WE SCRAPED THE SKY

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DAY SIX: A SONG THAT REMINDS YOU OF A BEST FRIEND

This was a hard post for me.  I have had many friends and a few really great friends.  For many of my childhood years and much of my adult life I had few friends for various reasons.  I am a sucker for movies where two people become childhood friends and are friends until they die.   A few movies that come to mind are BEACHES, BEND IT LIKE BECKHAM, BEST FRIENDS WEDDING, THE SISTERHOOD OF THE TRAVELING PANTS and the list really does go on and on now that I start thinking about it.  Anyway, I love these movies about lifelong friendships because I don’t have it.

The closest I came was when I met R. It was around 2007 and he was my daughters teacher in daycare.  When I went to pick up my daughter each day he always had a story to tell me about her.  She was a funny girl so we always laughed about how clever or silly she was.  R loved dancing and when I found this out I invited him to do a monthly dance class for my daughter in our home with several of her friends.  It was extra income for him and it was a lot of fun for the girls.  As time went on we did the dance classes to keep the girls together after they split up going to different kindergartens.  (I am sure this is because I want to encourage a lifelong friendship for my daughter).

Cut to a few years later we were still close.  I realized that this unlikely person was my best friend.  He was half my age, he was gay, he was outgoing and energetic and I was old, straight and married, and very lazy and the opposite of energetic.  He was good for me.  I like to think I was good for him.  After a good (great) 4 year relationship where I had lost 90 (trying to keep up with his energy…and he is a zumba instructor) things changed.  I changed… he changed.  I was tired, worn out, depressed and lost and he was stressed about trying to get through each day of school and working to survive.  Something had to give and it was our friendship.

I look back on our friendship and I remember many great things.  We both learned a lot and we are wiser having known each other.  This song reminds me of him.  It was a warm day and he had come to pick me up to go somewhere.  I was down and depressed and I believe he had just ended a relationship but for whatever the reason he played this song.  As he usually did he rolled down the windows and belted the song out and it was good.  In those moments we were the same, in those moments we were not from two totally different worlds, we were inside a moment were we could relate to each other.  We had many of those moments. I think of those moments when I hear this song.

All good things may come to an end and maybe they never really do…