I belonged with, even if it took me a long time to realize that.


message 8: by Kristen (new)

Kristen My boyfriend and I met the night before I graduated from college. We were introduced by a mutual friend, who isn't much of a friend to us anymore. He is seven years older than me, but the age difference has never been a problem for us. This mutual friend of ours did some hurtful things to us so we haven't spoken to her in months. But we also live two hours from each other so the distance has been hard, at least for me. But we our relationship is stronger than ever, the distance has made us communicate way more than if we were living closer together. And it has also made us think about the more serious things faster. But he despite all the little bumps in the road that we have had I know for a fact that I want to spend the rest of my life with him.


message 9: by Kim (new)

Kim I was a confirmed single girl having given up finding Mr. Right a long time ago when one of my friends said I just had to meet this guy. When I asked what he was like, she replied, "He's tall." I'm 5'10" so she knew I disliked dating a short guy, but his physical description wasn't enough so I pressed for more details. She then added to his glowing attributes with, "he likes my dogs and makes great chili." I declined meeting him, but another friend got involved and they basically bullied me into giving him a chance. We met up when her husband and Tall Guy were bowling in a local tournament and went out for a late night snack afterwards.

We exchanged phone numbers and I didn't hear back from him for two weeks! It was close to Valentine's Day, so I wasn't going to call him lest I appear desperate. Instead my friend's husband agreed to pretend we were back in high school and ask him if he liked me. Turns out he had the flu and was finally recovered enough to call me a week later.

Two years later we were married and will be celebrating our 8th anniversary this fall. We still argue about which was our first date - bowling night or post-flu date! My friend takes full credit for introducing us and reminds me of it every year.


message 10: by Deborah (new)

Deborah Lane I met my Destiny when I was introduced by my Aunt, Betty Lou, director of the senior center in my hometown. He was the sexy, contractor hired to remodel her center. We wen't to lunch, dinner, drinks and never looked back Together til his death. We were together for thirtysix years. We lived together twenty years, he asked me to marry him many times, but I wasn't ready. One hot spring day, I came home from work, irritable, sweaty, tired. He asked me to get his eyeglasses. From our bedroom. I went and on the bed was a bouquet of flowers, wrapped around a chain with a ring, asking me to marry him in a pretty note, chocolates, lingerie. I said yes this time. We ran off, got married on the beach in sandals and jeans, cascading bouquet, flowers in my hair. Stayed at beach hotels, ate at beach shacks.Lovely honeymoon.


message 11: by Pam (new)

Pam I met the love of my life at a bonfire for a sweat lodge in the Colorado mountains. I was standing by the fire and this person walked strode purposely past my friend and me wearing a ski jacket, jeans and baseball cap. My body became instantly alert so I asked my friend “who’s that?!” She said, “that’s Sara”. Disappointed, and with deep sarcasm i replied, “my luck”. A few encounters later, over several years, 1,600 miles between D.C. and Denver, and a difference in sexual preference later I realized that our love was true and that’s all that really mattered. We’ve been together 25 years, married 22 (legally 3). Best part is, she doesn’t remember meeting me at the bonfire! She does remember meeting me 3 years later at a workshop we both attended, from the minute I walked in the door!


message 12: by Jennie (new)

Jennie Staub I met the love of my life and soul mate at work while we were still married (very unhappily) to other people. We became each other's sounding board and shoulder to "cry on" when we'd share the awful stories about our respective spouses and we became very good friends. Over the next couple of months and countless lunches and chat sessions in each other's cubicles, it morphed into something more than friendship with both of us telling our respective spouses over the same weekend (without the other knowing) that we wanted a divorce. When we came back to work that following Monday we were both almost too afraid to tell the other what we had done but we were both SO happy when we heard what the other had to say. We met in June, went on our first date in August and moved into adjoining apartments in October. We were married the following February after both of our divorces were final. That was over 25 years ago. It hasn't been easy and we've gone through some incredibly difficult and heart-wrenching times, including losing almost everything when we both lost jobs and couldn't find employment for months and having to pack up what we had left and move hundreds of miles to live with my family to avoid being homeless. Through it all he's been my best friend, my rock, my heart, my everything. He even purchased a 15 acre hobby farm for me 3 years ago because I wanted to live in the country and raise animals....despite him being a city boy through and through. As the saying goes, life is a journey not a destination and I can't imagine anyone I'd rather be on this journey with than my wonderful husband....especially when the storm clouds roll in or the road gets rough.


