Hot and cold? How to tell if he has REAL feelings for you.

Dear Lauren,

I’ve been sorta seeing this guy for awhile. I told him at the beginning that I was not ready for a relationship. His response was fine, that he was willing to wait. So we continue casually talking, having lunch dates, and occasionally hooking up.

Now I feel ready to be in a relationship and I’m waiting for him to actively pursue me with romantic dates, phone calls and flowers. The problem is that I’m not seeing this happening. He’s been very inconsi...