“I’ve been trying to come to terms with my biological father....

“I’ve been trying to come to terms with my biological father. I didn’t meet him until I was 34, and I was a bit let down. I was hoping that he’d admit to more than he did. He admitted that he’d made a mistake, but he acted like everything was out of his control. He couldn’t admit that he had made a conscious decision to remove himself from the household. But I’ve been reflecting on it lately. I just don’t think my father is able to admit something that he hasn’t come to terms with himself. I’ve been making that a condition of having a relationship, but I’m 40 years old now. I have a family of my own and I’m getting a Masters degree in conflict resolution. I always tell people to love me the way I am or move on. Maybe I should apply the same standard to him.”