Thinner is not guilty

Eating is not an exercise in morality.

Eating a particular way does not make you a success or failure.

Food itself is not "good" or "bad." Those are moral judgments, and they just don't make sense when talking (or thinking) about food. Some food is better for your health, or easier on your digestion, or more delightful on your palate. But the foods themselves can't be judged.

Eating the cake at the office birthday party doesn't make you bad. It may not have been the best choice for you, but you are not bad for choosing it. Having a great day doesn't mean you deserve a food "treat." If you want to reward yourself, choose a different way to pamper yourself. Laying emotions on your food just skews the relationship you have with it.

When you have a healthy relationship with food as fuel, you'll avoid the emotional connections that lead to weight gain or hinder weight loss.