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I met my husband on a blind date (which i didn’t know about) on my 18th birthday, 8th April 1978. As far as I knew I wasn’t celebrating my birthday until the Sunday, but when I got home from my Saturday job my Mum told me that my friend was coming round with her boyfriend and they were ‘bringing someone’. This was how I met Richard who was a friend of her boyfriend. The evening was pleasant, drinks at a local pub. I remember spilling a snowball drink over him, I may have been a little tipsy! The following day my friend rang and asked if her boyfriend should invite Richard to my official birthday drinks. I was about to say no when my Mum intervened and said it would be rude not to. That’s where it all started. We were engaged after a couple of months and were married in 1980. Obviously meant to be!


message 14: by Rhonda (new)

Rhonda A. I met my boyfriend on a blind date. A coworker/friend was in the hospital for some tests and he was the tech. She asked him if he was married or seeing anyone. That was 20 years ago, we didn’t totally click at the time but became great friends. Years later it became more and though not married we have been together now for several years.


message 15: by Carleen (last edited Jul 24, 2018 11:21AM) (new)

Carleen At work at the local drive-in, toward the end of my senior year in high school, I worked with three gals who became wonderful friends, all of us to each other. One of them, I’ll call her Michelle, had dated a guy that used to drive by our place of business quite often, and we all listened to her gush about how wonderful this guy was and how heartbroken she was that he hadn’t called her in quite a while. Night after night, week after week, all through the winter and spring, the poor girl would see him. So, eventually I’m at home one evening and another friend named Nancy calls me to try to talk me into going on a blind date. I’d been on a blind date before that, which, to put it mildly, didn’t go well, so there was no way I was going to say yes! After about 30 minutes of Nancy doing her best to wear me down, I finally asked the guy’s name. Of all the people in the world, it was the love of Michelle’s life! After hearing how wonderful the guy was for so many months, to say I was intrigued would be an understatement. But, no way was I going to hurt my friend by going out with this guy. So my answer was a no, unless I got the go-ahead from Michelle. Well, it eventually worked out, Michelle and I remained close friends, and I I did go on what ended up being a comedy of errors of a blind date. Mr. Wonderful and I continued to see each other through a long, rocky courtship, four years later we were married, and we’ve now passed our 43rd wedding anniversary, living, basically, happily ever after.


message 16: by cindygranet (new)

cindygranet When i was 16, our family moved from a large city to a small town. One day while my mother was in the laundrymat another woman, Marlene, came up to her and said,"Jean"! They had gone through school together in the city years before and both ended up in the same little town.
When i came home from school my mom told me about Marlene and said, "she has a son a few years older than you.."
"Absolutely not! NO!"
I knew who he was and kept running into him since he would hang out in the same group I did. I did not like his ugly ass. But it turned out he was kinda nice. Okay, he would give me a ride to wherever I
wanted to go. We became friends. We got married against both our parents wishes. They thought we were too young.
We were married for 45 years, not always good ones. We have three sons who all grew up to be wonderful and very successful in their fields. My husband died of cancer this past year.


message 17: by Sabrina (new)

Sabrina I am single. But I have known my best friend for almost 20 years. We met in high school. For most of high school we hung out with the same people, but never really got close ourselves. One day, a seriously good friend of mine and her boyfriend abandoned us for each other. We grew stronger over the incident and have remained amazing friends ever since. We made time for each other through college (made the drive at least once a month to stay in touch) until she made the decision to move back after her teaching credential. When she met the man who would become her husband, we made sure to spend 1 night a week together. She asked me to be the maid of honor for her wedding which was amazing. She now has a beautiful baby girl and I was privileged to be one of the firsts to meet her and we still make time to chat and see each other. We have many other mutual friends together (a book club with 6 other amazing women) but this girl is my rock and I can't imagine life without her. We have forgiven each other as we went through the pains of adulting. She trusts me with her offspring. She also only mentions the year I forgot her birthday once a year or so. I am a better person because of her.


