Just be yourself…
Just be yourself….sounds easy, but can be rather tricky! Many of us struggle on a daily basis to love ourselves, and it is this struggle that leads us to be drawn into the negatives in life which can cause a depressive episode. I believe if we focus on maintaining positive motivators around us, and take time to motivate and encourage ourselves in whatever way we need, we will be successful.
Take a look at those around you. How many times does the “negative nelly” get a “second” chance? Does their relationship to you give them the right to bring you down or discourage you time and again? Relationships are complicated and we are taught from a young age that family is very important. We allow individuals to be negative, to bully, and to take advantage of our good nature. I’m here to say we don’t have to.
My advice is to take note of those people and circumstances that seem to bring you down each time. Begin to distance yourself and remove them them from your life. I am not saying that we need to publicly shame them, harass them or act in any negative way. Just distance yourself. Its ok not to answer the phone, thats why there is voicemail Its ok to unfriend them on social media, or click the “unfollow” button so that you don’t see the dismal dramatic posts.
Over the years I have inspired many people, but I have also had to distance myself from many both family and friends. I have learned to watch my moods, to note the highs and lows, and adjust my surroundings accordingly. Its not easy, and sometimes I feel like I have given up to easy, but my experience is that if someone does not want to be inspired they won’t be. I cannot force someone to be happy, but I do have that control over myself.
What makes me happy? My kids, my husband and pups are the top of the list. The outdoors, reading and writing are important. The ocean and a good laugh can turn my day around. How about you?
Believe it or not every situation has positives. It may take some time to see them, but they will be there. I believe if you focus on the positives, you will be successful. If you focus on the negatives you will not reach your potential. Try it you will be surprised! Look around yourself, see the smiling people instead of the grouchy ones, see the challenges in the job rather than the grouchy co-worker. I wake up every morning trying to remember I am alive, I have so much to be grateful for. Rather than waking and focussing on my loss and health.
Everyone has their challenges, including me. What I choose to remember is that if I want something bad enough I have to remain positive and optimistic about it in order to reach the goal. Optimism can be difficult for us when we are truly down. But it is really important to remember each day is a new day. Just because yesterday went the way it did, does not mean that today will. Make a plan, know what makes you smile, and DO IT. You are in control of yourself, your future and your optimism will be contagious.
Share your smile. Enjoy the moment. What harm will come from listening to someone? I love hearing people’s stories, simply because I want to be the inspiration that helps them attain their dreams and along the way I know I will also make mine come true. There is a fine line that says if the person you are listening to is continually bringing you down, it is time to move on. Just remember, we cannot fix something that does not want to be fixed.
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