message 18: by Kait (new)

Kait My boyfriend and I went to the same school together our whole lives, but became friends in 8th grade. Freshman year of high school we were as inseparable as best friends can be, but I never thought of him as anything more than a friend. Then, the summer after freshman year, I went to Michigan for an entire month. I realize I missed him way more than I missed any other guy friend of mine. This realization sparked something in me and I started to fall for my best friend. He was oblivious as all hell but after I started slowly making moves--holding his hand in the car, leaning into him during movies--he asked me out August of our sophomore year. We will be celebrating four years together next month :) It hasn't been easy, we go to different colleges 200 miles away from each other, but he always tells me that he will never stop fighting for me. He is the only person in the world that can actually help calm down my anxiety just by being close to me. I am endlessly lucky to get to love him!


message 19: by Maritza (new)

Maritza Fleming I met my husband at Eielson AFB in Alaska.
I first saw him at the NCO club I thought he had a nice ass and mentioned it to a friend of mine who happened to know the friend he was there with. So she introduced us.
He left awhile after we started dating and was stationed in Korea while I wad stationed in San Antonio Texas.
We had a lon distance relationship for the next 2 years. Once I got out of the Air Force we were married 3 weeks later. Wr're going on 26 years in September.
Long distance relationships do work.


message 20: by Maddi (new)

Maddi Schmaltz I worked at a donut shop, and he worked at the sushi store next door. It was in a food court (we were both 18) and there was a window between our two stores. When I was waitressing coffees out to customers, I could see directly into where he was rolling sushi, and he could see me. We spent 5 weeks smiling at each other through the window (I was waiting for him to make the first move) until one lunch break I went and bought sushi and sat directly in front of his store. I'm not sure what I thought that would do, but I was sick of waiting for him to talk to me. He took his lunch break at the same time and sat two seats away from me, where we had our first (very awkward) conversation. We had 5 months together before he moved a 5 hour drive away. We're almost done our first full year of long distance, and have another 3 of interstate LD and 1 of international LD (Australia - America), but we're going strong!


message 21: by Gretty (new)

Gretty So, I’m just a 20-something and not married, but my boyfriend and I met the first week of my freshman year at college. He’s a year ahead, and we’re both theatre majors. My first week on campus, I ended up auditioning for and getting cast in the fall play. I was one of two first years—and the only freshman girl. He quickly became one of my best friends and he stayed like that for over a year. He was like the boy next door, just at college. We’re both huge nerds, so we’d play D and D together with a group of friends on weekends, or head downtown to watch old movies. It wasn’t until the end of my sophomore fall when I really started to realise, “Hey, I like being around him. He’s sweet. I think I like him.” But of course both of us were too shy to do anything. Having come down to the wire, the last day of fall term, we both confessed our feelings and decided we wanted to try this, even though time wasn’t in our favor—he was going abroad in the spring, and I was going abroad in the fall. By our anniversary, we would have spent less than a month together. Some kind of god must have been smiling, because we ended up getting the same summer research position and spent six weeks doing historical and archival research together every day. Interspersed with museum vists, movie dates, and listening to podcasts together, these six weeks helped to cement not only our feelings for each other, but also that we know, at least, that our friendship will survive, even if the relationship can’t sustain itself across an ocean...again. We just celebrated 7 months, and he’s coming to visit again, a few days before I leave. It’s hardly a happily ever after, but getting this far has been pretty hard fought.


message 22: by Linda (new)

Linda Joplin I met my husband on a blind date in May 1987. His step-dad was the nephew of one of my co-workers. I lived in Kansas, he lived in Oklahoma. We went to dinner and to see Beverly Hills Cop on our first date. He was very shy, so I did most of the talking. Three weeks later he moved here and lived with his mom & step-dad. We got engaged on my birthday in October and got married the day after Christmas, almost 7 months after we met. That was 30 years and 3 children ago. Oh, and I'm 6 1/2 years older than he is. I was a cougar before cougars were cool! Ha!


message 23: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery Ivana A. wrote: "I am certain that my story of how I met my man is quite unique, but I dare not share it here :)"

LOL!!! I can respect that. :)


message 24: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery Amber wrote: "I'm single so don't need a guy and never dated one or whatever so it doesn't matter. But I met my best friend in middle school; I was in 6th grade and she was in 7th grade as we were both in resour..."

I love that, Amber. What a treasure to have a friendship that has lasted since you were in middle school. You two are lucky to have each other. <3


message 25: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery Marguerite wrote: "My husband and I met at 14 when both of our families were transferred to the same town. Our two homes were the only ones built on the block at the time and my brother was the only other boy in the ..."

What a beautiful story, Marguerite! Have you both kept up with your creative endeavors?


message 26: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery Sandra wrote: "I met my husband, Ronnie, over 14 years ago, I was helping a friend with a new Yahoo chat room board, when I got an email that asked me if I could fix a 'technical' error on the board. I went total..."

Wow, Sandra, how wonderful to find love in your 40s! Love happens at every age. <3 I'm so glad you and Ronnie found each other.


message 27: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery Alexandria wrote: "I've been together with my boyfriend Matt for about 3 1/2 years now. If you told me in 10th grade that I would fall in love and coordinate colleges with someone I would have laughed in your face. A..."

That's very sweet, Alexandria. <3 You just never know when you're going to meet the one. Matt sounds like a keeper.


message 28: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery Michelle wrote: "Party line. Anyone remember those? You'd call a number and talk to other people. I called on a goof, and ended up talking to a guy that I never guessed I would marry. I wasn't looking, and even aft..."

That is INCREDIBLE, Michelle! I never met someone who met their significant other on a party line before. It was meant to be.


message 29: by Janice (new)

Janice I'd love to be a character in a fun paranormal romance.


message 30: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery Kristen wrote: "My boyfriend and I met the night before I graduated from college. We were introduced by a mutual friend, who isn't much of a friend to us anymore. He is seven years older than me, but the age diffe..."

I'm glad you're making it work despite the distance, Kristen. That's hard, but hopefully you won't be apart forever.


message 31: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery Kim wrote: "I was a confirmed single girl having given up finding Mr. Right a long time ago when one of my friends said I just had to meet this guy. When I asked what he was like, she replied, "He's tall." I'm..."

Awwwwww!!!!! That is just the sweetest story, Kim. Congratulations!


message 32: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery Deborah wrote: "I met my Destiny when I was introduced by my Aunt, Betty Lou, director of the senior center in my hometown. He was the sexy, contractor hired to remodel her center. We wen't to lunch, dinner, drink..."

What a beautiful love story, Deborah. <3 So glad you said yes. <3


message 33: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery Pam wrote: "I met the love of my life at a bonfire for a sweat lodge in the Colorado mountains. I was standing by the fire and this person walked strode purposely past my friend and me wearing a ski jacket, je..."

Wow! That's so amazing, that you felt that instant connection.


message 34: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery Jennie wrote: "I can't imagine anyone I'd rather be on this journey with than my wonderful husband....especially when the storm clouds roll in or the road gets rough...."

I love this so much!!!! I'm so glad you found each other. That's very sweet, that he bought a hobby farm for you, Pam. That is something I would never ask my husband to do. LOL (I'm a city girl!) But I love that he valued something that was important to you.


message 35: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery Lynda wrote: "I met my husband on a blind date (which i didn’t know about) on my 18th birthday, 8th April 1978. As far as I knew I wasn’t celebrating my birthday until the Sunday, but when I got home from my Sat..."

Good thing your mom spoke up! You should be celebrating your 40th anniversary pretty soon, I would imagine. Congratulations!


message 36: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery Rhonda wrote: "I met my boyfriend on a blind date. A coworker/friend was in the hospital for some tests and he was the tech. She asked him if he was married or seeing anyone. That was 20 years ago, we didn’t tota..."

A true friends-to-lovers romance. Sigh!


message 37: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery Carleen wrote: "At work at the local drive-in, toward the end of my senior year in high school, I worked with three gals who became wonderful friends, all of us to each other. One of them, I’ll call her Michelle, ..."

Awwww!!!! Thank goodness Michelle gave you her blessing! Imagine what you could have missed out on. <3 Congratulations on being 43 years into your happily ever after, Carleen.


message 38: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery cindygranet wrote: "When i was 16, our family moved from a large city to a small town. One day while my mother was in the laundrymat another woman, Marlene, came up to her and said,"Jean"! They had gone through school..."

I'm so sorry for your loss, Cindy. <3 I hope your kids are spending lots of time with you.


message 39: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery Sabrina wrote: "I am single. But I have known my best friend for almost 20 years. We met in high school. For most of high school we hung out with the same people, but never really got close ourselves. One day, a s..."

Sabrina, your friendship story really touched my heart. Friendships must be nourished, and it's wonderful that you and your bestie make time for each other no matter what. You're lucky to have each other.


message 40: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery Kait wrote: "I am endlessly lucky to get to love him!"

What a sweet sentiment! And he's lucky to have you, too. <3


message 41: by Susan (new)

Susan Mallery Maritza wrote: "I met my husband at Eielson AFB in Alaska.
I first saw him at the NCO club I thought he had a nice ass and mentioned it to a friend of mine who happened to know the friend he was there with. So sh..."


Wow, I'd say that 26 years is definitely proof that long distance relationships can work, Maritza. And it all started because you liked his butt. ;)


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Susan Mallery Maritza wrote: "I met my husband at Eielson AFB in Alaska.
I first saw him at the NCO club I thought he had a nice ass and mentioned it to a friend of mine who happened to know the friend he was there with. So sh..."


"You had me from 'behind.'" LOL


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Susan Mallery Maddi wrote: "I worked at a donut shop, and he worked at the sushi store next door. It was in a food court (we were both 18) and there was a window between our two stores. When I was waitressing coffees out to c..."

Sushi and donuts does not sound like a good combination. . . and yet it worked! The power of love... :D


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Susan Mallery Gretty wrote: "So, I’m just a 20-something and not married, but my boyfriend and I met the first week of my freshman year at college. He’s a year ahead, and we’re both theatre majors. My first week on campus, I e..."

That's such a sweet story, Gretty. I hope you can make it work. <3 I'm cheering for you!


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Susan Mallery Linda wrote: "I met my husband on a blind date in May 1987. His step-dad was the nephew of one of my co-workers. I lived in Kansas, he lived in Oklahoma. We went to dinner and to see Beverly Hills Cop on our fir..."

LOL!!!!!!! Rawrrrrrrrrrrrrr, you cougar, you. ;) <3


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Michelle Susan wrote: "Michelle wrote: "Party line. Anyone remember those? You'd call a number and talk to other people. I called on a goof, and ended up talking to a guy that I never guessed I would marry. I wasn't look..."

Thanks, Susan. A long-term relationship has its highs and lows, but I do love him a lot, and I'm glad the timing of us being in the right place at the right time lead to ... this!


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Carol Hargrave My 10 yr old daughter and I flew to a very small town in Illinois (ok, we flew to St Louis and rented a car) to escort my favorite uncle to his 65th high school reunion! While there, we were sitting out front on the porch swing and another 10 yr old rode up on her bike, looked at my daughter and said "Who're you??" Since the town is so small, she knew strangers when she saw them! My daughter replied, "I'm Tracey. I'm visiting my uncle." The other child replied, "This is MY uncle's house!" Tracey deduced they must be related so they decided to play. That evening, i walked down to the small street fair with my daughter and a cousin. While we were waiting in line for some funnel cake, Jennifer, the afternoon's 10 yr old, came running up with her dad and wanted to "go around with Tracey". Rob and i introduced ourselves. His Aunt Gladys had been married to my Uncle Art! The kids really didn't understand why that didn't make them related but no worries, they are now! And by the way, i had met his grandfather when I was 16, and his mother and older brother 6 yrs before meeting my now-husband!


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